How Was Your Day?

[Parafox]

58 minutes ago, Jattdogg said:

Birthdays coming up right? 25th?????? I think????

Don't tell me @StanSPis the Messiah 

[FoxesDeb]

33 minutes ago, Raj said:

We are crap over here when we even get an inch of snow.

We arent used to it and everyone still drives like a tw@t.

I'm refraining from cycling to work as it's too slippery in the mornings and car drivers are tw@ts.

Having said that I will revert to being a tw@t car driver for the rest of the working year until temperatures reach a staggering 3c atleast in the mornings!!!

You say the UK isn't used to it, but the same thing happens year after year after year 

[StanSP]

1 hour ago, Jattdogg said:

Got snow tires over here which helps a bit with things.  I enjoy driving in the snow, sliding around the corners like im drifting in my honda crv lol. Dad bod, dar car, bad ass! 

 

Birthdays coming up right? 25th?????? I think????

 

15 minutes ago, Parafox said:

Don't tell me @StanSPis the Messiah 

 

@Jattdogg is correct

 

It has been confirmed that I am the Indian Jesus. 

[Parafox]

2 minutes ago, FoxesDeb said:

You say the UK isn't used to it, but the same thing happens year after year after year 

Still crap because the councils and Gov decline to fund something they see as non-essential. IMO 

[Parafox]

4 minutes ago, StanSP said:

 

 

@Jattdogg is correct

 

It has been confirmed that I am the Indian...

 

Jesus. Who knew?

 

Edited 11 December 2022 by Parafox

[Raj]

10 minutes ago, FoxesDeb said:

You say the UK isn't used to it, but the same thing happens year after year after year 

Lol...still a suprise when we get ice in December!!!

 

PANIC!!!!! AAAARRRGGGGHHHH

[Jattdogg]

3 hours ago, StanSP said:

 

 

@Jattdogg is correct

 

It has been confirmed that I am the Indian Jesus. 

I stand in when Stan isnt available. 

 

Born on the 24th within the hour of xmas.

[Jon the Hat]

10 hours ago, Raj said:

Lol...still a suprise when we get ice in December!!!

 

PANIC!!!!! AAAARRRGGGGHHHH

It's more of a "not willing to spend another 1-2k on winter tyres / chains.

[Raj]

18 minutes ago, Jon the Hat said:

It's more of a "not willing to spend another 1-2k on winter tyres / chains.

Yes but that's the thing.

Who in the UK has winter tyres/snow chains?

If the average person went to kwik fit I'm sure even they wouldnt know what to say?

[Jon the Hat]

44 minutes ago, Raj said:

Yes but that's the thing.

Who in the UK has winter tyres/snow chains?

If the average person went to kwik fit I'm sure even they wouldnt know what to say?

Indeed.  I am sure if you are in Scotland of the North it is more common.

[FoyleFox]

2 hours ago, Raj said:

Yes but that's the thing.

Who in the UK has winter tyres/snow chains?

If the average person went to kwik fit I'm sure even they wouldnt know what to say?

We had winter tyres when we lived in Northern Ireland. I'm not sure it was very common but a daily commute across a mountain range made it a sensible move for us. 

They're still in the loft of the garage at the old house, if you want a set. 

[Raj]

1 hour ago, FoyleFox said:

We had winter tyres when we lived in Northern Ireland. I'm not sure it was very common but a daily commute across a mountain range made it a sensible move for us. 

They're still in the loft of the garage at the old house, if you want a set. 

Can you post them please??

[FoyleFox]

1 minute ago, Raj said:

Can you post them please??

Collection only, I'm afraid. We're back in Leicester now so a bit awkward, almost as awkward as getting them out of that loft, which is why they got left there

[Raj]

13 minutes ago, FoyleFox said:

Collection only, I'm afraid. We're back in Leicester now so a bit awkward, almost as awkward as getting them out of that loft, which is why they got left there

Are they good as insulation!!!?

[RonnieTodger]

Yeah I hate driving in the snow. I remember sliding off down the wrong exit on the London Road roundabout and having to go through Evington instead of being 2 minutes from home. 

 

Was like driving Herbie. 

Edited 12 December 2022 by RonnieTodger

[tom27111]

Went to the pub quiz tonight, just me and the Mrs.

 

First time since her dad passed away.

 

Question was: What's the most common name in the UK?

 

We put John Smith. 

 

Quizmaster gave the answers and said: A lot of you said John Smith, that's actually third. David Smith is most common. David Jones is second"

 

The Mrs' dad was called David Jones, so he got a shout out at the local!

 

We also won 'The Landlords round', meaning we got a free round of drinks.

 

I think a higher power had some influence on that, cheers Dave 

[marbles]

Day just starting for me, but been up for the last hour listening to the tornado alarm going off.

It was orange and bright outside. Now it’s dark AF and pouring down rain.  

[Arriba Los Zorros]

Awful day today to end an awful year. Got sacked at work. I've been suffering from body dysmorphia for years which is a form of mental health disease. It's been affecting my life for years too, brought my engagement to a crashing halt and held me back in my career.

 

This years been hard because I moved to a new place which is so noisy I can never feel relaxed, struggling to sleep for months and been on edge and with crazy high anxiety. Decided to do something about it and get treatment but it's been hard to hold down the job with all the stuff being brought up in the treatment and eventually they've let me go after months of underperformance.

 

Trying to tell myself it's for the best as it was a dead end job anyway but with a mortgage to pay it doesn't feel that way.

 

Sorry for unloading on here, just find it easier to talk to strangers about this kind of thing and Foxes talk is a sort of community. 😊

[Mike Oxlong]

3 minutes ago, Arriba Los Zorros said:

Awful day today to end an awful year. Got sacked at work. I've been suffering from body dysmorphia for years which is a form of mental health disease. It's been affecting my life for years too, brought my engagement to a crashing halt and held me back in my career.

 

This years been hard because I moved to a new place which is so noisy I can never feel relaxed, struggling to sleep for months and been on edge and with crazy high anxiety. Decided to do something about it and get treatment but it's been hard to hold down the job with all the stuff being brought up in the treatment and eventually they've let me go after months of underperformance.

 

Trying to tell myself it's for the best as it was a dead end job anyway but with a mortgage to pay it doesn't feel that way.

 

Sorry for unloading on here, just find it easier to talk to strangers about this kind of thing and Foxes talk is a sort of community. 😊

Sorry to hear about the job situation but it sounds like you’re taking big strides in the right direction to overcome those longstanding difficulties and to have a better life generally for the long term

 

Hopefully in the not too distant future you’ll be better equipped to get a much better job and to start enjoying life again. Good luck 👍

[Arriba Los Zorros]

3 minutes ago, Mike Oxlong said:

Sorry to hear about the job situation but it sounds like you’re taking big strides in the right direction to overcome those longstanding difficulties and to have a better life generally for the long term

 

Hopefully in the not too distant future you’ll be better equipped to get a much better job and to start enjoying life again. Good luck 👍

I can't like this post enough. It means the world that some bloke I only know by Internet alias (a good one at that) has taken the time to reply to a rather pathetic self pitying post. Thanks Mike, it's given me a little bit of cheer and motivation tonight, you're a good egg. 

Edited 16 December 2022 by Arriba Los Zorros

[Mike Oxlong]

3 minutes ago, Arriba Los Zorros said:

I can't like this post enough. It means the world that some bloke I only know by Internet alias (a good one at that) has taken the time to reply to a rather pathetic self pitying post. Thanks Mike, it's given me a little bit of cheer and motivation tonight, you're a good egg. 

Not a pathetic self pitying post at all 

 

And your reply has put a smile on my face so thanks for that 🙏 

[Arriba Los Zorros]

2 minutes ago, Mike Oxlong said:

Not a pathetic self pitying post at all 

 

And your reply has put a smile on my face so thanks for that 🙏 

Thanks mate. Really grateful for your kindness. There is some saying about a moments kindness to a stranger that I wish I could remember properly .. But safe to say... I'm feeling much better than 15 minutes ago. God bless this site! 

[Milo]

18 minutes ago, Arriba Los Zorros said:

Awful day today to end an awful year. Got sacked at work. I've been suffering from body dysmorphia for years which is a form of mental health disease. It's been affecting my life for years too, brought my engagement to a crashing halt and held me back in my career.

 

This years been hard because I moved to a new place which is so noisy I can never feel relaxed, struggling to sleep for months and been on edge and with crazy high anxiety. Decided to do something about it and get treatment but it's been hard to hold down the job with all the stuff being brought up in the treatment and eventually they've let me go after months of underperformance.

 

Trying to tell myself it's for the best as it was a dead end job anyway but with a mortgage to pay it doesn't feel that way.

 

Sorry for unloading on here, just find it easier to talk to strangers about this kind of thing and Foxes talk is a sort of community. 😊

That sounds awful. 
 

There is a really strong community on here of really good types that are brilliant at listening and offering sage and sound advice if needed. 
 

There’s a couple of top guys and gals not too far away that can offer support and a sympathetic ear. 
 

It’s been a while since I’ve been sacked, but I do remember (after a short period of self pity) that I was better off without that job and used it as a chance to reboot, re-invent and go again. 
 

Hopefully you can take a little time and go again in the new year. 
 

 

[Arriba Los Zorros]

1 minute ago, Milo said:

That sounds awful. 
 

There is a really strong community on here of really good types that are brilliant at listening and offering sage and sound advice if needed. 
 

There’s a couple of top guys and gals not too far away that can offer support and a sympathetic ear. 
 

It’s been a while since I’ve been sacked, but I do remember (after a short period of self pity) that I was better off without that job and used it as a chance to reboot, re-invent and go again. 
 

Hopefully you can take a little time and go again in the new year. 
 

 

Massive thanks mate. As above I'm really grateful for you taking the time to reply with a positive message and good wishes. Great to know there's a supportive community on FT. Means a lot, stupid as it sounds 😊

 

It's still quite raw but I'm thinking it might be best to get a part time job with no pressure while carrying on with treatment so the pressure is off and there is no real need to keep up appearances. There's no magic fix to this illness but you can definitely learn to keep it in check and not be too hindered on your life. Will be extremely hard to pay the mortgage and I'll probably have to move somewhere smaller to reduce financial commitments. But maybe that's the best long term plan. Or maybe it's unrealistic and the beers talking. 

 

Either way, I'm super glad I posted. Has really cheered me up to get a couple of kind responses. 😀

[Wymsey]

10 hours ago, Arriba Los Zorros said:

Awful day today to end an awful year. Got sacked at work. I've been suffering from body dysmorphia for years which is a form of mental health disease. It's been affecting my life for years too, brought my engagement to a crashing halt and held me back in my career.

 

This years been hard because I moved to a new place which is so noisy I can never feel relaxed, struggling to sleep for months and been on edge and with crazy high anxiety. Decided to do something about it and get treatment but it's been hard to hold down the job with all the stuff being brought up in the treatment and eventually they've let me go after months of underperformance.

 

Trying to tell myself it's for the best as it was a dead end job anyway but with a mortgage to pay it doesn't feel that way.

 

Sorry for unloading on here, just find it easier to talk to strangers about this kind of thing and Foxes talk is a sort of community. 😊

You're going through a tough time, for sure, and am genuinely sorry you're going through a rough patch - it must hit you so hard psychologically in being 'sacked' (I don't know you, but have read your posts in the past and you seem an intelligent, young (?)) and down-to-earth individual).

 

May I ask: do you think your mental health battle with this illness has affected how you worked in this particular employment - and did your employer know about this, at the time of employment?

 

Moving property/to a new location is never easy.

I moved to London a few months' ago to move in with my girlfriend and it has been challenging (new city, different neighbours etc.).

 

You're being open with your feelings and stating that you're getting support; and, really, you should give yourself huge respect for this. 

Unfortunately, I've read so many stories of people ending their lives without their family knowing what they went through.

 

All I can advise on this front is to give yourself time to go through this mental 'grievance' mental period after a soul-destroying day (to say the least), reflect on it with an open mind by yourself/family/friends and decide what you really want in life.

 

Obviously, I'm no qualified therapy counsellor (Wymsey, of all members? Never!..  ) by any means - and other members like @Izzy etc. who are well-known for providing other members life advice would probably give better advice than I have here, for sure - but I hope you've took on-board what I've said here.

 

Fingers crossed.

Edited 17 December 2022 by Wymsey