Brenfox Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 Just needed a little bit of advice. I'm still married & in no rush to get a divorce due to costs etc. we had no children & no property so there are no assets. I've just heard from my wife out of the blue & she's saying that she is filing & I have to pay. Surely I cannot be forced to pay if she is the one initiating the divorce?
Unabomber Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 Bloody women trying to make you pay till the very end.
johnny the fox Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 Just needed a little bit of advice. I'm still married & in no rush to get a divorce due to costs etc. we had no children & no property so there are no assets. I've just heard from my wife out of the blue & she's saying that she is filing & I have to pay. Surely I cannot be forced to pay if she is the one initiating the divorce? on what grounds? get to a solicitor quick..
Brenfox Posted 16 September 2015 Author Posted 16 September 2015 No idea. She just asked for my national insurance number so they can access my pension details & I said get your solicitor to write to me. She says that's another letter I'll have to pay for.
GaelicFox Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 Don't sign or agree to anything Like johnny said get a good solicitor If you both agree to a divorce then costs should be able to split Be aware if she proves her case in court ie the grounds are found to be correct then you could get hit for a court order for all the fees Try and do it all by amicable negotiation And don't sign or agree to anything at this stage Sounds like it should be able to be sorted if there is little or no assets But if you have a pension pot that can be an asset in the relationship
Dr The Singh Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 A trip to South Africa is in order.....
Brenfox Posted 16 September 2015 Author Posted 16 September 2015 Are you already separated? Yes we separated years ago & both have other partners.
Nalis Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 Good advice from dropofclaridge. Get yourself to the Tinder thread once everything is finalised. Edit - Just seen the above, maybe not
Guest Sharpe's Fox Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 Kinell if you have a pension the missus can take a chunk? How does this work can a proper adult explain please?
katieakita Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 Yes get a good solicitor and agree to nothing pretty sure you can get a20/30 mins free access to a solicitor, does your work/nion have access to legal support?
GaelicFox Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 A divorce based on 5 years separation (cause 5 ) is without costs order so that's good news I believe there is no variation to that
GaelicFox Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 Even though you have been seperated a long time The court may indeed include your pension as an asset to the matrimonial pot, usually this is a given if your wife had been out of the working environment bringing up children and therefore not able to contribute to her own pension this isn't the case in your situation. The way the matrimonial pot is divided between you and your wife will be decided by the court and will be based on factors such as the financial needs of each spouse as well as the length of your marriage. Sounds like only thing in the pot will be yours and hers pensions She is after your pension pot so 100% get a good solicitor
GaelicFox Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 Kinell if you have a pension the missus can take a chunk? How does this work can a proper adult explain please? Yes she can in 2000 the government brought in pension sharing orders I have seen pots split 50/50 and orders as such !!!!
Chairman of the Bored Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 I've found it depends on the attitude of your missus. I've had two divorces; one was a solicitor job and a bit acrimonious, the other was a mutually agreed settlement we arrived at ourselves. It all depends on your assets, who owns what etc. Best get a solicitor involved. For those of you wondering, it turned out 3rd time lucky for me. We've just had a kid and he went to his first football match last week. Mind you, he is only 8 months old and it was Portsmouth ladies
FoxInTheBirstallBox Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 Women are just horrible, if only there was a way we could just hang out and have fun with guys. life would be so easy
GaelicFox Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 I've found it depends on the attitude of your missus. I've had two divorces; one was a solicitor job and a bit acrimonious, the other was a mutually agreed settlement we arrived at ourselves. It all depends on your assets, who owns what etc. Best get a solicitor involved. For those of you wondering, it turned out 3rd time lucky for me. We've just had a kid and he went to his first football match last week. Mind you, he is only 8 months old and it was Portsmouth ladies She must be special number 3 to get you up the aisle again Women are just horrible, if only there was a way we could just hang out and have fun with guys. life would be so easy Nah they are great , look at the chairman he married 3 of them I'm on my 5th ha ha ha
Brenfox Posted 16 September 2015 Author Posted 16 September 2015 Thanks for the advice. She has grown up children from a previous marriage & we were only together as a married couple for 8 months so surely that must have some bearing.
FoxInTheBirstallBox Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 She must be special number 3 to get you up the aisle again Nah they are great , look at the chairman he married 3 of them I'm on my 5th ha ha ha my gf didnt appreciate me saying what i just said now.....
GaelicFox Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 Thanks for the advice. She has grown up children from a previous marriage & we were only together as a married couple for 8 months so surely that must have some bearing. Massive bearing , you will ok buddy just get a good solicitor
Chairman of the Bored Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 She must be special number 3 to get you up the aisle again Nah they are great , look at the chairman he married 3 of them I'm on my 5th ha ha ha Very special, eh Lise?
Wymsey Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 At least you'll be happier and healthier when it's all sorted than if you remain joylessly married.
Chairman of the Bored Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 My general advice would be: 1. Don't fret. 2. After a divorce, see it as a 2nd, 3rd, 4th or 5th (!) teenage 3. A change is as good a rest 4. Keep following City and you really won't have that much to worry about!
lianne81 Posted 16 September 2015 Posted 16 September 2015 Not sure about solicitors if they are free for so long but even citizens advice will be able to help with an idea of what she will be entitled too , having no kids will have a massive bearing and even your pension she hasn't put into it so by rights should be all yours. and not all woman are that bad , hope you get it sorted x
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