Hitesh Posted 5 August 2005 Posted 5 August 2005 So, i finally got onto MSN tonight as some of you may know and i got chattin to this girl. She was a mate of my ex and she has been helped me loads when we broke up! And she was the one who suggested i break up with her. Mainly because she knew a lot more about what she was up2. Anyway...we have been chattin a lot recently and today i have realised that i like her more than just as a friend. Now im not sure if its the drink that has done this because i have has a few pints but she is a really nice girl. She has everything, she is great to talk to and she is very understanding and she is very good looking. But this is it, maybe because she is great to talk to and understanding then myabe i should just leave it as that and stay good mates. Im not sure what to do? Do i tell her how i feel and make it awkward between us? Or just leave it and hope i get over it. I am going uni soon (hopefully) so would it be worth it? That why i have asked you people!! Sorry if it sent you to sleep but i needed to tell someone! Im going bed now to sleep on it and ill probably come back 2moro and think nothin of it but if i dont then ur help will be greatly appreciated!
cisono Posted 5 August 2005 Posted 5 August 2005 .... Im not sure what to do? Do i tell her how i feel and make it awkward between us? Or just leave it and hope i get over it. I am going uni soon (hopefully) so would it be worth it? That why i have asked you people!! Sorry if it sent you to sleep but i needed to tell someone! Im going bed now to sleep on it and ill probably come back 2moro and think nothin of it but if i dont then ur help will be greatly appreciated! 150868[/snapback] Hi Hitesh, are you a guy then? Well, very difficult to give advice here. Perhaps you didn't really want advice anyway, just to talk to someone. Hope you feel better when you log on again tomorrow!
Shum Posted 5 August 2005 Posted 5 August 2005 It's a weird position to be in - can't really give any advice, but good luck.
Scarby Posted 5 August 2005 Posted 5 August 2005 well if she is a really good friend then if you told her how you felt she would understand the situation. Situation 1) you tell her and she feels the same way. Bobs your uncle, your in there. Situation 2) you tell her and she doesnt feel the same this can have to outcomes as you already know A) it doesnt matter your friendship means a great deal to her B) you lose a great friend - the reason you are asking the question and you care about how her feelings more than your own, which proves yourself. Situation 3) You dont tell her and you wonder what would happen for the rest of your life thinking what if.... This didnt really help but i have been in the same situation and took the later option and wish i never did and how she has a boyfriend of a few years and we remain great friends..but i still want to tell her. if you want to char further add me to msn [email protected] im always around me, got nothing else better to do.
Cat Burger Posted 6 August 2005 Posted 6 August 2005 Drink some cider... That's usually the remedy for all emotional woe I don't know what the situation is because I'm not reading all that.
EmLeee Posted 6 August 2005 Posted 6 August 2005 if she's a good friend you have nothing to lose - if you tell her and she doesn't feel the same, then she's still your mate and if she does feel the same, then that's good, right? just go for it! or you'll never know...
Anish Posted 6 August 2005 Posted 6 August 2005 Bothered.( Not in a good mood after game ) 151224[/snapback]
davieG Posted 6 August 2005 Posted 6 August 2005 Stop being a wet blanket, get in there tell how you feel, you have to risk rejection in life otherwise it aint life is it
cisono Posted 6 August 2005 Posted 6 August 2005 Go for it! Nothing to lose, particularly if she is so understanding...
New England Fox Posted 7 August 2005 Posted 7 August 2005 Meh! I cant give any advice, I moved all the way over to FLorida to be with my girlfriend and I've only been here four mounths and the bitch just dumped me
Hitesh Posted 7 August 2005 Author Posted 7 August 2005 cheers everyone for your advice/comments. Much appreciated. In some ways the weekend will be good coz im workin loads and my mind has been taken off it but come tonight when i will talk to her again it will all stir up. Anyway, i think i will tell her but not right away. I will probably meet up with her this week some time so ill tell her in person! But thank you! Just needed to get that out really...and i was in a wierd mood of Friday night!
davieG Posted 7 August 2005 Posted 7 August 2005 cheers everyone for your advice/comments. Much appreciated. In some ways the weekend will be good coz im workin loads and my mind has been taken off it but come tonight when i will talk to her again it will all stir up. Anyway, i think i will tell her but not right away. I will probably meet up with her this week some time so ill tell her in person! But thank you! Just needed to get that out really...and i was in a wierd mood of Friday night! 151588[/snapback] Hope it goes well and she feels the same, also that your ex takes it with a good spirit. We'll assume that if your posting level drops dramatically either you've found a new interest in life or your ex has snapped your fingers off
Solihullfox Posted 7 August 2005 Posted 7 August 2005 Meh! I cant give any advice, I moved all the way over to FLorida to be with my girlfriend and I've only been here four mounths and the bitch just dumped me 151566[/snapback] Tough time for you - keep you chin up and begin practising a charming english accent with just a tinge of upper class about it. The ladies will love it !
Steven Posted 7 August 2005 Posted 7 August 2005 Meh! I cant give any advice, I moved all the way over to FLorida to be with my girlfriend and I've only been here four mounths and the bitch just dumped me 151566[/snapback] Sorry to hear that. <_<
rossporterlc Posted 7 August 2005 Posted 7 August 2005 good luck Hitesh, sure it'll work out the way you want it to, if you know what that is
Hitesh Posted 7 August 2005 Author Posted 7 August 2005 Hope it goes well and she feels the same, also that your ex takes it with a good spirit.We'll assume that if your posting level drops dramatically either you've found a new interest in life or your ex has snapped your fingers off 151590[/snapback] Thats the other thing. The ex still has feelings for me but to be honest she has feelings for everyone and she is a flirt so she has feelings for every guy she meets. Could never trust here. But she will just have to put up with it, even if she dont like it. She has done it to her mates so this will jsut be a taste of her own medicive IF anything happens that is. But im not doing it for that reason if thats what people think!
New England Fox Posted 8 August 2005 Posted 8 August 2005 Tough time for you - keep you chin up and begin practising a charming english accent with just a tinge of upper class about it. The ladies will love it ! 151592[/snapback] Well its kinda back on now....and at the same time its kinda not. Women!
Thracian Posted 24 August 2005 Posted 24 August 2005 Go and have a game of golf (or a w..k). It's much less complicated.
King Kyle lcfc Posted 24 August 2005 Posted 24 August 2005 Explain how you feel and propose to become a friend with benefits.
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