Raj Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 Got a 5 year old girl and a 6 month old lad. To say its hard work would be an understatement. But it really is worth every minute(welll not the shite and sick minutes) A giggle from a 6 month old and and seeing how a young baby progresses through life into a schoolgirl(who already has more sense and knowledge than me) is one of the joys of parenthood. Until, you have your own you wont understand so dont fret about it!
The People's Hero Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I've got 3 kids under 20 months. Absolutely anyone on here who wants to Accuse me of being boring needs to have a long hard look at themselves.
ADK Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I do find a lot of people that have kids terribly boring. If producing a child is the best thing you've ever done then you are clearly a pretty boring person.
purpleronnie Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I do find a lot of people that have kids terribly boring. If producing a child is the best thing you've ever done then you are clearly a pretty boring person. Yeah creating life....boring.
ADK Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I think the kid is playing Carl like a string quartet. You should watch "The 3 Day Nanny"., channel 4 I adopted two girls, seperately, one at 2 and a half and the second at 3 months. The older one is now 21 and we have been through a living hell with her. Not entirely her fault as she has emotional and attachment problem to do with early life trauma, but i can tell you, I never want the last 18 years back. To my shame we had to put her back in care when she was 15 just so we could live some kind of normal life and keep the younger daughter safe. We have managed to support her from a distance and continue to do so but our relationship is pretty rubbish. Sadly she has recently made a number of attempts to harm herself and has OD'd twice, been sectioned recently and now is having "community support" (what a pile of crap that is). All due to what she experienced as a small child and the long term effects of it all. Our younger daughter has been the complete opposite as she didn't go through any trauma and was put into care at birth. (not for any risk reasons) and has had as normal a childhood as we could give her. There will be issues ahead, no doubt, but nothing like the ones we've had to manage already. So... Kids, why? Because we wanted kids, to be a family, to watch them grow and develop into their own people. For them to part of our lives and us of theirs. I just wish it hadn't been through adoption! I think adopting kids is a great thing and I have a lot of respect for people who adopt. I hope your older daughter eventually gets on top of her issues and realises how much you did for her. You shouldn't feel guilty about putting her back into care either, I'm sure it wouldn't have been a decision you made lightly.
FoxyPV Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 And if you're really, really lucky they won't be vegetarians. **** you!!!! My girlfriend has just given birth to my first born, let me tell you, no other feeling in the world compares. The moment I was handed FoxyJr by the nurse after being there for 16 hours of labour was the greatest moment of my life. Kids are great fun if you just immerse yourself in their world. Patience is the key. Teenagers are ***** (not really but it feels like it). They can be great fun but basically they are toodlers who you can't control as easily and can cause themselves and everyone else enormous damage. The problem with kids is that even when they are grown up, you are still emotionally involved and there's nothing you can do to stop them destroying their lives (see StepFoxy3) except be there when everything comes crashing down. Kids are what you make of them.
MooseBreath Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I do find a lot of people that have kids terribly boring. If producing a child is the best thing you've ever done then you are clearly a pretty boring person. What's the best thing you've ever done, out of interest?
Raj Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I do find a lot of people that have kids terribly boring. If producing a child is the best thing you've ever done then you are clearly a pretty boring person. Your folks must have been bored when they conceived you...bet they've regretted that since you reborn...all 13 years!!!...only joking geezer!!!
ADK Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 What's the best thing you've ever done, out of interest? I knew that was coming , I wouldn't really know how to answer that. I can't think of anything that stands out. Yet I can't imagine holding a baby being that amazing.
purpleronnie Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I knew that was coming , I wouldn't really know how to answer that. I can't think of anything that stands out. Yet I can't imagine holding a baby being that amazing. You're weird.
The People's Hero Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I do find a lot of people that have kids terribly boring. . Well they do say that bored people are boring people.
I am Rod Hull Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I knew that was coming , I wouldn't really know how to answer that. I can't think of anything that stands out. Yet I can't imagine holding a baby being that amazing. You wont know how amazing it is until it happens to you . Even holding nephews and nieces (I have 14) for the first time is special. Best feeling in the world.
The People's Hero Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 He's probably just trying to protect himself from the realisation that no one would ever choose to have children with him.
Stadt Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 It's probably easy to say that a having a kid wouldn't be that great if you don't have kids, I imagine it's probably a great feeling but it's something that you couldn't comprehend until it's happened.
AoWW Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I don't have a maternal bone in my body, but even I concede that cradling your own newborn child in your arms must be amazing.
The People's Hero Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 It's probably easy to say that a having a kid wouldn't be that great if you don't have kids, I imagine it's probably a great feeling but it's something that you couldn't comprehend until it's happened. I've never scored the winning goal in a World Cup final but I can imagine that that feels pretty good. It's not a complex thing to work out.
MooseBreath Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I knew that was coming , I wouldn't really know how to answer that. I can't think of anything that stands out. Yet I can't imagine holding a baby being that amazing. I think it's probably one of those things you have to experience first hand before you really know what it feels like. I imagine the depth of emotion involved probably makes other good stuff like travelling the world and achieving your dreams seem a bit superficial by comparison. Then again maybe that's just what people convince themselves it feels like as a way of avoiding the reality of having given up their freedom for an annoying little crybaby.
The People's Hero Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 Then again maybe that's just what people convince themselves it feels like as a way of avoiding the reality of having given up their freedom for an annoying little crybaby. Stop reminding us!
Stadt Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I've never scored the winning goal in a World Cup final but I can imagine that that feels pretty good. It's not a complex thing to work out.Obviously, I think the emotions of holding your own child is something I'd probably underestimate.
Zingari Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I found having children just amazing . the best feeling ever. I used run straight down the benefits shop and ask how much extra dosh a week I was gonna get and if possible could I get a big new house thrown in too.Guaranteed luxury and security. (When i say i ran , i mean i staggered as fast as a body would allow after sinking 6 cans of super and smoking 40 fags a day) I knew i'd get another 5 years at least without working so we spread them out a bit . I never tired of it even after about 15 kids .( i can't the remember exact figure)
Stadt Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I found having children just amazing . the best feeling ever. I used run straight down the benefits shop and ask how much extra dosh a week I was gonna get and if possible could I get a big new house thrown in too.Guaranteed luxury and security. (When i say i ran , i mean i staggered as fast as a body would allow after sinking 6 cans of super and smoking 40 fags a day) I knew i'd get another 5 years at least without working so we spread them out a bit . I never tired of it even after about 15 kids .( i can't the remember exact figure)
The People's Hero Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 Obviously, I think the emotions of holding your own child is something I'd probably underestimate. It's overwhelming and something you can't really adequately prepare yourself for. Heightened I think by a slightly dream like state having been awake for days and the sudden lifting of some immediate stress and concern, then the gushing in of new worries, thoughts etc etc. When my twins were born I was in pieces. The stress leading up to it all was immense and to have everyone fine and dandy and happy was a huge surging hit of euphoria, relief, gratitude to nhs, pride, wonder etc etc I realise that's the sort of gushy thing a parent would say and realise it's not for some.
MooseBreath Posted 20 October 2013 Posted 20 October 2013 I found having children just amazing . the best feeling ever. I used run straight down the benefits shop and ask how much extra dosh a week I was gonna get and if possible could I get a big new house thrown in too.Guaranteed luxury and security. (When i say i ran , i mean i staggered as fast as a body would allow after sinking 6 cans of super and smoking 40 fags a day) I knew i'd get another 5 years at least without working so we spread them out a bit . I never tired of it even after about 15 kids .( i can't the remember exact figure) Amazing how ALL of them ended up having their appearance dominated by that one untraceable black gene as well
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