Depression

[danny.]

30 minutes ago, HighPeakFox said:

I'm struggling right now - not really looking after myself, massive impostor syndrome and existential stuff too. 

 

 

Sorry to hear that chap. Impostor syndrome is brutal and way more common than people think, I reckon the majority of people who are any good at what they do feel it at some point. Hope you're talking to people around you as well. Look after yourself.

[HighPeakFox]

1 hour ago, danny. said:

Sorry to hear that chap. Impostor syndrome is brutal and way more common than people think, I reckon the majority of people who are any good at what they do feel it at some point. Hope you're talking to people around you as well. Look after yourself.

Thank you, your kind words are appreciated. 

[Zear0]

Must be something in the air atm as I'm posting something similar to what @HighPeakFoxposted. Firstly, hope you feel the sunshine soon and feel better. I've always enjoyed your contributions and it's one of the joys of this forum that so many people with a shared dislike love of a football club can have discussions with humour, insight and on occasion, intelligence (I provide none of the above) that give us social contact in an increasingly lonely world. 

 

About to start another round of talking therapy as been racked with anxiety lately out of the blue. It's causing all sorts of negative feeling and emotions making me catostrophise everything robbing me of focus and quite a lot of function. Last time happened the therapy was effective so hoping for a repeat of this. Would also encourage people struggling to consider it as its really helped me before. Talking really is a medicine. 

 

On a plus side, I went for a walk in the sunshine and it made a wonderful difference. The weather and news in the world have been absolutely horrendous for my own MH and sure it must be affecting many other. 

 

Look after yourselves. 

[SecretPro]

Having a bad spell since Christmas again. The weather really hasn't helped and I've just lost a lot of joy in the things that usually keep me going. 

 

On top of that, I've been in the same job for 20 years. The last 10 have gone steadily down hill and right now its just pure torture. I applied for a new job which on the face of it offers me a big change, working from home 4 days out of 5, office is a shorter walk away, attached to a decent coffee shop and gym. I know the work there is shit though and probably as stressful workload wise as what im doing now. I have an interview on Friday and since I found out I can't really eat, sleep. Feel quite nauseous with anxiety, not just for the whole interview thing but because deep down I have some really important relationships to me in my current job. I realise I basically stayed there so long because of the people. 

 

Feel like im probably trapped in the prison that is my own comfort zone. The people I care about at work would probably lose touch with me in a matter of weeks, I know because I see it happen all the time. I just dont know whether the change isn't what I need right now as ive got a bit of stress on or whether im just looking for excuses to stay in my comfort zone, even though 90% of the time its detestable work wise. Feel like im already mourning it... weird feeling, disconcerting and im finding it quite emotionally difficult. 

 

 

Edited 2 March by SecretPro

[VLC86]

1 hour ago, SecretPro said:

Having a bad spell since Christmas again. The weather really hasn't helped and I've just lost a lot of joy in the things that usually keep me going. 

 

On top of that, I've been in the same job for 20 years. The last 10 have gone steadily down hill and right now its just pure torture. I applied for a new job which on the face of it offers me a big change, working from home 4 days out of 5, office is a shorter walk away, attached to a decent coffee shop and gym. I know the work their is shit though and probably as stressful workload wise as what im doing now. I have an interview on Friday and since I found out I can't really eat, sleep. Feel quite nauseous with anxiety, not just for the whole interview thing but because deep down I have some really important relationships to me in my current job. I realise I basically stayed there so long because of the people. 

 

Feel like im probably trapped in the prison that is my own comfort zone. The people I care about at work would probably lose touch with me in a matter of weeks, I know because I see it happen all the time. I just dont know whether the change isn't what I need right now as ive got a bit of stress on or whether im just looking for excuses to stay in my comfort zone, even though 90% of the time its detestable work wise. Feel like im already mourning it... weird feeling, disconcerting and im finding it quiet emotionally difficult. 

 

 

I left a company I was working for for a similar amount of time in October but mine was through redundancy (which I wanted), what I would say is that if you do leave and care about the people, make sure you keep in touch with them and make the effort.

 

I was completely trapped in my comfort zone but sometimes that is a good thing. 
 

Leaving worked out well for me but that was down to the big redundancy payment and the financial freedom that gave me, my new job is quite stressful so I would say to just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons.

[HighPeakFox]

I'm now doubly glad I posted. Not just because stating it or saying it immediately shrinks the issue a bit, but also because it has perhaps helped others break their silence. 

 

This thread is so important. 

[HighPeakFox]

1 hour ago, SecretPro said:

Having a bad spell since Christmas again. The weather really hasn't helped and I've just lost a lot of joy in the things that usually keep me going. 

 

On top of that, I've been in the same job for 20 years. The last 10 have gone steadily down hill and right now its just pure torture. I applied for a new job which on the face of it offers me a big change, working from home 4 days out of 5, office is a shorter walk away, attached to a decent coffee shop and gym. I know the work their is shit though and probably as stressful workload wise as what im doing now. I have an interview on Friday and since I found out I can't really eat, sleep. Feel quite nauseous with anxiety, not just for the whole interview thing but because deep down I have some really important relationships to me in my current job. I realise I basically stayed there so long because of the people. 

 

Feel like im probably trapped in the prison that is my own comfort zone. The people I care about at work would probably lose touch with me in a matter of weeks, I know because I see it happen all the time. I just dont know whether the change isn't what I need right now as ive got a bit of stress on or whether im just looking for excuses to stay in my comfort zone, even though 90% of the time its detestable work wise. Feel like im already mourning it... weird feeling, disconcerting and im finding it quiet emotionally difficult. 

 

 

I cannot add to the advice given, but make sure you try to look after yourself. I know how difficult that apparently simple suggestion can be. 

[danny.]

13 minutes ago, HighPeakFox said:

I'm now doubly glad I posted. Not just because stating it or saying it immediately shrinks the issue a bit, but also because it has perhaps helped others break their silence. 

 

This thread is so important. 

Talking about it is one of the hardest things to do. Also amazing once you start talking about it how many other people are feeling the same way, and often you'd never know. As someone said, this time of year doesn't help either, plus all the valid pressures of life these days, we're definitely not living through an easy period in time.

[Trav Le Bleu]

7 hours ago, HighPeakFox said:

I'm struggling right now - not really looking after myself, massive impostor syndrome and existential stuff too. 

 

 

Hey bud, DM if you need.

 

You make more sense than 90% of the posters on here and that doesn't happen by being something you're not.

 

Besides, being true to yourself (whatever that even means), is over-rated. We all need to lie to ourselves a little to cope with life. Life and the world is crazy. 

 

Take care and like I said, message me if you want.

[Trav Le Bleu]

3 hours ago, SecretPro said:

Having a bad spell since Christmas again. The weather really hasn't helped and I've just lost a lot of joy in the things that usually keep me going. 

 

On top of that, I've been in the same job for 20 years. The last 10 have gone steadily down hill and right now its just pure torture. I applied for a new job which on the face of it offers me a big change, working from home 4 days out of 5, office is a shorter walk away, attached to a decent coffee shop and gym. I know the work there is shit though and probably as stressful workload wise as what im doing now. I have an interview on Friday and since I found out I can't really eat, sleep. Feel quite nauseous with anxiety, not just for the whole interview thing but because deep down I have some really important relationships to me in my current job. I realise I basically stayed there so long because of the people. 

 

Feel like im probably trapped in the prison that is my own comfort zone. The people I care about at work would probably lose touch with me in a matter of weeks, I know because I see it happen all the time. I just dont know whether the change isn't what I need right now as ive got a bit of stress on or whether im just looking for excuses to stay in my comfort zone, even though 90% of the time its detestable work wise. Feel like im already mourning it... weird feeling, disconcerting and im finding it quite emotionally difficult. 

 

 

 

5 hours ago, Zear0 said:

Must be something in the air atm as I'm posting something similar to what @HighPeakFoxposted. Firstly, hope you feel the sunshine soon and feel better. I've always enjoyed your contributions and it's one of the joys of this forum that so many people with a shared dislike love of a football club can have discussions with humour, insight and on occasion, intelligence (I provide none of the above) that give us social contact in an increasingly lonely world. 

 

About to start another round of talking therapy as been racked with anxiety lately out of the blue. It's causing all sorts of negative feeling and emotions making me catostrophise everything robbing me of focus and quite a lot of function. Last time happened the therapy was effective so hoping for a repeat of this. Would also encourage people struggling to consider it as its really helped me before. Talking really is a medicine. 

 

On a plus side, I went for a walk in the sunshine and it made a wonderful difference. The weather and news in the world have been absolutely horrendous for my own MH and sure it must be affecting many other. 

 

Look after yourselves. 

Same as I said to HPF, feel free to DM me.

 

It always strikes me that the people I consider the best posters are often contributing to this thread.

 

I think you can go through life being a dick and not caring, never worrying about anything or anyone, or you can be aware of what's really happening and be concerned, which will naturally lead to anxiety.

 

In which case, I'd rather be anxious.

 

Ironically @SecretPro I too have been in my job 20 years, slowly going downhill for the past 10 (not me especially, the whole company) and I can't see my job role continuing more than a couple of years. Personally think the company will be defunct within 10 years. I certainly don't want to do it anymore and if voluntary redundancy came up I'd bite their hand off.

[Crinklyfox]

15 hours ago, SecretPro said:

Having a bad spell since Christmas again. The weather really hasn't helped and I've just lost a lot of joy in the things that usually keep me going. 

 

On top of that, I've been in the same job for 20 years. The last 10 have gone steadily down hill and right now its just pure torture. I applied for a new job which on the face of it offers me a big change, working from home 4 days out of 5, office is a shorter walk away, attached to a decent coffee shop and gym. I know the work there is shit though and probably as stressful workload wise as what im doing now. I have an interview on Friday and since I found out I can't really eat, sleep. Feel quite nauseous with anxiety, not just for the whole interview thing but because deep down I have some really important relationships to me in my current job. I realise I basically stayed there so long because of the people. 

 

Feel like im probably trapped in the prison that is my own comfort zone. The people I care about at work would probably lose touch with me in a matter of weeks, I know because I see it happen all the time. I just dont know whether the change isn't what I need right now as ive got a bit of stress on or whether im just looking for excuses to stay in my comfort zone, even though 90% of the time its detestable work wise. Feel like im already mourning it... weird feeling, disconcerting and im finding it quite emotionally difficult. 

 

 

I left a job I'd been in for more than twenty years.  It was great when I started but the company changed and by the end I was hating myself for going in to work, even though I liked the majority of my colleagues.  If I hadn't left I would have cursed myself for the rest of my time there.  Leaving wasn't easy, especially as I was in my fifties, but I couldn't stand it any more.  It was tricky for a time after leaving but I felt a lot better about myself, was much more self-motivated, and was glad that I had made the move.

 

it's easy to focus on the potential for poor outcomes for any action.  I found that assigning percentages to each possible outcome helped get things into perspective.  For example, staying in my existing job, potential for being unhappy 90%; getting a new job and hating it, maybe 25%; getting a new job and liking it maybe 50%; getting a new job ok but still a bit better than my old one 25%.  On those odds going for a new job was the right decision for me.

[HighPeakFox]

9 hours ago, Crinklyfox said:

I left a job I'd been in for more than twenty years.  It was great when I started but the company changed and by the end I was hating myself for going in to work, even though I liked the majority of my colleagues.  If I hadn't left I would have cursed myself for the rest of my time there.  Leaving wasn't easy, especially as I was in my fifties, but I couldn't stand it any more.  It was tricky for a time after leaving but I felt a lot better about myself, was much more self-motivated, and was glad that I had made the move.

 

it's easy to focus on the potential for poor outcomes for any action.  I found that assigning percentages to each possible outcome helped get things into perspective.  For example, staying in my existing job, potential for being unhappy 90%; getting a new job and hating it, maybe 25%; getting a new job and liking it maybe 50%; getting a new job ok but still a bit better than my old one 25%.  On those odds going for a new job was the right decision for me.

Thank you.

 

This reminds me, every time I have taken a risk that involves forgoeing some level of security because I am unhappy, it has paid off. Don't regret an inaction.

[chrishlcfc]

Not felt as bad as I did this morning as I have for a long time. Got up at 2am rang the crisis team and they just said make a tea or coffee and ring back if that doesn’t work. I don’t even drink tea or coffee.

 

still waiting to start my therapy again. Don’t even know If I’ll make it to the start of it to be honest. 

[Lionator]

32 minutes ago, chrishlcfc said:

Not felt as bad as I did this morning as I have for a long time. Got up at 2am rang the crisis team and they just said make a tea or coffee and ring back if that doesn’t work. I don’t even drink tea or coffee.

 

still waiting to start my therapy again. Don’t even know If I’ll make it to the start of it to be honest. 

Hi Chris, these are often gatekeepers to actual further support or services. It’s nothing personal against you. You will make it, and it’ll be ok. Thank you for reaching out on here too, we’re all here for you even if we can’t offer more right now. Take it hour by hour, day by day and keep reaching out. I hear you and I understand the pain and uncertainty you’re feeling. Sorry I can’t offer more. 

[Zear0]

2 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

Not felt as bad as I did this morning as I have for a long time. Got up at 2am rang the crisis team and they just said make a tea or coffee and ring back if that doesn’t work. I don’t even drink tea or coffee.

 

still waiting to start my therapy again. Don’t even know If I’ll make it to the start of it to be honest. 

Sad to see you back here but I notice it's been a while. Hope you've had some stability to show you can get through this and have some good times. All the best buddy and keep doing better than me at Connections! 

[chrishlcfc]

6 minutes ago, Zear0 said:

Sad to see you back here but I notice it's been a while. Hope you've had some stability to show you can get through this and have some good times. All the best buddy and keep doing better than me at Connections! 

Not really, just takes quite a bit for me to post on here as I’m pretty apprehensive as I am with everything in life. I’ll try though 👍

[filthyfox]

On 03/03/2026 at 19:18, HighPeakFox said:

Thank you.

 

This reminds me, every time I have taken a risk that involves forgoeing some level of security because I am unhappy, it has paid off. Don't regret an inaction.

I once took a 8k per year pay cut in order to relocate to Dorset.

11 years on, and the same job now pays more than i have earned anywhere else, and is by FAR better than any job i would have seen myself doing. It has evolved around me, and i have embraced it.

 

I inspect ZOOS!!!!!

 

Luck is being in the right place at the right time and taking advantage if the right opportunities.

[filthyfox]

On 05/03/2026 at 18:18, chrishlcfc said:

Not really, just takes quite a bit for me to post on here as I’m pretty apprehensive as I am with everything in life. I’ll try though 👍

The thing is mate....   you ARE here.

Keep smiling.

[Trav Le Bleu]

1 hour ago, filthyfox said:

I once took a 8k per year pay cut in order to relocate to Dorset.

11 years on, and the same job now pays more than i have earned anywhere else, and is by FAR better than any job i would have seen myself doing. It has evolved around me, and i have embraced it.

 

I inspect ZOOS!!!!!

 

Luck is being in the right place at the right time and taking advantage if the right opportunities.

I hope zoos wasn't a typo for loos.

 

Either way, it explains why you're filthy.

[filthyfox]

6 hours ago, Trav Le Bleu said:

I hope zoos wasn't a typo for loos.

 

Either way, it explains why you're filthy.

Believe it or not....   i did use to inspect loos too!

OMG... thats my autobiography title "From loos to zoos"

[STEVIE B]

1 hour ago, filthyfox said:

Believe it or not....   i did use to inspect loos too!

OMG... thats my autobiography title "From loos to zoos"

.....or 'From Basin to Bison'

 

 

I'll get me coat....

[HighPeakFox]

1 hour ago, STEVIE B said:

.....or 'From Basin to Bison'

 

 

I'll get me coat....

This thread is meant to help depression, not encourage it  

[STEVIE B]

1 hour ago, HighPeakFox said:

This thread is meant to help depression, not encourage it  

Very funny ! I've been thinking of others, maybe doing the hoovering is a better idea ! 

[filthyfox]

Just now, STEVIE B said:

Very funny ! I've been thinking of others, maybe doing the hoovering is a better idea ! 

From hoover to beaver doesnt quite work...

[STEVIE B]

10 minutes ago, filthyfox said:

From hoover to beaver doesnt quite work...

'From Silicone Sealant to Pelican Bereavement'. I'm pleased with that one. 

Edited 10 March by STEVIE B