filthyfox

I... had a dream last night. 9-0 Chelsea

So... why am I awake at 0345? Well... the answer could be that I decided to go to the karaoke nightclub after the wife went to bed; had a few drinks; drove home via McDonald's and got nicked on the way home for drink driving. Got home, woke the wife up with my stumbling around, and had to explain everything. (I did seriously consider sneaking out at the very least). NOPE- we are in separate beds at the moment owing to her having a colonoscopy and the associated disbalance of digestive flora, coupled with a respiratory virus. SHE WOKE ME UP BECAUSE SHE NEEDED ME... more importantly... I was there.

The destructive behaviour... Visiting sex workers for massages in areas that a legitimate masseur wouldn't touch (not a filthy place; just close to it). Sneaking out late at night 2/3 times a week drinking 2/3 pints and then driving home via McDonald's where i stuffed my face til i felt fit to burst, but not be sick Racked up a debt of £56k. I got out of this by being COMPLETELY honest with wife. Stopping ALL strands of this behaviour (6 months clean now)- maybe I'm stronger than I think? Engaging wholeheartedly in therapy Engaging with a debt management charity (stepchange) Being creative in beaded jewellery making and macrame decorations My world is SO much better

So... I had cause to send this email to my HR department. Good afternoon, I should like to explore the possibility of a reasonable adjustment that I believe would protect me from discrimination by Dorset Council and its Managers on the basis of disability. In October last year I returned from a period of absence caused by disability; namely anxiety/ depression which was exacerbated by sleep apnoea. This was confirmed as a disability by Dorset Council’s Occupational Health practitioner, both in the past and immediately prior to my return to work in this instance. Although I am satisfied the sickness absence policy was procedurally correctly followed; I do not believe sufficient credence was given to the fact that I was absent owing to a required adjustment in the medication needed to treat my disability. I believe, therefore, that I was unreasonably and unfairly subjected to Dorset Council’s sickness absence review policy. I would hope that the introduction of the proposed reasonable adjustment would be critical in removing the fear of an implied threat to my continued employment should I need to change medication again; and would safeguard my ongoing wellbeing. The reasonable adjustment I ask for is wording to the effect of “should the need arise to change medication for the treatment of depression/anxiety; and that this be documented by the Doctor treating me, that the period of time required for adjustment to this new medication not be considered in any sickness absence review.” I would also be grateful that any previous absence in those circumstances be considered as if the reasonable adjustment was already in place. Ie all threats to my continued employment removed. I include relevant history below to aid the appropriate officer in making this decision. You will note that I have not included my line managers in this email. I would ask that this decision be made by Dorset Council HR; if possible in isolation from the management structure. Relevant history:- I had been self managing anxiety for some time prior to any sickness absence. Receiving medicinal treatment via GP at a low dose. Absence 1/2/21-6/4/21 diagnosis of anxiety/ depression. The first such period I had had in my life. I only recognised that I had been suffering from anxiety/depression for years during this period owing to CBT therapy. Increase in dosage of drug 1. Absence 22/6/22-8/8/22 Diagnosed with sleep apnoea. I had to self-fund my treatment between June 2022 and June 2024 as NHS would not provide me any support. I am now being treated by the NHS. I had no professional supervision at all between June 2022 and June 2024 for this condition. Sleep apnoea exacerbates the symptoms of anxiety/depression (tiredness, irritability, lack of concentration etc). Dosage increased to maximum of drug 1. Absence 24/11/22-26/2/23 Drug 1 was no longer effective for treating the symptoms of anxiety/depression. I needed to start a new drug (drug 2). In order to do this, I had to reduce the dose of drug 1 until I was not taking any of this drug, and then, following a period of no medication; I started drug 2 at a low dose. Following Stage 1 sickness absence review, I received a letter stating “ Whilst we all want your phased return to work to be successful later in February, should this not come to fruition and further long term absence occurs or if you did return to work and then further long term occurred thereafter, then consideration would need to be given to the sustainability of your absence and progression to formal stage 2 of the Long Term Sickness Absence Management procedure a potential outcome of which would be consideration of a recommendation to dismiss on grounds of medical incapability. “ Naturally, the statement above caused me to fear the outcome should I ever need further time off relating to my disability. June 2023- Drug 2 was at full dosage, and was no longer effective. GP advice was to either work through it, or change medication; again reducing the drug to 0 and starting a new drug. Having received the letter following the absence 24/11/22-26/2/23 which held a clear threat to my employment; this was not an option. I shared my concerns with my Line manager; the options were to go sick in order to change the medication, or carry on. Owing to the letter previously received going sick I did not consider going sick was an option. Absence 13/6/24-27/9/24 I could no longer function with drug 2 being ineffective. I changed medication to drug 3 in this period following medical advice. I felt unsafe working, and indeed, my mental health was severely suffering. I was engaging in extremely destructive behaviour, and reflecting on this; the majority of this could have been avoided if I changed medication in June 2023 and was not made to be in fear for my employment. I returned to work, and was immediately invited to a Formal Stage 1 sickness absence review with A and B, it was made abundantly clear that my continued employment was at risk. Both prior to the Stage 1 meeting, and within the meeting itself, I was reminded that my situation may lead to Stage 2. I asked numerous times if that threat could be removed; but this was declined by A. I was made to feel threatened and vulnerable throughout that meeting owing to this threat remaining, and was also made to wait 40 minutes while the situation was discussed and a decision made. Both A and B were fully aware that this absence was caused by disability. I was then advised, after the 40 minutes anxious wait that Stage 2 would not be appropriate; however I received a letter from A stating “If there are any further long term absence periods or significant impact on the service from short term absences, I will consider progression to a formal stage two hearing under the long-term absence management procedure. A potential outcome of which would be a recommendation to dismiss on the grounds of medical incapability from your current role. “ I should add that I have no qualms should B be consulted or involved in making the decision relating to the reasonable adjustment proposed. I have received therapy through Steps to Wellbeing; and have been clear of destructive tendencies since returning to work; this being, I believe the benefit of appropriate medication. The Employment Advice Service from Steps to Wellbeing suggested that the proposed reasonable adjustment is sound.

Sertraline didn't work for me... and I had to spend a year longer on it than I needed to... elaboration to follow

I will soon write my experience over the last few months. I'm actually quite shocked by it; but creativity has got me out.

Stay strong people! Get active and be creative

Product testing my latest creations. Bracelets £10 including UK postage Necklaces £35

£2m was the record when we signed Guunnlaauuggssoonn, same again for Sinclair so 1.2 was, indeed quite large.

Don't forget the free gnats piss!

Ironic really; if Cooper had stayed, we would have been better off!

Correct. No point now. Just let the ship sink, and salvage it next season... or 5 seasons after EFL have put the boot in.

The back doors are wide open already

This, in itself is absolutely CRIMINAL!

Why is this prat still here?

Give Kingy next season too.

Has anyone given Ruud Brendan's tube of KY?

Not for a long, long time

Something no Spurs fan will ever say

Since we won the cup

I'm signing Jesus- we need a miracle

The bloke is utterly dog shit

A one eyed, one armed chap who's been dead over 200 years? Sounds about right! GERRIMIN!

**** off!

Daka...