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Marriages/Long term relationships and boredom

By BunkMoreland, in General Chat

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SeCrEt FoX

SeCrEt FoX

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I've been with my other half for 14 years. In the early years i found my head turned a few times as i thought things were getting a bit same old, same old.

And the thought of something new was exciting. But to be honest i always found it was short lived and i missed the comfort of the simple things i did with someone who really knew me.

Yes we have to work at our relationship and make an effort to keep a spark and make time for each other. Especially now we have kids who take up so much tume.

Yes a lot of the time we do just sit watching tv etc and dont really talk. But we love getting out for dinner etc and find that time really great still.

So just remember the grass isnt always greener. I know and if you find that out and want to go back. Its hard work. Trust me and that spare bed is a lonely place

This This and This. I couldnt believe reading this post and how it exactly relates to me and my relationship. 14 years also, 2 kids in the last 7 years ups and downs , Highs and lows but we got through it. Your head does get turned and some people persue these situiations and yeah its a buzz, you get excited but its only the same feeling really what you had when you met your partner and you really dont know what you've got till its gone . We have split up few times and one major split where we both persued a different life/relationship. I missed her , she missed me and we got back together and it made it a stronger relationship. She now is my rock and like many relationships, they do get boring but its not only your partner who has to change you need to take a look at yourself and think how YOU could make it better. (sorry bout this but i have had an awfull lot to drink)

I wasnt happy at all and we had a chat and sorted the differences and it was a lot of me why it was not working ( which i didnt realise until i had this chat) so i sacraficed a few things and changed my ways and she followed suit. I could never live without her now.

Reading back on what i just wrote sounds a bit sad but thats my experience(and a lot of beer and vodka) and sorry about the cliches! Am going bed now and i will regret writing this in the moarning lol

Alf Bentley

Alf Bentley

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Wedding don't have to cost anything like that. You could have a good wedding for a tenth of that.

Spot on! £2k is almost exactly what our wedding cost, including a couple of hundred on the ring and a week's honeymoon at an upmarket Edinburgh B&B - though admittedly that was 10 years ago.

Register office ceremony, reception for 70 at Y Theatre, ample buffet spread prepared & delivered by Ethel Bakery, friends & relations doing DJ slots on stage with hired equipment & our/their music, wife bought herself a nice new set of clothes & I got a suit, wife made her own wedding cake, several hundred quid behind the bar; Great day and great evening for £2k, .

Maybe that makes me/us cheapskate(s), but unless you're absolutely loaded, spending £20k on a wedding is utter madness. Just think what that could buy instead? Large deposit on house....holiday every year for 10-20 years....money to cushion you through hard times.....or LCFC season ticket for the rest of your life. No guarantee that spending £20k will mean a memorable "big day" either, if someone important gets overcome with nerves or some individual or service provider messes up big time. Marriages actually motivated by the attraction of an extravagant wedding day are an even crazier idea.

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