Foxhateram Posted 15 January 2008 Author Posted 15 January 2008 Is this the girl with the boyfriend? If so;a. Tell her how you feel b. Give her an ultimatum - "ditch your boyfriend and go out with me or I'm off to sort my life out" c. Shag her mum. d. Shag her sister. e. Does she have any pets? Once you've told her how you feel take a back-seat until she's sorted her side out. She's getting the best of both worlds and screwing with your head mate and it won't do you any good. All the best. Not my style mate sorry! Anyway no she doesnt have a boyfriend. AOWW your idea seems pretty good, just scared il lose her as a mate i dont want that. She has been amazing to me, she has helped me come through some ahrd times. We tried the keep it secret thing, her consciounce got the better of her and she told her mate, who liked me. Argh wish it could work. see this is what bugs me i really like her and i need to detach otherwise its just gonna get harder.
Manwell Pablo Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 Not my style mate sorry! Anyway no she doesnt have a boyfriend. AOWW your idea seems pretty good, just scared il lose her as a mate i dont want that. She has been amazing to me, she has helped me come through some ahrd times. We tried the keep it secret thing, her consciounce got the better of her and she told her mate, who liked me. Argh wish it could work. see this is what bugs me i really like her and i need to detach otherwise its just gonna get harder. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmYeebWumVY
Wycombe Fox Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 Anyway no she doesnt have a boyfriend. I'm very sorry - I must have confused your dilemma with somebody else's I'll get me coat Anyway, whatever, good luck.
BigGibbo Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 ok same girl as before.Latly we have become really close again, so i try to avoid her for a bit, but last night she started chatting to me on MSN, she asked why i was ignoring her, and i explained that i felt myself getting closer to her then i wanted again, as we have both agreed itl never work with all the complications as explained in my confusion thread a few months back. im really confused because i dont want to keep on talking to her everday txting her every night, even thow shes only just logged off MSN, (she txts me first most the time) i dont want that to keep hapening because i know il just end up falling back into where we were before and that just caused arguments and a lot of shit. It also resulted in me losing her even as a mate. basicly what do i do? how am i supposed to prevent myself from falling for her again, without upsetting ehr and avoiding her. She's either stringing you along 'cos she wants the attention or she's gagging for it! call her bluff I say
AoWW Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 Not my style mate sorry! Anyway no she doesnt have a boyfriend. AOWW your idea seems pretty good, just scared il lose her as a mate i dont want that. She has been amazing to me, she has helped me come through some ahrd times. We tried the keep it secret thing, her consciounce got the better of her and she told her mate, who liked me. Argh wish it could work. see this is what bugs me i really like her and i need to detach otherwise its just gonna get harder. No - correction... she bragged about it to her mate. There's a big difference. Oh, and yes, maybe you backing off a bit will hurt her feelings (read: ego) but if she cares about you eventually she'll come around and maybe even begin to understand why. If she can't do that she honestly isn't even a mate, hun.
The People's Hero Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 Mate, if you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it's yours forever, if it doesn't it was never yours to begin with. Note. The above sentiments can ease guilty conscience when leaving scene of 'crime' after one night stand with girl you don't really care about.
AoWW Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 Mate, if you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it's yours forever, if it doesn't it was never yours to begin with.Note. The above sentiments can ease guilty conscience when leaving scene of 'crime' after one night stand with girl you don't really care about. Oh, bugger.
Alexikokopops Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 ****s sake. Get a mate, go halves on a rape charge. Job done.
Dr The Singh Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 ****s sake.Get a mate, go halves on a rape charge. Job done. ANybody seen the film 'Bandit Queen'......................it can be arranged!!!
Bert Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 This is like a merry-go-round isn't it? You know nothing will happen. So, don't text as much, do a bit more stuff that can get you away from talking/doing things with her. If she asks why you've been distant, then you tell her, because of your feelings, and that you don't want to lose her as a friend. I just hope, after all this hassle, this lass aint a minger.
Daggers Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 basicly what do i do? how am i supposed to prevent myself from falling for her again, without upsetting ehr and avoiding her. Back in the day young people kept this kind of thing to themselves or sat in the corner writing sad poetry. If it makes it any easier she was pulling a train this morning, her face looked like an accident at the Copydex glue factory.
Fez of Mahrez Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 These threads get worse and worse. Give it up for god's sake. Can't you make a decision without asking an internet messageboard first? And if the correct answer is to be true to yourself and someone will love you for who you are (that's the sort of bollocks these things usually end up churning out eventually), I'm sure she won't mind you telling her that you've followed your heart second and opinions off a load of random people on an internet messageboard first.
The People's Hero Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 These threads get worse and worse. Give it up for god's sake. Can't you make a decision without asking an internet messageboard first?And if the correct answer is to be true to yourself and someone will love you for who you are (that's the sort of bollocks these things usually end up churning out eventually), I'm sure she won't mind you telling her that you've followed your heart second and opinions off a load of random people on an internet messageboard first. It's harsh - but there are several grains of truth in there.
Zingari Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 if you want my advice, get on the phone and dial emma was that the question
LeeCovFox Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 Why don't you two give it a go, 'undercover', keep your relationship to yourselves, and if you get seen together, just tell people your friends!! When the dust settles, come out.....it may work!!! You want him to tell people he is gay if they are seen together? Thats actually quite a good plan. But don't take pretending to be gay too far. I've heard its painful.
lookwhaticando Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 If you really want to distance yourself from her maybe you just need to be a bit less 'available' to her, on msn in particular. If you don't want to talk to her, or you're feeling too 'fragile/emotional' to deal with it at any one time, just block her. You needn't keep it on permanently (coz then she'd definitely say you're ignoring her) but it just gives you the option of choosing when you want to talk - not her. I pretend to be at work all the time, with similar results.
AoWW Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 I pretend to be at work all the time, with similar results. I know. Sussed that one ages ago. Bastard!
Tevez Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 just shut up, get on with it and do 'er up the ring piece. Regards, Tevez
Daggers Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 just shut up, get on with it and do 'er up the ring piece.Regards, Tevez What? With her anal herpes and everything? Euuuugh!
Foxhateram Posted 15 January 2008 Author Posted 15 January 2008 What?With her anal herpes and everything? Euuuugh! shush you!!! ok just to infrom you all. i talked to her and told her why is was avoiding her etc. she kinda understood. i then told ehr to tell me that she aint interested and never will be, just to put my mind at rest. She sed it but she dint mean it but never mind. so yer alls kl, were still talking. and she ended the convo with "dont be so pessimistic you never used to be. you used to be so flirty and funny and up for a laugh, now you never talk anymore, and ther eis always somit up. Night xxxx" so no idea what that means haha. but never mind all sorted.
Bert Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 shush you!!!ok just to infrom you all. i talked to her and told her why is was avoiding her etc. she kinda understood. i then told ehr to tell me that she aint interested and never will be, just to put my mind at rest. She sed it but she dint mean it but never mind. so yer alls kl, were still talking. and she ended the convo with "dont be so pessimistic you never used to be. you used to be so flirty and funny and up for a laugh, now you never talk anymore, and ther eis always somit up. Night xxxx" so no idea what that means haha. but never mind all sorted. She's got the arse with you. Girls always make a snappy, exit, with just "night" when they have the ump. Trust me.
Foxhateram Posted 15 January 2008 Author Posted 15 January 2008 She's got the arse with you.Girls always make a snappy, exit, with just "night" when they have the ump. Trust me. yer but she started txting me now aparently i have to flirt back otherwise il be in trouble does that count as being harrased?
Bert Posted 15 January 2008 Posted 15 January 2008 yer but she started txting me now aparently i have to flirt back otherwise il be in trouble does that count as being harrased? Don't be a mug, You're walking right into it, and doing exactly what she wants you to do. Just text her, saying, "Im dropping off now, speak to you sooon, night night x"
Foxhateram Posted 15 January 2008 Author Posted 15 January 2008 Don't be a mug, You're walking right into it, and doing exactly what she wants you to do.Just text her, saying, "Im dropping off now, speak to you sooon, night night x" Funny that, cus thats exactly what i did haha. shel be in a pissy with me tomorow!!! ah well its kl.
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