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Same-sex marriage

By FuriousFox46, in General Chat

  

182 members have voted

  1. 1. Should same-sex couples be allowed to marry?

    • Yes
      129
    • No
      43
    • Don't know
      10

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acooling08

acooling08

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For same-sex marriage I am not too bothered either way. FuriousFox actually convinced me literally an hour or so ago :P

But for gay adoption, I strongly disagree with it. Gay marriage doesn't hurt anyone, but gay adoption does. I did A Level Psychology and I know from my studies that young children need a male and female parental model in their life. This is especially true for needing a mother. The bond between child and mother is so vitally important for healthy mental development at that very young age. As soon as a baby is born and is near it's mother, and breastfeeds etc there is a very important bond formed.

If I also think about myself, I cannot imagine have 'two dads' or 'two mums'. The embarassment and bullying at school would be horrendous. What about taking a girlfriend home to meet your '2 dads'?. I'm sorry but I would not be comfortable with that, and I don't think children should be put through it.

StanSP

StanSP

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For same-sex marriage I am not too bothered either way. FuriousFox actually convinced me literally an hour or so ago :P

But for gay adoption, I strongly disagree with it. Gay marriage doesn't hurt anyone, but gay adoption does. I did A Level Psychology and I know from my studies that young children need a male and female parental model in their life. This is especially true for needing a mother. The bond between child and mother is so vitally important for healthy mental development at that very young age. As soon as a baby is born and is near it's mother, and breastfeeds etc there is a very important bond formed.

If I also think about myself, I cannot imagine have 'two dads' or 'two mums'. The embarassment and bullying at school would be horrendous. What about taking a girlfriend home to meet your '2 dads'?. I'm sorry but I would not be comfortable with that, and I don't think children should be put through it.

For most of this, I agree with it, especially since studying it at uni. The mother-child bond is extremely precious (not a necessity or essential requirement, but quite worthy).

However, if you took a girlfriend to meet your 2 same-sex parents, if she's not willing to accept who you are or your background/relations, then she's not worth having.

I see nothing wrong with gay/lesbian couples adopting children, though. If that child is going to a better home, with loving 'parents', and the best life available for him/her as opposed to being an orphan or being a child to abusive parents, then I'm all for it.

21st Century Fox

21st Century Fox

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For same-sex marriage I am not too bothered either way. FuriousFox actually convinced me literally an hour or so ago :P

But for gay adoption, I strongly disagree with it. Gay marriage doesn't hurt anyone, but gay adoption does. I did A Level Psychology and I know from my studies that young children need a male and female parental model in their life. This is especially true for needing a mother. The bond between child and mother is so vitally important for healthy mental development at that very young age. As soon as a baby is born and is near it's mother, and breastfeeds etc there is a very important bond formed.

If I also think about myself, I cannot imagine have 'two dads' or 'two mums'. The embarassment and bullying at school would be horrendous. What about taking a girlfriend home to meet your '2 dads'?. I'm sorry but I would not be comfortable with that, and I don't think children should be put through it.

But thats because its not a social norm. It wasn't a social norm to bring home black boyfriends and girlfriends 40 or 50 odd years ago. Interracial couples weren't the social norm but its become so, why would it be any different for gay couples and their children?

FuriousFox46

FuriousFox46

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For same-sex marriage I am not too bothered either way. FuriousFox actually convinced me literally an hour or so ago :P

But for gay adoption, I strongly disagree with it. Gay marriage doesn't hurt anyone, but gay adoption does. I did A Level Psychology and I know from my studies that young children need a male and female parental model in their life. This is especially true for needing a mother. The bond between child and mother is so vitally important for healthy mental development at that very young age. As soon as a baby is born and is near it's mother, and breastfeeds etc there is a very important bond formed.

If I also think about myself, I cannot imagine have 'two dads' or 'two mums'. The embarassment and bullying at school would be horrendous. What about taking a girlfriend home to meet your '2 dads'?. I'm sorry but I would not be comfortable with that, and I don't think children should be put through it.

Being a 'Mummy's boy' and a psychology student, I'm not going to argue that the mother-child bond is very important. But it isn't vital.

Children can survive without that attachment. Bowlby's theory shows that children usually form one special attachment or monotropy. This is usually with the mother. However it can just as easily happen with any other primary care giver, so long as it is routine to the child from birth.

I know that having two dads or two mums could lead to bullying. But, if we don't tackle the issue there will never be acceptance for homosexuality in society.

Surely, having two same-sex parents is better for a child than living in an orphanage?

P.S. I'm glad I was so persuasive :P

lcfcadam

lcfcadam

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No! It definitely shouldn't be allowed!

Us gays are a happy lot who enjoy life - bring marriage into the equation and swathes of us will just turn in to miserable depressives like the rest of the world...

Gold Coast Fox

Gold Coast Fox

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No! It definitely shouldn't be allowed!

Us gays are a happy lot who enjoy life - bring marriage into the equation and swathes of us will just turn in to miserable depressives like the rest of the world...

I've spent all day trying to convince people we should be aloud to marry and you come out with this!? set the cause back a whole hour. :glare:

lcfcadam

lcfcadam

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I've spent all day trying to convince people we should be aloud to marry and you come out with this!? set the cause back a whole hour. :glare:

I hope you gathered the post was a touch tongue-in-cheek... (obviously I voted "Yes" on the poll :P)

Zingari

Zingari

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Just nice to know i'm not the only gay on the forum :thumbup:

you can't be the only gay on the forum , because I am !!

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Guest

Guest

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If anyone is foolish enough to want to get married they should be allowed to and then forced to pay the consequences.

Guest

Guest

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Precisely, they've managed to make a monopoly of it.

but have they managed to make a monogamy out of it?

z-layrex

z-layrex

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Just nice to know i'm not the only gay on the forum :thumbup:

I'm not gay but I am a bit camp and i've done some definitely gay stuff if that counts.

Guest MattP

Guest MattP

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Maybe they aren't suitable and have demonstrated such during the interview and vetting process.

I said that to him about 6 months ago. You never know what sort of criteria you would have to fill in this day and age for adoption.

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