FilboFox Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Hey everyone... I've finally managed to get the internet working in my halls of residence here at DMU... To be honest, I'm stuggling quite a lot with being away from my family and really don't even want to go to university as I am just so damn depressed about not being with them... did any of you feel like this and how long did it take to get over it as I really want to enjoy my time here but I just miss my mum way too much at the moment... Thanks.
James. Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Intoxicating substances and getting laid are known cures for homesickness.
Fez of Mahrez Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 I felt like that in weeks two and three, then went out one night and had an absolutely brilliant time (it was actually in Revolution on New Walk, amazingly!) and never looked back. Stick it out and there will be a turning point. You should allow time to settle in. It's a big upheaval.
JoeyB Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Yeah, you have just got to settle in, make a load of new friends, go out partying and within a few weeks you will love it!
Vardinhio Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 mate, I'm on my placement year at Nottingham Trent now. Trust me, value uni life because working is far less entertaining. Most important thing to do is put yourself out there, don't sit in your room. Use freshers week and however long it takes to meet your kind of people and they will be friends for life. If your flatmates are crap then knock on doors elsewhere, I didn't live with anyone from my first year flat in my 2nd year whatsoever, but I found lads who love football etc like me a few floors away feeling exactly the same. So overall, yes its a big change. Get up, walk into town, knock on peoples doors, go out and get lashed if you want, most importantly have fun. I'm only 20 but so far my uni years have been far and away my best.
Manwell Pablo Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Can't say I experinced any of these problems. For one Leicestershire CC phoned me up 2 months before I went. Moi: Ello LCC: Hello Mr Mann, we're here your going to uni, blah blah Statmented for Dyspraxia blah blah, would you like a free computer. Moi: erm, I think im going to have to say yes. LCC: ok we'll get that delivered. The thing was the nuts as well. Top ends graphics card. Fandabby dosey. 2 months later someone placed 4 grand in my back pocket and stuck me in town for all of students, bars, and 18 year old girls. brilliant.
James. Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 mate, I'm on my placement year at Nottingham Trent now.Trust me, value uni life because working is far less entertaining. Most important thing to do is put yourself out there, don't sit in your room. Use freshers week and however long it takes to meet your kind of people and they will be friends for life. If your flatmates are crap then knock on doors elsewhere, I didn't live with anyone from my first year flat in my 2nd year whatsoever, but I found lads who love football etc like me a few floors away feeling exactly the same. So overall, yes its a big change. Get up, walk into town, knock on peoples doors, go out and get lashed if you want, most importantly have fun. I'm only 20 but so far my uni years have been far and away my best. Amen. I left Uni 4 years ago and have some quality mates that I still see all the time. You've got to savour every single day because trust me when you graduate and get launched into a working life you realise how important making the most of Uni life is. Treat it like a challenge, get your chin up and go and have some fun.
Vacamion Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 As someone who was at uni a fair time ago, I could say "Studying hard will keep you occupied". We all know that's a lie though. Just drink until you are sick through your nose a few times, wake up with a few chubby girls you don't remember meeting, put some road cones on your head and, if the mood takes you, maybe attend a few lectures and tutorials... Good luck.
FilboFox Posted 25 September 2007 Author Posted 25 September 2007 Thanks... I've tried to get out there and have met some people which is great. I've been out every night but its just how to deal with the depression in the day that gets me... and don't say drink loads as it isn't a solution!
Manwell Pablo Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Thanks... I've tried to get out there and have met some people which is great. I've been out every night but its just how to deal with the depression in the day that gets me... and don't say drink loads as it isn't a solution! Your going to have to lose that Maturity if you want to get by.
Vacamion Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Thanks... I've tried to get out there and have met some people which is great. I've been out every night but its just how to deal with the depression in the day that gets me... and don't say drink loads as it isn't a solution! You could always take up internet gambling.. Are you phoning/texting/using the t'interweb with the folks back home regularly ? When I was at uni, mobile phones were the size of a breeze block, and so the family got a weekly call from a payphone, if that... and (it sounds so old fashioned now) friends from back in Leicester got hand written letters... Surely there's plenty more scope to keep in touch with friends and family nowadays ?
Raj Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Enjoy it while you can kidda. Having worked now for 17 of my 36 years,its one of my biggest regrets not to have been to Uni. Once you start your working life you'll realise how lucky you are to have been to Uni. ENJOY!
Vardinhio Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 If you're bored and depressed in the day play some pro evo or go for a walk into town with mates or play some pool or something at a bar. There's loads of things to do when you're given a loan to spend in city. My advice would be don't spend too long chatting to the people from home, spend more time getting to know the people you're with at uni because you will be living with/around them for a long time yet. Just do things like cook together or go for a kick around at the park.. We used to arrnage 11 a side games for Wednesday afternoons against other halls of residences.
Kent Fox Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 And if being away from your mother, the woman who brought you into this life, nursed you through sickness, buying you treats, tickling you in those little games mothers play with their young, all gets too much... Or that all of your childhood friends who are far away, enjoying the fun you all shared as a group, but still goes on without you, begins to get you down... Or that the thought of all the good times you had before DMU, still is full of fun and laughter but without you depresses you... We're all here for ya! Just don't play that old 80's classic hit by Monsoon "Ever So Lonely" - it's a killer.
Raj Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Just don't play that old 80's classic hit by Monsoon "Ever So Lonely" - it's a killer. Bet the lad wasn't even born then....you old git!!!!
Daggers Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 I've been out every night but its just how to deal with the depression in the day that gets me... Go to the gym Read books Listen to some obscure band from the 70's to talk about to a stranger internet porn go to a poster sale sign up to a load of societies that you'll only ever go to one meeting of make a delicious meal of beans on toast internet porn play some music really loud to impress your neighbours when they come round to complain show them your internet porn share your beans on toast with them make a bookshelf out of bricks
Kent Fox Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Bet the lad wasn't even born then....you old git!!!! "So lonely" - The Police?? "Are you lonesome tonight" - Elvis?? "Suicide is painless" - The Manics And everyone should know the Monsoon song?
Raj Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 "So lonely" - The Police??"Are you lonesome tonight" - Elvis?? "Suicide is painless" - The Manics And everyone should know the Monsoon song? Lonely by AKON!!!!
Bojimha Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 I felt similar to you when I first went uni (but not as extreme) and it was hard for the first 3 months really. I got really agitated and thought I had missed my opportunity in freshers week to make mates and instead got stuck with the dweebs I first met. In the end I got annoyed with them (sitting at home every night missing mum) and just started randomly chatting to anyone and everyone around the uni campus (not something I usually do but I had to put myself 'out there'). You'd be surprised by the amount of friendly conversations I had because most of the time people are feeling the same and instead of people thinking I was a talkative weirdo I actually made a lot of random friends. Don't become a loser and bail out because you miss home. I don't mean to sound harsh but I saw tons of people do it and I totally lost respect for them. Uni is a time when you gain more independance and mature more, it is hard missing family and friends but you can't be looked after all your life mate. Also you learn things off people you meet so the more new people you meet the more knowledge you will gain which you can then share with your friends back home when you see them next. There are a lot of ups and downs during uni, you have to make sure yourself that the ups out number the downs by putting yourself in situations where you have fun. Don't wait for fun and enjoyment to come and find you, go out and find it. Nearly almost everyone I know says the hardest part of uni live was the growing up part, it's rarely the toughness of the courses that makes people drop out. The whole first year is full of great things but also one of the hardest because of the adaptation to your new way of life, if you stay committed and stick through the hard times you will be rewarded in the 2nd and 3rd years with memories that will last you a lifetime. Chin up mate, you have a fantastic opportunity make the most of it. I can't agree more with the others on here with regards to working life. I'd much rather be back at uni any day.
The People's Hero Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Uni was great. I didn't feel lonely at all. I imagine you will find this to be of some comfort.
Nationwider Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Yeah, you have just got to settle in, make a load of new friends, go out partying and within a few weeks you will love it! Thus speaks the voice of experience.
hebangsthedrums Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 I was homesick for the first day (I arrived earlier than everyone else and spent about three hours in my room before anyone else arrived wallowing in self pity), and everyone gets the odd pang every month or so. In your final year you won't know any better and will often forget to call home etc. When you graduate, as I just have, you will look jealously at all th epeople heading off to freshers week. Best advice has been mentioned already - mix with people as best you can - I was lucky in that of my flat of 14 everyone was ok apart from 1 mental guy and 1 girl who turned mental a year or so later - even the two international students who barely spoke english were nice enough, just very shy. If your in towers tour the floors - always fun, and if you meet up with any footballers organise friendly games - our flat played twice a week against another and every so often against random dies. Try and go out as much as poss in freshers week - even if your tired a lot of the bonding happens then and I always feel for people who sometimes miss the boat a little. But all is not lost, even if you make no friends you can nerd it up and join the LAN club!
Trumpet Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 If you're bored and depressed in the day play some pro evo or go for a walk into town with mates or play some pool or something at a bar.There's loads of things to do when you're given a loan to spend in city. My advice would be don't spend too long chatting to the people from home, spend more time getting to know the people you're with at uni because you will be living with/around them for a long time yet. Just do things like cook together or go for a kick around at the park.. We used to arrnage 11 a side games for Wednesday afternoons against other halls of residences. Or do some work?
Zingari Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Or do some work? http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/education/7011121.stm yes ; do some work you lazy b*st*rds
Lord Nibblington Posted 25 September 2007 Posted 25 September 2007 Or do some work? I don't think you've grasped the concept of Uni.
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