Your kid being bullied

[Ashley]

1 hour ago, Buce said:

 

If the school won't stop it, take it to the parents.

 

My daughter was being bullied at high school and the school didn't seem able to stop it. My missus went to have a polite word with the parents, who turned out to be the type whose kid can do no wrong, so it still didn't stop. Then I went and had a less polite word with the father and told him that the next time my daughter came home and told me his kid had hit her, I'd be holding him personally responsible and coming back round to play baseball with his legs. It stopped immediately.

Love this. 

[foxfanazer]

10 minutes ago, Ashley said:

 

Seriously, say to the kids parents who's bullying your friends kids. Tell them to stop or I bully you.

 

Simple solution. 

I’m seriously tempted to get involved and it ain’t even my kid. Horrible to see her looking so helpless and broken. I’m not an overly confrontational person but it riled me up

[foxfanazer]

9 minutes ago, Countryfox said:

 

Schools should have zero tolerance on bullying ...    you really must get them to sort it out ...   get angry and demand action !! 

 

...  and if all else fails ...  call in the Bucester !!

It happened months ago and the school weren’t interested, they even sat one of the bullies next to her in one of her classes. Now miraculously they’re taking it seriously because the police are involve and my girlfriend has written them a letter saying she’s going to inform the governors and ofsted 

[Leicesterpool]

Typical advice would be tell to a teacher but sometimes that can make things worse, back at my school if somebody reported of being bullied they'd do eff all about it and just slam the staff room door in your face. For me I'd suggest parents should take care, even if it means going round to the bullies house and giving them a taste of their own medicine.  

[stix]

2 hours ago, Countryfox said:

 

Schools should have zero tolerance on bullying ...    you really must get them to sort it out ...   get angry and demand action !! 

 

...  and if all else fails ...  call in the Bucester !!

 

The disapointing part of this CF is that all schools generally promote a zero tolerance on bullying, yet not many of them actually follow through with their initial stance. 

 

My eldest is going up to Wigston Acadamy after the summer and my wife is papping herself that she will be bullied by the upper year bitches.  She is 11 now but looks 14, and she’s very quiet and non confrontational. There have been a few minor issues recently in her current school and my advice has been to confront these issues head on with confidence and luckily this has worked. All we can do is deal with these issues when they arise I suppose. 

[Jattdogg]

Schools tend to do fuk all here in Canada about it. You make a complaint to the school they eother do or dont do anything about it. If it happens a second time....

 

 

I'd personally just show up at the parents  house with about 20 solid punjabi goons deep (just my immediate cousins and me right...of course @Dr The Singh would be invited) asking them politely to have their child stop bullying  or else next time mom,dad  and cvnty child wont be so kindly greeted.  Real bad arse alert over here

 

 

 

 

[lifted*fox]

4 hours ago, Steve_Walsh5 said:

Give the bullies dad a slap and tell him every time his daughter says or does something against your friends daughter you’ll be back round to give him another slap. 

 

 He will either tell his daughter to stop the bullying or the girl will stop herself as she won’t like seeing her dad get hit.

 

That's never a serious suggestion, right?

 

Her dad could be some totally upstanding fella who hasn't got a ****ing clue his daughter is bullying someone and you're just gonna pop round and twat him? 

 

[Soar Fox]

35 minutes ago, lifted*fox said:

 

That's never a serious suggestion, right?

 

Her dad could be some totally upstanding fella who hasn't got a ****ing clue his daughter is bullying someone and you're just gonna pop round and twat him? 

 

If he is he’ll teach his daughter what’s right & wrong and hopefully she won’t do it again  

[Countryfox]

1 hour ago, stix said:

 

The disapointing part of this CF is that all schools generally promote a zero tolerance on bullying, yet not many of them actually follow through with their initial stance. 

 

My eldest is going up to Wigston Acadamy after the summer and my wife is papping herself that she will be bullied by the upper year bitches.  She is 11 now but looks 14, and she’s very quiet and non confrontational. There have been a few minor issues recently in her current school and my advice has been to confront these issues head on with confidence and luckily this has worked. All we can do is deal with these issues when they arise I suppose. 

 

Well we need to all try and change that ...   schools should be accountable for what happens.  It is the only real solution.   Hope all goes well for your daughter and you are right, cases of bullying need to be dealt with as and when they occur.   Unfortunately bullying is part of life ...   not just in schools.

[DANGEROUS TIGER]

5 hours ago, Buce said:

 

If the school won't stop it, take it to the parents.

 

My daughter was being bullied at high school and the school didn't seem able to stop it. My missus went to have a polite word with the parents, who turned out to be the type whose kid can do no wrong, so it still didn't stop. Then I went and had a less polite word with the father and told him that the next time my daughter came home and told me his kid had hit her, I'd be holding him personally responsible and coming back round to play baseball with his legs. It stopped immediately.

It's sad, bud you did the right thing. Schools just don't want to know, by and large, and the bullying has to stop, before the problem ruins the lives of their victims. Bullies are always cowards who pick on smaller and weaker people.

 

My son was bullied at senior school, and I rang his father, who didn't really have any interest. I told him that if his son continued, I would sort him out myself. Sure enough, the bullying stopped.

[cambridgefox]

4 hours ago, foxfanazer said:

It seems that girls are a lot more vindictive and malicious in these situations. There also seems to be a trend of somebody recording it on their phones so they can have a good laugh about it, which is dumb as that’s how they get caught out.

It’s hard to look at the bullies as kids sometimes 

Correct,not so much bullying in my case but falling out,and boy can they be nasty.

My lad has been so lucky and the group he hangs about with are all funny,jokey but caring lads.To the extent he worries me as he really doesn’t give a shit.

The local village bully had a pop at his mate and they just started laughing at him and he couldn’t handle that,he was used to people backing off.

might have said this before but sometimes him and his mates make me so proud.

2 stories and I’m sorry it doesn’t help your situation, but I would hope there is a group like this in most schools.

 

My lad is in year 10 and a lad in year 7 who had just started was becoming a bit of a punchbag,the thing is idiots doing stuff attracts other idiots who think it’s easy to do that and don’t give a shit about others feelings.

my lads group stepped in,not in a fist flying sort of way,but said for him to hang about with them and they are all getting quite big now.

stopped instantly.

2nd One a girl in her year fell out with some friends and they were pure evil,to the point she wanted to kill herself.School useless.Now my lads group have also got a lot of older siblings my daughters age and the older sister is friends with my daughter and some of the other lads sisters.

when you hear of this poor girl wanting to die and crying all night it’s heartbreaking.it was like wildfire as these bitches were influential to others and it seemed loads joined in on social media etc

The boys walked into school after one horrible incident and just told her to hang about with them.

As they piss about and generally act like idiots ( as the weekly phone calls from school prove) they are not the cool gang, but likeable ( teachers might differ their opinions)

Guess what? slowly people moved on,she found another group and the so called leaders with influence become nobodies.

Friends change and unfortunately for some it’s a horrible experience but let’s hope the bullying doesn’t get too much.

 

one thing I’ve always said to mine is that if I ever found they were bullies it would be one of the worst things they could do and there would be serious consequences,I’m so lucky.

 

[Izzy]

10 hours ago, Wookie said:

Tell her to twat one of the girls doing it, the consequences are nowhere near as bad as the bullying continuing. As long as her parents are gonna support her through what the school's disciplinary procedure is. I'd imagine it will stop after the police are involved.

 

 

Many kids who are being bullied are scared and intimidated. Telling them to 'twat' the bully doesn't mean they'll do it if their preference is flight not fight. 

 

10 hours ago, Steven said:

Reach for the lawyers. 

Too expensive

 

9 hours ago, kingcarr21 said:

I've always told my daughter if you are ever getting bullied verbally just laugh in their face and walk away, they will soon give up if you just literally laugh at them.

 

Also i've told her never to lay a finger on someone unless they start it. If she ever had problems with a bully who pushed her around at school i've told her to just hit them, school might not like it but she would have my full support as long as she didn't start it.

 

Bullies thrive on the weak, show you aren't bothered about words (as that is all they are) and just laugh it off.

Easier said than done. When scared and intimidated, laughter is often the last thing on the kids mind. 

 

7 hours ago, Steve_Walsh5 said:

Give the bullies dad a slap and tell him every time his daughter says or does something against your friends daughter you’ll be back round to give him another slap. 

 

He will either tell his daughter to stop the bullying or the girl will stop herself as she won’t like seeing her dad get hit.

Not when the Dad is 6' 5" and 18 stone as I mentioned earlier

 

6 hours ago, Buce said:

 

There's more than one way to skin a cat, mate.

 

 

And what's that? Please do tell mate...

 

6 hours ago, Innovindil said:

 

Problem solved. 

Assault charges impending. 

 

6 hours ago, Bellend Sebastian said:

Also, coach your kids to look the bully in the eye and say to them, very solemnly, "your problems at home are not my fault"

Under pressure and threat my kid panics, and if she said that she'd wind the bully up even more.

 

5 hours ago, Countryfox said:

 

 

Surely you can reach his legs Muzzett ?? ...   

Sorry mate, you know I love you but I can't see the humour in this 

 

5 hours ago, Ashley said:

 

Seriously, say to the kids parents who's bullying your friends kids. Tell them to stop or I bully you.

 

Simple solution. 

No it's not. Some of us aren't capable of being bullies ourselves. The idea of taking things into our own hands sounds heroic, strong and protective but getting the police involved and being potentially prosecuted for assault could be life changing for your whole family.

 

If the answer was simple, there'd be no bullying - but it's not. 

[Dr The Singh]

6 hours ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

That’s fine if you’re a big guy yourself mate. The Dad of the kid who is bullying my daughter is 6’ 5”, 18 stone and head of a security firm. Not sure that tactic will work for me...

It's a tough one when the bullies parent won't take any responsibility.  In my daughter's case we raised it with the headmaster, he got the teacher to do a open feedback session with the kids involved and also explained without any doubt he would not tolerate bullying at his school. 

 

Luckily it worked as I was going to seduce the mother, shag her and then if the bullying didn't stop, I would tell the world how crap a shag she was and she has a smelly one.

[Trav Le Bleu]

7 hours ago, Buce said:

 

If the school won't stop it, take it to the parents.

 

My daughter was being bullied at high school and the school didn't seem able to stop it. My missus went to have a polite word with the parents, who turned out to be the type whose kid can do no wrong, so it still didn't stop. Then I went and had a less polite word with the father and told him that the next time my daughter came home and told me his kid had hit her, I'd be holding him personally responsible and coming back round to play baseball with his legs. It stopped immediately.

But how would they hold a bat?

[Trav Le Bleu]

2 hours ago, Countryfox said:

 

Well we need to all try and change that ...   schools should be accountable for what happens.  It is the only real solution.   Hope all goes well for your daughter and you are right, cases of bullying need to be dealt with as and when they occur.   Unfortunately bullying is part of life ...   not just in schools.

Ultimately, parents should be accountable. The job of school is to teach academically. The job of parents is to instil principles of right and wrong and not being a dick.

 

One of the main problems with modern life is too many people want their "rights", without any "responsibilities" and people can't get it into their heads that their "right" to do something will invariably infringe on somebody else's "right" to do something different, such that the whole idea of anyone having "rights" is nonsense. Life, at least a peaceful, sustainable, pleasant, life is very much down to give and take.

 

 

 

[Countryfox]

1 minute ago, Trav Le Bleu said:

Ultimately, parents should be accountable. The job of school is to teach academically. The job of parents is to instil principles of right and wrong and not being a dick.

 

One of the main problems with modern life is too many people want their "rights", without any "responsibilities" and people can't get it into their heads that their "right" to do something will invariably infringe on somebody else's "right" to do something different, such that the whole idea of anyone having "rights" is nonsense. Life, at least a peaceful, sustainable, pleasant, life is very much down to give and take.

 

 

 

I'm not sure Trav ..  if the parents are dicks or bullies then that kid has no chance ...  if the school calls the parents in and says you child is going to be suspended then it MAY just make the child/parents think.   If not, and they are all as bad as each other, then at least the problem has been removed from that environment, and the bullying stops.

[Ashley]

54 minutes ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

Many kids who are being bullied are scared and intimidated. Telling them to 'twat' the bully doesn't mean they'll do it if their preference is flight not fight. 

 

Too expensive

 

Easier said than done. When scared and intimidated, laughter is often the last thing on the kids mind. 

 

Not when the Dad is 6' 5" and 18 stone as I mentioned earlier

 

And what's that? Please do tell mate...

 

Assault charges impending. 

 

Under pressure and threat my kid panics, and if she said that she'd wind the bully up even more.

 

Sorry mate, you know I love you but I can't see the humour in this 

 

No it's not. Some of us aren't capable of being bullies ourselves. The idea of taking things into our own hands sounds heroic, strong and protective but getting the police involved and being potentially prosecuted for assault could be life changing for your whole family.

 

If the answer was simple, there'd be no bullying - but it's not. 

 

 

Stand up for yourself and others who you care about and the World would be a better place. It isn't being a bully but it's saying no to them in a way they might only understand. 

 

 

[Izzy]

2 minutes ago, Ashley said:

 

 

Stand up for yourself and others who you care about and the World would be a better place. It isn't being a bully but it's saying no to them in a way they might only understand. 

 

 

How does an 11 year old girl stand up to a gang of 4 bullies and one horrible nasty bitch in particular?

 

How do I as a 9 stone 5’8” bloke stand up to her 18 stone 6’5” Dad?

 

How does my daughter say no to them in a way they might understand when all that does is encourage them even more?

 

How do I stop her coming home from school every day telling me and my wife that she wants to kill herself?

 

How do I get her to sleep at night when she can’t sleep because she’s scared to go in the next day?

 

How do I have yet another conversation with the Head Mistress that puts a sticking plaster over it for a few weeks before it all starts again?

 

She’s 11 and she’s fvckin broken.

[Ashley]

5 minutes ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

How does an 11 year old girl stand up to a gang of 4 bullies and one horrible nasty bitch in particular?

 

How do I as a 9 stone 5’8” bloke stand up to her 18 stone 6’5” Dad?

 

How does my daughter say no to them in a way they might understand when all that does is encourage them even more?

 

How do I stop her coming home from school every day telling me and my wife that she wants to kill herself?

 

How do I get her to sleep at night when she can’t sleep because she’s scared to go in the next day?

 

How do I have yet another conversation with the Head Mistress that puts a sticking plaster over it for a few weeks before it all starts again?

 

She’s 11 and she’s fvckin broken.

Sorry this is happening to you right now in real life or you just using this as an example? 

 

Can't ****ing stand bullies and help is out there.

[Carl the Llama]

Izzy have you considered enrolling her in a martial arts class?

[Izzy]

Just now, Ashley said:

Sorry this is happening to you right now in real life or you just using this as an example? 

 

Can't ****ing stand bullies and help is out there.

I’m afraid this is very real life Ashley.

 

This has been two years of hell for her but thankfully my daughter is leaving this school in July and it can’t come soon enough.

 

I was bullied for years as a kid. I was skinny with ginger hair and a loner and couldn’t defend myself. My parents had their car trashed, fence broken, fireworks through the letterbox you name it. We had the police around ever week and eventually had to move.

 

Now my daughter is going through the same shit as I did. 

 

I try and forgive but it’s tough. I’m sure these bulllies have a shit life themselves and it’s their way of dealing with it but it doesn’t make our situation any easier...

[Izzy]

5 minutes ago, Carl the Llama said:

Izzy have you considered enrolling her in a martial arts class?

Yes mate. She started about a month ago. Thing is, she’s skinny as a rake and hardly eats. One of her ‘issues’ is that she’s got a thing about germs and she’s known as a ‘hygiene freak’ at school. She doesn’t eat at lunch time because the other kids take the piss out of her.

Shes also going for physio on her knee as it’s weak and gives way.

As I said, she’s a broken mess.

[Ian Nacho]

I think it's really difficult, it mostly comes down to how the kid takes it. Everyone get's the p*ss taken out of them at some point just depends on the severity and how often really. Leave it to the school I say.

[Webbo]

2 minutes ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

Yes mate. She started about a month ago. Thing is, she’s skinny as a rake and hardly eats. One of her ‘issues’ is that she’s got a thing about germs and she’s known as a ‘hygiene freak’ at school. She doesn’t eat at lunch time because the other kids take the piss out of her.

Shes also going for physio on her knee as it’s weak and gives way.

As I said, she’s a broken mess.

I feel for you mate. We worry about our kids even if they're the happiest in the world, when they've got problems it's heart breaking. I wish I could tell you a solution but we both know there's no easy answers.

[Carl the Llama]

1 minute ago, Izzy Muzzett said:

Yes mate. She started about a month ago. Thing is, she’s skinny as a rake and hardly eats. One of her ‘issues’ is that she’s got a thing about germs and she’s known as a ‘hygiene freak’ at school. She doesn’t eat at lunch time because the other kids take the piss out of her.

Shes also going for physio on her knee as it’s weak and gives way.

As I said, she’s a broken mess.

Poor thing.  At least she's lucky to have such a decent dad, I really hope the next school has better kids and more dependable teachers.