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Hi all, I hope you are all well. 

 

I don't talk to people about this in my life as I don't know how to say it, and people may not understand. It's almost been a year since I had my car accident. I have my ups and downs, the downs generally being guilt. Wondering how the person who was effected is doing. Since the accident, my anxiety has been through the roof at times, is this normal a year on? Shouldn't I now be forgetting what has happened? Well, not forgetting but putting it behind me and moving on with my life? I haven't got in a car since it has happened, still get flashbacks and my sleeping hasn't been great for a while now. 

 

 After the accident happened, I just wanted to get away, so i decided to go to university. I did this in the hope that once i get away, I wont be around reminders anymore and i can have a fresh start. I have been here 5 weeks or so, and feel as though I was happier when I was back home, and I wasn't even happy. I tend to spend most nights just drinking, bored and I have gave up so much to come here, and I am now full of regrets and worst of all in a whole lot of debt because of it. 

 

I understand that people have been through much worse experiences, and i'm so sorry about that. I feel pathetic even saying all of this knowing people have been to hell and back.  I'm just looking for some advice, on what to do next and how to make the most out of the situation that I am currently in. 

 

Thank you. 

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21 hours ago, Harrydc said:

Hi all, I hope you are all well. 

 

I don't talk to people about this in my life as I don't know how to say it, and people may not understand. It's almost been a year since I had my car accident. I have my ups and downs, the downs generally being guilt. Wondering how the person who was effected is doing. Since the accident, my anxiety has been through the roof at times, is this normal a year on? Shouldn't I now be forgetting what has happened? Well, not forgetting but putting it behind me and moving on with my life? I haven't got in a car since it has happened, still get flashbacks and my sleeping hasn't been great for a while now. 

 

 After the accident happened, I just wanted to get away, so i decided to go to university. I did this in the hope that once i get away, I wont be around reminders anymore and i can have a fresh start. I have been here 5 weeks or so, and feel as though I was happier when I was back home, and I wasn't even happy. I tend to spend most nights just drinking, bored and I have gave up so much to come here, and I am now full of regrets and worst of all in a whole lot of debt because of it. 

 

I understand that people have been through much worse experiences, and i'm so sorry about that. I feel pathetic even saying all of this knowing people have been to hell and back.  I'm just looking for some advice, on what to do next and how to make the most out of the situation that I am currently in. 

 

Thank you. 

Hi Harry, 

 

As others have said pretty much what I would've said in a much better way than I would've compiled it, I'll just leave you with one note:

Universities have plenty of superb support networks these days. They know that it is a lot of upheaval and a lot of stress for a number of people. These are not limited to academic problems, it can be literally anything from more typical issues like moving away from home for the first time to problems with peer groups to family issues at home. What I'm trying to say is people think their support is for students struggling in a work related sense and it isn't just that. You can get support from a number of places, be it through your lecturers, student bodies, societies etc. There will definitely be organisations or places to go at uni that will be able to support you.

 

If you don't feel confident going to friends, new flatmates, family then it is a good option as they don't know you or your story and even if they don't have the answers right there and then, it will be a step in the right direction. They will let you know where to go for the best advice and support.

 

Keep posting and stay strong. 

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On 22/10/2018 at 15:34, urban.spaceman said:

Doc moved me from Sertraline to Citalopram today... fingers crossed this is more effective.

Good luck with it @urban.spaceman

 

i have taken Citalopram in the past and I found it ok, it did its job for me I guess but like many of these tablets they all suit people differently so good luck that they work with you and help stabilise things and gradually get you feeling better (usually with counselling etc obviously) 

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I'm all over the place this week. Received some bad news about a family member who has been given a terminal diagnosis and days or weeks to live. I'm not particularly close with them, so I am surprised to find that it has triggered the worst bout of anxiety I've had in a long time. I can't sleep, and can barely concentrate. I'm just about managing to get through each day without having a minor meltdown.

 

The anxiety and overthinking is usually what causes the depression, and I'm finding it really hard not to get sucked in by it.

 

I'm not currently in counselling and I've not had any luck with medication in the past - I'm feeling quite helpless and hopeless at the moment.

 

I have a big framed poster on my wall with the phrase 'please believe these days will pass' on it. It was originally created as a political message, but I try to use it to remind myself that these feelings will change. As they say, when you're going through hell - keep going.

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1 hour ago, egg_fried_rice said:

I'm all over the place this week. Received some bad news about a family member who has been given a terminal diagnosis and days or weeks to live. I'm not particularly close with them, so I am surprised to find that it has triggered the worst bout of anxiety I've had in a long time. I can't sleep, and can barely concentrate. I'm just about managing to get through each day without having a minor meltdown.

 

The anxiety and overthinking is usually what causes the depression, and I'm finding it really hard not to get sucked in by it.

 

I'm not currently in counselling and I've not had any luck with medication in the past - I'm feeling quite helpless and hopeless at the moment.

 

I have a big framed poster on my wall with the phrase 'please believe these days will pass' on it. It was originally created as a political message, but I try to use it to remind myself that these feelings will change. As they say, when you're going through hell - keep going.

Quick one  - get yourself to the doctors and say exactly what you have typed here.

 

Hope you start to feel better.

 

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16 minutes ago, gw_leics772 said:

Quick one  - get yourself to the doctors and say exactly what you have typed here.

 

Hope you start to feel better.

 

You're right. Thank you.

 

I just needed to get it off my chest as it's difficult to see the wood for the trees at the moment.

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14 minutes ago, lifted*fox said:

i took the first step to changing my life for the better and handed my notice in at work - I finish at Christmas.

 

2019 will be my year. better fitness both physical and mental, some travel, take some courses in a couple of areas I want to develop, decorate my house and start nailing down my business plan for the company I want to start late-2019.

 

**** you anxiety, **** you depression - I'm taking the leap and gonna **** you off. 

 

let's do this :cool:

 

What line of biz are you going into lifted ?

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8 hours ago, lifted*fox said:

i took the first step to changing my life for the better and handed my notice in at work - I finish at Christmas.

 

2019 will be my year. better fitness both physical and mental, some travel, take some courses in a couple of areas I want to develop, decorate my house and start nailing down my business plan for the company I want to start late-2019.

 

**** you anxiety, **** you depression - I'm taking the leap and gonna **** you off. 

 

let's do this :cool:

Fair play for intending to really wanting to alter your situation/feelings for a better outcome, that's the only real practical way to develop one's self imo.

I'm guessing you're mid/late-20's? You're still very young, but having a plan like you've mentioned shows that you're willing to take necessary 'risks' to try and improve yourself in life - and that takes great courage, as such changes, initially, can be quite daunting.

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10 hours ago, egg_fried_rice said:

You're right. Thank you.

 

I just needed to get it off my chest as it's difficult to see the wood for the trees at the moment.

And keep doing it, but do it alongside the medical/counselling channels.

 

None of them work on their own but talking it out, especially on here definitely helps.

 

I think I speak for all of us on here when I say that spanking West ham tomorrow will be a very welcome respite from the daily shit we're wading through in our minds.

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For anyone struggling with last evening's event, please talk about your feelings, fears and worries. We're all incredibly shell shocked and the support of those around us is integral at these times. 

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I am deeply concerned that the tragedy will trigger some very difficult emotions for some here, and also that the more troubled souls in the regular part of the forum will display their insensitivity in various ways - we will have to work hard to keep the forum safe & well.

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G’day everyone

 

I used to be a semi-frequent poster on FT, until life started getting in the way. With that came all sorts of ups and downs, including anxiety and depression, something I still battle today, and will continue to do so.

 

After the last few days, I have felt the grief most of you have also felt, and this has utterly scared me. Most of the day (Australia time) I have been worrying I will slip into old habits leading into depression again.

 

But I won’t. I won’t let myself. I will let myself grieve for man who meant a lot to me. But I won’t let it consume me.

 

I hope anyone else reading this can take comfort in the fact you are not alone in how you may be feeling. In trying times, you have to try harder. And all we can do is try.

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3 hours ago, ACF said:

G’day everyone

 

I used to be a semi-frequent poster on FT, until life started getting in the way. With that came all sorts of ups and downs, including anxiety and depression, something I still battle today, and will continue to do so.

 

After the last few days, I have felt the grief most of you have also felt, and this has utterly scared me. Most of the day (Australia time) I have been worrying I will slip into old habits leading into depression again.

 

But I won’t. I won’t let myself. I will let myself grieve for man who meant a lot to me. But I won’t let it consume me.

 

I hope anyone else reading this can take comfort in the fact you are not alone in how you may be feeling. In trying times, you have to try harder. And all we can do is try.

 

 

I've been battling against it for a few weeks now and my coping mechanisms have just about held it at bay but, unfortunately, the outpouring of grief over the weekend has tipped the balance for me.

 

I'm at the lowest ebb I've been for years.

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45 minutes ago, Buce said:

 

 

I've been battling against it for a few weeks now and my coping mechanisms have just about held it at bay but, unfortunately, the outpouring of grief over the weekend has tipped the balance for me.

 

I'm at the lowest ebb I've been for years.

Have you tried CBT m8?  What meds are you on?

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47 minutes ago, Buce said:

 

 

I've been battling against it for a few weeks now and my coping mechanisms have just about held it at bay but, unfortunately, the outpouring of grief over the weekend has tipped the balance for me.

 

I'm at the lowest ebb I've been for years.

We're all down at the moment Buce but being down under these circumstances is normal and we'll get through it.  There are many of us who contribute to this thread that have battled depression over the years, I've seen enough of your posts to gain the impression that you've a fortitude that will get you through this.  We may never beat this demon completely but we know enough about it now to get through the bad times, which will pass, they always do.  Please stay strong, this thread needs you.

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