Fez of Mahrez Posted 2 January 2007 Posted 2 January 2007 I know we've had this topic in the not too dim and distant past but, hell, do you stay in touch with yours? I really am awful at it. The One (that got away) mentioned her new boyfriend today and I clammed up straight away. Is it difficult or is it just me?
lookwhaticando Posted 2 January 2007 Posted 2 January 2007 It's impossible if you're the one who got the boot. If you're the one who gave the heave-ho, it shouldn't be so bad. It's quite easy to avoid talking to my ex - mainly because I dislike her so much. Needless to say, I was the one doing the dumping, which helps.
Rincewind Posted 2 January 2007 Posted 2 January 2007 I've found that women don't like you keeping in touch with old flames especially the ones they don't like. They dont believe the other is just a friend.
Bert Posted 2 January 2007 Posted 2 January 2007 It depends on how you split. If it was ugly or whatever. Or who done the splitting. Generally until you've got used to the fact that they've moved on or whatever it's so hard for you to hear them talk about there new significant other. It depends on how strong your feelings are/were for them as well. It's easy to say i know, but the best thing to do is just get on with your life. Put yourself in their frame of mind. It's pretty clear that they've moved on, so you should do so as well. (I'm not saying you haven't Fezz)
Fez of Mahrez Posted 2 January 2007 Author Posted 2 January 2007 It depends on how you split. If it was ugly or whatever. Or who done the splitting. Generally until you've got used to the fact that they've moved on or whatever it's so hard for you to hear them talk about there new significant other. It depends on how strong your feelings are/were for them as well. It's easy to say i know, but the best thing to do is just get on with your life. Put yourself in their frame of mind. It's pretty clear that they've moved on, so you should do so as well. (I'm not saying you haven't Fezz) Fair point. Sometimes I think there are just people for whatever reason it's just too difficult to stay in touch with, no matter how long ago it was etc. Communication these days is virtually everywhere though. Bet it weren't like this in the good ole days.
Leonisco Posted 3 January 2007 Posted 3 January 2007 I do still see my ex's because I was friends with them before we started going out, and we still are. I know what you mean Fez, it does feel weird when they mention their new boyfriends, especially when they turn up with someone new less than a week after dumping you! I do sometimes catch myself thinking about what it would have been like if we had stayed together, but at the end of the day you've just gotta forget about it and move on. Plenty more fish in the sea and all that.
The People's Hero Posted 3 January 2007 Posted 3 January 2007 A lot of my ex's know each other. I don't particularly like meeting them these days, any of them. It took them all about 10 minutes to track me down on facebook though, presumably through the 'search for msn contacts' feature. When I say all, I mean quite a few of them anyway. Some of them have been allowed to add me, others have been denied!
Suffolk_fox Posted 3 January 2007 Posted 3 January 2007 I only talk to my ex wife cos my kids live with her. Otherwise, I would never have said a word to her since the day I moved out. I was talking to someone about maintainence the other day - we both realised I would have been better off financially and in every other way if I had hired a hitman in the first place......
Zingari Posted 3 January 2007 Posted 3 January 2007 I only talk to my ex wife cos my kids live with her. Otherwise, I would never have said a word to her since the day I moved out. I was talking to someone about maintainence the other day - we both realised I would have been better off financially and in every other way if I had hired a hitman in the first place...... women are such sentimental creatures aren't they? they always like to keep those precious little mementos, like the car, the house and every bl**dy thing else
shen Posted 3 January 2007 Posted 3 January 2007 Fair point. Sometimes I think there are just people for whatever reason it's just too difficult to stay in touch with, no matter how long ago it was etc. Communication these days is virtually everywhere though. Bet it weren't like this in the good ole days. You did mention she was "the One", so I understand why you've got problems getting over her. I've got no good advice to give you. The good old cliché about time healing all wounds is true about these things though, and for the time being, cutting the ties to the ex is probably the wisest thing to do.
New England Fox Posted 4 January 2007 Posted 4 January 2007 When my last Ex and i split it was her idea and I was heartbroken, didnt want to leave, still loved her blah blah blah. 6 months later and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Im happy living by myself and my new girl is a million times better than my crazy ex.
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