Haylz Lou Posted 25 October 2010 Posted 25 October 2010 Pretty much what everyone else has said just keep on at the school, document everything and If it was me I would involve the police no matter what the family where like.. My little sister was bullied horrendously for the last 2 years of primary school and it was heart-breaking watching her go through it, my lad is only 4 but it is one of the things I worry most about with him... The only other thing I can think of is does he do any activities outside of school? Just to help build confidence and create different groups of friends..
ramboacdc Posted 25 October 2010 Posted 25 October 2010 just get the police involved mate. but just make sure your stepson wants to aswell. im 21 and i was bullied every day of my teenage life at 2 different schools. got the shit pasted into me daily and i still carry the emotional scars to this day. best nipping it in the bud as soon as possible in my opinion.
Wymsey Posted 25 October 2010 Posted 25 October 2010 just get the police involved mate. but just make sure your stepson wants to aswell. im 21 and i was bullied every day of my teenage life at 2 different schools. got the shit pasted into me daily and i still carry the emotional scars to this day. best nipping it in the bud as soon as possible in my opinion. Which are they mate?
ramboacdc Posted 25 October 2010 Posted 25 October 2010 castle rock and king edward. tried to stop it by moving to ashby grammer after castle rock but they decided my perfect SAT scores were not good enough for them
Wymsey Posted 25 October 2010 Posted 25 October 2010 castle rock and king edward. tried to stop it by moving to ashby grammer after castle rock but they decided my perfect SAT scores were not good enough for them Did you know someone called Tom Price? <_<
ramboacdc Posted 25 October 2010 Posted 25 October 2010 not ringing a bell im afraid. all i know is they were the worst 6 years of my life.
Marmite Posted 25 October 2010 Posted 25 October 2010 Go round and threaten his dad that if he does not sort his son out, you will sort him out and say it like you mean it, even if he laughs at you it will make him think. Sounds stupid but the police are not interested full stop and the schools can make things worse sometimes the chances are if you report him to the school he will get expelled which will mean more grief for your lad so you have to take ithe matter in your own hands here.
Bugg Posted 26 October 2010 Posted 26 October 2010 Go round and threaten his dad that if he does not sort his son out, you will sort him out and say it like you mean it, even if he laughs at you it will make him think. Sounds stupid but the police are not interested full stop and the schools can make things worse sometimes the chances are if you report him to the school he will get expelled which will mean more grief for your lad so you have to take ithe matter in your own hands here. You think threatening the parents is the solution? It makes you just as bad as the person bullying. And also, apparently the family are nutters so risking getting a kicking by threatening them could just make everything worse.
I am Rod Hull Posted 26 October 2010 Posted 26 October 2010 I have 3 older brothers, so i never got bullied... but i do have 2 kids, so i can understand the crap that you must be going through.. hope you sort it out http://www.bullying.co.uk/schools/general/bullying-policies.html http://www.parentchannel.tv/video/bullying-5-9-signs?gclid=CKiC8eew76QCFdD92Aod9FCs1A
Bert Posted 26 October 2010 Posted 26 October 2010 What school's your lad at? I knew a few kids that will sort this bully out
Zingari Posted 26 October 2010 Posted 26 October 2010 What school's your lad at? I knew a few kids that will sort this bully out Eton
Ashley Posted 27 October 2010 Posted 27 October 2010 Sorry to hear this, tell the your kid to fight back it might be the only option? There's a limit to the amount of shit a person can take before they retaliate. Schools don't do shite about bullying, I've seen it going on around my sixth form as its apart of a college and I've stook up for the person being bullied. fooking hate bullies. Pricks.
ACF Posted 27 October 2010 Posted 27 October 2010 I'm currently being bullied by kids, going on for a while, but I'm just getting through it and not letting them win. I've spoken to teachers and they've not helped me, because kids my age are smarter at this stuff nowadays, more mind games. I come on this forum because I can have a laugh, keep up with the team I love, and state my opinion with people who won't judge me accordingly, well most of the time. With your son, talk to the police, headmaster, anyone with authority. Don't move schools unless its the last possible solution, makes the bully feel like he's won, and he'll target more people. I feel so sorry for him. Tell him to keep his head up. Don't react to the bully, because that's what he wants.
ACF Posted 27 October 2010 Posted 27 October 2010 Sorry to hear this, tell the your kid to fight back it might be the only option? There's a limit to the amount of shit a person can take before they retaliate. Schools don't do shite about bullying, I've seen it going on around my sixth form as its apart of a college and I've stook up for the person being bullied. fooking hate bullies. Pricks. The bully wants a reaction, whether it be crying or a fight. That's why they bully in the first place.
Ashley Posted 27 October 2010 Posted 27 October 2010 The bully wants a reaction, whether it be crying or a fight. That's why they bully in the first place. A bully will look for a reaction yes, but if you hit him and make him realise your not standing for any shit no more he will back down, I've seen it before, violence isn't always the best option but sometimes it does help. Sorry to hear your being bullied mate keep your head up.
ACF Posted 27 October 2010 Posted 27 October 2010 A bully will look for a reaction yes, but if you hit him and make him realise your not standing for any shit no more he will back down, I've seen it before, violence isn't always the best option but sometimes it does help. Sorry to hear your being bullied mate keep your head up. I've tried fighting back, and it's made it worse. Got me internally-suspended as well. Teachers, they don't do jackshit. Trust me, I'm no nerd, I'm just quite weak, and easy to pick on.
Ashley Posted 27 October 2010 Posted 27 October 2010 I've tried fighting back, and it's made it worse. Got me internally-suspended as well. Teachers, they don't do jackshit. Trust me, I'm no nerd, I'm just quite weak, and easy to pick on. Bullies really do piss me off, same with teachers/schools who do nothing about it. Have you tried weight training or something along the lines for you building your self up? Try Karate, or Boxing or something? I'd tell your mum and dad about your situation, you nearly being suspended for fighting back is stupid
Leicester_Loyal Posted 27 October 2010 Posted 27 October 2010 doesn't work. I was bullied (ginger hair + nerd), took up tae-kwon-do. Didn't help - you retaliate and all of a sudden you're the bad guy, the bully - schools don't tend to listen to the whole self defense reason. With verbal bullying (insults and what not) it's a fairly good option to ignore it - they bullies want a reaction, they don't get one, they leave you alone. Physical bullying though you need to have a word with the school and if they won't do anything/ don't do enough then go to the police. From my experience its best to stand up to a bully, if you stand up to them they will stop because your not an easy target anymore. Schools tend to not give a crap, there all rubbish for it, take it within your own hands, thats what I did.
ACF Posted 27 October 2010 Posted 27 October 2010 Bullies really do piss me off, same with teachers/schools who do nothing about it. Have you tried weight training or something along the lines for you building your self up? Try Karate, or Boxing or something? I'd tell your mum and dad about your situation, you nearly being suspended for fighting back is stupid I'm doing weights at the moment, going to tell parents soon. Cheers mate.
Foxhateram Posted 27 October 2010 Posted 27 October 2010 I'm doing weights at the moment, going to tell parents soon. Cheers mate. Mate i feel for you, i was bullied throughout my whole school life including sixth form. The emotional turmoil at the time tore me apart. If it was not for my friends one friend in particular who i met on here, then i dont think i would have made it through to the end of school to be honest. You realise who your real friends are, just make sure you have someone to talk to all of the time. To let out all your feelings too. Whether that is your best mate or your parents it does not matter just dont store it all up. As for the person who started this thread, i work in a school(along side uni) at the moment which has a brilliant bullying policy. They sit down both parties and discuss why the bullying happens and nine times out of ten it leads to the bully being in tears because they have their own emotional turmoil at home and they take it out on other students because they know no different. The bully is then given advice and councilling which seems to work 9/10 of course you always get one that carries on. Like some have said having a word with the parents while both children are there could work, but if the child is being bullied by his parents i dont think this would work. Maybe ask the school to do the above. If that does not work then yes get the police involved. Nip it in the bud early as possible otherwise it can go on forever and it scars. wow hitting a few tears here with this subject. Hope this helps. Schools are much better at sorting these things out now, they have a lot of backing from the council and government so give them a kick up the arse!
ACF Posted 27 October 2010 Posted 27 October 2010 Mate i feel for you, i was bullied throughout my whole school life including sixth form. The emotional turmoil at the time tore me apart. If it was not for my friends one friend in particular who i met on here, then i dont think i would have made it through to the end of school to be honest. You realise who your real friends are, just make sure you have someone to talk to all of the time. To let out all your feelings too. Whether that is your best mate or your parents it does not matter just dont store it all up. As for the person who started this thread, i work in a school(along side uni) at the moment which has a brilliant bullying policy. They sit down both parties and discuss why the bullying happens and nine times out of ten it leads to the bully being in tears because they have their own emotional turmoil at home and they take it out on other students because they know no different. The bully is then given advice and councilling which seems to work 9/10 of course you always get one that carries on. Like some have said having a word with the parents while both children are there could work, but if the child is being bullied by his parents i dont think this would work. Maybe ask the school to do the above. If that does not work then yes get the police involved. Nip it in the bud early as possible otherwise it can go on forever and it scars. wow hitting a few tears here with this subject. Hope this helps. Schools are much better at sorting these things out now, they have a lot of backing from the council and government so give them a kick up the arse! Thank you mate, thanks heaps
FoxyPV Posted 27 October 2010 Posted 27 October 2010 I'm doing weights at the moment, going to tell parents soon. Cheers mate. Feeling for you mate. This will help with the weights. Can't beat it for upper body strength.
broughtonblue Posted 27 October 2010 Posted 27 October 2010 I'm currently being bullied by kids, going on for a while, but I'm just getting through it and not letting them win. I've spoken to teachers and they've not helped me, because kids my age are smarter at this stuff nowadays, more mind games. I come on this forum because I can have a laugh, keep up with the team I love, and state my opinion with people who won't judge me accordingly, well most of the time. You have loads of mates on here. I was bullied for a while when I moved to a new school, fortunately I was quite big for my age. One day it got too much after about 5 of them got me, the next day I went and retaliated to each of them when they were on their own, gave them far worse than they gave me. Never had another problem again. I know 2 wrongs don't make a right but I would definately recommend this if all else fails. (bloody hell, make myself sound like some sort of vigilante)
MPH Posted 10 February 2011 Posted 10 February 2011 My stepson (14) is being continuously bullied in school by a horrible little chav who after headbutting him for next to no reason and being excluded for four days is now offering total randoms in school £20 to fill him in in case he gets expelled. My boy is terrified to go in to school, small for his age - easy target July birthday. School trying but not much help, any advice???? Don't really want to go down politzei route if poss as family all nutters, and threats already in air. Should I just buy a large gun..... Hey Northern Fox i was just wondering if you had any update on this and how your stepson was getting on?
Mee Posted 10 February 2011 Posted 10 February 2011 I hope your stepson is doing ok now mate. I hope it's all sorted out. ACF - How is it going with the no lifes who were picking on you? Did you get it sorted? As many people of here have said, they're is nothing lower, nothing more cowardly than being a bully. Sometimes, even if you think your not the strongest or whatever, standing up to them face to face will make them wary of you. They will know your not going to put up with it. I suppose personally i got lucky. I have a group of friends who can hold their own, and i beleive i can also, but i understand for some people who think they cannot. Never drop down to their level though. At the school i am in at the moment, as we are the oldest year, we have known a lot of the younger years for a while, as well as a fair few of them being brothers or brothers friends of my mates, so we luck out for them. I understand this isn't always the case, but you just have to remember - you are better than them. All they are doing is trying to make you feel like crap to get a cheap laugh. You will have the last laugh at the end of the day, when you have a good job, happy, and they are sitting injecting themselves.
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