While I can see your point of view and you have to respect him for thinking of his wife.
In the interest of the club he should have listened to Ruud and negotiated a compromise instead of refusing point blank.
That aside while he's a tidy footballer, he's not what we need. Not strong enough in tackling , looses possession too easily and was the cause of quite a few of the goals we conceded. Take targeted him into mistakes.
I actually like what Ruud has said we need for the new season. Physically bigger and stronger players who are a lot Fitter. While we need a bit more also, that's a good place to start. Especially in the Championship where Refs are more lenient.
if we can get our money back for him, I'd take it and move on.