Parafox

It's been pretty bad over the last few months. She has been becoming more psychotic and reclusive, convinced that neighbours are still getting into her flat even though she has had the locks changed. She believes we have been complicit in messing with her mind, that we have been in contact with the MH team to try to get her sectioned (we haven't), that we have always lied to her about various bad things that have happened in her life, that we want her to be evicted, so we have been winding her up to the point of her wanting to stab someone and go to prison. That we want the Housing association to kill her cat, who is a companion pet, so that she has nothing left in her life... Because she is paranoid about people getting into her flat, she has refused to allow the housing association access to do a gas safety check so they cut her gas off and she has had no heating or hot water for a month. She has an electric heater which scorched the carpet because she is unable to think logically or anticipate possibilities, and could've set fire to the place. In the last few weeks we have received over 300 texts a day from her going over and over and repeating every accusation and verbal attack towards us. We went over last week as she seemed reasonable and she asked us to help her with making her flat accessible and she'd then let the housing people in. The amount of waste, kitchen waste, cat litter waste (bagged up, fortunately) food containers, (she won't go out to the shop so has been living off take-aways) was jaw dropping. Then there's her problem with what we call over-buying. She buys things daily from eBay, Amazon etc that get delivered to her flat, spending most of her benefits on stuff she doesn't need but that makes her feel better about herself when it arrives. There is a fairly large "utility" space/cupboard where her gas boiler is and where she keeps shoes and coats etc. About the size of a downstairs cloakroom. We opened the doo and it was LITERALLY full to the ceiling with cardboard packaging and polystyrene fillers. It took us over an hour to clear all this away and the car was full of stuff after we had filled her household and recycling bins. She thanked us and wanted us to stay and talk but she managed to manufacture an argument and became quite hostile so we had to leave. It's just so difficult to see someone we care about in the depths of he MH and be unable to help even though we have tried through various avenues, GP. her MH team, the crisis team, the police when she's threatened to harm herself, none of whom could actually do anything unless she did something first. Thanks for asking. We carry on and continue to do what we can, when we can and acknowledge her MH issues which, in a way, makes it bearable.

This is worth a read: I Had a Black Dog: His Name Was Depression by Matthew Johnstone | Goodreads

I was talking to a friend who is a newly qualified police officer and we both said that the majority of MH jobs we (police and ambulance) attend are people living in a chaotic way. Food going mouldy in the fridge, piles of unwashed laundry, dusty and grubby rooms, kitchens with a heap of dirty plates and cutlery, a pet that needs food or water, household waste overflowing the bin, dirty toilets and baths, carpets that are visibly covered in dust and pet/human hair and that's relatively mild compared to some places I've seen. For someone with depression and/or anxiety, motivation becomes non-existent and then it's a spiralling descent into a worsening situation where they are unable to keep doing the basics and things literally pile up, Imagine waking up every day to the daunting prospect of sorting the increasingly difficult situation out but you have no desire, because it has overwhelmed you. And your mind isn't telling you how to get things back to "normal", unable to form any kind of plan to tackle or change the situation you are in because you head is full of the illogical thoughts and grinding negativity which take up so much thinking and seems to be incessant. These people most likely recognise the situation and want it to change, but the effort of doing something is outweighed by the black dog of depression telling them "why bother, nothing matters, I don't matter, I don't care about myself. I'll do it when I feel better... maybe". The issue can then become, even when feeling better, actively doing something positive becomes a huge effort and for many people the motivation is fleeting and the cycle repeats itself.

I had to read this with my fingers in my ears going "nahnahnahhna" so I didn't accidentally discover the outcome a bit like when the news reveal the footie results before Match Of The Day.

There'd have been a succession plan before this.

It's only been 2 hours since the post and many have been out and about. Give it time. I'm sure there'll be plenty.

Is it too late to change my Deathlist predictions?

Wordle 980 6/6 ⬜⬜🟨⬜🟨 🟨⬜🟩⬜⬜ 🟨🟩🟩🟩⬜ ⬜🟩🟩🟩🟩 ⬜🟩🟩🟩🟩 🟩🟩🟩🟩🟩 And so the frustration of this weekend continues.

That's not what he or I are saying. But you can't deny the irrational negativity exists

Sadly yes. I don't understand them. Criticism can be justified but the repetitive negative posts even when we win is soul destroying.

I wish they'd go away.

Good. Now tell all the doom mongers that post shite about us not making it

They are/were. They never go away and they never understand.

And what do you think will happen this season

Yes. But he's going to be disappointed

Full of shit as usual

Mate, Ronaldo, Messi, Kane , Lineker, name any of the world's best. They've all missed sitters in their career.

Trouble is so many expect absolute perfection every game. Not possible.

Have you ever missed a sitter? It happens.

2 deflected goals, maybe?

You really do post some shite

We're top of the ****ing league and have been for months. Idiotic post like so many others post match

All teams shithouse a win from time to time. Us included.

Frustration and disappointment does not translate well on this forum. Negativity pervades it all after any type of loss, which is a very blinkered view. Just remember where we are and that we're going up