Katy Posted 17 July 2005 Posted 17 July 2005 Does anyone on here suffer from depression or has done in the past?I used to suffer realy badly from it but I got over it, however recently it has retuened in patches and I can't cope 137490[/snapback] I don't know weather this may make sence or not but maybe the way you live your life or the person you are make you happy. I've never really suffered from depression, like everyone I've had times of distress but there is allways something to look foward to. Next holliday, new season, next Leicester game, next weekend etc. I also think that things like music can influence depression. If you listen to music where the artist sings about being hurt, breaking up etc and other sad things it will probably make you feel that way. Just appreiate life mate and live it to the max. There are millions of people alot worse of than you, life is a gift and to many people take it for granted. If ever I'm down I allways think about exicting upcoming events, like at the moment the new season and my holliday to Ibiza next week have got me really excited and keep us going through the last couple of weeks which have been a bit uneventful. 139438[/snapback] Yeah but Teeno if you suffer from depression that comment doesnt help, it just makes you feel worse and feel more guilty for how you are feeling. People dont want to be depressed you cant turn it off and on like a tap, its a deep rooted thing that you arent going to jolt yourself out of bcause someone says you should. Being down is not the same as depression.
Leicester_Mad Posted 17 July 2005 Posted 17 July 2005 Did Depression in A Level Psychology this year and its a nature nurture thing...its genetical but it needs to be triggered by an environmental cause....
Anish Posted 17 July 2005 Posted 17 July 2005 How about trying to take your mind off things by getting a job over the summer. Working a regular 9-5 job will make you focus on something new and different and you'll also earn a few bob at the same time
Ricey Posted 17 July 2005 Author Posted 17 July 2005 Does anyone on here suffer from depression or has done in the past?I used to suffer realy badly from it but I got over it, however recently it has retuened in patches and I can't cope 137490[/snapback] I don't know weather this may make sence or not but maybe the way you live your life or the person you are make you happy. I've never really suffered from depression, like everyone I've had times of distress but there is allways something to look foward to. Next holliday, new season, next Leicester game, next weekend etc. I also think that things like music can influence depression. If you listen to music where the artist sings about being hurt, breaking up etc and other sad things it will probably make you feel that way. Just appreiate life mate and live it to the max. There are millions of people alot worse of than you, life is a gift and to many people take it for granted. If ever I'm down I allways think about exicting upcoming events, like at the moment the new season and my holliday to Ibiza next week have got me really excited and keep us going through the last couple of weeks which have been a bit uneventful. 139438[/snapback] Yeah but Teeno if you suffer from depression that comment doesnt help, it just makes you feel worse and feel more guilty for how you are feeling. People dont want to be depressed you cant turn it off and on like a tap, its a deep rooted thing that you arent going to jolt yourself out of bcause someone says you should. Being down is not the same as depression. 139442[/snapback] Totally agree. I used to say what Teeno said to people who were down before I suffered from depression but once I got depressed and people said that to me I realised it doesn't make you feel any better at all. Everything else you said though Teeno was very true and it's something I need to do and have started doing recently. Me and my girlfriend had a great weekend (minus a few little moments but we got over them quickly) and I feel a lot happier at the moment.
Ricey Posted 17 July 2005 Author Posted 17 July 2005 How about trying to take your mind off things by getting a job over the summer. Working a regular 9-5 job will make you focus on something new and different and you'll also earn a few bob at the same time 139637[/snapback] This is something that would do me a lot of good, however my girlfriend lives an hours train journey away from me so we don't get to see each other easily which means we see each other for periods of 5/6 days followed by 5/6 or not seing each other. I can't live without seeing her so that rules out getting a job for the suumer, she is a lifeguard for just a few hours on various days and that causes enough problems with seeing each other.
Thracian Posted 17 July 2005 Posted 17 July 2005 Did Depression in A Level Psychology this year and its a nature nurture thing...its genetical but it needs to be triggered by an environmental cause.... 139491[/snapback] That reminds me of a squash playing archaeologist I interviewed once. He started telling me about a dig he was working on near Peterborough and doing so by using words which would have had National Spelling Contest guys tearing their hair out. In the end I stopped him, invited him to play squash, involved him in rallies that made him feel like his end was coming any minute and then said to him... "I'll stop making you look a pratt if you stop doing the same with your "shop" talk. Back in the pub he was quickly explaining complex archaelogiocal finds and ideas in the simplest of terms. What you said sounded as if it might be interesting but I haven't got a clue why.
Hitesh Posted 17 July 2005 Posted 17 July 2005 How about trying to take your mind off things by getting a job over the summer. Working a regular 9-5 job will make you focus on something new and different and you'll also earn a few bob at the same time 139637[/snapback] This is something that would do me a lot of good, however my girlfriend lives an hours train journey away from me so we don't get to see each other easily which means we see each other for periods of 5/6 days followed by 5/6 or not seing each other. I can't live without seeing her so that rules out getting a job for the suumer, she is a lifeguard for just a few hours on various days and that causes enough problems with seeing each other. 139658[/snapback] You dont even need a full time job. I have a job for the summer and im on a flexible contract. I work hours to suit both me and the company. You could then work the same hours she does so you dont miss out on seeing each other. Its just a possibiilty and im not saying that you have to take the job etc, just givin a suggestion. I wanted to make the most of my summer holidays but also do something else so i wouldnt get bored so i got a job that suits me and the place i work for. That way, everyones happy. Plus, getting a job will take your mind of everything and you also get the chance to meet new people.
Thracian Posted 17 July 2005 Posted 17 July 2005 Does anyone on here suffer from depression or has done in the past?I used to suffer realy badly from it but I got over it, however recently it has retuened in patches and I can't cope 137490[/snapback] Don't claim to have any special expertise in what is a complex subject but Teeno makes an excellent point. Give yourself and your girlfriend things to look forward to. Day's punting at Oxford, picnic at Warwick Castle and a look at the jousting afterwards, weekend in Matlock or Blackpool, buy tickets for a good concert, go quad biking or go-karting...whatever appeals. It doesn't have to be expensive. It just takes you away from the environment you perhaps associate with your problems and gives you something esle to focus on. Also it might be worth reading a simple book on depression from Smiths because if you understand it better it may help you tackle it. Just ideas. Good luck. I've loads of sympathy. You are in good company cos depression is widespread. My wife's been on a neurologal ward for a week now and that's not one of the places you should plan to visit to cheer yourself up. But it does help put things in proportion I think, at least it did for me especially when I learned that her heart had stopped beating and had to be restarted - and yet she's one with a better prognosis than most!. Bill Shankly summed it up "Every Day You've Got Life and Breath You've Got A Holiday". He always exagerrated but the point was still valid.
Ricey Posted 18 July 2005 Author Posted 18 July 2005 Don't claim to have any special expertise in what is a complex subject but Teeno makes an excellent point. Give yourself and your girlfriend things to look forward to.Day's punting at Oxford, picnic at Warwick Castle and a look at the jousting afterwards, weekend in Matlock or Blackpool, buy tickets for a good concert, go quad biking or go-karting...whatever appeals. It doesn't have to be expensive. It just takes you away from the environment you perhaps associate with your problems and gives you something esle to focus on. Also it might be worth reading a simple book on depression from Smiths because if you understand it better it may help you tackle it. Just ideas. Good luck. I've loads of sympathy. You are in good company cos depression is widespread. My wife's been on a neurologal ward for a week now and that's not one of the places you should plan to visit to cheer yourself up. But it does help put things in proportion I think, at least it did for me especially when I learned that her heart had stopped beating and had to be restarted - and yet she's one with a better prognosis than most!. Bill Shankly summed it up "Every Day You've Got Life and Breath You've Got A Holiday". He always exagerrated but the point was still valid. 139675[/snapback] I do need to start looking ahead more and bring positive instead of fearing, it's something that I've made an effort to do recently. Sorry to here about your wife, best wishes to her.
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