Your kid being bullied

[fuchsntf]

8 hours ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

That’s fine if you’re a big guy yourself mate. The Dad of the kid who is bullying my daughter is 6’ 5”, 18 stone and head of a security firm. Not sure that tactic will work for me...

I'd Run him over with my wheelchair, then Beat him with my crutches.If He Threatened me or my kind Further,

I'd call His Security Firm,to Help at the school,to Stop bullying....

Now you!!!  You could keep telling  him a selection of Your Jokes...that should do it.

 

I got bullied,occasionally at school( New Parks),I was a Bit of a Sport Hero,so it wasnt so intense.

Plus one found Ways,to Ride IT,or Turn it around later.

Today I think its Harder,when it Happens,Just to Face Up to IT. Social Media and street Gangs were

Just Not Part of the problem. Gangs and cliques in Working estates,Like Braunstone or New Parks,

were fragmented and Held in Check,by the Balance of more good guys,who were also hard.

 

I dont Know about the  todays whys,and the aggressive  ASBO 'friends'

Do-gooders seemed to of got their way...

No hard-group of teachers Control,No Sport encouragement,No good-honest Police presence on the street,

No authourity support. The good Guys/gals got their knuckles rapped,from the nanny state,in schoolyards,

on the streets,the perpetrators,aggressors are No longer Shamed ,stood upto,because the little darlings,

Also have their " rights"...and they had an hard Life,because..because..because.

 

Across all Levels/Classies of society.Uk has a Drink/drug Problem,even in moderate society.

Yes the Politicians,courts, have lost it, Police have had their Power taken away,too many Office and

Service Center,yodels Put in the Front-Line. There are some great Police and jucidary people but

I feel they Just maybe now, in the minority,so the  following Generations haven't had the Support and

Life education,their predecessors had. Plus we come to the eventual Outcome,any Organisation

Only mirrors the society. We are all to Blame,cos everybody seems to Love a dell-boy,and we've been Pushed

Into being non-active,non Action society. We still Care,we still Help but only when it becomes Desperate.

 

Not forgetting,the govts, has been blabbering over austerity for over 60yrs,that we depends more on

Charities,to do the Caring and Reporting ,we've Sold our Soul to "Mr Corporate"

Even the NHS system,is Desperately supported by charities...

Bullying has got worse because,there is No Recall/recourse on abuse of any Kind.

Even at school Level,the good Guys/gals have been Pushed down/away,and told from their betters,

Not to intervene.

Then the maturer  would-be protectors, have been taken Out of Arms way,by years of incompetent,

Better-Mclass-know-alls,,getting the Jobs for the Boys n Girls-farts of society.

 

Useless Rant really,...

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited 24 May 2018 by fuchsntf

[Bayfox]

20 minutes ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

I’m afraid this is very real life Ashley.

 

This has been two years of hell for her but thankfully my daughter is leaving this school in July and it can’t come soon enough.

 

I was bullied for years as a kid. I was skinny with ginger hair and a loner and couldn’t defend myself. My parents had their car trashed, fence broken, fireworks through the letterbox you name it. We had the police around ever week and eventually had to move.

 

Now my daughter is going through the same shit as I did. 

 

I try and forgive but it’s tough. I’m sure these bulllies have a shit life themselves and it’s their way of dealing with it but it doesn’t make our situation any easier...

Ffs man in a different world you could have married Meghan Markel.

 

Seriously tho. I've never forgotten being pinned down by the school bully who decided to pick on me and try to force feed me worms. Luckily I had some good mates and he soon got bored and realised he was out numbered. But I was lucky I guess.

[Jattdogg]

2 hours ago, Dr The Singh said:

It's a tough one when the bullies parent won't take any responsibility.  In my daughter's case we raised it with the headmaster, he got the teacher to do a open feedback session with the kids involved and also explained without any doubt he would not tolerate bullying at his school. 

 

Luckily it worked as I was going to seduce the mother, shag her and then if the bullying didn't stop, I would tell the world how crap a shag she was and she has a smelly one.

....And that she now has herpes...

 

 

1 hour ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

How does an 11 year old girl stand up to a gang of 4 bullies and one horrible nasty bitch in particular?

 

How do I as a 9 stone 5’8” bloke stand up to her 18 stone 6’5” Dad?

 

How does my daughter say no to them in a way they might understand when all that does is encourage them even more?

 

How do I stop her coming home from school every day telling me and my wife that she wants to kill herself?

 

How do I get her to sleep at night when she can’t sleep because she’s scared to go in the next day?

 

How do I have yet another conversation with the Head Mistress that puts a sticking plaster over it for a few weeks before it all starts again?

 

She’s 11 and she’s fvckin broken.

Im really sorry to hear this and i hope it gets sorted real soon. Its not cool but standing up the bullys is an absolute must. Easier said than done but have you thought about talking to other parents to see if their kids are treated in a similar way by these 4 cvnts? If so perhaps overwhelming them with multiple kids standng up or even parents causing a fuss will help? 

 

Of course from a physical standpoint it might be hard  to body  slam the dad unless its a hulk vs andre the giant moment (never under estimate that fight strength!) . For the sake of my child id be willing to suffer a potential  beat down or feck him up real good. Having said that i wouldn't go guns blazing. Id be polite and firm when discussing the situation. If the dad wanted to be a twat then id attempt to twat him first. If for some reason he twatted me id just come back later with my goons and sort the cvnt out. I know that wont help the situation though(and is rather pathetic but im a.simple man) so id straight up go to the police of i had to, local politician feck anyone who would give me time to hear her cries and see jow we can change the situation for the best interests of your daughter 

[Guest the fox]

10 hours ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

That’s fine if you’re a big guy yourself mate. The Dad of the kid who is bullying my daughter is 6’ 5”, 18 stone and head of a security firm. Not sure that tactic will work for me...

Have you tried talking to him, Izzy? Maybe the head of a security firm may have a conscious regarding discipline?

 

May I ask if you don't mind, is your kid in high school? violence is never the answer but sometimes it is. If that moron (assuming it's a he and not a she) is old enough to have a fight, just set him up with a guy who "got too drunk' and gave his face a makeover. Believe me, there are many people who can do a proper job for a few pounds. 

 

So, after reading more, your girl is just 11 and being bullied by 4 other kids? they don't have any shame, do they? Ask for a private meeting with the schools head and the other parents, tell them your girl's situation, what she says to you and her physically weaker body.

 

 

 

 

Edited 25 May 2018 by the fox

[Guest the fox]

2 hours ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

How do I as a 9 stone 5’8” bloke stand up to her 18 stone 6’5” Dad?

don't assume that it's gonna go down to a fight. The guy won't risk doing anything to you because he has too much to lose.

 

2 hours ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

How does my daughter say no to them in a way they might understand when all that does is encourage them even more?

 

WHERE ARE THE OTHER KIDS? do they just watch? Pieces of shit.

 

[Guest the fox]

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Edited 25 May 2018 by the fox

[Guest the fox]

15 hours ago, Buce said:

 

If the school won't stop it, take it to the parents.

 

My daughter was being bullied at high school and the school didn't seem able to stop it. My missus went to have a polite word with the parents, who turned out to be the type whose kid can do no wrong, so it still didn't stop. Then I went and had a less polite word with the father and told him that the next time my daughter came home and told me his kid had hit her, I'd be holding him personally responsible and coming back round to play baseball with his legs. It stopped immediately.

I know the words "in my culture things would go differently" is pretty much the same as "back in my days" but things like a guy hitting a girl for no reason is a short road to a crippling beat down and no one would object. For most fathers here, a guy knocking on your door and telling you that "your son hit my daughter" (not talking about little kids here, It's pretty much teens and older) is as close as it gets to public humiliation. You can't really get any lower than that. His own son hitting another man's daughter? that would be too shameful. You can't really object or have the face to stop others from beating your son senseless because he started it. Does it sound dramatic and out of a movie? yes. But it really is how things are run here for the most part.

 

Edited 25 May 2018 by the fox

[Izzy]

Thank you to everyone who's sent me a DM on this, I really appreciate it.

 

I'm sorry I derailed someone elses thread but this has been boiling up for ages and I snapped last night.

 

I also appreciate all the advice and ideas people have suggested. I know we all use humour a lot on here to make a point and it's all with the right intentions, so I'm sorry if I got a bit over sensitive.

 

The good news is that my daughter has only got one more term there before leaving to a different secondary school where these kids won't be attending and she's got a chance to start again. We've managed to get her into a CofE secondary school where there is huge focus on student care and well-being and strict Christian values where bullying is not accepted in any form.

 

And bullying isn't always physical. Believe it or not the 4 kids who target my daughter are high achievers, passed the 11 + exam and are top of the class. They're nasty, vindictive and cruel and bully by intimidation, manipulation, fear and public humiliation.

 

We like her current school in general and they've have tried there best to address it, but there's no easy fix.

 

To any other parents going through this, my heart goes out to you. There's nothing more important to us than our kids and me and the wife feel we've failed but we can't be there to protect her 24/7.

 

Ultimately I hope my daughter grows from this experience, learns to be the better person and continues to treat others with love and respect by role modelling what kindness and decency looks like. 

  

[foxfanazer]

7 hours ago, the fox said:

I know the words "in my culture things would go differently" is pretty much the same as "back in my days" but things like a guy hitting a girl for no reason is a short road to a crippling beat down and no one would object. For most fathers here, a guy knocking on your door and telling you that "your son hit my daughter" (not talking about little kids here, It's pretty much teens and older) is as close as it gets to public humiliation. You can't really get any lower than that. His own son hitting another man's daughter? that would be too shameful. You can't really object or have the face to stop others from beating your son senseless because he started it. Does it sound dramatic and out of a movie? yes. But it really is how things are run here for the most part.

 

 

Totally off topic but is English taught as a second language in Algeria? Just wondering how your English and knowledge of common phrases over here is so good?

[Alf Bentley]

9 hours ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

How does an 11 year old girl stand up to a gang of 4 bullies and one horrible nasty bitch in particular?

 

How do I as a 9 stone 5’8” bloke stand up to her 18 stone 6’5” Dad?

 

How does my daughter say no to them in a way they might understand when all that does is encourage them even more?

 

How do I stop her coming home from school every day telling me and my wife that she wants to kill herself?

 

How do I get her to sleep at night when she can’t sleep because she’s scared to go in the next day?

 

How do I have yet another conversation with the Head Mistress that puts a sticking plaster over it for a few weeks before it all starts again?

 

She’s 11 and she’s fvckin broken.

 

That sounds truly awful, Izzy - and a particularly bad case of bullying.

 

I really hope that the new school turns out much better for her in the autumn. My impression is that, while all schools theoretically try to combat bullying, secondary schools have more resources - staff with responsibilities for addressing bullying, school counselors for kids who are having problems etc. I suppose that I'm just basing that on my own daughter's primary and secondary schools, but assume they're not untypical?

 

This next suggestion may no longer relevant to you, but might be relevant to others: ensure that primary school playground supervisors are aware of the problem. Of course, most bullying at primary school doesn't occur in the classroom, but in the playground - so teachers may not be able to do anything about it. But most primary schools have playground supervisors, I think? A few years back, we had a brief issue with one primary school lad's behaviour towards our daughter - and the school said that they'd tell the playground supervisors (and dinner ladies) to keep a specific eye on his behaviour - and told his parents that they'd be doing this. The problem seemed to wane, for whatever reason.

 

I absolutely take the point that a kid who has already been traumatised by bullying will find it almost impossible to stand up to bullies. There are all sorts of great ideas for nipping it in the bud if a kid has not yet been victimised: laughing it off so that the bullies get no pleasure from seeing their potential victim suffering and lose interest; saying something nice to the bully to disconcert them etc. But that's probably only feasible if the kid has not yet been traumatised.

 

As this new school will be a fresh start, I'd make it a big priority to encourage friendships - both encouraging your daughter to do things to make new friends (e.g. school clubs, extra-curricular activities, as well as advice on getting to know new acquaintances), and encouraging her to invite friends to your home...which comes with the added advantage that you and/or your missus will be better able to judge which kids seem like a good influence and potential good friends, and which might be unreliable. My daughter (then 13) had a few issues with attempted bullying some months back. As she had not been traumatised in the way you describe, she was able to stand up for yourself to some extent - but it was massively helpful to her that she had some good friends who gave her moral support and spent time with her, so she was less isolated and vulnerable. An advance warning: teenage girls (12+) seem to be even more judgmental than I'd anticipated and operate a real social hierarchy. My daughter talks about the "popular girls", a minority at the top of the pyramid. She's not one of those, but for now seems very contented as a hierarchically middle-ranked girl with a circle of good friends (plus one or two less reliable ones!). If you're not one of the "social elite", having some good friends, being able to get on with girls of different sorts and having something that provides self-esteem (e.g. a hobby/skill/sport you're good at) seem important.

 

Absolutely agree, too, with your comment in response to those urging confrontation with other fathers. That might work if you're a hard case and the other bloke isn't (though it could also exacerbate the problem via the children). But what if the other Dad is Marcin Wasilewski? You seem to be dealing with Marcin's bigger brother!

 

I really hope that the new school works out well for your daughter. I've found it tough enough to see the fairly minor problems that my daughter has faced, so reading about your experiences was quite upsetting.

 

[Countryfox]

1 hour ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

Thank you to everyone who's sent me a DM on this, I really appreciate it.

 

I'm sorry I derailed someone elses thread but this has been boiling up for ages and I snapped last night.

 

I also appreciate all the advice and ideas people have suggested. I know we all use humour a lot on here to make a point and it's all with the right intentions, so I'm sorry if I got a bit over sensitive.

 

The good news is that my daughter has only got one more term there before leaving to a different secondary school where these kids won't be attending and she's got a chance to start again. We've managed to get her into a CofE secondary school where there is huge focus on student care and well-being and strict Christian values where bullying is not accepted in any form.

 

And bullying isn't always physical. Believe it or not the 4 kids who target my daughter are high achievers, passed the 11 + exam and are top of the class. They're nasty, vindictive and cruel and bully by intimidation, manipulation, fear and public humiliation.

 

We like her current school in general and they've have tried there best to address it, but there's no easy fix.

 

To any other parents going through this, my heart goes out to you. There's nothing more important to us than our kids and me and the wife feel we've failed but we can't be there to protect her 24/7.

 

Ultimately I hope my daughter grows from this experience, learns to be the better person and continues to treat others with love and respect by role modelling what kindness and decency looks like. 

  

 

 

Good to hear you positive again Muzzett ! ...   it must be soul destroying to feel powerless to help your daughter and hard for anyone who hasn't been in that situation to understand ...    that new school isn't far away now so concentrate on that.  I'm sure you have talked to your daughter about how the bullying started (not the bullies themselves but why they targeted your daughter) ...   and can learn from that to try and avoid anything similar happening again ...    becoming invisible, or part of the 'group', or one liner put downs, or whatever ...   anyway all the best mate ....     

[Jattdogg]

You guys scare me for when my kids get to that age but im already trying to teach my 5 year old about bullying and not to take anyones crap etc. 

 

My wife told me a story about  her brother who was being bullied by 1 kid in particular. Her dad thought it was a great idea to pick up his trini cutlass march over to that kids house and threaten to kill the father. Not the best way to handle a situation  at all. If you did that today you would go to jail instantly. The boy never bullied  my brother inlaw again though. My father in law is like 5'5 135lbs but does have a thick trini accent so maybe they thought this guy meant  business (side note he is mental to follow through). 

 

Some tough real life stories on here and really hope you all get to a place where  your kids can be free again and happy without emotional or physical bullying.  All of the advice (including my own somewhat brute force nonsense ) is helpful to me as well but hope that i dont have to ever deal with these things.

 

 

 

 

 

[stix]

2 hours ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

Thank you to everyone who's sent me a DM on this, I really appreciate it.

 

So is your daughter currently in year 6 at primary or in year 7 at secondary Izzy?

 

My daughter is in her final year at primary and I have noticed this year(obviously) more than any other that there have been a lot of issues in year 6, not just for mine but for a lot of the children, this is almost certainly hormone related. My wife is a TA at the school and though initially we thought this would be great for us to monitor our children more closely, I have noticed that with my eldest in particular it sometimes can have a negative effect. She will go to her mum before anyone else with her issues with any other students, which in turn obviously sets my wife instantly into Kill mode, and this can sometimes not have the best effect on the situation, as whilst being paid by the school she is a TA but instinctively she will always be a mother. 

 

This is why in the past I have advised her, away from mum, to either try and sort the issue out herself, or speak to an adult other than her mum about it. 

 

Our situation seems minuscule compared to the trauma your daughters seems to have had to deal with and I really hope that the move will boost her confidence and allow her to be the young person that she has every right to be mate. 

 

Fvck bullies....

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

.....with a rusty fvcking chainsaw!

[Turbogre]

21 hours ago, Steve_Walsh5 said:

Give the bullies dad a slap and tell him every time his daughter says or does something against your friends daughter you’ll be back round to give him another slap. 

 

He will either tell his daughter to stop the bullying or the girl will stop herself as she won’t like seeing her dad get hit.

Calm down Rambo.

[Bellend Sebastian]

 

 

13 hours ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

 

Under pressure and threat my kid panics, and if she said that she'd wind the bully up even more.

 

Sorry, my suggestion wasn't a wildly practical one, I know.

 

I think all you can really do when you're being bullied is react in a way, any way, that doesn't give the bully what they want. It's not easy, and the hardest part is getting over that sort of freezing-make-yourself-seem-as-small-as-possible-hope-this-is-over-soon thing which I think is how most people respond to intimidation, if we're honest.

 

I've seen and heard of people react to bullying with distraction, scorn, humour, incredulity, eccentricity, any number of things that aren't confrontational but aren't what the bully expects or feeds their power. 

 

Best example I can think of was an effeminate boy at my school who, when being hassled would just go camper, so you ended up with the supposed hardest lad in the school pushing about a boy who would be shrilly yelling "Robert! (name changed) Robert! What are you DOING, Robert?", which did seem to make Robert become quite self conscious, as if he were a serious actor that suddenly finds himself starring in a ridiculous pantomime in a shite market town.

 

I digress with this silly story, and I agree that any kid already in the maelstrom is going to find it really hard to escape it other than by removing themselves by going to a different school or whatever.  That said, I think to do something positive, however hard that is, to at least make the situation a bit better is really empowering and can set the pattern for the rest of your life, in a positive way

 

 

 

 

[Bellend Sebastian]

Now that I've posted something trying to be helpful I'll now post something incredibly unhelpful.

 

My wife tells a great story about when she was a young teenager growing up on a crap estate in Birmingham.  One of her best mates, "Natasha from the flats" started getting grief off another girl, a poor choice given that Natasha was from a family that was seen as one not to be mucked about with.

 

This came to the attention of her uncle, who helpfully promised to resolve the issue, and took my wife's friend on a little tour of the estate until she pointed out the bully walking down the street. She then sat in the car whilst Uncle Darren or whatever his name is goes off "to have a word", and looks up to see Uncle Darren having a fairly to the point discussion with her assailant whilst pointing a previously hidden sawn off shotgun at her. Needless to say, this DID resolve the bullying.

 

Now, what I enjoy about this story (putting aside the fact that pointing a gun at what was probably a girl of no more than 14 is difficult to justify in any circumstances) other than the fascinating insight into life on a Brum council estate in the 1980s (see also reggae, lots of cannabis, armed robberies at Kwiksave) is that when it gets recounted, the tone is the same as if Uncle Darren had stood up at your 16th birthday, pissed, and sang an old folk song in front of your mates; the modern sentiment would be OMG Uncle Darren SO EMBARRASSING I wanted to die LOLZ ETC.

 

What can we learn from this? Avoid living in urban Birmingham in the 1980s, I'd have thought

 

 

[Soar Fox]

2 hours ago, Turbogre said:

Calm down Rambo.

Ok Tince you weirdo.

[Guest the fox]

7 hours ago, foxfanazer said:

Totally off topic but is English taught as a second language in Algeria?

 

Sadly not!  It's French (i can understand it a bit but that's as far as it goes). My first interaction with English in school was in the first year of middle school (i was about 12 I think). think it was in the second year when the English teacher asked me to try and translate a little story to Arabic iirc. I gave it a try and the teacher said I was great. I already love watching movies and TV shows, so, if I got the chance to become good at anything useful by watching TV, Who am I to object  (plus, chicks love bilinguals )

 

7 hours ago, foxfanazer said:

Just wondering how your English and knowledge of common phrases over here is so good?

Just by reading, really. I try to improve as much as possible. My twitter is pretty much all English and I interact with brits most of the time. My youtube is the same. If I found a story or a novel, I will read it in English. Not just because I want to become better. some stories are meant to be read in English. most of my spare time when i was younger was spent watching shows like Top Gear, Pimp My Ride, Scrubs... etc. Learning English was one of the best decisions I have ever made.

 

Just if people are wondering how English sounded to me before learning it. It was pretty much like this...

 

 

Edited 25 May 2018 by the fox

[foxfanazer]

3 hours ago, Bellend Sebastian said:

Now that I've posted something trying to be helpful I'll now post something incredibly unhelpful.

 

My wife tells a great story about when she was a young teenager growing up on a crap estate in Birmingham.  One of her best mates, "Natasha from the flats" started getting grief off another girl, a poor choice given that Natasha was from a family that was seen as one not to be mucked about with.

 

This came to the attention of her uncle, who helpfully promised to resolve the issue, and took my wife's friend on a little tour of the estate until she pointed out the bully walking down the street. She then sat in the car whilst Uncle Darren or whatever his name is goes off "to have a word", and looks up to see Uncle Darren having a fairly to the point discussion with her assailant whilst pointing a previously hidden sawn off shotgun at her. Needless to say, this DID resolve the bullying.

 

Now, what I enjoy about this story (putting aside the fact that pointing a gun at what was probably a girl of no more than 14 is difficult to justify in any circumstances) other than the fascinating insight into life on a Brum council estate in the 1980s (see also reggae, lots of cannabis, armed robberies at Kwiksave) is that when it gets recounted, the tone is the same as if Uncle Darren had stood up at your 16th birthday, pissed, and sang an old folk song in front of your mates; the modern sentiment would be OMG Uncle Darren SO EMBARRASSING I wanted to die LOLZ ETC.

 

What can we learn from this? Avoid living in urban Birmingham in the 1980s, I'd have thought

 

 

Was he a Peaky Blinder or something?

[Bellend Sebastian]

2 hours ago, foxfanazer said:

Was he a Peaky Blinder or something?

Different part of Birmingham. Big Irish family, apparently, that did pretty much what they liked.

 

Perhaps they'll get a TV series too

[jonthefox]

My son ( who’s autistic) was bullied mercilessly at his first school. I couldn’t ‘wade’ in myself as the group of bullies were a group of six year old girls. I asked his teacher to do something and was told to stop being over dramatic. The headmaster told me there was nothing he could do, and as you can imagine this infuriated me so much I rang the chief education officer ( forget his real title) . I pulled my son out of school shortly after and placed him in SEN education. Best thing I ever did. 

[baldeagle]

All bullies are cowards simple as that. When I was a kid I was tiny so because of this people thought they could get away with bullying me . I had the  works spat on abused verbally,  punched , kicked stuff thrown at me so on and so on all when they were in a group wouldn’t do anything when alone  . BUT I have always been stubborn and wouldn’t take it they kicked me I kicked them back they spat at me I told them I was going to kill them they hit me I hit them back . How I looked at it was they were going to do whatever to me anyway I could of just let it go and they would keep doing it but in my mind I thought if I hit them back yes I may get hurt but I was getting hurt anyway so I may as well hit back and it would make them think hold on a minute if I hit him he hits back so they moved on to another target . I know it’s an old cliches but bullies dont remember the bullying or their victims . I can remember  bumping into one of mine when I was an adult Iv since grown and frequently visit the gym so I was twice his size he was like hi mate how’s it going to which my response was how dare you ****ing speak to me you made my live hell and I suggest you **** of before I put you in hell to which he swiftly left the pub . I felt pretty damn good . 

[Webbo]

I never liked (physical) bullies but I could sort of tolerate them. They were hard and stronger and they were prepared to back up their threats. The people I couldn't stand were the hangers on. weedy little w@nkers who could get away with picking on people by hiding behind the real the real strength.When the real bully was away from school for whatever reason they'd be your best mate, then the the next day they'd start on you again. Shitbags.

[Izzy]

6 minutes ago, baldeagle said:

All bullies are cowards simple as that. When I was a kid I was tiny so because of this people thought they could get away with bullying me . I had the  works spat on abused verbally,  punched , kicked stuff thrown at me so on and so on all when they were in a group wouldn’t do anything when alone  . BUT I have always been stubborn and wouldn’t take it they kicked me I kicked them back they spat at me I told them I was going to kill them they hit me I hit them back . How I looked at it was they were going to do whatever to me anyway I could of just let it go and they would keep doing it but in my mind I thought if I hit them back yes I may get hurt but I was getting hurt anyway so I may as well hit back and it would make them think hold on a minute if I hit him he hits back so they moved on to another target . I know it’s an old cliches but bullies dont remember the bullying or their victims . I can remember  bumping into one of mine when I was an adult Iv since grown and frequently visit the gym so I was twice his size he was like hi mate how’s it going to which my response was how dare you ****ing speak to me you made my live hell and I suggest you **** of before I put you in hell to which he swiftly left the pub . I felt pretty damn good . 

Fair play to you for standing your ground mate and I bet it felt great when you bumped into one of the cvnts later in life and put him in his place.

 

I distinctively remember the three who bullied me relentlessly between the ages of 10-15, they were all two years older than me.

 

One time at a school sports day they threatened to beat me up if I won the 800 meter race and told me I had to let their mate win instead. I was a fast runner back then and with 200 meters to go I was well ahead and their mate was behind me. Fearing for my life I slowed down and let him catch me up and pip me on the line.

 

35 years on there's still a black and white photo of the finish of the race on the wall in that school as a reminder of how I let fear and intimidation beat me into second place.

 

I still occasionally look them up on Facebook although I haven't seen them for probably 25 years now as I've moved away. I often consider 'sending the boys around' or some sort of revenge for ruining my childhood but I don't because they've now got kids of there own. The image of the three of them pinning me down in a car park with a knife to my throat and burning a cigarette on my hand still haunts me to this day.

 

It still eats away at me and I hate myself for not being stronger back then. People don't realise that the effects of being bullied as a kid can last a lifetime.

[baldeagle]

14 minutes ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

Fair play to you for standing your ground mate and I bet it felt great when you bumped into one of the cvnts later in life and put him in his place.

 

I distinctively remember the three who bullied me relentlessly between the ages of 10-15, they were all two years older than me.

 

One time at a school sports day they threatened to beat me up if I won the 800 meter race and told me I had to let their mate win instead. I was a fast runner back then and with 200 meters to go I was well ahead and their mate was behind me. Fearing for my life I slowed down and let him catch me up and pip me on the line.

 

35 years on there's still a black and white photo of the finish of the race on the wall in that school as a reminder of how I let fear and intimidation beat me into second place.

 

I still occasionally look them up on Facebook although I haven't seen them for probably 25 years now as I've moved away. I often consider 'sending the boys around' or some sort of revenge for ruining my childhood but I don't because they've now got kids of there own. The image of the three of them pinning me down in a car park with a knife to my throat and burning a cigarette on my hand still haunts me to this day.

 

It still eats away at me and I hate myself for not being stronger back then. People don't realise that the effects of being bullied as a kid can last a lifetime.

Exactly , there is a good change they have forgotten all about you and wouldn’t know who you are  as to them you was just another victim but you’ll  remember who they are and what they did for life . Like I said I can’t I abide bullies and won’t put up with it even now . I’m not a hard man or anything but won’t stand buy and watch anyone get picked on or bullied even at work when you have the arrogant ones who think they can intimidate people to do what they want them to do . 

Oh and yes felt fantastic the look on his face was priceless 

Edited 26 May 2018 by baldeagle