Stay Positive Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 She's just rung me at work to say she'd rung my brother's house and spoken to his girlfriend, and that between them they'd agreed that we wouldn't get my nephew a present from now on and that they needn't get Stefan (my son) one. Now, my brother wasn't involved in this conversation at all, and I'd be absolutely gobsmacked if he didn't want to get a present - albeit a small one as they're not particularly well off - for his nephew. I know my brother well and I think he may feel insulted by the idea that he is not going to be getting a present for Stefan. She's been telling all and sundry not to get Stefan a present too, and I think it's totally unacceptable. She even claimed I was being "mercenary" by saying I didn't want Stefan to have hardly any presents for his birthday and Christmas. The only people she HASN'T told not to get presents are her own side of the family. How's that going to reflect on my side, when all the presents are from his mum's family? It's not even the principle that annoys me the most. It's the fact that she has gone behind my back and done this without even bothering to consult me first. And when I said I wasn't happy, she replied "Well the decision's been made and that's that". Am I being unreasonable here? Would you be miffed too, or am I being a girl and overreacting?
purpleronnie Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Seems a little odd that you weren't consulted, but I don't know all the circumstances and reasoning behind it. But I couldnt imagine not getting my nieces and nephews any presents, the best bit about christmas is spoiling the kids.
Stay Positive Posted 26 November 2011 Author Posted 26 November 2011 Well it's all sorted now anyway. My brother just rang me and said we'd just ignore what she said and get each other's nephew's presents after all.
StanSP Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 That's a very odd thing to do. I know it's sorted but there must be some kind of hidden agenda she has behind it. You're not being unreasonable. If anything, she is! She doesn't tell her own family or consult you, but tells YOUR side of the family what to do? It's like she wants to have a superiority complex. Obviously I don't know either of your personalities but so far I can tell that you don't seem like a bad guy at all. It's an odd thing to do, no question about that. Seems like you've tried to talk to her already about it. Does she even realise what she's doing? Does she realise how it looks from the outside?
The Year Of The Fox Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Well it's all sorted now anyway. My brother just rang me and said we'd just ignore what she said and get each other's nephew's presents after all. Best way mate, they're idiots. We're tight on money, just bought our first house, we've got an occasion planned every weekend up to Christmas now, so I'm not even buying presents for my parents this year- they'll understand. I went into the spare room theother day and there were three bags full of stuff in there. £30 on fukin presents for her friends!! She was like well such n such gets me one, and emma always buys me one. Yeh all of them live with parents still love so moneys is easy then
The Year Of The Fox Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Smash her back doors in. done that last night
davieG Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Whatever the rights and wrongs of the situation I don't think airing your relationship problems on a football forum will do much to enhance the situation
Webbo Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Whatever the rights and wrongs of the situation I don't think airing your relationship problems on a football forum will do much to enhance the situation Agreed, but if we are talking about general principles, a relative of ours said to us last year not to buy their kids any presents as they couldn't afford to buy our kids any. My belief is that you don't give only to receive in turn and I certainly wasn't keeping score with who spends what etc. I told them we'd still buy their kids a present each and if they couldn't afford anything that didn't matter.
Guest MattP Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Well it's all sorted now anyway. My brother just rang me and said we'd just ignore what she said and get each other's nephew's presents after all. Well as least your brother has a pair of bollocks. Seriously, the fact your woman even did that says you have no control over her whatsoever, sort it out. Nothing worse than a "modern man" being totally dominated by his partner.
dhermon Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Whatever the rights and wrongs of the situation I don't think airing your relationship problems on a football forum will do much to enhance the situation Ahh venting to a internet full of randoms can help get it off ya chest .......i did it on here once and ended up marrying the bloody crazy woman
marko Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Well as least your brother has a pair of bollocks. Seriously, the fact your woman even did that says you have no control over her whatsoever, sort it out. Nothing worse than a "modern man" being totally dominated by his partner. Blimey, you've analysed his relationship after reading a couple of sentences. You should try your hand at marriage counselling.
Guest MattP Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Blimey, you've analysed his relationship after reading a couple of sentences. You should try your hand at marriage counselling. I know I'm a genius aren't I? I'm being serious though, my missus would never even dare try such a thing, she's knows exactly how out of order it would be.
Leicfox Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 She's just rung me at work to say she'd rung my brother's house and spoken to his girlfriend, and that between them they'd agreed that we wouldn't get my nephew a present from now on and that they needn't get Stefan (my son) one. Now, my brother wasn't involved in this conversation at all, and I'd be absolutely gobsmacked if he didn't want to get a present - albeit a small one as they're not particularly well off - for his nephew. I know my brother well and I think he may feel insulted by the idea that he is not going to be getting a present for Stefan. She's been telling all and sundry not to get Stefan a present too, and I think it's totally unacceptable. She even claimed I was being "mercenary" by saying I didn't want Stefan to have hardly any presents for his birthday and Christmas. The only people she HASN'T told not to get presents are her own side of the family. How's that going to reflect on my side, when all the presents are from his mum's family? It's not even the principle that annoys me the most. It's the fact that she has gone behind my back and done this without even bothering to consult me first. And when I said I wasn't happy, she replied "Well the decision's been made and that's that". Am I being unreasonable here? Would you be miffed too, or am I being a girl and overreacting?
Charl91 Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Well it's all sorted now anyway. My brother just rang me and said we'd just ignore what she said and get each other's nephew's presents after all. Was just about to say, that would have been my advice. If she decides she doesn't want to get presents, that's fine, but doesn't stop you from doing so, and your brother, if that's what he wants. Presents don't have to be big or expensive - it's cliche, but it is the thought that counts. Just make sure you only put your name on it
Charl91 Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Seriously, the fact your woman even did that says you have no control over her whatsoever, sort it out. Nothing worse than a "modern man" being totally dominated by his partner. Seriously, what is wrong with you? There's a big difference between not being whipped and having "control" over your other half. I think you're living in the wrong century.....
marko Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 I know I'm a genius aren't I? I'm being serious though, my missus would never even dare try such a thing, she's knows exactly how out of order it would be. Is she tied to the sink and cooker as we speak? I'd expect nothing less.
Guest MattP Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Seriously, what is wrong with you? There's a big difference between not being whipped and having "control" over your other half. I think you're living in the wrong century..... Is she tied to the sink and cooker as we speak? I'd expect nothing less. Yes you are both right, as my Mrs wouldnt ring my brother's other half to cancel christmas I'm obviously living in the 1800's and got her tied to the kitchen. Grow a pair of bollocks the pair of you.
Stay Positive Posted 26 November 2011 Author Posted 26 November 2011 Well as least your brother has a pair of bollocks. Seriously, the fact your woman even did that says you have no control over her whatsoever, sort it out. Nothing worse than a "modern man" being totally dominated by his partner. I can't do much about it if I'm not there, can I? I had a right go at her earlier on about it, and she's even rung me since to apologise.
Charl91 Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Yes you are both right, as my Mrs wouldnt ring my brother's other half to cancel christmas I'm obviously living in the 1800's and got her tied to the kitchen. Grow a pair of bollocks the pair of you. Like I said in my last post, there's a big difference between being "whipped" and having your other half "under control". Being whipped means you do what she wants, while having someone "under control" means it's you doing the whipping. If you weren't trying hard to appear macho, you might realise that there is actually a middle ground.
marko Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Yes you are both right, as my Mrs wouldnt ring my brother's other half to cancel christmas I'm obviously living in the 1800's and got her tied to the kitchen. Grow a pair of bollocks the pair of you. I was referring to your first comment about having no control and being a totally dominated modern man. Just seemed chauvinistic to me.
Guest MattP Posted 26 November 2011 Posted 26 November 2011 Like I said in my last post, there's a big difference between being "whipped" and having your other half "under control". Being whipped means you do what she wants, while having someone "under control" means it's you doing the whipping. If you weren't trying hard to appear macho, you might realise that there is actually a middle ground. Who mentioned being "whipped"? It wasnt me. I was referring to your first comment about having no control and being a totally dominated modern man. Just seemed chauvinistic to me. That's what it came across as, I take it back though as she has rang him to apologise, so he isnt the walkover I originally thought he was.
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