Depression

[Parafox]

1 hour ago, Tielemans63 said:

Hi all,

 

Long time lurker in this thread but haven't posted in it for ages. Just wanted to recommend this. Has helped me a lot more than I ever thought it would. Thought it might help a few others:

 

 

That seems like a book for me and Mrs Para.

 

Thanks.

[Sampson]

On 22/04/2025 at 23:23, Tielemans63 said:

Hi all,

 

Long time lurker in this thread but haven't posted in it for ages. Just wanted to recommend this. Has helped me a lot more than I ever thought it would. Thought it might help a few others:

 

Thanks I might give it a try 

[Tielemans63]

5 minutes ago, Sampson said:

Thanks I might give it a try 

I'd really recommend it, mate. It helped me to understand why I spiral sometimes and gave me some useful strategies when I get a bit overwhelmed. The strategies have actually proven effective for me.

[Parafox]

My daughter who I have spoken about often on here has now been further diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia.

 

There's now way back from this and her life will likely be a roller coaster of sectioning, release into the community, sectioned again and so on.

 

It's heart-breaking to look at the photos we have of her as a child, generally happy yet somehow sad behind the eyes, who we knew had difficulties but never thought she'd be destined to have these MH struggles which we know now will never end for her.

 

For several years she lived pretty independently, had a flat she was proud of, had a companion cat she still loves dearly and was outwardly, doing well.

 

We used to go on weekly shopping trips me and her, dad and daughter together, a coffee and cake or maybe a cooked breakfast. A chat about stuff. She always said she was proud of me being a paramedic and she wanted to do good as well. She worked as a volunteer in a nearby charity shop and a wellbeing cafe for a while.

 

Then over the last few years everything started to go wrong for her, threats to the neighbours, thinking they were breaking into her flat when she was asleep and damaging or stealing her belongings, serious self harm, serious threats to others, outbursts of anger, paranoid thinking and so on. And now were where we're at.

 

We can't have direct contact because of the threat she poses because she hates us and wants us dead and has said she'll stab us if we ever go near her again and in a paranoid schizophrenic phase that's not impossible albeit unlikely.

 

So for now, she is still in a secure MH unit. We don't really know what comes next but to watch someone you have loved from a child to become this kind of "demon", is emotionally indescribable.

 

It's a struggle and more so as I (we) get older and less able to step in. 

 

I guess we just have to hand the majority of her life over to the professionals. Not that I have much faith in that prospect.

Edited Tuesday at 23:03 by Parafox

[chrishlcfc]

1 hour ago, Parafox said:

My daughter who I have spoken about often on here has now been further diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia.

 

There's now way back from this and her life will likely be a roller coaster of sectioning, release into the community, sectioned again and so on.

 

It's heart-breaking to look at the photos we have of her as a child, generally happy yet somehow sad behind the eyes, who we knew had difficulties but never thought she'd be destined to have these MH struggles which we know now will never end for her.

 

For several years she lived pretty independently, had a flat she was proud of, had a companion cat she still loves dearly and was outwardly, doing well.

 

We used to go on weekly shopping trips me and her, dad and daughter together, a coffee and cake or maybe a cooked breakfast. A chat about stuff. She always said she was proud of me being a paramedic and she wanted to do good as well. She worked as a volunteer in a nearby charity shop and a wellbeing cafe for a while.

 

Then over the last few years everything started to go wrong for her, threats to the neighbours, thinking they were breaking into her flat when she was asleep and damaging or stealing her belongings, serious self harm, serious threats to others, outbursts of anger, paranoid thinking and so on. And now were where we're at.

 

We can't have direct contact because of the threat she poses because she hates us and wants us dead and has said she'll stab us if we ever go near her again and in a paranoid schizophrenic phase that's not impossible albeit unlikely.

 

So for now, she is still in a secure MH unit. We don't really know what comes next but to watch someone you have loved from a child to become this kind of "demon", is emotionally indescribable.

 

It's a struggle and more so as I (we) get older and less able to step in. 

 

I guess we just have to hand the majority of her life over to the professionals. Not that I have much faith in that prospect.

So sorry to hear that and I can’t imagine what that’s like to be going through. Think everyone myself included are going through struggles. But just wanted to say I’m around if you needed to chat anytime

[spacemunky]

5 hours ago, Parafox said:

My daughter who I have spoken about often on here has now been further diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia.

 

There's now way back from this and her life will likely be a roller coaster of sectioning, release into the community, sectioned again and so on.

 

It's heart-breaking to look at the photos we have of her as a child, generally happy yet somehow sad behind the eyes, who we knew had difficulties but never thought she'd be destined to have these MH struggles which we know now will never end for her.

 

For several years she lived pretty independently, had a flat she was proud of, had a companion cat she still loves dearly and was outwardly, doing well.

 

We used to go on weekly shopping trips me and her, dad and daughter together, a coffee and cake or maybe a cooked breakfast. A chat about stuff. She always said she was proud of me being a paramedic and she wanted to do good as well. She worked as a volunteer in a nearby charity shop and a wellbeing cafe for a while.

 

Then over the last few years everything started to go wrong for her, threats to the neighbours, thinking they were breaking into her flat when she was asleep and damaging or stealing her belongings, serious self harm, serious threats to others, outbursts of anger, paranoid thinking and so on. And now were where we're at.

 

We can't have direct contact because of the threat she poses because she hates us and wants us dead and has said she'll stab us if we ever go near her again and in a paranoid schizophrenic phase that's not impossible albeit unlikely.

 

So for now, she is still in a secure MH unit. We don't really know what comes next but to watch someone you have loved from a child to become this kind of "demon", is emotionally indescribable.

 

It's a struggle and more so as I (we) get older and less able to step in. 

 

I guess we just have to hand the majority of her life over to the professionals. Not that I have much faith in that prospect.

I can't imagine what's that like for you as a parent.

 

Thoughts with you and your family.