Miss B Posted 23 September 2005 Posted 23 September 2005 HI DOES ANYONE WANT TO HELP WITH MY PROBLEM ?ITS A RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM ?CAN YOU TALK ABOUT THAT SORT OF STUFF HERE ?
Libertine Posted 23 September 2005 Posted 23 September 2005 Course you can talk about that kind of stuff on here. Turn caps lock off though please.
Miss B Posted 23 September 2005 Author Posted 23 September 2005 sorry i kept capslock on by mistake.ok well im 21 and was seeing a man who's 40.we met in a club we both go in and some of my family go in there too.he always used to say im gorgeous and kept blowing kisses at me and winking at me.he never let me pay for anything when we went out either even though i offered and he used to go mad whenever other men said they liked me.so that made it seem like he likes me alot once he heard my mums aunty mention both our names and he thought she was calling him.one of my mums cousins had a go at him once too.anyway i ended up finding out that he used to go in phone boxews and ring up women whp pay for you know what (im trying to be careful what i say as i dont know if you can talk about that on here).i dont know if he went with them but i think he did.he said it was true but it was when he was in his 20's and early 30's and he thought he'd been stupid and an idiot. the last time we had a chat in the club was nearly four weeks ago.he sounded like he still wanted to be with me then.he said i'll give you a ring next wednesday to make arrangements for next saturday night but he didnt ring.so i didnt go in the club the following week but i heard he stood up and looked at where im usually sat as if he was looking for me. the week after this lad who's 23 who he knows that likes me aswell was sat with me (were only friends though )and the man i was seeing looked at me alot and looked upset. then last week he didnt talk to me at all but looked at me and stared at me alot.i was upset and cried my eyes out when i got home coz he hadnt spoke to me.i found out when i got home though that he'd asked my grandad if i was in i was still upset the next night so i rang him and said where am i with you and he said what do you mean where are you with me and i said do you want us to carry on as we were or be firends or not have anything to do with each other at all and he said i'd rather be friends to be honest.i asked why and he said its different things and i said different things like what and he said just different things.he wouldnt tell me what they were.then he said see you in club on sunday.i said will you talk to me then and he just said see you in club sunday. is that confusing or what ?so it looks like he could still have feelings for me coz he still looks at me alot and stares but if he does why is he treating me like this ?what do you think ?
Miss B Posted 23 September 2005 Author Posted 23 September 2005 also he's friends with a couple of my mums cousins and they said he's a nice person although one of them said i'd tell you if he wasnt at the same time she said i'll kill you if you upset her to him.my mum used to work in the club and she knew him then.she said he seems like a nice person but he's abit of a mans man.he likes drinking alot and being with his male friends and he goes in the games room in the club alot.im usually in the main room where they have singers and bands on on stage.he goes in there too but not as much as the games room. what do you think i should do this sunday ?should i stay away completely or still go in?and should i talk to him?if so what should i say?do you think he could still have feelings for me but just not want a relationship ?
CasinoGee Posted 23 September 2005 Posted 23 September 2005 Errrr, of all the reasons to join a football forum Welcome anyhoo and good luck with it. You can talk about what you like how you like on here I think.
Miss B Posted 23 September 2005 Author Posted 23 September 2005 i didnt notice it was a football forum at first coz it just said general chat! so i thught you could talk about anything.what do u think about it terminator x ?
Steven Posted 23 September 2005 Posted 23 September 2005 sorry i kept capslock on by mistake.ok well im 21 and was seeing a man who's 40.we met in a club we both go in and some of my family go in there too.he always used to say im gorgeous and kept blowing kisses at me and winking at me.he never let me pay for anything when we went out either even though i offered and he used to go mad whenever other men said they liked me.so that made it seem like he likes me alot once he heard my mums aunty mention both our names and he thought she was calling him.one of my mums cousins had a go at him once too.anyway i ended up finding out that he used to go in phone boxews and ring up women whp pay for you know what (im trying to be careful what i say as i dont know if you can talk about that on here).i dont know if he went with them but i think he did.he said it was true but it was when he was in his 20's and early 30's and he thought he'd been stupid and an idiot. the last time we had a chat in the club was nearly four weeks ago.he sounded like he still wanted to be with me then.he said i'll give you a ring next wednesday to make arrangements for next saturday night but he didnt ring.so i didnt go in the club the following week but i heard he stood up and looked at where im usually sat as if he was looking for me. the week after this lad who's 23 who he knows that likes me aswell was sat with me (were only friends though )and the man i was seeing looked at me alot and looked upset. then last week he didnt talk to me at all but looked at me and stared at me alot.i was upset and cried my eyes out when i got home coz he hadnt spoke to me.i found out when i got home though that he'd asked my grandad if i was in i was still upset the next night so i rang him and said where am i with you and he said what do you mean where are you with me and i said do you want us to carry on as we were or be firends or not have anything to do with each other at all and he said i'd rather be friends to be honest.i asked why and he said its different things and i said different things like what and he said just different things.he wouldnt tell me what they were.then he said see you in club on sunday.i said will you talk to me then and he just said see you in club sunday. is that confusing or what ?so it looks like he could still have feelings for me coz he still looks at me alot and stares but if he does why is he treating me like this ?what do you think ? He is confused and yet finds you attractive. However your response is lukewarm and he feels embarassment for his obvious show of affection which has not been reciprocated. You will find your times with him in the future very difficult. I would forget the previous two blokes and start again and see if you can find someone else.
Miss B Posted 23 September 2005 Author Posted 23 September 2005 sorry what does he feel embarrassed by steven ?what has he done that ive not reciprocated ? so do you thni he still has feelings for me then but doesnt want a relationship ? what do you think about his past ? and about people interfering ? what should i do this sunday?should i go in and talk to him?if so what should i say ?or should i stay way for good ? why do u think he's acting like this ?
filbertway Posted 23 September 2005 Posted 23 September 2005 sorry what does he feel embarrassed by steven ?what has he done that ive not reciprocated ? so do you thni he still has feelings for me then but doesnt want a relationship ? what do you think about his past ? and about people interfering ? what should i do this sunday?should i go in and talk to him?if so what should i say ?or should i stay way for good ? why do u think he's acting like this ? Onee thing, can you put line spaces in between some of your long writing so its easier to read welcome to the leicester city football club forum, enjoy your stay and good luck with your problems
Steven Posted 23 September 2005 Posted 23 September 2005 sorry what does he feel embarrassed by steven ?what has he done that ive not reciprocated ? so do you thni he still has feelings for me then but doesnt want a relationship ? what do you think about his past ? and about people interfering ? what should i do this sunday?should i go in and talk to him?if so what should i say ?or should i stay way for good ? why do u think he's acting like this ? The bloke in his 40's clearly likes you as does the other one, though none of them seem suitable. My advice is look for pastures new.
Miss B Posted 23 September 2005 Author Posted 23 September 2005 do you think i should be friends with him though steven? what makes you think he still likes me ?
Miss B Posted 23 September 2005 Author Posted 23 September 2005 why do u think his friend who likes me isnt suitable ?
Miss B Posted 23 September 2005 Author Posted 23 September 2005 what do you think about it humey? also what do you both think about his past and about people interfering ? and why do you think he's changed his mind about having a relationship ?especially if he still likes me ?
Steven Posted 23 September 2005 Posted 23 September 2005 do you think i should be friends with him though steven? what makes you think he still likes me ? You have jealous 40 year old and an inarticulate 23 year old. The older bloke is insecure about the relationship (at whatever level that is at) with you. I'm not sure I would find that attractive. The other guy if he keeps looking at you probably fancies you. If you do not sort out this potential triangle, none of you will be friends. Don't persist with something that isn't working.
Miss B Posted 23 September 2005 Author Posted 23 September 2005 no i mean the man i was seeing keeps looking at me and stares at me.why do you think he does that and why do you think he asked my grandad if i was in? im glad he still likes me in that way if he does and you're right i cant make him have a relationship with me if he doesnt want to and if he doesnt want to theres no point in me trying should i go in this sunday?
Jonbluefox9 Posted 23 September 2005 Posted 23 September 2005 I don't really understand the full situation but you're 21 years old. Shouldn't you just be having fun rather than getting worried about things like this? Good luck with it all though.
Steven Posted 23 September 2005 Posted 23 September 2005 no i mean the man i was seeing keeps looking at me and stares at me.why do you think he does that and why do you think he asked my grandad if i was in? im glad he still likes me in that way if he does and you're right i cant make him have a relationship with me if he doesnt want to and if he doesnt want to theres no point in me trying should i go in this sunday? Yes and find out how both of you feel and get him to dump the jealousy.
Miss B Posted 23 September 2005 Author Posted 23 September 2005 yes i should jonbluefox9 but the problem is i still have feelings for him and am finding it really difficult to get over him
Libertine Posted 23 September 2005 Posted 23 September 2005 yes i should jonbluefox9 but the problem is i still have feelings for him and am finding it really difficult to get over him Isn't that what it's like after most breakups/stopseingeachothers?
Miss B Posted 23 September 2005 Author Posted 23 September 2005 what do you think about all this libertine ?
Libertine Posted 23 September 2005 Posted 23 September 2005 what do you think about all this libertine ? Well, to say the least I'm confused.
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