Depression

[Manini]

Some really good people on this forum. Thank you x 

[urban.spaceman]

2 hours ago, lifted*fox said:

Urm, I got people on here PMing me all sorts of love and I can only thank you for it. It means a lot. I'm ok and when I get time to reply back properly to you all I will. 

 

Thank you x

 

34 minutes ago, Manini said:

Some really good people on this forum. Thank you x 

This is the best thread on the forum with the best people on it too. The amount of times I’ve had a struggle and people on here have just been there to understand, not judge and not just reply to your message with encouragement but also send you a personal message with genuine concern and warmth is incredible. You know who you are too. 

[FoxesDeb]

4 hours ago, lifted*fox said:

Urm, I got people on here PMing me all sorts of love and I can only thank you for it. It means a lot. I'm ok and when I get time to reply back properly to you all I will. 

 

Thank you x

Glad you're around, I was ready to make @Izzy keep his word ? Don't put yourself under any pressure to reply, I'm fairly certain those of us who messaged aren't expecting it. Just looking after our own. 

[lifted*fox]

11 hours ago, FoxesDeb said:

Glad you're around, I was ready to make @Izzy keep his word ? Don't put yourself under any pressure to reply, I'm fairly certain those of us who messaged aren't expecting it. Just looking after our own. 

 

Thanks Debs. The PM you sent was very honest and really resonated with me right now. I think you might understand where I'm at, although my situation has some unique differences which I just can't begin to explain to most people. 

 

I'm doing OK. Trying to cut down on the xanax / weed / whisky numbing of the mind and started to add yoga and weights to the routine so hopefully start feeling better soon. 

 

Thanks for being there x

[HighPeakFox]

I'm not a chemist or a biologist, nor do I know xanax, but I cannot imagine that holy trinity mentioned above combines well  

 

Take care @lifted*fox

[lifted*fox]

33 minutes ago, HighPeakFox said:

I'm not a chemist or a biologist, nor do I know xanax, but I cannot imagine that holy trinity mentioned above combines well  

 

Take care @lifted*fox

 

Urm, xanax is basically anti-depressant benzo (same family as valium) which is very calming and reduces stress and panic. Mix with weed and alcohol and its euphoric and makes shit plastic garden chairs feel like the throne of Kings. It's addictive stuff though, not available without script here but can buy as much as you want from Cambodia. 

 

I can see how people end up addicted. I'm trying to keep a lid on it lol. 

Edited 13 April 2019 by lifted*fox

[Costock_Fox]

12 hours ago, lifted*fox said:

 

Urm, xanax is basically anti-depressant benzo (same family as valium) which is very calming and reduces stress and panic. Mix with weed and alcohol and its euphoric and makes shit plastic garden chairs feel like the throne of Kings. It's addictive stuff though, not available without script here but can buy as much as you want from Cambodia. 

 

I can see how people end up addicted. I'm trying to keep a lid on it lol. 

I was shocked when I was in Cambodia that you can buy stuff with no prescription over there. Granted mine was only an inhaler after I had somehow lost 3 in a week there.

 

Where abouts are you/have you been over there?

[lcfcsnow]

I’m single, in my mid 30s and don’t have many friends, not that go out as they are in relationships now. I don’t have confidence and I don’t see how I can be happy like they are, I’ve tried dating sites but I’m not attractive enough to get a chance and the few times o have I’ve messed up as I am rubbish with those I don’t know. I find it hard to connect with others.

I’ve gone out on my own 3 times in the last 3 months on my own as there’s no other alternative, but when I do that I probably just look like the loner I am. Not sure what else to do, accept this is what’s meant to be maybe.

[Costock_Fox]

17 minutes ago, lcfcsnow said:

I’m single, in my mid 30s and don’t have many friends, not that go out as they are in relationships now. I don’t have confidence and I don’t see how I can be happy like they are, I’ve tried dating sites but I’m not attractive enough to get a chance and the few times o have I’ve messed up as I am rubbish with those I don’t know. I find it hard to connect with others.

I’ve gone out on my own 3 times in the last 3 months on my own as there’s no other alternative, but when I do that I probably just look like the loner I am. Not sure what else to do, accept this is what’s meant to be maybe.

I’m sure all of that isn’t true mate but it sounds like you need to do something to make you feel good about yourself again. What do you enjoy doing?

[lcfcsnow]

7 minutes ago, Costock_Fox said:

I’m sure all of that isn’t true mate but it sounds like you need to do something to make you feel good about yourself again. What do you enjoy doing?

I don’t have any friends to share anything with or get used to social situations. I play 5 a side most weeks but I’m not exactly friends with them, I just turn up, play and leave. There isn’t much I have in common with anyone ?

[lifted*fox]

I'll have a beer with you mate and a game of pool or summit if you're up for it. I'm shit so don't worry about that. How old are you? 

[Costock_Fox]

15 minutes ago, lcfcsnow said:

I don’t have any friends to share anything with or get used to social situations. I play 5 a side most weeks but I’m not exactly friends with them, I just turn up, play and leave. There isn’t much I have in common with anyone ?

I’m probably quite similar on occasions and struggle to socialise at times so I understand that. I was asking about what you like because if you find clubs or like minded people who share your interests then you might connect better with them than people like the type you play football with and get your confidence back.

[lcfcsnow]

15 minutes ago, lifted*fox said:

I'll have a beer with you mate and a game of pool or summit if you're up for it. I'm shit so don't worry about that. How old are you? 

34, can’t be worse than me 

[lcfcsnow]

7 minutes ago, Costock_Fox said:

I’m probably quite similar on occasions and struggle to socialise at times so I understand that. I was asking about what you like because if you find clubs or like minded people who share your interests then you might connect better with them than people like the type you play football with and get your confidence back.

I used to go out occasionally, 3/4 times a year but now I don’t, for above reasons. Honestly I don’t like clubs, I prefer seeing bands but I have no one to see bands with either

[Costock_Fox]

1 minute ago, lcfcsnow said:

I used to go out occasionally, 3/4 times a year but now I don’t, for above reasons. Honestly I don’t like clubs, I prefer seeing bands but I have no one to see bands with either

I don’t mean clubs as in nightclubs, I mean clubs as in like sports or interest type clubs . I ****ing hate going clubbing.

[lifted*fox]

4 minutes ago, lcfcsnow said:

34, can’t be worse than me 

34 too mate.

 

Up to you, I'm about if you want. 

[Manini]

Went to the pub tonight with my mates to watch the Leeds game. Stayed off the Ale and I feel great (by no way was I trying to portray myself as an addict etc, I just felt things sliding). Might be insignificant to some but I feel good tonight. I feel like I’ve taken a positive step and proved to myself I can do it when I want to. Feel like there’s a bit to go, especially after a bad day/week, but it’s reassuring to me. Thanks for your advice guys x 

Edited 13 April 2019 by Manini

[lcfcsnow]

2 minutes ago, lifted*fox said:

34 too mate.

 

Up to you, I'm about if you want. 

Would be good yeah

 

[Manini]

33 minutes ago, lcfcsnow said:

I don’t have any friends to share anything with or get used to social situations. I play 5 a side most weeks but I’m not exactly friends with them, I just turn up, play and leave. There isn’t much I have in common with anyone ?

I’ve said the same to Daz in the past when he’s been in a rut, and I’ll say the same to you, I don’t live Leicester way now unfortunately but if i’m ever back home i’d love to spend some time with some fellow foxes, so I’ll let you know. Being ostracised to the north makes me miss being able to talk about the bad days, and that’s my favourite thing as a life long cynic 

[stripeyfox]

10 hours ago, lcfcsnow said:

I’m single, in my mid 30s and don’t have many friends, not that go out as they are in relationships now. I don’t have confidence and I don’t see how I can be happy like they are, I’ve tried dating sites but I’m not attractive enough to get a chance and the few times o have I’ve messed up as I am rubbish with those I don’t know. I find it hard to connect with others.

I’ve gone out on my own 3 times in the last 3 months on my own as there’s no other alternative, but when I do that I probably just look like the loner I am. Not sure what else to do, accept this is what’s meant to be maybe.

I know what you mean. When you're around that age, lots of your mates are getting married and "settling down" and your old social groups change somewhat. Going out on your own is all well and good but it's not easy to meet people on your own. 

 

If I were single again then pubs and clubs is probably not where I'd invest too much time looking for friends and potential dates. I was never overly successful in that regard anyway if you know what I mean. Try and find things you are interested in and look for local groups. Much better chance of finding people who like what you like.

 

You don't need to be supremely confident to be happy. You just need to meet the right person in the right place. 

[stripeyfox]

9 hours ago, Manini said:

Went to the pub tonight with my mates to watch the Leeds game. Stayed off the Ale and I feel great (by no way was I trying to portray myself as an addict etc, I just felt things sliding). Might be insignificant to some but I feel good tonight. I feel like I’ve taken a positive step and proved to myself I can do it when I want to. Feel like there’s a bit to go, especially after a bad day/week, but it’s reassuring to me. Thanks for your advice guys x 

every small step is a good step if it's in the right direction mate.

[stripeyfox]

Foxes Talk social meet up group ? Is there one? Could there be one?

 

[lifted*fox]

10 hours ago, lcfcsnow said:

Would be good yeah

 

Well, whenever you want then fella. Free all next week. Let me know when. I have a rileys card unless you know anywhere else / close to you. I have no car so bus / walk, etc.

[lifted*fox]

Also, I can recommend that anyone feeling like they want to jump off a ****ing cliff right now - get a yoga mat and a couple of bricks. Stick mat in front of TV, find one of hundreds of beginner 30 days plans on YouTube and follow it. It really helps you get out of bed, get free of mind and focus on having a positive day. 

Edited 14 April 2019 by lifted*fox

[lcfcsnow]

2 hours ago, stripeyfox said:

Try and find things you are interested in and look for local groups

How do I become aware of certain groups?