True happiness? Is it possible?

[Izzy]

43 minutes ago, GaelicFox said:

True happiness is possible 

 

it’s a fixed state of mind and a lack of Mind deviation 

 

issue is very few (no one on this site) has the ability to reach that 

 

but I believe some very structured religious orders have managed to achieve it 

Some would say that....”everyone is already enlightened” 

[SpacedX]

59 minutes ago, GaelicFox said:

It’s a fixed state of mind and a lack of Mind deviation 

 

issue is very few (no one on this site) has the ability to reach that 

 

Whatever became of Tincy?

[Suzie the Fox]

Very sad to read this post and hard to know what to say without being in your position. 

 

The really sad part for me is that many people find true happiness in helping others which seems like it doesnt apply to yourself, with the job you are in. But you should take a look in the mirror and say to yourself what a good thing you have done with your life. The raising and continuing attention to your daughter and the job area that you chose to take. For this alone you are truly a strong and special person - never forget that! 

 

With regards to true happiness, well that is an individual issue and probably something thats embedded into your genes to a certain extent. My dad (rip) was always the life & soul of any party and i dont think i ever saw him not 100% happy. To a certain extent i have taken after him and try to always look on the bright side (check my posts in the LCFC forum - apart from our game on Friday, they were negative.) But i always try to look for the positive of any situation, even the real bad ones. That way you always have something to smile about. 

 

As others have suggested, try to make time for you, join a club / play a sport or even try looking for a forum where there are people in a similar situation you can talk too. Religeon is also something that perhaps could help. Not that i am a believer but there are millions of people who do find solitude from God. 

[Parafox]

One of things I take from this FT forum and the reason I'm still active on it, is the support and helpful advice that people offer to others that they don't know and have often never met. It's gratifying and encouraging to know that there are people here that are willing to think about another persons problems and give a reasoned and considered response. Even when a piece of advice is in response to someone else's problem, that in itself will branch out to help others.

In my opinion, not that I have much experience, FT is one of the best, if not THE BEST, local football/general chat forums on the web. Awards should be... well... awarded. 

Mark, take a bow 

[SystonFox]

1 hour ago, Line-X said:

Whatever became of Tincy?

@Turbogre turbo shandy Tince

[Chico1958]

 

Try reading Ed Diener books about Well Being he seems to have studied "Happiness" for a while

 

For myself, I have Highs and Low's like most of us.

 

But I was once given a bit of good advice, you cannot alter the past, concentrate your efforts on the future.

 

Which is basically what the quote below says:

 

 

Plus, if you can make others happy, you will get inner happiness.

 

Ps: I really hope it works out for anyone on here that feels low at any point in their life.

 

[Parafox]

49 minutes ago, Suzie the Fox said:

Very sad to read this post and hard to know what to say without being in your position. 

 

The really sad part for me is that many people find true happiness in helping others which seems like it doesnt apply to yourself, with the job you are in. But you should take a look in the mirror and say to yourself what a good thing you have done with your life. The raising and continuing attention to your daughter and the job area that you chose to take. For this alone you are truly a strong and special person - never forget that! 

 

With regards to true happiness, well that is an individual issue and probably something thats embedded into your genes to a certain extent. My dad (rip) was always the life & soul of any party and i dont think i ever saw him not 100% happy. To a certain extent i have taken after him and try to always look on the bright side (check my posts in the LCFC forum - apart from our game on Friday, they were negative.) But i always try to look for the positive of any situation, even the real bad ones. That way you always have something to smile about. 

 

As others have suggested, try to make time for you, join a club / play a sport or even try looking for a forum where there are people in a similar situation you can talk too. Religeon is also something that perhaps could help. Not that i am a believer but there are millions of people who do find solitude from God. 

I am proud of the job I do (I'm no hero but thanks for those that suggested I am, I'm just a bloke doing his job, like anyone else) and I do get  a real sense of gratitude from the countless strangers I've come across in very personal and distressing situations that have depended on me and my colleagues to be there in their time of need, no matter how inappropriate their 999 call might have been. I've always gone to work thinking "people call us because they're in a crisis of some sort, different for everyone but nonetheless a crisis at that time". 

I leave work feeling like I've given all my emotion and feelings into caring about these strangers and I have nothing left at the end of my shift for my family and the difficulties that my unwell daughter brings to me and that is draining, emotionally and mentally. Maybe I'm burned out lol.

What has now changed is that, after 32 years as a stretcher monkey, I have semi-retired. I can do shifts that need cover but I can choose. No more nights.. hoo-****ing-rah. And I can now cover events such as LCFC home game, Tigers, other events such as Diwali (brilliant, so much love and free food lol).

Onward and upward...

[Izzy]

3 minutes ago, Parafox said:

Maybe I'm burned out lol.

[GaelicFox]

4 hours ago, FIF said:

I thought religion was brainwashing. I guess that can help you believe you are happy.

Is there a difference between True Happiness and totally brainwashed into utopia ? 

 

Possibly not if you really think about it 

[Trav Le Bleu]

4 hours ago, FIF said:

I thought religion was brainwashing. I guess that can help you believe you are happy.

If you believe you are happy, then you are happy. 

 

It's like the Matrix. I liked the film, the first one at least, but I never understood the concept. Live free in a world that has totally gone to pot, or live in a world that is a dream that is much better. Erm, give me a first class ticket to unreality there mate!

 

Have you never woken from a dream that was so good you wished you could go back into it? I know I have. Do I get unhappy about that? I suppose I might be wistfully melancholic for a few hours, but then I realise that, you know what, it was a dream and what I have is really good, though I don't have much.

 

Maybe it's because I'm religious and incapable of thinking for myself. 

[Trav Le Bleu]

2 hours ago, Chico1958 said:

 

Try reading Ed Diener books about Well Being he seems to have studied "Happiness" for a while

 

For myself, I have Highs and Low's like most of us.

 

But I was once given a bit of good advice, you cannot alter the past, concentrate your efforts on the future.

 

Which is basically what the quote below says:

 

 

Plus, if you can make others happy, you will get inner happiness.

 

Ps: I really hope it works out for anyone on here that feels low at any point in their life.

 

I read your advice and then looked at your avatar.

 

[RODNEY FERNIO]

Surely every poster on this forum experienced true happiness in May 2016 ..................... I know I did.

[Izzy]

1 minute ago, RODNEY FERNIO said:

Surely every poster on this forum experienced true happiness in May 2016 ..................... I know I did.

Aye, I'm sure we all did at the time. And I wonder how long that happiness lasted for us all? A few days? A couple of weeks? Maybe even months? 

 

I think what Para is describing in his OP is that longer term, sustainable, deep rooted, peace of mind type happiness that doesn't rely on outside influences to make us happy.

 

I reckon we all tend to live our lives mainly 'Outside - In' which means we let outside influences and events dictate how we feel. But it can't be the event that makes us feel as certain way because we all experience life differently. It's our thinking about the event which makes us feel a certain way, not the event itself.

 

What makes you happy in life might not make me happy and visa versa, so happiness has to come from within would be my take on it ...

[Chico1958]

7 hours ago, Trav Le Bleu said:

I read your advice and then looked at your avatar.

 

Not sure I understand Trav........... Like to explain   ?    

[Realist Guy In The Room]

No it isn’t.

 

Accept that and you have half a chance.

[DANGEROUS TIGER]

Life is hopefully a long, long road, and it contains countless elements feelings created by events. I do not believe true happiness can survive, 100% completely.

[Smudge]

@Parafox

 

If it's any consequence Para, I don't think happiness is a constant in the human psyche.

We are problem solving animals and if we don't have any we tend to go and look for them.

I have never met anyone who is always happy and if I did I would try and fix that

Those who seemingly have everything tend to have just as many issues to deal with as the next man

As witnessed on here, criticism and moaning is a constant which aint a happy state.

So if it's any consolation, you're no different to the rest of us, perhaps you dwell on it more and fixing that bit might help.