Unit Posted 18 February 2007 Posted 18 February 2007 alreeeeeeeeet, my girlfriends mum is splitting up with her husband - girlfriends stepdad - as i'm obviously on my mrs' side, we don't like the stepdad but like the mum, how do i act/ do i take flower/chocolate or just pretend i don't know or what/ it's all a bit sudden and i don't want to look like a bastard.
lookwhaticando Posted 18 February 2007 Posted 18 February 2007 Take flowers/chocolate to who? The mum? It's not a course of action I can recommend. I guess it all depends on how close you are to the mum/how you get on with her etc.
Kilworthfox Posted 18 February 2007 Posted 18 February 2007 alreeeeeeeeet, my girlfriends mum is splitting up with her husband - girlfriends stepdad - as i'm obviously on my mrs' side, we don't like the stepdad but like the mum, how do i act/ do i take flower/chocolate or just pretend i don't know or what/ it's all a bit sudden and i don't want to look like a bastard. well its not your business! Just ask if she's ok, and if she needs an impartial opinion then she has you if needs be! Not being funny mate but i think it depends how old you are and how much experiance you have with people, and if you feel you can offer any good advice offer it if not just ask if sh's alright either way you are on a winner.
Unit Posted 18 February 2007 Author Posted 18 February 2007 ha oki, cheers, i was just wondering whether there's a traditional thing to do when soembody gets divorced/ never experienced it ya seeee..
Kilworthfox Posted 18 February 2007 Posted 18 February 2007 ha oki, cheers, i was just wondering whether there's a traditional thing to do when soembody gets divorced/ never experienced it ya seeee.. No. its a time when confidence and morale are low due to unhappyness and probably arguements, it can happen but is rare when after years somone just says "look i'm not happy" and its all amicable. as i say just be polite ask if she is ok and say if she wants to talk you are there, that is what a good bloke would do!
lookwhaticando Posted 18 February 2007 Posted 18 February 2007 ha oki, cheers, i was just wondering whether there's a traditional thing to do when soembody gets divorced/ never experienced it ya seeee.. When I was 16/17 my (now ex) girlfriend's parents split. I got on with both the parents but I stayed well out of it. The parents steered clear of each other most of the time, and there was nothing you could really do or say to either of them because you got on well with both of them. It didn't go on for too long, though, as the mother went and topped herself a little while later.
lookwhaticando Posted 18 February 2007 Posted 18 February 2007 as i say just be polite ask if she is ok and say if she wants to talk you are there, that is what a good bloke would do! Sensible option. You've got it easy in some respects, because you're able to take sides. It's much easier that way, I imagine.
Nationwider Posted 18 February 2007 Posted 18 February 2007 Unless you happen to be fairly close to your gf's family (you don't mention how long you've been seeing your gf), I wouldn't wade in with bunches of flowers and tea & sympathy - there's probably very little you can add anyway. Your best bet is to ignore the subject, unless it's brought up - in which case you just say you're sorry and hope she's alright. As a rule, I'd stay out of the inlaw's family domestics, unless you've got a ring on the gf's finger or are very pally with mum.... even then, tread carefully. Even a well-intentioned comment can end up with you getting your head bitten off. You'll score more points by acting the gent towards her daughter. Here endeth the sermon.
Unit Posted 18 February 2007 Author Posted 18 February 2007 When I was 16/17 my (now ex) girlfriend's parents split. I got on with both the parents but I stayed well out of it. The parents steered clear of each other most of the time, and there was nothing you could really do or say to either of them because you got on well with both of them. It didn't go on for too long, though, as the mother went and topped herself a little while later. as i read that i thought that all sounded good and that's how i'd like it to be, shame about the ending though as for my situation, i shall stay out of it, it's a shame because i do get on quite well with the stepdad - he's a city fan - but yeah, i think it's best if i keep my mouth shut and just act normal, ta everybody
lookwhaticando Posted 18 February 2007 Posted 18 February 2007 as i read that i thought that all sounded good and that's how i'd like it to be, shame about the ending though as for my situation, i shall stay out of it, it's a shame because i do get on quite well with the stepdad - he's a city fan - but yeah, i think it's best if i keep my mouth shut and just act normal, ta everybody Yeah the ending was spectacularly surprising and very distressing. I was there when the pigs called around to break the news. The shit well and truly hit the fan that evening.
Wils Posted 18 February 2007 Posted 18 February 2007 Keep out of it if i was you Unless youve got a thing for the Mum....
Floating Fox Posted 18 February 2007 Posted 18 February 2007 Keep out of it if i was you Unless youve got a thing for the Mum.... You've found him out there.
Unit Posted 18 February 2007 Author Posted 18 February 2007 Keep out of it if i was you Unless youve got a thing for the Mum.... oh god no.
cisono Posted 18 February 2007 Posted 18 February 2007 alreeeeeeeeet, my girlfriends mum is splitting up with her husband - girlfriends stepdad - as i'm obviously on my mrs' side, we don't like the stepdad but like the mum, how do i act/ do i take flower/chocolate or just pretend i don't know or what/ it's all a bit sudden and i don't want to look like a bastard. avoid...
Geo V Posted 19 February 2007 Posted 19 February 2007 alreeeeeeeeet, my girlfriends mum is splitting up with her husband - girlfriends stepdad - as i'm obviously on my mrs' side, we don't like the stepdad but like the mum, how do i act/ do i take flower/chocolate or just pretend i don't know or what/ it's all a bit sudden and i don't want to look like a bastard. You want to pork the mum too? You filthy little swine! Chocs for the mum and flowers for the daughter and a knuckle sandwich for the stepdad.
lookwhaticando Posted 19 February 2007 Posted 19 February 2007 You want to pork the mum too? You filthy little swine! Chocs for the mum and flowers for the daughter and a knuckle sandwich for the stepdad. You're almost a big a slag as KilworthFox.
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