Regrets

[Zingari]

I regret dressing as Mick Jagger for 4 yeras. (not all the time, obviously. That would be plain stupid)

I took my gf to the Carousel one night and the sight of you dressed as Jagger really sexed her up that night ,

You may have regrets but a belated thank you from me

[Parafox]

I regret dressing as Mick Jagger for 4 yeras. (not all the time, obviously. That would be plain stupid)

I took my gf to the Carousel one night and the sight of you dressed as Jagger really sexed her up that night ,

You may have regrets but a belated thank you from me

And you left me out??? Well how rude.

But at least you can remember the event.

[Leicester_Loyal]

This is a really good thread btw

[Babylon]

I often find that there's a difference between wanting something (and I means REALLY wanting it) and liking the idea of having something.

I see it all the time with clients, they all 'like the idea' of getting fit/losing weight etc but a few just don't want to do the work it takes and think that by hiring a PT like me as a kind of gym buddy they will get results.

Its not a personal dig, I think everyibody does this to some degree. If you really, properly want it, you will take the plunge and try it, enjoy it and keep it up until you get there. If you just fancy the idea of it, it will remain a dream.

Like I said one and two in my original list are my biggest problem... they ruin everything else!!

[Parafox]

This is a really good thread btw

Only because Moosebreath hasn't posted yet

[Soar Fox]

The stalking don't help mate..I realised that after 14 years...I just had to accept it and rebuild my life...the prison sentence and the stay in happy acres was a big help..oh and the banning order...Im sure Im getting there..If I can cure the twitch Im home free ..

Ha ha she works with my mum unfortunately so I always here stuff still.

[The Doctor]

Not really putting the effort in at A-levels - coasted through fine up to there and then (from what my teachers said) drastically underperformed.

Being far too meek and cowardly - again next year I'm living with a bunch of people I can't stand (housemates from last year) because I was worried about not getting a house sorted.

There's a shed load of things I regret, but most of them boil down to either being a coward or lazy.

[Nick]

[Guest]

Always remember but never regret

[RonnieTodger]

Dropping out of A-Levels to do an IT apprenticeship.

Not going to any away games in League One.

[21st Century Fox]

Not so much a regret but a "what if". Before I started Uni I got offered a job as a Prop Maker from a guy who'd just done Gladiator and numerous other Hollywood films but I turned him down because I figured Uni would be a better option. I always wondered what it'd be like if I'd taken that particular fork in the road.

[Tielemans63]

One of my biggest regrets was not taking what could have been a lucrative job to follow my dream.

Basically I was working for William Hills in Leeds when I graduated and they offered me the chance to train as an odds-compiler. I really wanted to be a journalist at the time so I turned it down and went to work for the Yorkie Post as a trainee journo. Basically got treated like shite and they completely wasted my time. Even though I can be a twat I have nowhere near the levels of twatishness required to be a journo. It didn't help that they were a bunch of amoral coke heads.

Wish I'd taken the job as an odds-compiler. Big pressure but I'd be on mega bucks by now for mainly watching sport!

[sphericalfox]

One of my biggest regrets was not taking what could have been a lucrative job to follow my dream.

Basically I was working for William Hills in Leeds when I graduated and they offered me the chance to train as an odds-compiler. I really wanted to be a journalist at the time so I turned it down and went to work for the Yorkie Post as a trainee journo. Basically got treated like shite and they completely wasted my time. Even though I can be a twat I have nowhere near the levels of twatishness required to be a journo. It didn't help that they were a bunch of amoral coke heads.

Wish I'd taken the job as an odds-compiler. Big pressure but I'd be on mega bucks by now for mainly watching sport!

So you turned down an amoral job for an amoral job on mega bucks? Hmmm?

[Guest Col city fan]

So you turned down an amoral job for an amoral job on mega bucks? Hmmm?

What's amoral about being a book-keeper? Or an odds compiler?

If people didn't want to gamble there would be no need for them.

This fella regrets his decision. That's the point of the thread. Or so I thought?

[Webbo]

Regret has to be the most pointless emotion of them all. Sure there are things in my past I wish I'd done differently but I can't go back in time and change that so what's the point of dwelling on it?

You have to live your life from where you are now, not from where you wish you were.

[Guest Col city fan]

Regret has to be the most pointless emotion of them all. Sure there are things in my past I wish I'd done differently but I can't go back in time and change that so what's the point of dwelling on it?

You have to live your life from where you are now, not from where you wish you were.

I think you are absolutely right. However, for some, saying this and actually doing it isn't so easy.

Erick Erikssens 'theory of life stages' looks at exactly this issue. He calls the final life stage 'generativity v self absorption'... By which he means that some older people can look back at their lives with happiness, with satisfaction and with a feeling that they have done pretty much what they wanted to do. This is 'generativity'. Conversely 'self absorption' relates to those people who are full of regret in older life, complaining of what they should have done, but didn't and constantly asking 'what if'. For Erikssen, the former will usually be the people who want their kids and others to be happy, to welcome them and to want them to do well. The latter will usually be colder, more needy and make unreasonable demands of others.

Just a theory sure, and maybe too general, but one which I always felt seemed to make some sense.

[Milton Keynes Fox]

Not treating my current girlfriend better when i had the chance, all i can do is try better now but it feels like everythings gone

[sphericalfox]

What's amoral about being a book-keeper? Or an odds compiler?

If people didn't want to gamble there would be no need for them.

This fella regrets his decision. That's the point of the thread. Or so I thought?

Firstly are you suggesting that working in the gambling industry is not more amoral than the amoral journalists he was referring too?

The point of the thread is about regret. My suggestion that he has nothing to be regretful for, unless he thinks easy money is less amoral than the behaviour of the journalistic fraternity.

[sphericalfox]

For me the word regret exists but it should always be replaced with lesson learned. Basically have I made mistakes I can learn from, and be a better human being? Anything else is materialistic and shallow.

[Tielemans63]

Er... I seem to have inadvertently stirred up a hornet's nest! Can I just specify that the journalists I worked with were particularly vile and amoral - I didn't intend to tar all with the same brush although I'll admit it does read like that.

The reason I called the journalists amoral was because they would do anything for a story - the 'victims' often have no choice about what gets printed. I've seen vulnerable people literally 'set-up' to create a story (especially asylum seekers). On the other hand, whilst you might not like the gambling industry - its the individual's choice to gamble or not, no-one has gambling forced on them.

Anyway, my job would have been to calculate the probabilities of certain events - if you think that's amoral I respect your opinion but don't agree with you.

[sphericalfox]

Er... I seem to have inadvertently stirred up a hornet's nest! Can I just specify that the journalists I worked with were particularly vile and amoral - I didn't intend to tar all with the same brush although I'll admit it does read like that.

The reason I called the journalists amoral was because they would do anything for a story - the 'victims' often have no choice about what gets printed. I've seen vulnerable people literally 'set-up' to create a story (especially asylum seekers). On the other hand, whilst you might not like the gambling industry - its the individual's choice to gamble or not, no-one has gambling forced on them.

Anyway, my job would have been to calculate the probabilities of certain events - if you think that's amoral I respect your opinion but don't agree with you.

Not at all Paddy. I suppose i should have stated 'industry' rather than job. Calculating probabilities is simple risk assessment and used across various industries, though the morality of targeting and using individuals for gain, the journalist and bookies of this world can hold their head in shame. All you need to do is turn on sky and victims are those pounded with advertisement to gamble. And I'm more than aware of the actions of journalists both local and national, and the underhanded means of getting, and making a story.

All I was suggesting is that you shouldn't necessarily have regrets about chasing the £, happiness isn't for sale.

[Tielemans63]

All I was suggesting is that you shouldn't necessarily have regrets about chasing the £, happiness isn't for sale.

Fair do's SF and I would agree, i'm a teacher these days - I could have earned more in another industry but I love it. The mega bucks comment was tongue in cheek to be honest - I think maybe you took that a bit too seriously. My main point is that I could have earned a good living watching sport!

Maybe I should list making my previous post as a regret!

[Guest Col city fan]

Fair do's SF and I would agree, i'm a teacher these days - I could have earned more in another industry but I love it. The mega bucks comment was tongue in cheek to be honest - I think maybe you took that a bit too seriously. My main point is that I could have earned a good living watching sport!

Maybe I should list making my previous post as a regret!

There was nothing wrong whatsoever with your post buddy.

[Tielemans63]

There was nothing wrong whatsoever with your post buddy.

Cheers Col. I don't mind a bit of debate though - it's healthy!

[Thracian]

You don't get to my age without making some serious mistakes and while I certainly regret them I don't resent or worry about them because they were all part of life's experience and, overall, I've had a terrific life, some wonderful experiences, and have no complaints.

Most regrets were over financial decisions - I take risks for the sheer crack of it - and get it wrong far too often!

I've been lucky with girls, including my 45 years of marriage to a lovely girl I met when I was 16, so, apart from money mistakes, most of my regrets have been sporting ones.

I regret getting a lengthy ban (on a technicality) when I was 23 and the youngest player/manager of a part-time professional football club in the country. My managerial/coaching career had gone well and I used to wonder what might have been.

In a typically defiant reaction I continued playing football under an assumed name in Lincolnshire before work at the Peterborough Evening Telegraph forced me to take up squash instead.

Atlhough lucky enough to play three of the world's top 10 (Jonah Barrington, Qamar Zaman and Ahmed Safwat), and the world womens number one Lisa Opie, they were just moments of magic rather than serious chances to make an impression.

The real regret was not getting the last three points I needed to beat the British Amateur champion and national captain Stuart Courtney in the Essex Open.

Stuart arrived late, the courts were bitterly cold and, being something of a tactician, I caught him off guard. Two sets up became two sets all and I led 6-3 in the last before running out of gas and had to be content with a match-of-the-tournament award.

Stuart and his wife Jane (also British number 1 if memory serves) later stopped my wife and I reaching the National Family Championship final by beating us in the semi-final of what was a singles event. But, we were never beaten as a mixed doubles pair and that still provides some consolation, although my wife was mainly responsible for that.

Sharon only played the game to join in with me. She hated training and habitually looked so exhausted after the first five minutes that people regularly asked me if she was okay. But she was county champion and captain for years and when she only had half a court to cover, as in doubles most of the time, she was deadly.

I regret that I didn't get her playing when we first met. I hadn't even heard of squash at that time but she could have been an international, no problem.

My final regret was not keeping the customised Transit van I bought when i returned from a coaching tour abroad. Painted on the outside to depict a Wild West scene, the two-litre motor had so many outside speakers its music could be heard across a country park.

Inside it had a luxury double bed with an electrically operated wine table that delivered a bottle and two glasses to the bedside. It also had a revolving blue police-style light underneath which you could put on at night and be sure whoever was in front of you on the road would move over!

"Cuddles" as i called her was fun in every way except on trips to the garage which, at 8 or 9 miles to the gallon were far too frequent.