Depression

[lifted*fox]

Still as **** for me but that's probably the two vallies and the weed oi oi 

[lifted*fox]

Anyone in the Oadby / Wigston area who's struggling with mental health and wants to look to fitness as a solution then please drop me a PM and let me recommend my PT. he's a top guy, the gym is ****ing great and full of nice people and it's really given me something to focus on. I'd love to pay him back by passing on a few referrals. Even if you don't stick with it, just have a free chat and a look at what you could be achieving with your body, even if your mind ain't all too good. 

 

Peace x

[Izzy]

1 hour ago, lifted*fox said:

Anyone in the Oadby / Wigston area who's struggling with mental health and wants to look to fitness as a solution then please drop me a PM and let me recommend my PT. he's a top guy, the gym is ****ing great and full of nice people and it's really given me something to focus on. I'd love to pay him back by passing on a few referrals. Even if you don't stick with it, just have a free chat and a look at what you could be achieving with your body, even if your mind ain't all too good. 

 

Peace x

I’m in the gym smashing it right now Daz.

 

I truly believe this place (the gym) is a godsend to me and it’s no surprise that because I’m the fittest and healthiest I’ve been in a long time, I’m in the best place mentally I’ve been in a long time too.

 

There’s definitely something in this ‘healthy body, healthy mind’ malarkey 

 

Edited 20 April 2019 by Izzy

[ajthefox]

4 hours ago, Izzy said:

I’m in the gym smashing it right now Daz.

 

I truly believe this place (the gym) is a godsend to me and it’s no surprise that because I’m the fittest and healthiest I’ve been in a long time, I’m in the best place mentally I’ve been in a long time too.

 

There’s definitely something in this ‘healthy body, healthy mind’ malarkey 

 

Glad to hear things are going well for you mate!

[Buce]

4 hours ago, Izzy said:

I’m in the gym smashing it right now Daz.

 

I truly believe this place (the gym) is a godsend to me and it’s no surprise that because I’m the fittest and healthiest I’ve been in a long time, I’m in the best place mentally I’ve been in a long time too.

 

There’s definitely something in this ‘healthy body, healthy mind’ malarkey 

 

 

On more than one level too. The sense of achievement is great for one’s self esteem, and the endorphins are great stress busters. 

[lifted*fox]

jesus ****ing christ. 

 

highs to lows atm. 

 

felt great earlier. feel like destroying myself tonight. 

 

i don't want any of this ffs. 

[HighPeakFox]

23 minutes ago, lifted*fox said:

jesus ****ing christ. 

 

highs to lows atm. 

 

felt great earlier. feel like destroying myself tonight. 

 

i don't want any of this ffs. 

Try 21 days clean - they say it takes that long to form a habit.

 

PM me if you need an ear.

[lifted*fox]

1 minute ago, HighPeakFox said:

Try 21 days clean - they say it takes that long to form a habit.

 

 PM me if you need an ear.

 

i can't do it man. 

 

my clean mind is absolutely killing me. 

 

numbing it every night is the only thing that stops me from going off the ****ing rails, I'm sure.

 

i try, i really do, but it's too easy to take a couple of pills, hit the weed and bottle a little bit and just feel - back to zero. 

 

i know it's not helping in the long run, but it's like a reset button that puts me to sleep and I try again the next day. 

 

I'll PM you if I need to x

[Izzy]

32 minutes ago, lifted*fox said:

jesus ****ing christ. 

 

highs to lows atm. 

 

felt great earlier. feel like destroying myself tonight. 

 

i don't want any of this ffs. 

 

3 minutes ago, lifted*fox said:

 

i can't do it man. 

 

my clean mind is absolutely killing me. 

 

numbing it every night is the only thing that stops me from going off the ****ing rails, I'm sure.

 

i try, i really do, but it's too easy to take a couple of pills, hit the weed and bottle a little bit and just feel - back to zero. 

 

i know it's not helping in the long run, but it's like a reset button that puts me to sleep and I try again the next day. 

 

I'll PM you if I need to x

Daz, I've said many times on here that "We're living in the feeling of our thinking - 100% of the time". You felt great earlier because you were having positive and empowering thoughts (the gym, great people, something to focus on etc.)

 

Now, you feel like destroying yourself and that's also coming from thought (negative ones). 

 

Notice what you're thinking right now that's making you feel low... (and just because it's a thought, that doesn't mean it's reality or the truth)

 

my clean mind is absolutely killing me. Nope - you just think it is.

 

numbing it every night is the only thing that stops me from going off the ****ing rails, I'm sure. Nope - you just think it is.

 

it's too easy to take a couple of pills, hit the weed and bottle a little bit and just feel - back to zero.  Nope - you just think it is.

 

I wish I could explain this better and I'm probably not helping one bit. It's so difficult to articulate what I mean through a keyboard 

 

[lifted*fox]

pm'd izzy

 

 

[whoareyaaa]

41 minutes ago, lifted*fox said:

 

i can't do it man. 

 

my clean mind is absolutely killing me. 

 

numbing it every night is the only thing that stops me from going off the ****ing rails, I'm sure.

 

i try, i really do, but it's too easy to take a couple of pills, hit the weed and bottle a little bit and just feel - back to zero. 

 

i know it's not helping in the long run, but it's like a reset button that puts me to sleep and I try again the next day. 

 

I'll PM you if I need to x

I presume your single, I think you need to get into a relationship its a tough world you need a soul mate as corny as it sounds, easier said than done though.

 

That would cut out a lot of the problems your having I've been in a similar position (still am kind off)

[lifted*fox]

Just now, whoareyaaa said:

I presume your single, I think you need to get into a relationship its a tough world you need a soul mate as corny as it sounds, easier said than done though.

 

 That would cut out a lot of the problems your having I've been in a similar position (still am kind off)

 

married. currently being a selfish cvnt and doing everything possible / can do to **** it up.

 

close though. 

[what?]

I'm not sure I have anything I can add to help because I know what it's like to feel that way and I know how the mind can just be impervious to any hopeful words when all it wants to do is sit and stew in numbness and wait for everything to be over. But I will say one thing, it might be the sort of thing that only sounds real in hindsight and not in that moment, but the times I've been down there, when I was my my very worst, I was utterly incapable of imagining any future in which things got better. My wildest fantasies were all about dying in a way that caused the minimum amount of pain to my family. I was totally unable to form any idea of a future that was anything other than hell. And I know that I'm a relatively smart and realistic person despite my mental health, so I was convinced I was right.

 

But I was wrong. The life I have now is better--not perfect but not the hell I was in--but the crucial part was that it was possible. I was so ****ing sure that anything good was impossible and I thought I was so ****ing smart and that I'd considered all the angles. But I was just ****ing depressed. There's a Chomsky quote that isn't actually about mental health but when I heard it it totally reminded me of that feeling and I think the sentiment can be applied to depression, particularly the first sentence. 

 

"If you assume that there's no hope, you guarantee that there will be no hope. If you assume that there is an instinct for freedom, that there are opportunities to change things, there's a chance you may contribute to making a better world."

 

I dunno, I would totally understand if that just bounced off you though tbh. Hearing someone say that to me back then probably wouldn't have done shit. I would have just told myself I was different, that there really was no way out for me. But I was wrong so. Good luck mate and solidarity. However bad it is now there really could be better days ahead, at least try and hold on to the possibility of that. 

[Buce]

1 hour ago, lifted*fox said:

 

i can't do it man. 

 

my clean mind is absolutely killing me. 

 

numbing it every night is the only thing that stops me from going off the ****ing rails, I'm sure.

 

i try, i really do, but it's too easy to take a couple of pills, hit the weed and bottle a little bit and just feel - back to zero. 

 

i know it's not helping in the long run, but it's like a reset button that puts me to sleep and I try again the next day. 

 

I'll PM you if I need to x

5

 

The thing is, bro, whenever you tell yourself, "I can't do this", it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy; conversely, if you tell yourself, "I can do this", the battle is already half won.

 

All of our greatest achievements begin with that simple statement of self-belief.

Edited 20 April 2019 by Buce

[Grebfromgrebland]

One thing I have observed with myself and my friends is that if you're depressed and smoking weed then you're more likely to never shake off that depression.

 

Weed and depression and anxiety go hand in hand.

[lifted*fox]

Weed isn't a problem for me tbh. It's one thing that helps me switch off. I don't suffer with weed related paranoia or anxiety. I can pick it up and put it down at a moments notice. Just been away for 4 weeks travel and haven't touched it, felt fine. Had a little bit since being back and still fine. 

 

Ideally want to reach a life scenario where I just don't want it at all. That's all it is - a want. I guess I'm struggling with getting things set out but I'm not depressed, just frustrated right now. If that makes sense. All of the hard shit I'm going through is my route to avoiding depression. It's just a ****ing struggle getting there. 

[String fellow]

I think that depression is closely associated with other aspects of the mind such as intelligence and whether the person is naturally optimistic or pessimistic. The sad truth is that if one has the 'right' combination of these characteristics, depression will almost inevitably appear and is something that will then never really go away, no matter how much therapy one has or what drugs are taken. Also, the brain learns how to be depressed, and unlearning it is far from easy.

[lifted*fox]

you know you've really ****ed everyone off when you don't get a single egg on easter sunday.

 

real feels m8s. real. 

[Costock_Fox]

9 minutes ago, lifted*fox said:

you know you've really ****ed everyone off when you don't get a single egg on easter sunday.

 

real feels m8s. real. 

90% of FT panics and messages their entire family apologising for being a willy puller.

[Wymsey]

Always read this thread with very much pleasure and interest, as there are people out there (on here in this instance) who are willing to help others in 'crisis' thoughts/situations - even though they have no personal connection with them.

 

Possibly one of the most thought-provoking and eye-opening threads on General Chat.

 

[LcfcOk]

Hi guys, 

I’m knew around here. And well, I’m a young man who goes to college, I don’t really think many people would realise, from the outside I appear outgoing. But I suffer from mild depression and have been doing so from around late January time. It’s tough, I feel isolated and cut off from the world. Things have improved slightly over the last few months with gym work and stuff, and I do know ways to help manage it. However, it’s hard, I still find it a challenge to combat these dark thoughts. My mates do know, however, I feel pretty distant from my mates as they do host stuff without me, eg a party tonight (which I wasn’t invited too) and stuff like when they go on nights out. Doesn’t really feel like I fit in. Ah well that was a load of waffle

[Countryfox]

12 hours ago, Wymeswold fox said:

Always read this thread with very much pleasure and interest, as there are people out there (on here in this instance) who are willing to help others in 'crisis' thoughts/situations - even though they have no personal connection with them.

 

Possibly one of the most thought-provoking and eye-opening threads on General Chat.

 

 

Well said Wymes.

[ozleicester]

10 hours ago, LcfcOk said:

Hi guys, 

I’m knew around here. And well, I’m a young man who goes to college, I don’t really think many people would realise, from the outside I appear outgoing. But I suffer from mild depression and have been doing so from around late January time. It’s tough, I feel isolated and cut off from the world. Things have improved slightly over the last few months with gym work and stuff, and I do know ways to help manage it. However, it’s hard, I still find it a challenge to combat these dark thoughts. My mates do know, however, I feel pretty distant from my mates as they do host stuff without me, eg a party tonight (which I wasn’t invited too) and stuff like when they go on nights out. Doesn’t really feel like I fit in. Ah well that was a load of waffle

Hey mate, make sure you talk to anyone you can, GPs, friends, family, its difficult i know, but letting people know where you are at can really help in the future

 

[Buce]

11 hours ago, LcfcOk said:

Hi guys, 

I’m knew around here. And well, I’m a young man who goes to college, I don’t really think many people would realise, from the outside I appear outgoing. But I suffer from mild depression and have been doing so from around late January time. It’s tough, I feel isolated and cut off from the world. Things have improved slightly over the last few months with gym work and stuff, and I do know ways to help manage it. However, it’s hard, I still find it a challenge to combat these dark thoughts. My mates do know, however, I feel pretty distant from my mates as they do host stuff without me, eg a party tonight (which I wasn’t invited too) and stuff like when they go on nights out. Doesn’t really feel like I fit in. Ah well that was a load of waffle

 

Welcome, mate. ?

 

A couple of things:

 

Never feel apologetic for ‘waffling’ on here - saying what’s on your mind without fear of judgement is what the thread’s all about. 

 

Top marks for hitting the gym; exercise is the best weapon you have in the fight against depression. If you can add healthy eating to that, so much the better. 

[lifted*fox]

typed a whole thing out, can't post it. too shit. feeling shit. **** sake.