Moreton Posted 3 October 2008 Posted 3 October 2008 Ok i've been going out with this lass for around 11 months. I do love her and i don't love her. For the past 4 weeks i have been feeling abit crap about our releationship and have decided that i do not really want a Girlfriend atm. So i have arranged for us to meet on Monday and i'm going to break up with her (notice i'm using the phrase 'Break up' as the word 'Dumpt' is a horrid word to use tbh) I know in my heart is the right thing to do. I also know she loves me loads but i don't reall want to be with her, it's nothing to do with her though, she's a great girl. I just want to be single for abit. She has some suspisions about what is round the corner for her as i have not been myself and you know how women are good at figureing us men out! What do you think i should do?
Moreton Posted 3 October 2008 Author Posted 3 October 2008 Be honest. I will. It's just i feel bad about it.
Asha Posted 3 October 2008 Posted 3 October 2008 Ok i've been going out with this lass for around 11 months. I do love her and i don't love her. For the past 4 weeks i have been feeling abit crap about our releationship and have decided that i do not really want a Girlfriend atm. So i have arranged for us to meet on Monday and i'm going to break up with her (notice i'm using the phrase 'Break up' as the word 'Dumpt' is a horrid word to use tbh) I know in my heart is the right thing to do. I also know she loves me loads but i don't reall want to be with her, it's nothing to do with her though, she's a great girl. I just want to be single for abit. She has some suspisions about what is round the corner for her as i have not been myself and you know how women are good at figureing us men out! What do you think i should do? I'm not the best person to be posting in this thread really, but I'll give it a go. If it were me, I'd say to this girl that I just wanted a bit of space for a while, not to go out with anyone else...but to be on my own a bit. I'd say to her that I'm not dumping her, I'm just suggesting we take a break from it for a while. This way, you're not making her feel that it's her fault or that you don't love her. You're only telling her that it's your personal thing. Also, by explaining you just want a break from it and the need for space, you're not ruling out the possibility of getting back with her later if you change your mind etc...although it will obviously be out of your control. Good luck with it mate.
Head Honcho Posted 3 October 2008 Posted 3 October 2008 Why not just see her less? Absence makes the heart grow stronger and all that
fox123 Posted 3 October 2008 Posted 3 October 2008 I will. It's just i feel bad about it. It's never easy doing something that could potentially hurt someon eyou have had feelings for, like Lisa says just be honest and try not to use the old cliche "it's not you its me"
Moreton Posted 3 October 2008 Author Posted 3 October 2008 I'm not the best person to be posting in this thread really, but I'll give it a go.If it were me, I'd say to this girl that I just wanted a bit of space for a while, not to go out with anyone else...but to be on my own a bit. I'd say to her that I'm not dumping her, I'm just suggesting we take a break from it for a while. This way, you're not making her feel that it's her fault or that you don't love her. You're only telling her that it's your personal thing. Also, by explaining you just want a break from it and the need for space, you're not ruling out the possibility of getting back with her later if you change your mind etc...although it will obviously be out of your control. Good luck with it mate. Cheers mate. What you've said there pretty much sums up what i need right now.
Head Honcho Posted 3 October 2008 Posted 3 October 2008 Cheers mate. What you've said there pretty much sums up what i need right now. You could always send her this. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmS41_JdVLg Awesome piece by the way.
Daggers Posted 3 October 2008 Posted 3 October 2008 What do you think i should do? Don't worry about it - Kilworth has been tupping her for the last two months.
LeeCovFox Posted 3 October 2008 Posted 3 October 2008 Don't worry about it - Kilworth has been tupping her for the last two months. One of my favourite words.
Head Honcho Posted 3 October 2008 Posted 3 October 2008 Don't worry about it - Kilworth has been tupping her for the last two months. I bet she'll be feeling sheepish then
Kilworthfox Posted 4 October 2008 Posted 4 October 2008 Don't worry about it - Kilworth has been tupping her for the last two months. Tupped
James. Posted 4 October 2008 Posted 4 October 2008 I also know she loves me loads but i don't reall want to be with her, it's nothing to do with her though, she's a great girl. I hear the line "it's not you, it's me" goes down particularly well in these situations...
Kilworthfox Posted 4 October 2008 Posted 4 October 2008 I hear the line "it's not you, it's me" goes down particularly well in these situations... I hear the "your crowding my social life away from you, You make me feel guilty when I want to "tupp" other girls, and to be quite frank I would rather would them (with the variety et all,) so cheers mate good times, P.S I may change my mind after about a week so keep some Diary space free for some make up sex and we can do this again in a fortnight" does not go down well .........apparently!
the_bowman Posted 4 October 2008 Posted 4 October 2008 I hear the line "it's not you, it's me" goes down particularly well in these situations... Or as Jimmy Carr would say "it's not you, it's me that's ending this relationship, because quite honestly I can't stand the fvcking sight of you"
NewquayFox Posted 4 October 2008 Posted 4 October 2008 Lift her top up and say "Sory luv but the bird down the pub has nicer Norks than you" it worked for my Brother once and he is ok now that the Surgeon removed his ex birds umbrella from his arse. ;0)
Lovejoy Posted 4 October 2008 Posted 4 October 2008 Gradually become a complete twat over time (though without doing anything too horendous like cheating on her) so that in the end she chucks you . Problem solved!
GLC Posted 4 October 2008 Posted 4 October 2008 Or as Jimmy Carr would say "it's not you, it's me that's ending this relationship, because quite honestly I can't stand the fvcking sight of you" haha, i was at that gig, hes so funny ive been here mate, just tell her how you feel, if she really loved you she would understand
Tabou Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 Leather trousers, string vest and a moustache. Tell her you have been feeling 'different' recently and you need to 'discover' the real you. Or on a serious note, just tell it like it is. If you are telling her what you think she will want to hear, then she can see straight through you. Just be honest and to the point. you will feel like sh*t for a while after (minuites, days etc) but when the dust settles, it will become a lot easier. Good luck boyo.
Guest Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 Reading what's been put in here following my succinct point, I think it's fair to say that honesty is still the best policy. If you try to make things easier, it always gives that person hope, and that in turn prevents them from being able to move on. I don't know of a single mate of mine who has been 'dumped' (for want of a better word) who hasn't gone on to find someone better (sorry).
Corky Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 Just be honest. Don't give her any bullshit, she doesn't deserve it. If you are honest, you'll have her respect afterwards and she won't feel bitter
Tabou Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 Before any one else says it, don't try and have one last sh... errr.... special moment. It will confuse you.
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