How Was Your Day?

[tom27111]

Went round to the mother in laws and made Sunday lunch for her.

 

She's so bloody brave, after losing her husband less than two months ago.

 

Seems to be coping really well and talking about Dave a lot, in a positive way. Remembering things that happened.

 

It was a lovely afternoon. I think third time we've taken over her kitchen since Dave passed away.

 

Cherish every moment you've got with your loved ones.

[cambridgefox]

Dropped the lad off to start his Army training on n Catterick.

400 mile round trip,I’m knackered .

[AyewJoking]

4 minutes ago, cambridgefox said:

Dropped the lad off to start his Army training on n Catterick.

400 mile round trip,I’m knackered .

Take the car next time

[Unabomber]

Just watching an interview with Prince Harry. He seems like a top guy. No idea why the tories hate him and Megan

[grobyfox1990]

19 minutes ago, Unabomber said:

Just watching an interview with Prince Harry. He seems like a top guy. No idea why the tories hate him and Megan

He’s coming across likeable I’ll begrudgingly admit. Probably because his wife isn’t there 

[HighPeakFox]

1 hour ago, grobyfox1990 said:

He’s coming across likeable I’ll begrudgingly admit. Probably because his wife isn’t there 

Maybe, just maybe, she's the victim of hatred, double standards and misogyny, as well as implied racism.

[The Bear]

25 minutes ago, HighPeakFox said:

Maybe, just maybe, she's the victim of hatred, double standards and misogyny, as well as implied racism.

There's the possibility of that all being true, on top of the possibility that she's also what everyone says she is. 

[HighPeakFox]

Just now, The Bear said:

There's the possibility of that all being true, on top of the possibility that she's also what everyone says she is. 

I do not buy it. She's been the victim of a hate campaign all along, and I know from personal experience how easy it is to ruin a life and reputation through sheer malice. I have no doubt she's far from perfect, but then again, who amongst us is? 

 

We're told what to think, and too many lap ot up, uncritically.

[Jon the Hat]

1 hour ago, HighPeakFox said:

I do not buy it. She's been the victim of a hate campaign all along, and I know from personal experience how easy it is to ruin a life and reputation through sheer malice. I have no doubt she's far from perfect, but then again, who amongst us is? 

 

We're told what to think, and too many lap ot up, uncritically.

Indeed.  She had no chance really did she?  Its all a wonderful story until the media gets bored and they turn.  Even before that there was a clear difference in the way she was treated vs Kate.  I also do believe the PR angle of those responsible for making the heir look good providing alternative stories to keep some out of the press.  It is time I think for the press to stop burying stories imo.  Not convinced that is sanctioned as such by the family itself though, but possible.

 

Worth noting, the family may well not have liked her much, and the type of people who work for the Royals may not have liked working for her but that is no excuse.

Edited 9 January 2023 by Jon the Hat

[grobyfox1990]

6 hours ago, HighPeakFox said:

Maybe, just maybe, she's the victim of hatred, double standards and misogyny, as well as implied racism.

I know, I never said she wasn’t, you shouldn’t look for a disagreement where there isn’t one as that’s exactly what the tabloids want you to do. He came across so much better last night as he led the agenda, was fair and balanced, didn’t have to break to say how amazing his darling wife is and wasn’t being patted and rubbed repeatedly. You’re allowed to say all that without it being sensationalised into some daily mail type  anti-Meghan hysterical mania 

[Guest Electric Yetis]

Absolutely terrible day. My youngest son suffers a bit with confidence and making relationships.

 

He is absolutely besotted with our 4 year old cat, Kasper, who he has grown up with. First thing he does when he gets home is find him and lay with him. He didn't want to go on holiday last year as he didn't want to leave him. 

 

Was stroking him and cuddling him this morning before he went to school telling him how much he loved him.

 

A couple of hours later my Mrs went out the door to work and found the cat laying dead in the front garden. No sign of injury,no blood or deformities. Just completely baffling. We live in a cul-de-sac with very few vehicles around

 

Son is absolutely destroyed. Only a cat to some but to him it was his best mate.

 

[Parafox]

1 hour ago, Rain King said:

Absolutely terrible day. My youngest son suffers a bit with confidence and making relationships.

 

He is absolutely besotted with our 4 year old cat, Kasper, who he has grown up with. First thing he does when he gets home is find him and lay with him. He didn't want to go on holiday last year as he didn't want to leave him. 

 

Was stroking him and cuddling him this morning before he went to school telling him how much he loved him.

 

A couple of hours later my Mrs went out the door to work and found the cat laying dead in the front garden. No sign of injury,no blood or deformities. Just completely baffling. We live in a cul-de-sac with very few vehicles around

 

Son is absolutely destroyed. Only a cat to some but to him it was his best mate.

 

Oh. Jeez. 

 

So sorry. You don't say how old your son is but the sudden loss of a beloved pet/companion is very distressing for an adult, never mind a child.

 

Time heals, is all I can offer.

Edited 10 January 2023 by Parafox

[Guest Electric Yetis]

He turned 9 a couple of days ago. He's in bits, don't know how to help him other than big cuddles.

 

Just devastated for him, his love for the cat was unmatched. His bedroom backs on to the conservatory and the cat would jump from the conservatory onto his bedroom window sill to be let in. 

 

He woke him up at 7am this morning to let him out the window.

[The Bear]

It's a terrible lesson to learn at his age but it will only be a positive thing in the long term for his emotional maturity. He'll get to understand the role death plays in life and the support that family gives in such events. 

 

And when he's ready he can be involved in choosing another pet and learning to bond with a new addition to the family. 

[Parafox]

7 minutes ago, The Bear said:

It's a terrible lesson to learn at his age but it will only be a positive thing in the long term for his emotional maturity. He'll get to understand the role death plays in life and the support that family gives in such events. 

 

And when he's ready he can be involved in choosing another pet and learning to bond with a new addition to the family. 

 

My 2 kids have lost rabbits, guinea pigs and a goldfish (lol) during their childhood. And a beloved old cat who is buried in our garden under the willow tree.

 

A month after all these losses, they'd moved on. 

 

As @The Bearsays. It's a learning process. One learns to live with loss and sadness.

[Guest Electric Yetis]

10 minutes ago, The Bear said:

It's a terrible lesson to learn at his age but it will only be a positive thing in the long term for his emotional maturity. He'll get to understand the role death plays in life and the support that family gives in such events. 

 

And when he's ready he can be involved in choosing another pet and learning to bond with a new addition to the family. 

We have another cat but she's a lot more stand offish and doesn't really have anything to do with him. Kasper was his little sidekick.

Can't face getting another pet again. Too hard.
 

[tom27111]

2 hours ago, Rain King said:

We have another cat but she's a lot more stand offish and doesn't really have anything to do with him. Kasper was his little sidekick.

Can't face getting another pet again. Too hard.
 

Really does sound awful and feel for you as a family, especially for your son.

 

I couldn't agree more with that part though mate, I've known a lot of people who've gone out immediately and bought a new pet and its been a disaster. 

 

Take time to grieve, support your son, then look at it much further down the line.

 

A pet, especially something like a dog or a cat, is a massive part of the family and it will hurt.

Edited 10 January 2023 by tom27111

[Guest Electric Yetis]

Completely forgot we were playing. Just had a look at his phone (my old cheap one that he uses to speak to his cousins) and its just message after message of him pouring his heart out.

 

 

 

How do you help him with this.

 

 

Edited 10 January 2023 by Rain King

[tom27111]

50 minutes ago, Rain King said:

Completely forgot we were playing. Just had a look at his phone (my old cheap one that he uses to speak to his cousins) and its just message after message of him pouring his heart out.

 

 

 

How do you help him with this.

 

 

Talking about it is a positive though.

 

Better than completely not talking about it and avoiding it.

 

As others have said, it's a learning experience, although a very harsh one.

 

He'll get through it. And keep talking about the funny stories and good memories.

[Guest Electric Yetis]

11 minutes ago, tom27111 said:

Talking about it is a positive though.

 

Better than completely not talking about it and avoiding it.

 

As others have said, it's a learning experience, although a very harsh one.

 

He'll get through it. And keep talking about the funny stories and good memories.

Yeah have been encouraging him to talk to us and telling him it's ok.

Took him to see my parents earlier to get him out of the house and overheard him speaking to my Mum. 

He was just telling her he was in shock and didn't know what to do.

 

The neighbours have been round and showed us the CCTV. He was happily wandering around the street at 9:36am looking fine. Runs back to our front garden at 9:37am and is not seen again until the Mrs found him outside our front window at 11am. Wasn't hit by a car or anything.

 

Just baffling.

[tom27111]

1 minute ago, Rain King said:

Yeah have been encouraging him to talk to us and telling him it's ok.

Took him to see my parents earlier to get him out of the house and overheard him speaking to my Mum. 

He was just telling her he was in shock and didn't know what to do.

 

The neighbours have been round and showed us the CCTV. He was happily wandering around the street at 9:36am looking fine. Runs back to our front garden at 9:37am and is not seen again until the Mrs found him outside our front window at 11am. Wasn't hit by a car or anything.

 

Just baffling.

How strange and awful.

 

How old was he?

 

Great name by the way, I'm taking it Leicester City inspired?! 

[Guest Electric Yetis]

Kasper was 4. Named by my both of my boys after KS.

 

Oldest son seemed generally ok all evening but he's now breaking down in floods of tears. Just horrible.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited 10 January 2023 by Rain King

[tom27111]

3 minutes ago, Rain King said:

Kasper was 4. Named by my both of my boys after KS.

 

Oldest son seemed generally ok all evening but he's now breaking down in floods of tears. Just horrible.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I feel for you mate.

 

Nights are always worst, get through it tonight and see how it is in the morning.

 

I bet its absolutely heartbreaking to see your kids like that, but it will get better 

[Innovindil]

2 hours ago, Rain King said:

Completely forgot we were playing. Just had a look at his phone (my old cheap one that he uses to speak to his cousins) and its just message after message of him pouring his heart out.

 

 

 

How do you help him with this.

 

 

Losing a pet is like losing a member of the family, it's tragic and I'm really sorry for your loss.

 

The ugly truth is there's not much more you can do besides being there for him. Just have to remember that time really does heal and he'll be okay. And when the time is right he'll be able to open his heart to a new pet.

 

[Jon the Hat]

6 hours ago, Rain King said:

Yeah have been encouraging him to talk to us and telling him it's ok.

Took him to see my parents earlier to get him out of the house and overheard him speaking to my Mum. 

He was just telling her he was in shock and didn't know what to do.

 

The neighbours have been round and showed us the CCTV. He was happily wandering around the street at 9:36am looking fine. Runs back to our front garden at 9:37am and is not seen again until the Mrs found him outside our front window at 11am. Wasn't hit by a car or anything.

 

Just baffling.

Cats are pretty good at going to ground if they don't feel well.  Could be he was ok then felt unwell and wanted to get home and safe.  He died knowing he was home.