Mee Posted 26 February 2011 Posted 26 February 2011 The druken mind says yes but the proper logical mind needs help....... It all boils down to whether... You think with your head... Or you think with your cock. DECISIONS!
Joeb.lcfc Posted 26 February 2011 Posted 26 February 2011 Go for it It may be the best decision u ever make
Tom17LCFC Posted 26 February 2011 Posted 26 February 2011 I went out with my cousins ex, that was shit to begin with, but he came round So **** it, if you want it and it will make you happy, then do it, your mate will come round, and if he dont, then he aint a proper mate. He should understand that yes, its weird, but shit happens, and if your happy, then he should be happy for you Tell him first, see what he thinks I think that about sums it up perfectly. Tbf, if the same thing happens to you, you'd obv be gutted but I reckon most of us would come round and deal with it. So much different when it's happening to a mate though, 'coz you'll think they'll think differently, if you're following. talk to him!
Leicester_Loyal Posted 26 February 2011 Posted 26 February 2011 Will your friend be able to stay a friend while your with her? Do you think your mate is worth more than her, I mean, she could just be a quick fling or could be a long term life partner. All your decisions.
Bert Posted 26 February 2011 Posted 26 February 2011 What would mean more to you? Losing your best mate and having the girl which of course could then go pear shaped and you have neither of them, or staying friends with both of them whilst not risking losing either? If you think there's something more with this girl and you can live without your mate, go for it.
Leicester_Loyal Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 If you think there's something more with this girl and you can live without your mate, go for it. Bert knows something
SOCCERROO FOX Posted 27 February 2011 Author Posted 27 February 2011 Don't know what to do, might just stay in the friend zone not sure how long i can keep that up for tho.
fox123 Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 Is this the same chic you left stranded in a taxi a couple of Xmas's ago? The same chic you were asking advise for on here at the same time she was stranded? Go for it
Mee Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 Don't know what to do, might just stay in the friend zone not sure how long i can keep that up for tho. Just sit down with your mate and talk to him about it. Just casually slip it in the conversation and see how he reacts. Put it down as 'I've been mates with you so long you were the first priority, if you don't feel 100% comfortable with it, then i am perfectly happy with that'.
Guest BlueBrett Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 I've got mates who have gone out with a couple of my ex girlfriends and it has never bothered me. **** it anyway man. If you like her and she likes you back (and she is fit) then just do it. Your mate has no right to be pissed off. If it's not you it's just going to be some other bloke so what difference does it make? It'd be a bit childish of him to kick up a stink.
Mee Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 I've got mates who have gone out with a couple of my ex girlfriends and it has never bothered me. **** it anyway man. If you like her and she likes you back (and she is fit) then just do it. Your mate has no right to be pissed off. If it's not you it's just going to be some other bloke so what difference does it make? It'd be a bit childish of him to kick up a stink. Agree with this, but sometimes you have to respect your mates. 'Bro's before Hoes' as the saying goes, if his mate doesn't feel comfortable with it, then you have to think, if it worth loosing a mate over a girl in which the relationship may not even last a month. Roo - You need some beers, the football on the TV and a nice chat with you friend. Then fuck her round the bushes.
SOCCERROO FOX Posted 27 February 2011 Author Posted 27 February 2011 Is this the same chic you left stranded in a taxi a couple of Xmas's ago? The same chic you were asking advise for on here at the same time she was stranded? Go for it Geez that was ages ago that was a scary nite, different chick but still see her every now and again Don't think chatting to me mate will help, he lost his shit when i told him i was meeting her for lunch the other week
MPH Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 I reckon MPH has previous for this... I really havnt....
Haydos Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 Sounds like if he's not over he's going to be all kinds of fvcked off. You were gonna be best man after all. Iffy. I'd go for it if she's a 9.5.
dhermon Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 Might pay to find out exactly how she feels about the whole situ as well before doing anything If she is just keen for a root then keep it quiet to the mate If shes keen for long term fiddling then you and her need to sit and talk work out how you will brake the news to the mate Truth is some mates are there for life others are just there for a time then you or they grow and move on Life partners are there for life ..........
SOCCERROO FOX Posted 27 February 2011 Author Posted 27 February 2011 Might pay to find out exactly how she feels about the whole situ as well before doing anything If she is just keen for a root then keep it quiet to the mate If shes keen for long term fiddling then you and her need to sit and talk work out how you will brake the news to the mate Truth is some mates are there for life others are just there for a time then you or they grow and move on Life partners are there for life .......... It's long term or nothing also got to think how will other mates feel not just the mate who's ex it is. Wonder if seeing her as more than mates out with everything out in the open would be easier than going behind my mates back to catch up with her. The most annoying thing is all these little problems like this i would normally be discussing with my mate but can't for obvious reasons.
Jon the Hat Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 Having been on the other side of a very similar situation it is very hard to remain mates. Seeing your ex of four years with anyonecam be tough, and really you need to not see her at all. If you and her start turning up to friends parties and things and he is not happy then you risk starting to split the group of friends and so on. I think you have to assess whether this is going to be something long term and if so then talk to your mate soon, tell him how you both feel, and that neither of you want to hurt him etc. Better that than he finds out after. Mates tell each other the truth. That is your best chance of retaining your mate in the long run, but it will still be hard in the short term. Good luck!
Sly Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 Simply put ...... Will it be a long term thing if you hit it off? If so, would your mate come around to the idea. Personally, if it's all water under the bridge between them, you'd like to think he'd accept it. If not, just ask him openly, if he's a mate, he'll give you an honest answer. If it's a short term thing, just for kicks type of thing, it might not be worth the hassle, altough you could end up kicking yourself. If your mate resents you and his ex being happy, his he worth being mates with. My advice ..... wear sunscreen. On a serious note, just sound your mate out? What's the worst that can happen?
Uncle Monty Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 Having been on the other side of a very similar situation it is very hard to remain mates. Seeing your ex of four years with anyonecam be tough, and really you need to not see her at all. If you and her start turning up to friends parties and things and he is not happy then you risk starting to split the group of friends and so on. I think you have to assess whether this is going to be something long term and if so then talk to your mate soon, tell him how you both feel, and that neither of you want to hurt him etc. Better that than he finds out after. Mates tell each other the truth. That is your best chance of retaining your mate in the long run, but it will still be hard in the short term. Good luck! Point well made.
ACF Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 So, which primary school do I have to pay a visit to mate?
Steven Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 Can you be friends with your best mates ex and can you be more than friends with them? if so how long a period would need to pass? Ok didn't know her until me mate started dating her, was due to be best man at there wedding, always got on well with her and chat to her on the phone etc. They broke up almost a year ago i went to lunch with her with in a week of them going out, trying to be a neutral mate. Since i've been back from overseas i've been to her house for dinner and that and let my mate know but i found out from a neutral mate he cracked the shits so i've seen her as a mate a few times and kept it quiet a few times. Not trying to be dog mate but they weren't right for each other and she is a smoking career orintated teacher, they went out for 4 years the last year was shit for them both. We stil talk all the time and went out to lunch a few times. I may be no oil painting so not sure if she fancys me but we chat all the time on the phone and go for lunch often but i constantly turn down her requests for dinner and drinks cos i would find it hard to tell my mate cos the mere mention of her name sends him in to melt down mode even tho he knows we have remainded friends, But i may have feeling for her what should i do? Any one else been in this situation any advice would be greatly appreciated as i can't discuss with mates for obvious reasons. Let yourself be guided by your penis in this matter.
Rocket-Ron Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 Give these pair a bell. They might be able to help
FoxyPV Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 Don't ask permission from your mate about going out with his ex or even word in such a way that allows him to think that he has a say because if he is alright at the start but then feels uncomfortable as you two closer he will think that he'll be able to tell you to dump her and it will be really awkward at that point. If you're going to talk to him about it make sure he realises that at the end of the day it's YOUR decision as you and his ex are two consenting adults and can do whatever the fcuk you want. At the end of the day go with your gut, you know the two of them better than any of us-if you think it's worth it go for it. Good luck.
Zingari Posted 27 February 2011 Posted 27 February 2011 Let yourself be guided by your penis in this matter. it will always lead you into dark damp places
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