Life begins at 37 for men

[davieG]

Men may think a life of fast cars, outlandish adventures and continuous bachelorhood is the secret to happiness, but it seems that in reality it is stability, routine and long term commitment that satisfies the male species.

The happiest time of a man’s life is around age 37 - when they have climbed the career ladder and started a family, a new study has found.

It is an age by which most men are settled in a happy relationship and have formed a close circle of friends with which to socialise. The dreaded ‘mid-life crisis’ is still a decade away and their troubled angst-ridden teens are a fading memory. Becoming a father is a particularly rewarding experience with a beaming 43 per cent of men say becoming a parent was one of the happiest days of their life.

The study, conducted by menswear brand Jacamo found that this was followed by getting married, with 35 per cent rating it as one of their top three happiest moments in life, and seeing their favourite football team win the league (18 per cent). Other memorable happy moments include buying a house or car, proposing to a partner, and graduating from university. Experts say these are all milestones many men are likely to have passed by the age of 37 and could explain why it is the ‘age of happiness’. Phillip Hodson, fellow of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, said men of 37 typically benefit from health and life experience.

He said: 'It would be logical to think that men would be happier when they are younger, when they are fitter and healthier. 'As men get older they become more prone to illness and more feeble. 'At 37, you are young enough not to be disillusioned by life, which comes with the midlife crisis. 'But you are also old enough to have developed self-confidence, earned some respect and authority and to have a sense of achievement.'

Day to day, eating a favourite lunch is the one activity most likely to put a smile on a man’s face, the poll of 1,000 men revealed.

Splashing out on DVDs, clothes and gadget makes a gloomy day shine for 28 per cent of men, and hanging out with friends is a boost for 27 per cent.

A quarter, 26 per cent, enjoy an innocent flirt, 22 per a decent cup of tea or coffee and 20 per cent a surprise dinner cooked by the woman in their life. Others are happy when they find time to read the news, achieve a new top score on a computer game or simply receive a text message.

Romantic men are happiest when spending time with their partner, followed by their mates and children. However, just 5 per cent are happy when in the presence of workmates. Lucy Dobson, from Jacamo, said: “It’s great to see that becoming a father and getting married is the key to men’s lasting happiness. ‘And when it comes to day-to-day activities which bring happiness, nothing beats a decent lunch followed by a splurge on some new clothes.

Top moments in man's life (men could chose three)

1. Becoming a parent (43 per cent)

2. Getting married (35 per cent)

3. Seeing his favourite sports team winning the league (18 per cent)

4. Buying a new house (17 per cent)

5. Seeing a country sports team win a significant title (14 per cent)

6. Proposing to a partner (13 per cent)

7. Graduating/finishing full time education (9 per cent)

8. Buying a new car (7 per cent)

Day-to-day things that put a smile on a man's face

1. Eating a favourite lunch (29 per cent)

2. Self gifting DVDs, clothes and technology (28 per cent)

3. Hanging out with friends (27 per cent)

4. An innocent flirt (26 per cent)

5. A decent tea/coffee (22 per cent)

6. A surprise dinner from a woman in his life (20 per cent)

7. Having time to read the news (11 per cent)

8. Getting a new top score on a computer game/app (8 per cent)

9. Receiving a text (5 per cent)

10. Catching up with friends via social media (3 per cent)

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[Guest]

Sounds a load balls.

Surely 100% of men would say a decent/surprise ****.

[davieG]

Sounds a load balls.

Surely 100% of men would say a decent/surprise ****.

Is that why there are so many men on here, well we seems to have a lot of ***** according of some posters?

[Rincewind]

Why is becoming a parent before getting married?

Could not see the kids leaving home in that list.

[Brenfox]

I'm 36 & if this is the happiest I will ever be I'm going to chuck myself under the nearest train

[Webbo]

I'm 36 & if this is the happiest I will ever be I'm going to chuck myself under the nearest train

Just wait until 37. It all changes then.

[ithuriel]

Just wait until 37. It all changes then.

Yeah, physically he wont make it to the train and with his memory going he will not know why he wants to catch the train

[Trav Le Bleu]

I must be very sad because I've only achieved 3 of those by 44, 2 of which were interlinked and the other I'm not really that bothered about.

2. Getting married (35 per cent)

5. Seeing a country sports team win a significant title (14 per cent)

6. Proposing to a partner (13 per cent)

Day-to-day things that put a smile on a man's face

1. Eating a favourite lunch (29 per cent) Because most days men eat food they don't like.

2. Self gifting DVDs, clothes and technology (28 per cent) Self gifting?!?! What happened to "buying stuff because I like it."

3. Hanging out with friends (27 per cent) Haven't you seen my FB updates?

4. An innocent flirt (26 per cent) Innocent?

5. A decent tea/coffee (22 per cent) Invariable 78% of tea or coffee drunk is crap!

6. A surprise dinner from a woman in his life (20 per cent) Not really sure what that means - that the woman agreeing to go to dinner is a surprise, or that he's surprised the woman has made dinner?

7. Having time to read the news (11 per cent) What a load of cobblers! There's no news in newspapers, just their own narrative propoganda trying to get you to share their world-view.

8. Getting a new top score on a computer game/app (8 per cent) Computer games have "high-scores"?! Not since about 1992!

9. Receiving a text (5 per cent) "Due to your recent accident, you may be allegable to claim up to £5500. Just reply to this message within 10 days to take advantage."

10. Catching up with friends via social media (3 per cent) Yeah, sod real life!

But then, this is the Daily Mail.

And I know that 3 and 10 are contradictions, I just thought it was funny.

[acooling08]

The truth

Day-to-day things that put a smile on a man's face

1. Having sex

[Trav Le Bleu]

One day eh, acooling?

[MooseBreath]

The happiest moment is surely those few minutes after sex, when you look over at your fully satisfied wife, stare deeply into her loving eyes, and realise with joy, that it'll now be at least another couple of days days before the bitch demands any more of your time

[Smudge]

The happiest moment is surely those few minutes after sex, when you look over at your fully satisfied wife, stare deeply into her loving eyes, and realise with joy, that it'll now be at least another couple of days days before the bitch demands any more of your time

Then you pay the guy and he leaves eh?

[Phube]

Top moments in man's life (men could chose three)

1. Becoming a parent (43 per cent)

2. Getting married (35 per cent)

4. Buying a new house (17 per cent)

5. Seeing a country sports team win a significant title (14 per cent)

6. Proposing to a partner (13 per cent)

7. Graduating/finishing full time education (9 per cent)

8. Buying a new car (7 per cent)

33 and done, Just waiting on City to win the Premier League... And they'll do that when I'm 37 you say!?! Niiice!!

[Tielemans63]

I self-gift everyday. Usually just before I go to bed.

[Guest]

Then you pay the guy and he leaves eh?

And I didn't charge anywhere near enough.

[Smudge]

And I didn't charge anywhere near enough.

I'm not paying for Moosey's cuckold.

[FoxyPV]

I can't believe Trav is 44!!!

[Rincewind]

I've started my second life then. Feeling old. My brother phoned today. Going up to the Lake District Wednesday. It is my baby sister's 50th birthday on the 15th, I'm 61 on the 19th. This time last year I was hoping to celebrate my 60th with a big do but being out of work put paid to that idea. I was looking forward to a free bus pass which because of changes by governments I have to wait till next year.

Hard to believe my youngest sibling will be 50. Doesn't seem that long ago when she was 16 and having rows with my mum over a much older man she was seeing. She grew out of him eventually but even though he cared for her he was a bit of a no-hoper.

[THEFATBASTARD]

Im at my sexual peak...and my wrists are aching. I only found out I was diabetic when I went down on my last girlfriend, she was wearing candy pants..I had a diabetic seizure, she said it was the best sex we ever had...

[Guest Basildon Fox]

Im at my sexual peak...and my wrists are aching. I only found out I was diabetic when I went down on my last girlfriend, she was wearing candy pants..I had a diabetic seizure, she said it was the best sex we ever had...

[ozleicester]

Seems reasonable, im well into my 40s and as wank as it sounds..life begins at 40. Having a ball, mind you the body is falling to bits rapidly so trying to fit as much in as possible before complete collapse.

[Alf Bentley]

I'm 36 & if this is the happiest I will ever be I'm going to chuck myself under the nearest train

Just wait until 37. It all changes then.

Just looking back...

When I was 36: my then partner (now missus) ended up "critical but stable" in intensive care; despite getting a good languages degree as a mature student, I got rejected for every decent job I applied for and was shuffling bits of paper in a car factory - and worst of all, we were reduced to living in Coventry!

When I was 37: After 2-3 months in hospital, my missus had made a 99% recovery; I'd taken the plunge and set up as a self-employed translator (not much money, but more self-esteem & fewer idiot bosses hassling you) - and we soon managed to get out of Cov and over to Leicestershire. Life doesn't always get better and is rarely perfect (it isn't now), but sometimes the sun shines thru...

[Houdini Logic]

it seems that in reality it is stability, routine and long term commitment that satisfies the male species.

Sounds like the worst thing in the world!!

[Alf Bentley]

Men may think a life of fast cars, outlandish adventures and continuous bachelorhood is the secret to happiness, but it seems that in reality it is stability, routine and long term commitment that satisfies the male species.

The happiest time of a man’s life is around age 37 - when they have climbed the career ladder and started a family, a new study has found.

The dreaded ‘mid-life crisis’ is still a decade away and their troubled angst-ridden teens are a fading memory.

At 37, you are young enough not to be disillusioned by life, which comes with the midlife crisis.

Top moments in man's life (men could chose three)

1. Becoming a parent (43 per cent)

2. Getting married (35 per cent)

3. Seeing his favourite sports team winning the league (18 per cent)

4. Buying a new house (17 per cent)

5. Seeing a country sports team win a significant title (14 per cent)

6. Proposing to a partner (13 per cent)

7. Graduating/finishing full time education (9 per cent)

8. Buying a new car (7 per cent)

Sounds like the worst thing in the world!!

I'm largely with Houdini Logic on this one - "long-term commitment" I can just about handle, but "stability" and "routine" are the bane of my life! I was never into fast cars and bachelorhood is over-rated (though it does have its benefits)...but I definitely want more "outlandish adventures" and a lot less routine.

I've hit 50 now and can relate to the "fading memory of angst-ridden teens", but my only "mid-life crisis" is hearing friends my age saying things like "you really should take up golf", "I'm moving to Surrey", "I'm looking forward to retirement" and "Oh, I'm too old for that now"...and these are blokes who are physically fitter than me, in the main.

"Gonna break out of this city, leave the people here behind; looking for adventure is the type of life to find; tired of doing day jobs with no thanks for what I do; I'm sure I must be someone, now I'm going to find out who... Do anything you wanna do!"

[No, that's not a mid-life crisis!]

[MooseBreath]

If you're still craving elusive adventure at 50, maybe it's time you did accept that it isn't going to happen. Because afterall, you've had decades to fulfill that desire, the only thing that has stopped you is yourself.