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Asha

Cancer

By Asha, in General Chat

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Finnegan

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You're fooking legendary, son, if you're still holding it together. Best wishes to her and to yourself, if there's one thing I've learned living with someone who's horrendously ill - it's to never overlook your own mental state. Be sure to find someone you can talk to yourself, kiddo, these things have an effect on more than just the patient.

MikeyT

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I have only ever knew one person who died from cancer, and i didnt even know him that well. He was my best friends grandad. But i saw how horrible it was. Cant think of many things worse!

All the best to your girlfriend mate...hope she's ok! :thumbup:

Dr The Singh

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Let's all hope the lump is benign, if not she needs all the support and help you can muster, she needs to be strong and fit for the challenge ahead!!

I'm sure things will work out fine!!! :thumbup:

Good Luck

Phube

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The doctors think they can see a tumour in her brain from a scan of some kind, and also my girlfriend just texted me to say she's found lump in her arm, and it hurts to move it. I'm shit scared, as it keeps looking more and more serious :(

Sorry to hear this... one thing do you live in Leicestershire? Because I do scans for just this type of thing... Infact where I work we deal with all the Paediatric (Under 17's) in Leics.

If she ever has to come for a bone scan, which I hope she doesn't... then I'll probably be doing it.

LeeCovFox

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What a horrible bastard of a disease. But people do recover mate. My great uncle had a large cancerous tumour removed from is brain last week. He is in his early 70's, but is doing really well, and is all set for a course of raditherapy to clean up what the op couldn't. The prognosis is good. I've never been touched by this nasty illness in terms of seeing anybody who is particularly close suffer, though I was a school friend of a girl named Dawn Muirhead who was on the front page of the Mercury a few times appealing for a donor whilst battling Leukaemia. I hope your girlfriend is okay mate, all you can do is be strong for her at this difficult time. You are doing her the world of good just by being there for her.

Daggers

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As an aside, I read this in New Scientist the other week:

Tumour growth block hopes raised

Scientists have discovered a key part of the chemistry which makes cancer cells so dangerous.

They believe it could now be possible to tamper with the mechanism - and stop tumour growth in its tracks.

Source

Guest

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All the best NSLL, would keep my fingers crossed, but that will make day-to-day life a bit tough, and remember that you need support too! If you ever want to offload, feel free to pm.

Ric Flair

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I hope that everything pans out fine - I'm sure it will :thumbup:

When I was 16 my girlfriend (Loretta) told me she had a brain tumour, was going to die and could not have me around as an added complication.

Seven years later - I bumped into her in Northampton market. She had greasy hair, a pram and various spawn shuffling around her feet.

On one hand the magnitude of the lie was amazing, dumping through proxy death, on the other hand I was simply delighted at escaping from Chav Hell.

On a third, slightly deformed Jeremy Beadle-styled hand one has to wonder 'who the **** calls their daughter Loretta'?

Probably her mum/ma'.

Loretta Der Mar................. I apologise for the horrendously bad joke in such a serious thread.

Hope your girlfriend pulls through, a positive mindset can beat anything if dealt with early.

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Asha

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According to my girlfriend, it's been diagnosed as cancer.

But it's early, so apparently that makes the chances of it being cured likelier?

She also just told me, and I didn't know this before, that it's the third time she's had it, and that it's 1) hereditary (sp?) and 2 very probable that it will keep recurring all the way through her life.

What the fcuk am i supposed to say to her, seeing as she could likely pull through it only to have to deal with it again every couple of years? There's no way to make her feel any positivity at all...

Advice/ideas very welcome.

I sound like an unsympathetic twat by just saying 'k'. 'k'. 'im sorry bout tht'. 'o dear'.

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Don't worry about sympathy for me, she's the one that has to deal with it. I just need to know how to keep her positive and persuade her not to throw her life away despite the inevitability that cancer will do it for her anyway...sometime.

OriginalRobboFOX

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According to my girlfriend, it's been diagnosed as cancer.

But it's early, so apparently that makes the chances of it being cured likelier?

She also just told me, and I didn't know this before, that it's the third time she's had it, and that it's 1) hereditary (sp?) and 2 very probable that it will keep recurring all the way through her life.

What the fcuk am i supposed to say to her, seeing as she could likely pull through it only to have to deal with it again every couple of years? There's no way to make her feel any positivity at all...

Advice/ideas very welcome.

I sound like an unsympathetic twat by just saying 'k'. 'k'. 'im sorry bout tht'. 'o dear'.

:(

Don't worry about sympathy for me, she's the one that has to deal with it. I just need to know how to keep her positive and persuade her not to throw her life away despite the inevitability that cancer will do it for her anyway...sometime.

Just tell her you'll be there for her kidder... It will help her knowing she can rely on you mate. Hoe it all works out for you dude... :thumbup:

Manwell Pablo

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If she's recovered from it twice already surely that is a good sign? :unsure:

Yes, Reacurring cancer is a good sign. Jesus.

NSLL, sounds as if she should be alright this time if it's been caught early, the important thing is to help her through this cancer and not dwell on the fact that it may come back, as thats pretty much all you can do.

Asha

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I guess it's a good thing we KNOW it's recurring.

Surely this means with weekly checks or something it will always be spotted in it's infancy if it's back.

Thracian

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According to my girlfriend, it's been diagnosed as cancer.

But it's early, so apparently that makes the chances of it being cured likelier?

She also just told me, and I didn't know this before, that it's the third time she's had it, and that it's 1) hereditary (sp?) and 2 very probable that it will keep recurring all the way through her life.

What the fcuk am i supposed to say to her, seeing as she could likely pull through it only to have to deal with it again every couple of years? There's no way to make her feel any positivity at all...

Advice/ideas very welcome.

I sound like an unsympathetic twat by just saying 'k'. 'k'. 'im sorry bout tht'. 'o dear'.

:(

Don't worry about sympathy for me, she's the one that has to deal with it. I just need to know how to keep her positive and persuade her not to throw her life away despite the inevitability that cancer will do it for her anyway...sometime.

There's a myriad of information available on the net under the general heading of Cancer In the Young.

Seems to me you need to familiarise yourself with the problems and then consider the best and most practical way of being helpful depending on your girlfriend's individual situation and personal outlook.

Try to talk to someone who's gone through a similar test.

From my own experience it is important to provide a normal but positive environment which offers plenty to do and lots to look forward to but in a natural way.

Don't think you won't need help because you will. Dealing with old people when they're poorly is hard enough. But dealing with a young person has aspects that will require special understanding from yourself and all concerned.

I ache inside for both of you and pray that you'll both enjoy a happy outcome.

Asha

Asha

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There's a myriad of information available on the net under the general heading of Cancer In the Young.

Seems to me you need to familiarise yourself with the problems and then consider the best and most practical way of being helpful depending on your girlfriend's individual situation and personal outlook.

Try to talk to someone who's gone through a similar test.

From my own experience it is important to provide a normal but positive environment which offers plenty to do and lots to look forward to but in a natural way.

Don't think you won't need help because you will. Dealing with old people when they're poorly is hard enough. But dealing with a young person has aspects that will require special understand from yourself and all concerned.

I ache inside for both of you and pray that you'll both enjoy a happy outcome.

Cheers for that, will read up on it. :thumbup:

Daggers

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I think he was being sarcastic but I know where you are coming from.

If the answer is "Another ****ing planet" then I think we all have the answer too.

NSLL - read up. Find out what cancer it is, treatments, success rates, problems...it'll all make you feel less of a plank when talking to her about it because you'll understand what is going on and, most importantly, it'll really show her you care. Good luck to you both :thumbup:

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