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  1. 7 hours ago, Smudge said:

    It's been a while since his passing but I just thought maybe someone else might appreciate this man


    I first heard Leonard Cohen in the early 1970s.  Some of his songs reached into me in a way no others could.  As I aged and underwent more of life's experiences his songs became even more relevant.  And it's not just the poetry, it's the way he delivers the words - I've listened to others covering his songs and they don't impact in the same way.  A true giant as a poet, singer and songwriter.

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  2. 2 hours ago, Buce said:


    Huge outbreak at Mrs B's care home. :(


    They've contained it on previous occasions, but this time it has spread throughout the entire home. Ironically, they all had the vaccine a few days ago.

    My eldest works in a care home.  He was vaccinated on Sunday and two days later tested positive for Covid-19 on a lateral flow test.  He was clear on Sunday (the staff are tested daily).  The only people he saw in the intervening period were my wife and myself, so now we're both self-isolating.


    I know that it shouldn't have this effect, but could the vaccine be a factor?

  3. There is more than one type of non-Hodgkins lymphoma.  I know this as I also have this condition.  


    There is a slow-growing version where there are initially no tumours but cancer cells are present (in the bone marrow).  This is incurable but treatable by chemotherapy.  A blood test can reveal the level of cancer - at low levels no treatment may be applied and there are routine blood tests to check.  If the level of cancer cells rises then chemotherapy can be applied to reduce the problem.  Many sufferers of non-Hodgkins lymphoma can have a near-normal lifespan.  Some may never develop tumours.


    There is also a fast-growing version where tumours develop rapidly, and this can be fatal in only a few months.  It is curable but rapid diagnosis and treatment is necessary.


    The slow-growing version can change to the fast-growing version at any time.


    Fingers crossed for Sol.




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  4. 9 minutes ago, Nalis said:

    You made a fair point, while its great we are giving so many their first jabs , there is a distinction between vaccinated and the first jab.

    Correct I believe that figures quoted are for all vaccinations, which include second vaccinations given (around 200,000).  So there is some way to go.


    My eldest works in a care home and to date none of the staff or residents have been vaccinated.

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  5. 10 hours ago, Strokes said:

    I’m really struggling with motivation  too at the minute and I’m self employed and usually quite driven. 
    I think it’s the monotony of home life, working on my own and the long nights at the minute killing my spirit. Also I usually use forthcoming holidays to boost my morale but I can’t see them happening and it’s just depressing. I’ve just been told my contract will be terminated in January for the role I’m currently doing and I probably should be worried but I’m just ambivalent too it and I’m more concerned about my mental state, as I know what path it tends to go down when I stop giving a fùck about everything.

    It's not surprising that your motivation is lower than normal, we all need events to give us a lift to counteract those events that depress us, and recently its been a load of depressive events and not many lifts.  Several months ago I began to call old friends, some of whom I hadn't seen for years, because of the lockdown and the fact that I was going downhill at home and thought that they may be in the same position.  Sometimes our phone calls are just gripes about the current situation but other times they can raise the spirits, and in all cases it's just good to talk to another person.  We're sociable beings not designed to thrive in a vacuum.  And I've found that if I can just get a little positive input that gives me the impetus to get up and do things I know that I should have been doing but didn't have the motivation to start - and when I complete those tasks, however humble, I get a sense of achievement that raises my spirits.  That wards off a slide into depression - I've been there before and don't want it to happen again.

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  6. 15 hours ago, That_Dude said:

    I must say that I'm really starting to feel how much this pandemic situation is draining people, especially for singles.


    For the first time in life, I spent my winter holidays including Christmas, the new year and my birthday in my home, completely alone. Not by choice but principally because of Covid and some unfortunate events. Aside from a few calls here and there, I had to sing sometimes to remember the sound of my own voice.


    Never felt so low. I'm going to work with no motivation whatsoever and have to fight with myself every morning to even get out of bed. Can't remember the last time I went out, there's no end to this shitty pandemic and where I am, people of my category won't get a vaccine until next December at best.

    Being alone is awful and damaging to mental health.  In the first lockdown last Spring I was told that as an extremely clinically vulnerable person I could not even leave my house.  When June ended and the restrictions were relaxed just to go out for exercise and be able to say good morning to someone felt wonderful.


    The current situation is so bad that many of us are feeling low, myself included.  We've been battered with one restriction after another for months now and they can wear you down.  I hate the way things are at present and can only content myself with the thought that this is not forever, within a few months we will be out of this.  The restrictions should end when the infection rates and hospitalisations fall as a result of the vaccination program.  There will be an end to this, and things will get better.  We just have to do our best to stick it out until then.

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  7. 2 hours ago, Fosse93 said:

    Really struggling at the minute... Apologies in advance for the long post. 


    I was made redundant in April last year due to COVID, before I could start worrying about finding another job, my Uncle, who is a transport manager for a big company, managed to get me a job working for him, with a decent salary increase thrown in as well. Everything looked rosy. 


    Not long after starting this job I quickly realised the culture at this place was very much 'live to work' with long hours, no breaks, stress levels through the roof etc. Thing is I could do the job pretty well, in fact I was told I'd been the quickest at picking the job up in over 20 years! Which was nice to hear.


    Fast forward to July last year and I'm sitting at home before logging on, and I'm crying, which isn't normal right? Straight after finishing that day I applied for 2 jobs, and managed to get both of them after interviewing. 


    I finally managed to pluck up the courage to tell my Uncle (who I feel has done me a huge favour in getting me the job) that I wasn't enjoying the role and I'd been offered a couple of positions at other places. I think he took it as a bit of a kick in the teeth after all he'd done for me tbh. 


    Anyway, a couple of days later he calls to say he's found a temporary job at the same place of work which will be more suited to my skills, and then once the temp job is done there will be a new job open up within the business that he had already earmarked me for anyway, which again was more suited to my skills. 


    A couple of months pass and I've finished this temporary role, I was really grateful of that time and it was nice to be able to work damn hard, but by the time 5pm came I could 'switch off', which is a big thing for me. Turned out this new role I was promised had been put back indefinitely and I had to go back to the old role, which I hated. 


    So I've been back in that role since the end of October, again all feedback I'm getting is great and I feel I'm good at the job... But my anxiety is spiralling out of control. I didn't feel like I saw my young daughter half as much as I should have done over Christmas due to the long hours I was working, and when I did see her I wasn't in the best of moods, which as much as I wanted to snap out of, I just couldn't. 


    So here I am, majorly depressed and anxious, both things I've had before (I went to my GP a couple of years ago who said I was severely depressed) but I've always just got on with it in hope better days are on their way. Trouble is, this time I can't see a way out, I just feel trapped in this job as I don't want to let my Uncle, or my colleagues down and obviously I'm trapped indoors due to the lockdown. 


    I've took a weeks holiday this week, but all I've been doing is constantly dreading going back next Monday. I want to go see my GP and get signed off, but I've never done this and I'm scared of how my work are going to react, and also my Uncle who has done SO much for me. 


    My partner tries to understand but everytime I try and talk about quitting, or leaving my job she worries about money, which I understand completely... I'm just stuck in a shit situation it seems. 

    It's clear that the job you're doing isn't right for you.  The fact that you're competent at it makes it appealing for your employer to keep you there but that isn't a long term solution for either of you.  There is a danger that you'll stick at it despite everything until you can't take any more then quit no matter what the consequences - we all have a breaking point and I've been beyond mine before.


    A good manager needs to have the right people in the right jobs.  A successful team is comprised of people who can do their job, love their job and fit in with everyone else in the team.  I've had the experience as a manager of identifying one of my team for career progression, getting him the right experience then promoting him into the job, only to find that although he was good at it he couldn't handle the additional pressure.  We talked it through and I agreed to return him to his previous position as soon as that became possible (it would have been unfair to remove his replacement) or to find him an alternative position.  As I knew his feelings and he was a valuable employee I discussed his situation with my line manager which resulted in other managers within the company being informed that this chap was looking for a position which would suit him.  I also then was able to start the process of searching for a replacement for him.  I kept him informed which took the pressure off him as he knew that although he wanted out of his new job as soon as possible that we were making efforts to help him which made his situation a little more bearable.  Within a few months he had transferred to another department and I had organised his replacement.  His skills had been kept in the company for the benefit of all.  I'm retired now but he's still working there.


    I've posted that because the worst case scenario would have been that he didn't tell me his feelings, then handed in his resignation when it became too much for him.  Both he and my company would have lost out.  I can see similarities with his situation and the one you find yourself in.  So if I were you I'd have a heart to heart with your uncle.

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  8. It's worth reflecting on the 'lockdown' imposed in Spring 2020.  The restrictions announced yesterday are not more severe.  The R number was reduced to 0.7 - 0.9 last Spring, which resulted in falling numbers of infections; however the new variant is more transmissible, which may increase the R rate by approximately 0.7.  So if the new restrictions are as effective as those previously applied, the R rate will still be in the region of 1.4 - 1.6, which will result in a continued significant increase in infections.  We should expect a worsening situation until such time as the vaccination programme has covered the sections of society most likely to be hospitalised as a result of Covid-19 infection.  Hopefully this will be before the NHS is overwhelmed but right now I'm concerned that this crisis will only deepen over the next month or two.

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  9. 11 hours ago, tom27111 said:

    I'm 41 and been a smoker for about 25 years.


    I've tried numerous times to give up and I'm trying once again.


    I've got my patches and lozenges ready and I really want to do it this time.


    Smoking is a disgusting habit. It stinks, costs a fortune, kills you and is just not very nice.


    Starting smoking is easily the biggest regret of my life and giving up, despite all the reasons to is so bloody hard.


    Any others on here trying to give up or have managed to?


    Any tips to be successful would be greatly appreciated, and if anyone else is quitting, maybe use this thread as encouragement?

    Tom I've never smoked tobacco.  Growing up in a house where my father smoked up to 60 a day convinced me that it was a bad thing to do.  I wish I could show you the effect it had on his health - he had three heart attacks and his skin was like leather eventually.  So I can't offer you any advice.


    What I'm convinced of is that if you have the drive and determination to beat depression then you can beat a craving.  So if you really want to, you'll succeed.

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  10. In my view politicians have been very careful not to talk about specifics regarding when the worst may be over.  I fully expect that the next three months will be worse than anything we experienced in 2020.


    The reason for this is the infection rate of the new variant and the current figures.  For the last couple of days infection rates have been in excess of 50,000.  These figures are likely to be lower than the true infection rate as the approximately 30% of infected people who are asymptomatic are unlikely to present themselves for testing.  Even if that figure does not rise but remains constant over the next month that would equate to 1.5 million new infections in January.  The current R number indicates that infection rates should double every six days.  Were that to be the case through January there would be around 7 million new infections in the month.  The new Tier 4 measures are likely to reduce the R number, so the January infections will probably lie between those values.  


    I don't believe that the NHS has the capacity to cope with that many new infections, even if only 2% of those infected are seriously ill enough to need hospital treatment; so without further intervention to reduce the R number, the question will be when rather than if the NHS becomes overwhelmed.  The vaccination program will help but it's at too early a stage to have a significant effect in early Winter.  So I'm expecting further restrictions.

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  11. A paper (not yet peer reviewed) has been produced by the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine on the new Covid-19 variant, link below.  They conclude that this variant is 56% more transmissible than the previous variant and that in order to bring the R value below 1 primary schools, secondary schools and universities would have to close.



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  12. 13 hours ago, tom27111 said:

    Buying a brand new car is one of the most ridiculous things you can do financially, in my opinion. 


    Buying a nearly new motor,  just 12 to 18 months old can save you up to 50 or 60% depending on what you want.

    I used to think that way Tom and I'm still amazed that some people seem to buy a new car every year then part exchange it the next year, the depreciation must be horrific.  But I now have a different car buying philosophy.  I used to aim for cars that were a couple of years old so they'd still be in good condition but were significantly less expensive than new but found mostly that they were in dealers for nearly new prices.  So I changed to buying new cars and then running them as long as I could, taking care to keep them regularly serviced.  My current car is a 14 year old Honda Civic ES.  It's worked out at about £1000 per annum on depreciation which isn't too bad.

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  13. 1 hour ago, Footballwipe said:

    I've just joined VM in my new home. I've not had anywhere near the bad experience you have, but it's like pulling teeth with them.


    Initial install they didn't have any V6 boxes, so put in the painfully slow old TiVo boxes as a temporary measure.

    Send two V6 boxes, but don't include the remotes in the box

    Dispatch the remotes but then realise they didn't include any adapters for the signal cable so I can connect the box up

    Ask them to dispatch the adapters and they send me ONE. Another call needed to ask for the other one


    Nearly three weeks into having the service and it's not fully up and running. All they needed to do was include.


    Their service, when working, is good (especially at half price for 18 months) but HO BOY do they make it hard sometimes.

    I've had Virgin Media for just over a year, renewed last month.  I have the 'old' TiVo boxes and the only problem I've had with them is the occasional crash, after which I have to reboot, which to be fair is no different to the Sky boxes I had previously.  I've had a few instances of the internet connection dropping but only for a few seconds which wasn't a problem.  They have at least sent me an email feedback form which I've completed.


    I had 50% off for my first contract like you.  When I received the renewal notification I phoned them and asked what they could do about the renewal costs.  They offered an immediate £25 per month off the full price.  I said I'd think about it and was looking at changing my phone package and was then transferred to another call handler who offered me £40 a month off the renewal price, which I accepted.  Not saying that things will be the same in 18 months but it's worth bearing in mind.

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