How Was Your Day?

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3 minutes ago, Sir Shep said:

Today I learnt that 2 of my very close relatives died on the A46 last night, absolutely devasted our family, how do you cope with such a loss that happens so suddenly. 

God, that's rough mate. I can't say anything that'll be any consolation, but I'm sorry to hear that.

[Wymsey]

15 minutes ago, Sir Shep said:

Today I learnt that 2 of my very close relatives died on the A46 last night, absolutely devasted our family, how do you cope with such a loss that happens so suddenly. 

Very sorry to hear that. 

That area of road can be horrible to drive on, especially around the Hobby Horse roundabout area.

 

[Sir Shep]

51 minutes ago, Wymeswold fox said:

Very sorry to hear that. 

That area of road can be horrible to drive on, especially around the Hobby Horse roundabout area.

 

It sure is, I don’t think it’s right to go in to what happened even though I’d like to sound off right now but certain actions of a stranger can leave families devastated. 

[cambridgefox]

1 hour ago, Sir Shep said:

Today I learnt that 2 of my very close relatives died on the A46 last night, absolutely devasted our family, how do you cope with such a loss that happens so suddenly. 

Sorry to hear of your tragic loss.

 

[StanSP]

3 hours ago, Sir Shep said:

Today I learnt that 2 of my very close relatives died on the A46 last night, absolutely devasted our family, how do you cope with such a loss that happens so suddenly. 

sorry to hear that . 

[Jattdogg]

4 hours ago, Sir Shep said:

Today I learnt that 2 of my very close relatives died on the A46 last night, absolutely devasted our family, how do you cope with such a loss that happens so suddenly. 

My condolences to you and the whole family on the sudden passing of two loved ones. Not an easy situation at all to deal with. I lost a cousin in a horrible car accident in 2001 and it impacted so many family members. Take it day by day. Be there for eachother and recognize how important it is to enjoy each day you have on this planet. Life is short, make it as sweet as you can.

 

Again, my sincerest sympathies...

[SystonFox]

11 hours ago, Sir Shep said:

Today I learnt that 2 of my very close relatives died on the A46 last night, absolutely devasted our family, how do you cope with such a loss that happens so suddenly. 

Sorry for your loss. 

[Bob Weasel Fox]

On 19/08/2018 at 19:56, Sir Shep said:

Today I learnt that 2 of my very close relatives died on the A46 last night, absolutely devasted our family, how do you cope with such a loss that happens so suddenly. 

Sorry to hear that @Sir Shep

 

condolences to you and family bud

[Innovindil]

Fookin shite. 

Pregnant friend went to hospital with stomach ache and it has turned into a right shitshow. Found a cyst of her ovary, went into emergency surgery, stupid thing exploded before they got to it, managed to sort her out, but the examination of it showed a lump behind where her now removed ovary was, so they're saying cancer. Got to induce the baby out prematurely, hopefully it'll survive and then they've got to get her on chemo ASAP. 

Sucks balls. What a crap day. 

[Izzy]

2 hours ago, Innovindil said:

Fookin shite. 

Pregnant friend went to hospital with stomach ache and it has turned into a right shitshow. Found a cyst of her ovary, went into emergency surgery, stupid thing exploded before they got to it, managed to sort her out, but the examination of it showed a lump behind where her now removed ovary was, so they're saying cancer. Got to induce the baby out prematurely, hopefully it'll survive and then they've got to get her on chemo ASAP. 

Sucks balls. What a crap day. 

That sounds awful mate. Fingers crossed for both Mum and baby. Remember they’re both in the best hands.

[The Doctor]

Last day in my job, got a week off then it's back to university to do my PhD. Didn't expect to be leaving like this when I got my notice of redundancy 4 months into the job. 2 and a half years on I've ended up running the department instead.

[Unabomber]

Went on a good walk today. Parked on Maplewell road woodhouse eaves and walked to bradgate Park then back through swithland woods. Does anyone know any similar walks in Leicestershire? 

[Strokes]

1 hour ago, Unabomber said:

Went on a good walk today. Parked on Maplewell road woodhouse eaves and walked to bradgate Park then back through swithland woods. Does anyone know any similar walks in Leicestershire? 

I like to go from watermead onto the canal and into Leicester, you can go pretty much as far as you want.

[lifted*fox]

my day was SO GR8 friends. 

I spent the day putting up fences with my dad who's a ****ing legend and now I'm gonna eat Five Guys THE BEST BURGER EVER and watch the football with weed and beer. 

you wish you had my day. 

[Costock_Fox]

15 minutes ago, lifted*fox said:

my day was SO GR8 friends. 

I spent the day putting up fences with my dad who's a ****ing legend and now I'm gonna eat Five Guys THE BEST BURGER EVER and watch the football with weed and beer. 

you wish you had my day. 

A misspent youth tells me that if you mix weed and beer you won’t see much other than the rim of the bog  enjoy

[ScouseFox]

spent most this weekend moving flats. said peace out to my flatmate who i’ve lived with for two an a half years. spending the last night in our flat on me bill, nothing but a bed and a duvet. pretty sad weekend really but shit happens. 

 

goin centre parcs next weekend oi oiii

[lifted*fox]

Just now, Costock_Fox said:

A misspent youth tells me that if you mix weed and beer you won’t see much other than the rim of the bog  enjoy

always follow the age old rules - weed before beer, you're in the clear. 

getting shit-faced then getting high = bumpy ride to handle - strictly for pros

[Costock_Fox]

1 minute ago, lifted*fox said:

always follow the age old rules - weed before beer, you're in the clear. 

getting shit-faced then getting high = bumpy ride to handle - strictly for pros

Haha yeah think I remember that after being blind drunk smoking a spliff is like putting your brain in a washing machine and hoping for the best.

[lifted*fox]

Just now, Costock_Fox said:

Haha yeah think I remember that after being blind drunk smoking a spliff is like putting your brain in a washing machine and hoping for the best.

 

having a couple of beers before / whilst getting high is quite nice - takes the edge off a little bit but yeah - getting home from a night on the booze and then hitting a bong - that's hardcore.

I do it occasionally and if you find an nice equilibrium it's super nice but if you get it wrong... ugh

[Izzy]

56 minutes ago, lifted*fox said:

my day was SO GR8 friends. 

I spent the day putting up fences with my dad who's a ****ing legend and now I'm gonna eat Five Guys THE BEST BURGER EVER and watch the football with weed and beer. 

you wish you had my day. 

With Stella day like that mate, why would you ever want to emigrate? 

[Bellend Sebastian]

At Legoland Windsor. It really is shit, isn't it?

[Parafox]

2 hours ago, Bellend Sebastian said:

At Legoland Windsor. It really is shit, isn't it?

I went 14 years ago with our kids, then 5 and 12. It can't be as shite now as it was then. An utter waste of fuel, travel and entry fee. Even the kids were underwhelmed. 

Does it still have a lego model village?

Edited 28 August 2018 by Parafox

[Parafox]

Not great, again. I posted on this thread a while back that my wife of 33 years wanted to separate. I thought we were ok, as nothing else happened and we agreed that we would live in the same house while we got through this phase. 

Today my wife went to look at a flat and intends to move there so she can think things through. 

I feel confused, scared, anxious. I don't fully understand where this is going. My wife says she needs space away for a while so we can both evaluate our relationship, pursue our interests (hers, gardening/allotment, mine... dunno) and hopefully "kick-start" or reset our marriage. 

Problem is, there's no timescale. I desperately don't want this, but her mind is made up. I'm dreading being alone when I'm so used to her being around. I don't socialise much and have always been one to stay home rather than go out. I have no real hobbies to fill my time as we've pretty much done things as a couple.

I know there's FT posters who've been through similar and worse. I've never been in this situation before and it's frightening. I feel sick, I can't eat, I doubt I'll sleep much for several weeks. It feels like my world is in turmoil and a ton of uncertainty.

Our 2 daughters are 19 and 26. 19 yr old still lives at home and is very upset and unsettled by this. The older one has yet to be told.

Just seeing if those of you with similar experiences or anyone else, has any advice or guidance to help. 

Thank you.

Edited 28 August 2018 by Parafox

[Jattdogg]

32 minutes ago, Parafox said:

Not great, again. I posted on this thread a while back that my wife of 33 years wanted to separate. I thought we were ok, as nothing else happened and we agreed that we would live in the same house while we got through this phase. 

Today my wife went to look at a flat and intends to move there so she can think things through. 

I feel confused, scared, anxious. I don't fully understand where this is going. My wife says she needs space away for a while so we can both evaluate our relationship, pursue our interests (hers, gardening/allotment, mine... dunno) and hopefully "kick-start" or reset our marriage. 

Problem is, there's no timescale. I desperately don't want this, but her mind is made up. I'm dreading being alone when I'm so used to her being around. I don't socialise much and have always been one to stay home rather than go out. I have no real hobbies to fill my time as we've pretty much done things as a couple.

I know there's FT posters who've been through similar and worse. I've never been in this situation before and it's frightening. I feel sick, I can't eat, I doubt I'll sleep much for several weeks. It feels like my world is in turmoil and a ton of uncertainty.

Our 2 daughters are 19 and 26. 19 yr old still lives at home and is very upset and unsettled by this. The older one has yet to be told.

Just seeing if those of you with similar experiences or anyone else, has any advice or guidance to help. 

Thank you.

Havent been married that long but clearly  your wife think somethings not right and instead of staying in an unhappy/unknown situation  she wants to take a break to try and figure out whats wrong (or not wrong). Its definitely scary for you because you have no idea whats going on or when "she will  know" if its going to  be permanent or if things will get better and back to a happy place for you two.

I remember an ex gf did this too me and at that time i felt like you.  Long story short it hurt and we ended up making it permanent but was for the best as i married a much better person (wife).

I cant offer any advice to make you feel better. I dont sugar coat things especially with relationships. You need to let her do her thing. The last thing you want is a confused/suffocated woman sticking it out just to appease your feelings. Thats not cool for either of you as you both deserve happiness.

The only thing i can say is to try and keep yourself  busy. Do things you normally wouldnt do with your wife. Spend time with your daughter(s). Go for a weekend trip with them.  Focus on yourself and the "kids".

Try not to fall into the booze trap it doesnt solve anything and will just make you feel shittier.

Your wife will reach out to you when shes ready to talk. Maybe then you can attempt some wooing get your  game ready hehe.

Edited 28 August 2018 by Jattdogg

[Parafox]

1 hour ago, Jattdogg said:

Havent been married that long but clearly  your wife think somethings not right and instead of staying in an unhappy/unknown situation  she wants to take a break to try and figure out whats wrong (or not wrong). Its definitely scary for you because you have no idea whats going on or when "she will  know" if its going to  be permanent or if things will get better and back to a happy place for you two.

I remember an ex gf did this too me and at that time i felt like you.  Long story short it hurt and we ended up making it permanent but was for the best as i married a much better person (wife).

I cant offer any advice to make you feel better. I dont sugar coat things especially with relationships. You need to let her do her thing. The last thing you want is a confused/suffocated woman sticking it out just to appease your feelings. Thats not cool for either of you as you both deserve happiness.

The only thing i can say is to try and keep yourself  busy. Do things you normally wouldnt do with your wife. Spend time with your daughter(s). Go for a weekend trip with them.  Focus on yourself and the "kids".

Try not to fall into the booze trap it doesnt solve anything and will just make you feel shittier.

Your wife will reach out to you when shes ready to talk. Maybe then you can attempt some wooing get your  game ready hehe.

Thank you. So much of that, if not all, is so insightful. I will take a lot of what you say on board. It makes sense, isn't unreasonable and is positive in outlook. Your words have helped me take a more positive take. Much appreciated.