jonno24 Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 Hi all just had to post this as i have a massive dilemma on my hands and need your advice preferably female but any advice welcome. Well basically i have been seperated from my girlfriend for about 14 months and a few weeks back i decided to get back on the wagon and start looking for another partner and there is one particular woman at work that i got to know about a month ago we hit it off and i decided to ask her out on a date. thankfully she said yes and we had the date all went well and it came to the end of the night and we got to her house and we kissed and thats as far as it went but we stayed up all night talking and she told me things that shocked me about her ex partners and im not easily shocked. now for the past few days at work we have been talking alot and people say she has been giving me signals like whenever we speak she plays with her hair and things like that and to be honest im not sure what there talking about. Now i really like this woman she is gorgeous,funny,and ticks every box that i have regarding my perfect woman. I am useless at reading signals and am afraid to ask her out again incase she says no but i fear that by not doing something im giving the illusion that im not interested. Any help would be greatly appreciated
davieG Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 Hi all just had to post this as i have a massive dilemma on my hands and need your advice preferably female but any advice welcome.Well basically i have been seperated from my girlfriend for about 14 months and a few weeks back i decided to get back on the wagon and start looking for another partner and there is one particular woman at work that i got to know about a month ago we hit it off and i decided to ask her out on a date. thankfully she said yes and we had the date all went well and it came to the end of the night and we got to her house and we kissed and thats as far as it went but we stayed up all night talking and she told me things that shocked me about her ex partners and im not easily shocked. now for the past few days at work we have been talking alot and people say she has been giving me signals like whenever we speak she plays with her hair and things like that and to be honest im not sure what there talking about. Now i really like this woman she is gorgeous,funny,and ticks every box that i have regarding my perfect woman. I am useless at reading signals and am afraid to ask her out again incase she says no but i fear that by not doing something im giving the illusion that im not interested. Any help would be greatly appreciated Ask her out
Filbert_Ross Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 she said yes 1st time, told you personal stuff. had a snog. your in. ask her out again.
jonno24 Posted 6 March 2009 Author Posted 6 March 2009 Ask her out thats the problem im shit scared that if i do then she will say no and make me look like a nob i need some sort of confirmation of her feelings if any
Corky Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 Pluck up the courage to take her on a date. She's obviously keen so why not give it a try?
davieG Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 thats the problem im shit scared that if i do then she will say no and make me look like a nob i need some sort of confirmation of her feelings if any Why do you look like a nob if she says no?
StanSP Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 Hi all just had to post this as i have a massive dilemma on my hands and need your advice preferably female but any advice welcome.Well basically i have been seperated from my girlfriend for about 14 months and a few weeks back i decided to get back on the wagon and start looking for another partner and there is one particular woman at work that i got to know about a month ago we hit it off and i decided to ask her out on a date. thankfully she said yes and we had the date all went well and it came to the end of the night and we got to her house and we kissed and thats as far as it went but we stayed up all night talking and she told me things that shocked me about her ex partners and im not easily shocked. now for the past few days at work we have been talking alot and people say she has been giving me signals like whenever we speak she plays with her hair and things like that and to be honest im not sure what there talking about. Now i really like this woman she is gorgeous,funny,and ticks every box that i have regarding my perfect woman. I am useless at reading signals and am afraid to ask her out again incase she says no but i fear that by not doing something im giving the illusion that im not interested. Any help would be greatly appreciated I understand that she's your perfect woman, and appreciate the fact that you may never find someone so perfect again. However, you will be mixing business with pleasure. Think about the future. Hyopthetically, if it goes wrong, how will this affect you at work? I'm just giving you something to think about . But by all means, I say ask her out again. It seems like you have established that special conection so good luck mate!
Corky Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 thats the problem im shit scared that if i do then she will say no and make me look like a nob i need some sort of confirmation of her feelings if any The best way to find out is ask her yourself. What have you got to lose by asking her out? You may get a nice surprise
jonno24 Posted 6 March 2009 Author Posted 6 March 2009 Why do you look like a nob if she says no? coz the blokes i work with are the sort that will take the piss out of ya if you do something remotely bad so if i get knocked back by a gorgeous girl then theyll kinda have a field day and there the sort to take thepiss out of her aswell and i cant do that to her.
Filbert_Ross Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 coz the blokes i work with are the sort that will take the piss out of ya if you do something remotely bad so if i get knocked back by a gorgeous girl then theyll kinda have a field day and there the sort to take thepiss out of her aswell and i cant do that to her. she has already said yes tho. have you got her number? ask her out of work.
StanSP Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 coz the blokes i work with are the sort that will take the piss out of ya if you do something remotely bad so if i get knocked back by a gorgeous girl then theyll kinda have a field day and there the sort to take thepiss out of her aswell and i cant do that to her. Fuck them. You shouldn't care what they think. It's more likely that she will accept another date with you because of the signals she already gave. If she says yes, then you can just shove that in their faces (if they say anything that is)
AoWW Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 Ask her out. From everything you've said I'm 99% sure she'll say yes. If, for some reason, she does say no I'm confident she'd at least let you down gently. Can't see what you've got to lose, to be honest. But bottle it and you'll always be wondering 'what if?'. Very good things can come from being bold enough to voice your feelings to someone. Good luck.
Corky Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 coz the blokes i work with are the sort that will take the piss out of ya if you do something remotely bad so if i get knocked back by a gorgeous girl then theyll kinda have a field day and there the sort to take thepiss out of her aswell and i cant do that to her. Ignore them. Anyway, from what you've posted, it looks as though she wants to be with you.
jonno24 Posted 6 March 2009 Author Posted 6 March 2009 well ive got her number so i might just give her a ring and ask her out again blimey im bricking it erm ill give you lot an update if she says yes and if she does you will all get a thankyou. wish me luck
StanSP Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 well ive got her number so i might just give her a ring and ask her out again blimey im bricking it erm ill give you lot an update if she says yes and if she does you will all get a thankyou.wish me luck Good luck mate!! Think positive (and that's coming from a pessimist!)
Filbert_Ross Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 well ive got her number so i might just give her a ring and ask her out again blimey im bricking it erm ill give you lot an update if she says yes and if she does you will all get a thankyou.wish me luck
jonno24 Posted 6 March 2009 Author Posted 6 March 2009 well i have just got off the phone to her after a short conversation and she said no. As apparently Boyfriends and Girlfriends dont go on 2nd dates Happiest day of my life end of well after my daughters birth fook me i feel like im pissed and im sure i was hyperventilating to her on the phone after she said no thaught i was gonna cry but then the bombshell that she does like me and apparently has already told her parents she is seeing me
jonno24 Posted 6 March 2009 Author Posted 6 March 2009 Brilliant.Well pleased for you fella cheers mate i thank you all for finally giving me the confidence to do the manly thing
morris1234 Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 cheers mate i thank you all for finally giving me the confidence to do the manly thing IN. THE. BAG. WELL DONE MATE! good on ya!
Kilworthfox Posted 6 March 2009 Posted 6 March 2009 well i have just got off the phone to her after a short conversation and she said no.As apparently Boyfriends and Girlfriends dont go on 2nd dates Happiest day of my life end of well after my daughters birth fook me i feel like im pissed and im sure i was hyperventilating to her on the phone after she said no thaught i was gonna cry but then the bombshell that she does like me and apparently has already told her parents she is seeing me Sweet! 1 word of warning, how did you not know you were together? Did she decide this after 1 night & not tell you? ODD? If I were you I would be like a rat up a drainpipe, beautiful women
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