billabob Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Whats the hardest thing you've ever had to do? For instance i experianced mine yesterday saying goodbye to my gf as she left for university What about the rest of you?
Janx Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Always Partings... My First GF when she went to work abroad, my son on his first day at Big School Telling the VEt to inject my pussycat companion of 10 years Watching my wife in Excruciating pain, as she parted with my son.... the list does go on but I won't
Thracian Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Have my dog put down and see my father for the last time.
Daggers Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Being a Daddy and a parent, and making it look like I'm listening closely when my wife is telling me something of obscene unimportance.
The People's Hero Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Many things considering my age. I always do EVERYTHING the hard way. That's me.
BartonFox Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 This fat bird called Alison, just so my mate could dip his wick with someone even more repulsive. It was the last time I acted as his wingman.
syston_fox Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Saying goodbye to my friend who was dieing of cancer. We were all only 18 at the time and it made us all grow up so much. She found out that she had cancer when she was about 16, went through her chemo and stuff and thought she had beaten it.... but it came back, she had her arm amputated and went through more chemo but it wasnt to be. Throughout the two years she never once complained and asked why her - she was such an inspiration to us all and we'll always remember her with a smile.
Babylon Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 1) Saying goodbye to my dad as he went to hospital for what was going to be a very dangerous life saving operation on his cancer. 2) Saying goodbye to my dad as he went to hospital for his second very dangerous life saving operation on his cancer.
Matt Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Didn't have to say bye or anything never had the chance but its definelty the hardest thing i've ever had to deal with - Losing my dad, at the age of 8/9 a policeman knocking on your door on a friday night knowing your dad should have been home from work hours ago and they tell you a man has been involed in a road accident and need someone to identify the body isn't very nice and hard to understand at that age, at that age you know whats going on but can't quite understand it fully, I had to stay at home while my mum identified the body and at the time they wouldn't tell me what had happened, If it wasn't for my uncle talking my mum round i'd have never seen his body anyway, its not a nice thing to do but glad my uncle talked my mum round.
Jay Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 this seems to be a very sombre thread mine has to be the same as some others on here watching my father die after a long illness was the hardest thing I have ever had to do the worst couple of weeks of my life
Katy Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Mines similar to other people really, watching my lovely gran die an unexpectedly horrible death and not being able to do anything about it. Nearly 7 years ago and im still not over it and will probably live with it for the rest of my life. My life changed that day, I used to be a nice person but I dont think I am anymore because of that.
Durnerz Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Going to my Nan's funeral probably, as it was an unexpected death it was torture for me and the family.
shen Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Mines similar to other people really, watching my lovely gran die an unexpectedly horrible death and not being able to do anything about it. Nearly 7 years ago and im still not over it and will probably live with it for the rest of my life. My life changed that day, I used to be a nice person but I dont think I am anymore because of that. I've seen pessimism and depressing comments on these boards a lot lately, but this is way off scale!
Katy Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 I've seen pessimism and depressing comments on these boards a lot lately, but this is way off scale! Sorry but I actually think it's true, im not a horrible person, I try to be nice but I just dont think im as nice as I was
cisono Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 They say it takes 5 times to grieve for the loss of a loved one. But in some cases it may well take more. Similarly to Kayteh, I am still grieving my grandma... I saw her suffer a lot before she died. She lived with us when I was a kid and all I remember from her last two years is her sitting on the sofa, in pain, asking God to take her away. We all felt very helpless and probably secretly prayed for her wish to be granted soon (later to feel guilty about it). In the last few months of her life, one of her arms was 3 times the size of the other one and towards the end, half of her face was swollen behind recognition. This was MANY years ago and the only way I feel a little bit more detached from this is that I am even angrier about my dad's death, 7 years go. The hardest thing was leaving Italy just after Christmas that year, knowing fully well that I would not see my dad again (not alive anyway). He died just 3 weeks later. My advice to Kayteh is to focus on the good times - how many lovely experiences you shared with your beloved gran.
Katy Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 They say it takes 5 times to grieve for the loss of a loved one. But in some cases it may well take more. Similarly to Kayteh, I am still grieving my grandma... I saw her suffer a lot before she died. She lived with us when I was a kid and all I remember from her last two years is her sitting on the sofa, in pain, asking God to take her away. We all felt very helpless and probably secretly prayed for her wish to be granted soon (later to feel guilty about it). In the last few months of her life, one of her arms was 3 times the size of the other one and towards the end, half of her face was swollen behind recognition. This was MANY years ago and the only way I feel a little bit more detached from this is that I am even angrier about my dad's death, 7 years go. The hardest thing was leaving Italy just after Christmas that year, knowing fully well that I would not see my dad again (not alive anyway). He died just 3 weeks later. My advice to Kayteh is to focus on the good times - how many lovely experiences you shared with your beloved gran. Bless you. Im sorry about your dad. This is a tough thread isn't it, I guess it's become raw again for me as my other Gran died very recently.
The People's Hero Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Saying goodbye to my friend who was dieing of cancer. We were all only 18 at the time and it made us all grow up so much. She found out that she had cancer when she was about 16, went through her chemo and stuff and thought she had beaten it.... but it came back, she had her arm amputated and went through more chemo but it wasnt to be. Throughout the two years she never once complained and asked why her - she was such an inspiration to us all and we'll always remember her with a smile. Obviously I never knew her, but I'm sure that's what she'd want mate. My best friend lost his brother through cancer about a year and a half ago. One of the things which has hoped him to cope is that we have tried to do positive things in his memory. One small thing is that every year we award a trophy at our cricket club for 'fighting spirit' on or off the cricket pitch. It's in his name and my friend awards it each year. Another thing is that the charity which I mention from time to time is also in his name and is used to help those who suffer with the same illness which he suffered with (cancer). We all have our ways of coping and of course, grief is natural... it's just so sad and hard to accept when people die young.
The People's Hero Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 And Kayteh - I know it's only words but 'chin up'. Nothing wrong in grieving and having a good cry now and then.. but try to remember the good times with fondness.
Katy Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 And Kayteh - I know it's only words but 'chin up'. Nothing wrong in grieving and having a good cry now and then.. but try to remember the good times with fondness. I know, thanks Jim
Smudge Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Mines similar to other people really, watching my lovely gran die an unexpectedly horrible death and not being able to do anything about it. Nearly 7 years ago and im still not over it and will probably live with it for the rest of my life. My life changed that day, I used to be a nice person but I dont think I am anymore because of that. Geez I have lump in my throat and a tear in my eye. All I can say is that your Gran was proud of who you were and would not want you to change because she was taken from you.
Bert Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Ooh dear, what a gut wrenching thread. Kayteh, i can only echo what others have said, think off all the good times, and keep a smile on your face, your gran would've wanted you to be happy. The worst thing in my life, is by far witnessing a murder.
Sparky Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 Didn't have to say bye or anything never had the chance but its definelty the hardest thing i've ever had to deal with - Losing my dad, at the age of 8/9 a policeman knocking on your door on a friday night knowing your dad should have been home from work hours ago and they tell you a man has been involed in a road accident and need someone to identify the body isn't very nice and hard to understand at that age, at that age you know whats going on but can't quite understand it fully, I had to stay at home while my mum identified the body and at the time they wouldn't tell me what had happened, If it wasn't for my uncle talking my mum round i'd have never seen his body anyway, its not a nice thing to do but glad my uncle talked my mum round. amazing thats the exactly same story with me mate but i was 10 and it was a thursday night
shen Posted 2 October 2006 Posted 2 October 2006 The hardest thing I've ever had to do? I don't know if I'm blessed or if it's actually a bad thing, but I've not had to do many hard things in my young life yet. The one thing that stands out is breaking a persons heart. I will always feel a lot of guilt for doing that.
MeltonFox Posted 3 October 2006 Posted 3 October 2006 Didn't have to say bye or anything never had the chance but its definelty the hardest thing i've ever had to deal with - Losing my dad, at the age of 8/9 a policeman knocking on your door on a friday night knowing your dad should have been home from work hours ago and they tell you a man has been involed in a road accident and need someone to identify the body isn't very nice and hard to understand at that age, at that age you know whats going on but can't quite understand it fully, I had to stay at home while my mum identified the body and at the time they wouldn't tell me what had happened, If it wasn't for my uncle talking my mum round i'd have never seen his body anyway, its not a nice thing to do but glad my uncle talked my mum round. I cant pretend my experience was anywhere near as bad as the person receiving the news, but I've been that policeman telling a family their husband and father had been killed in an accident. Definitely the hardest thing I have ever had to do and Im pretty sure it'll stay with me forever.
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