Homelessness

[Nick]

Hey AF, how have you got on? We are all thinking about you buddy. Let us know if you need anything we can help with. Stay safe. 

[Anonymous fox]

5 minutes ago, Nick said:

Hey AF, how have you got on? We are all thinking about you buddy. Let us know if you need anything we can help with. Stay safe. 

Thanks to this amazing place things are looking a lot brighter.  I've got viewings tomorrow for shared accommodation and will be able to put down a deposit if successful. Thanks mate

[Nick]

Just now, Anonymous fox said:

Thanks to this amazing place things are looking a lot brighter.  I've got viewings tomorrow for shared accommodation and will be able to put down a deposit if successful. Thanks mate

That’s good news. I’ve been where you temporarily are many years ago in different circumstances as a teenager. DM me anytime if you’d like to talk. Just get somewhere tomorrow no matter how temporary, let me know how you get on please buddy. 

[Anonymous fox]

2 minutes ago, Nick said:

That’s good news. I’ve been where you temporarily are many years ago in different circumstances as a teenager. DM me anytime if you’d like to talk. Just get somewhere tomorrow no matter how temporary, let me know how you get on please buddy. 

Really appreciate that mate. Yeah I'm not gonna be picky whatsoever, just needs to be somewhere to rest my head at night. I will keep you posted pal

[Heathrow fox]

Horrible situation to be in.At least you have a job,which will become more important than ever.Without knowing yr financial situation I would take anything you can to give you a bit of breathing space.I’m presuming you have very recently experienced a shit storm in yr personal life.Maybe obvious to point out but if you rough it tonight,keep away from grass.You’ll get bit to buggery.

 

[Anonymous fox]

1 minute ago, Heathrow fox said:

Horrible situation to be in.At least you have a job,which will become more important than ever.Without knowing yr financial situation I would take anything you can to give you a bit of breathing space.I’m presuming you have very recently experienced a shit storm in yr personal life.Maybe obvious to point out but if you rough it tonight,keep away from grass.You’ll get bit to buggery.

 

Yeah I've been desperate to stay close to work and my kids. I could go and stay with family back in Leicester but would only create longer term problems for me. Yeah its a relationship breakup which was entirely my fault 

 

Yeah I'm already covered in them as it is haha

[Dr The Singh]

Can't advise on your situation but all Sikh Temples (Gurdwara) offer free food for all during the day to all people, there is no religious requirements.

[Anonymous fox]

3 minutes ago, Dr The Singh said:

Can't advise on your situation but all Sikh Temples (Gurdwara) offer free food for all during the day to all people, there is no religious requirements.

Thank you.  I genuinely have no idea if their are such places in Norfolk 

[Dr The Singh]

3 minutes ago, Anonymous fox said:

Thank you.  I genuinely have no idea if their are such places in Norfolk 

I googled it:

 

https://g.co/kgs/qVgYKs

If your close I'm sure they will help.

 

[Leicester_Loyal]

1 hour ago, Dr The Singh said:

Can't advise on your situation but all Sikh Temples (Gurdwara) offer free food for all during the day to all people, there is no religious requirements.

You're not bad you Sikhs are you Thoroughly decent human beings

[UpTheLeagueFox]

Best of luck AF. Well done for reaching out. Some good eggs on this site offering advice. Hope you get sorted x

[tom27111]

I see others have suggested it, but the Airbnb is probably the easiest and cheapest option.

 

I had some serious problems myself a few years back and I did that for a few weeks.

 

No deposit and if you speak to the landlord, they're happy to reduce the rate for guaranteed income. 

 

Think I managed to get a room for 12 quid a night. 

 

Best of luck mate, don't suffer in silence, there's some amazing people in here to offer advice and encouragement.

 

Things will get better.

[Buce]

8 hours ago, Leicester_Loyal said:

You're not bad you Sikhs are you Thoroughly decent human beings

 

It's not just the food thing either.

 

When I was backpacking in some of the more dangerous parts of India, I always tried to stay in a Sikh village as it's part of their religious obligations to give protection to strangers and travellers.

[Leicester_Loyal]

1 hour ago, Buce said:

 

It's not just the food thing either.

 

When I was backpacking in some of the more dangerous parts of India, I always tried to stay in a Sikh village as it's part of their religious obligations to give protection to strangers and travellers.

You've probably written about that before in other threads, if so, send me a link to it, would love to read about your journey and some experiences.

[MonmoreStef]

I was amazed how easily someone could become homeless a few years back. A lad I knew through a good mate had an absolute massive fall.  Got in an altercation at work with a customer and was sent home, and later sacked.  Gets home that day only to find his Mrs in bed with some bloke whilst the kids were at school. In the space of less than an hour his World was turned upside down. Two weeks later he’s homeless and sleeping in the roughest hostels he could imagine surrounded mainly by seasoned homeless people in a system he had no clue about. The council didn’t really care about him and there was no way he was going to get a flat through them. The whole story showed me how vulnerable we all are without sometimes realising it. He eventually came out the other side I must add but those few months must have been hell for him. 

[stretch1965]

34 minutes ago, Leicester_Loyal said:

You've probably written about that before in other threads, if so, send me a link to it, would love to read about your journey and some experiences.

#Buce, would also like to hear as I was going  back packing around India in March last year but didnt for obvious reasons.

[Buce]

5 hours ago, Leicester_Loyal said:

You've probably written about that before in other threads, if so, send me a link to it, would love to read about your journey and some experiences.

 

Pretty sure I haven't - maybe in passing.

 

I've spent lockdown working on my memoirs; I have considered posting some extracts on here, but I'm yet to be convinced that's it's a good idea.

 

4 hours ago, stretch1965 said:

#Buce, would also like to hear as I was going  back packing around India in March last year but didnt for obvious reasons.

 

I'd be happy to offer any advice you might need when you get to go, but it was forty years ago so I'm not sure it would be entirely relevant.

Edited 20 July 2021 by Buce

[Guest Basildon Fox]

On 19/07/2021 at 12:42, Anonymous fox said:

HI,

 

I'm a regular poster on this forum but have decided to create another account to remain anonymous through embarrassment mainly. 

 

Never thought I'd be saying this bit tonight I prepare myself for my first night of homelessness. Its self inflicted and I do have options to go back to Leicester to stay with family but that would mean me losing my job which will only create further problems. I also want to stay where I am to be closer to my 2 children. 

I've been searching for shared accommodation but so far nothing is happening too quick. 

 

Has anybody on here ever slept through and could maybe pass on some words of wisdom or anything 

 

Thanks 

Get yourself a tent and go camping for a few months. Join camping and caravan club and it will cost you £12-15 a night. They have showers and stuff and is perfectly safe. 

 

May give you some breathing space. Failing that if you have a car you can kip in a services and use the facilities for £15-£20 per night. 

 

I did camping for about 9 months a couple of years ago. It helped me no end. 

 

Best of luck. 

[Steve_Guppy_Left_Foot]

Horrible reading the opening post of this thread but great to see all the great advise and encouragement. Can't really add anything myself other than to say best of luck and hope it all works out. 

[Leicester_Loyal]

3 hours ago, Zaphod Beeblebrox said:

Get yourself a tent and go camping for a few months. Join camping and caravan club and it will cost you £12-15 a night. They have showers and stuff and is perfectly safe. 

 

May give you some breathing space. Failing that if you have a car you can kip in a services and use the facilities for £15-£20 per night. 

 

I did camping for about 9 months a couple of years ago. It helped me no end. 

 

Best of luck. 

Never even thought of ths, could be a great idea for 3-6 months or so, keeps you near your kids, keeps you in a job and keeps you smelling fresh and clean on a daily basis.

[Dr The Singh]

Anybody heard from AF today?

[The People's Hero]

Just now, Dr The Singh said:

Anybody heard from AF today?

Update as of about 2pm:

 

 

Update!

 

This morning I have secured myself a room in a shared accommodation less than a 20 minute walk away from my workplace and train station so I can see my kids. Thanks to the unbelievable generosity on here I've been able to put down a deposit and pay a few weeks rent to see me through until payday.

 

I know I've said it already but thank you all so much for helping me to carry on

[Dr The Singh]

1 minute ago, The People's Hero said:

Update as of about 2pm:

 

 

Update!

 

This morning I have secured myself a room in a shared accommodation less than a 20 minute walk away from my workplace and train station so I can see my kids. Thanks to the unbelievable generosity on here I've been able to put down a deposit and pay a few weeks rent to see me through until payday.

 

I know I've said it already but thank you all so much for helping me to carry on

Good stuff

[Strokes]

10 hours ago, Buce said:

 

Pretty sure I haven't - maybe in passing.

 

I've spent lockdown working on my memoirs; I have considered posting some extracts on here, but I'm yet to be convinced that's it's a good idea.

 

 

I'd be happy to offer any advice you might need when you get to go, but it was forty years ago so I'm not sure it would be entirely relevant.

I’d be really happy to read them. 👍🏻

[Strokes]

Best of luck with your plight AF, I hope you can find a way to rebuild.