Engagements

[SOCCERROO FOX]

Had a string of mates getting engaged recently who have only been with their partners for less than 12 months is this too soon to be engaged? I've got other mates who have been together for 5-6 years and haven't popped the question yet. So how long did it take you before you got engaged or how long do you think you should would wait?

[I am Rod Hull]

Some women need a ring on their finger to show their friends, my mrs was no different and we got engaged after 18 months or so, but it took us 9 years and 2 kids to tie the knot.

[MPH]

I think its probably more indicitive of peoples views on the importance of marriage, really.

[ozleicester]

"went out" for 6 months.....lived in sin for 6 months... engaged for a year... married for 28 years.

On the other hand, my Daughter just became engaged after 10 weeks with her girlfriend...sadly, due to the religious fanatics and total fvckwits.. dont know when she will be able to get married.

[jonthefox]

Women want a ring, Blokes want a piss up to celebrate. Neither want marriage.

[Captain...]

I think it largely depends on how many relationships they have had, I know quite a few couples who have been together forever (over 10 years) and will always be together, and they were the first serious relationship for both, and I think there is no insecurity there or need for a wedding or ring or a piece of paper to prove they love each other.

Whereas people I know who have been through a number of partners, especially if they have been cheated on, or had a messy break-up, tend to be more insecure about their relationship and need that reassurance.

[Phube]

Me and my Missus: 8 1/2 years!

I think we rushed it a little

But when you get together older they tend to be quicker.

[Bellend Sebastian]

Three years with the missus, bought a house after 2 and a half and had a kid two months later. Engagement not on the priorities list at the minute.

Got to get a new fence for starters

[Zingari]

Think of engagement and marriage as the accelerator and brake on your car .

when you want to get racy and the sex to speed up. get engaged , when you want to slow down and stop , get married

[Bayfox]

Together for 7 years before I did, but she always knew I wanted us to have our own house before I would.

met when I was 18 and She was 16, for 5 years whilst she went to college and uni, rented house for a year to see if we could live together as soon as she got her 1st job, brought our house in the april and I proposed on Christmas Eve. Got Married about 18 months later.

for the record, 2 off my mates got engaged at the age of 21 having only been with their other halves for a few months, as soon as they lived together they just couldn't cope, seems going out and having fun, seeing each other occasionally etc is different to having, to cook, clean, pay the bills etc and spend 24/7 together.

They are both now married but to different people, for the record don't bother buying engagement presents!!! My wife and I never did bother with an engagement party.

[Julian Joachim Jr Shabadoo]

Been "going out" with "the missus" for 3 years now, lived together for just over 2 years and we're getting everything sorted to buy our first house

Engagement isn't really a priority - don't see how it'd change things really, and I could think of many better things to spend money on than a ring which would meet the requirements. Maybe when the mortgage is paid off (if I'm still alive at that point!)

[Alf Bentley]

Went out together for 15 months (living in different parts of country), co-habited for 6 years (probably would've been a bit shorter but for illness), engaged for about 4 months and married for 10 years now.

"Engaged" is short for "engaged to be married", which sometimes seems to be forgotten these days by women living on a diet of glossy magazines about the engagements and break-ups of Z-rate "celebrities" and by immature men & women who think it'll boost their esteem and/or security.

Unless you have self-esteem/insecurity issues (in which case your marriage is more likely to fail), the only point in getting engaged is if you're both committed to a life-long - or at least very long - marriage. From talking to people who've got divorced, it's a painful and bloody expensive business...make that potentially life-destroying if there are children involved.

The issue of marriage v. co-habiting is a complicated, separate issue, but I'd strongly encourage most couples to co-habit, whether or not they intend to marry. Living with someone is indeed very different to going out with them and each having your own space.

Incidentally, statistics supposedly show that marriage increases life expectancy for men and reduces it for women!

[MooseBreath]

Single women start getting desperate as they get into their late 20s so they'll look to trap a man in as quickly as possible. It's no risk for them as they'll be well looked after in the event of a divorce, but for the man it's a really dangerous game. Might sound cynical but it's true. You should be at least 30 and have lived together for at least three years before even thinking about marriage.

[sphericalfox]

Single women start getting desperate as they get into their late 20s so they'll look to trap a man in as quickly as possible. It's no risk for them as they'll be well looked after in the event of a divorce, but for the man it's a really dangerous game. Might sound cynical but it's true. You should be at least 30 and have lived together for at least three years before even thinking about marriage.

Married Mooseler?

[steveherbe]

Married Mooseler?

Bloody hell, is this the first FT proposal? Congratulations lads, hope you're very happy together.

[FoxesAreBlue]

Bloody hell, is this the first FT proposal? Congratulations lads, hope you're very happy together.

Where's the stag do?

[sphericalfox]

Bloody hell, is this the first FT proposal? Congratulations lads, hope you're very happy together.

It wasn't, but it could be. I'll never know until Moosler responds. Get your hats ready.

[MooseBreath]

I don't want to marry you but we can still have a bum from time to time if you want

[Captain...]

I don't want to marry you but we can still have a bum from time to time if you want

I just read this comment after your animal rights comment, about eating anything that was needed, I just imagined you were offering to tuck into a piece of arse with Spherical Fox.

To be fair, that is probably a better mental image than what you actually meant.

[Guest MattP]

Single women start getting desperate as they get into their late 20s so they'll look to trap a man in as quickly as possible. It's no risk for them as they'll be well looked after in the event of a divorce, but for the man it's a really dangerous game. Might sound cynical but it's true. You should be at least 30 and have lived together for at least three years before even thinking about marriage.

Pretty much spot on I think.

I've had two relationships finish because the woman was late 20's early 30's and I started to get bugged about it after less than two years, I always said I wouldn't marry until 35 at least anyway. Plenty of time in life for thet sort of boredom.

[Smudge]

Where's the stag do?

Wouldn't it be a Moose Do?

[sphericalfox]

Wouldn't it be a Moose Do?

Well I've not been invited but I hear it's going to be at the:

Followed by the post stag action in Spain:

[Zingari]

i hear it's got a lot of damp problems in that hotel

[Webbo]

i hear it's got a lot of damp problems in that hotel

You'd have to be a pr1ck to go in there.

[Zingari]

You'd have to be a pr1ck to go in there.

i went in once but didn't last more than 30 seconds