Katy Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 I never think of doing things like that! I always get so worked up over things!Cheers Katy You're very welcome but this way you aren't setting yourself up for a fall in any way shape or form. It's work upness free!
Koke Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 The way I dealt with it was I always maintained a "I got nothing to lose" mentality. Growing up I had been rejected countless of times, some hurt, some I got over it quickly. But if I didn't go for it, I'd have been kicking myself thinking ''what if''.
Lovejoy Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 She clearly likes you and sees you as a mate so why don't you, before leaving her to go home or the library or wherever, write your number down and give it to her - say to her if she needs to chat or talk about essays or whatever then here's my number sort of thing. The ball is in her court then and she'll text you and you'll have her number without the fear of rejection, she will text you though because you've got on so well and you're not trying it on or anything you're just being a mate - girls love that. You sound really sweet though so you've nothing to worry about PS I remember an ex-foxestalk Admin being a lot like you when I met him he's totally fine now Really? I've always preferred the "straight out" approach where I don't beat about the bush, finding that making your intentions clear is the best way. Usually get into a conversation, get flirty, make sure she responds, then ask her out.
Granno Posted 6 October 2008 Author Posted 6 October 2008 The way I dealt with it was I always maintained a "I got nothing to lose" mentality. Growing up I had been rejected countless of times, some hurt, some I got over it quickly. But if I didn't go for it, I'd have been kicking myself thinking ''what if''. I totally understand what your saying. But when you've been laughed at when I asked a girl out, and been told 'I'd rather die than give you my number' it takes a helluva lot to pick yourself back up again.
Koke Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 Really? I've always preferred the "straight out" approach where I don't beat about the bush, finding that making your intentions clear is the best way. Usually get into a conversation, get flirty, make sure she responds, then ask her out. Its all different, depending on what sort of person you and her are. When I was 18, your theory was the way forward. Now at 25, I often go with Katy's theory.
Katy Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 Really? I've always preferred the "straight out" approach where I don't beat about the bush, finding that making your intentions clear is the best way. Usually get into a conversation, get flirty, make sure she responds, then ask her out. This may be the right way for you but Granno isn't quite ready to do this is he. He needs to build his confidence up before bounding in all guns blazing - he doesn't seem that type of lad. As for the girls thing, I was just speaking from my own experience
Head Honcho Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 I started uni last week. And there's this girl on my course, she was the first person who spoke to me at uni, and we hit it off. We sit together at lectures and I just feel really good when I'm in her company.So whats the problem? My confidence is so low from previous stuff, and now a simple thing like asking for her number gets me worked up, because of the fear of rejection. Anyone have any tips on how to improve confidence. Serious responses and piss takes welcome. You're 90% of the way there mate. Fnd out if you have any interests in common and then take her out during the day finishing off with a few in the pub. It ain't all about getting her pissed and hoping she'll jump into bed with you.
Granno Posted 6 October 2008 Author Posted 6 October 2008 This may be the right way for you but Granno isn't quite ready to do this is he. He needs to build his confidence up before bounding in all guns blazing - he doesn't seem that type of lad. As for the girls thing, I was just speaking from my own experience It's funny, normally to most people I say what I think, yet when it comes to girls...
Koke Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 I totally understand what your saying. But when you've been laughed at when I asked a girl out, and been told 'I'd rather die than give you my number' it takes a helluva lot to pick yourself back up again. That's a kick in the balls. The key is only approach her on her own. Never when she's with her mates. So when she says stupid filthy things like that, it'll always be her words against yours. Just deny that you've ever been interested.
Corky Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 I totally understand what your saying. But when you've been laughed at when I asked a girl out, and been told 'I'd rather die than give you my number' it takes a helluva lot to pick yourself back up again. Sorry to hear that mate. Some people can be so insensitive, and downright vile. As a very shy person when in the company of people I'm not familiar with, I find it difficult to approach new people and get nervous. What I would say is go for it, try not to appear too pushy and clingy at the start, and let things develop in time P.S. Do you have "Granno" on the back of your shirt? If it was it might have been you a couple of rows in front of me at Huddersfield.
Samilktray Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 Slap a bit of musk on, grow some chest hair and a tache. Girls cannot resist me anymore. And dont forgot the tinted Ray-bans, you need your poker face on at all times. Play it cool.
Granno Posted 6 October 2008 Author Posted 6 October 2008 Slap a bit of musk on, grow some chest hair and a tache.Girls cannot resist me anymore. And dont forgot the tinted Ray-bans, you need your poker face on at all times. Play it cool. Check, and Check
Samilktray Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 Check, and Check Well then. Casually strut up and open with. 'Hey Babe' Its a wrap.
Lovejoy Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 I totally understand what your saying. But when you've been laughed at when I asked a girl out, and been told 'I'd rather die than give you my number' it takes a helluva lot to pick yourself back up again. Crikey!
sdb Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 personally i'd just casually ask for her number when the right moment comes, e.g you're both going out with mates that night and might all meet up at a club/bar. she wont say no, you're mates and she probably wonders why u dont have each others numbers anyway. plus at the start of uni everybody is getting each pthers numbers, i have loads of names in my phone i don't even know from the 1st few weeks of uni. once u have her number, just occassionaly tx her about work etc, see how she replies etdc and take it from there. what i would say is don't go to ott. firstly she sounds like a valuable mate to have, and secondly, from someone who had a massive obsession with a girl at uni, you could get v hurt/screwed over if you spill your heart out. so like others have said, take your time - you've got 3 years with her around. all this from a guy with cobwebs surrounding his genitalia...but it's my advice
Suffolk_fox Posted 6 October 2008 Posted 6 October 2008 Don't look at her as a potential conquest or gf - just ask her how her course is going, and suggest you meet up for a coffee. Things will kind of lead on from there and don't worry about the confidence thing - I look back on how I used to feel sick at the thought of asking a girl out!
Thracian Posted 7 October 2008 Posted 7 October 2008 With girls as with so many things in life if you'll never win the prize if you never buy a ticket. We all lose sometimes. When we apply for jobs, when we don't get picked for the team, when we purchase a 'bargain' that turns out a mistake. It's all experience. A lesson in the learning curve of life. The first time someone tosses you a ball and asks you to keep it off the ground for as many touches as you can it doesn't come easy and you're soon starting on the second attempt and the third. But as the man once said, the more you practice the luckier you get and it's the same with girls. Or as a golfing friend once said, 'Forget the bad moments. It's only the good ones you want to dwell on'. PS: Today's tip... Unless you've got a massive cock, be sure to make em laugh!
Raj Posted 7 October 2008 Posted 7 October 2008 Just shove your cock in her ear. Works everytime! Seriously though,i think most people fear rejection. Its part of life but if one doenst ask,one doesnt get. I asked for a discount on a spare car key yday and afte 5 mins of haggling got it down from £76 to £62! Back to you though.... i aint one to give advice on such matters bbut just talk to her like you would a mate,get to know her and take it from ther. If that fails...THEN shove your cock in her ear!
ozleicester Posted 7 October 2008 Posted 7 October 2008 Get pissssssed try something and if it works wahey!!! If it dont, blem it on the booze! Do NOT do this...no one has ever looked cool when they are pissed..they only think they do.
Tabou Posted 7 October 2008 Posted 7 October 2008 Do NOT do this...no one has ever looked cool when they are pissed..they only think they do. I beg to differ. **Looks for drunk photo of Smuts**
The People's Hero Posted 7 October 2008 Posted 7 October 2008 What you need to do is spend some time with the maestro.....
Zingari Posted 7 October 2008 Posted 7 October 2008 What you need to do is spend some time with the maestro..... those cars don't impress women
The People's Hero Posted 7 October 2008 Posted 7 October 2008 those cars don't impress women Oh this one will, it's tricked out with a stage one induction kit, fluffy dice and I've made a hole in the exhaust system to make it louder.
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