How Was Your Day?

[FoxesDeb]

1 hour ago, Arriba Los Zorros said:

Great to know there's a supportive community on FT. Means a lot, stupid as it sounds 😊

 

 

 

 

It doesn't sound stupid at all, I love that when it's needed people can put aside their differences here and you're right, we are a little community. 

 

I'm a big believer in things happening for a reason, although it probably doesn't feel like that right now, but I wish you the best of luck.

 

Don't be afraid to come back and let us all know how you're doing, too 

[LiberalFox]

I don't have anything much to say other than whatever you are feeling is valid. 

[FoyleFox]

1 hour ago, Arriba Los Zorros said:

Massive thanks mate. As above I'm really grateful for you taking the time to reply with a positive message and good wishes. Great to know there's a supportive community on FT. Means a lot, stupid as it sounds 😊

 

It's still quite raw but I'm thinking it might be best to get a part time job with no pressure while carrying on with treatment so the pressure is off and there is no real need to keep up appearances. There's no magic fix to this illness but you can definitely learn to keep it in check and not be too hindered on your life. Will be extremely hard to pay the mortgage and I'll probably have to move somewhere smaller to reduce financial commitments. But maybe that's the best long term plan. Or maybe it's unrealistic and the beers talking. 

 

Either way, I'm super glad I posted. Has really cheered me up to get a couple of kind responses. 😀

You've already taken the positive step of seeking help and your health is the most vitally important. A part time job without the stress seems a very good idea too. If you're concerned about the mortgage payments, give your lender a call, explain your employment situation and negotiate a reduced payment schedule for a few months. They would much rather help you at the beginning than you get behind with payments. It would also be one less thing to be dealing with while you're getting on track. Hope it works out for you. 

[Arriba Los Zorros]

1 hour ago, LiberalFox said:

I don't have anything much to say other than whatever you are feeling is valid. 

 

1 hour ago, FoyleFox said:

You've already taken the positive step of seeking help and your health is the most vitally important. A part time job without the stress seems a very good idea too. If you're concerned about the mortgage payments, give your lender a call, explain your employment situation and negotiate a reduced payment schedule for a few months. They would much rather help you at the beginning than you get behind with payments. It would also be one less thing to be dealing with while you're getting on track. Hope it works out for you. 

 

2 hours ago, FoxesDeb said:

It doesn't sound stupid at all, I love that when it's needed people can put aside their differences here and you're right, we are a little community. 

 

I'm a big believer in things happening for a reason, although it probably doesn't feel like that right now, but I wish you the best of luck.

 

Don't be afraid to come back and let us all know how you're doing, too 

 

2 hours ago, Wymsey said:

You're going through a tough time, for sure, and am genuinely sorry you're going through a rough patch - it must hit you so hard psychologically in being 'sacked' (I don't know you, but have read your posts in the past and you seem an intelligent, young (?)) and down-to-earth individual).

 

May I ask: do you think your mental health battle with this illness has affected how you worked in this particular employment - and did your employer know about this, at the time of employment?

 

Moving property/to a new location is never easy.

I moved to London a few months' ago to move in with my girlfriend and it has been challenging (new city, different neighbours etc.).

 

You're being open with your feelings and stating that you're getting support; and, really, you should give yourself huge respect for this. 

Unfortunately, I've read so many stories of people ending their lives without their family knowing what they went through.

 

All I can advise on this front is to give yourself time to go through this mental 'grievance' mental period after a soul-destroying day (to say the least), reflect on it with an open mind by yourself/family/friends and decide what you really want in life.

 

Obviously, I'm no qualified therary counsellor (Wymsey, of all members? Never!..  ) by any means - and other members like @Izzy etc. who are well-known for providing other members life advice would probably give better advice that I have here, for sure - but I hope you've took on-board what I've said here.

 

Fingers crossed.

Hi guys and girls. A massive thank you for your kind words and thoughts. It's helped me immensely during an extremely difficult evening. 

 

I will take the time to respond properly to everyone individually in the morning but for now, a massive thank you for taking the time to reply, it really does mean the world. 🧡

[grobyfox1990]

4 hours ago, Arriba Los Zorros said:

Awful day today to end an awful year. Got sacked at work. I've been suffering from body dysmorphia for years which is a form of mental health disease. It's been affecting my life for years too, brought my engagement to a crashing halt and held me back in my career.

 

This years been hard because I moved to a new place which is so noisy I can never feel relaxed, struggling to sleep for months and been on edge and with crazy high anxiety. Decided to do something about it and get treatment but it's been hard to hold down the job with all the stuff being brought up in the treatment and eventually they've let me go after months of underperformance.

 

Trying to tell myself it's for the best as it was a dead end job anyway but with a mortgage to pay it doesn't feel that way.

 

Sorry for unloading on here, just find it easier to talk to strangers about this kind of thing and Foxes talk is a sort of community. 😊

Your time will come. May not be now may not even be soon but it will come 

[Arriba Los Zorros]

15 hours ago, Wymsey said:

You're going through a tough time, for sure, and am genuinely sorry you're going through a rough patch - it must hit you so hard psychologically in being 'sacked' (I don't know you, but have read your posts in the past and you seem an intelligent, young (?)) and down-to-earth individual).

 

May I ask: do you think your mental health battle with this illness has affected how you worked in this particular employment - and did your employer know about this, at the time of employment?

 

Moving property/to a new location is never easy.

I moved to London a few months' ago to move in with my girlfriend and it has been challenging (new city, different neighbours etc.).

 

You're being open with your feelings and stating that you're getting support; and, really, you should give yourself huge respect for this. 

Unfortunately, I've read so many stories of people ending their lives without their family knowing what they went through.

 

All I can advise on this front is to give yourself time to go through this mental 'grievance' mental period after a soul-destroying day (to say the least), reflect on it with an open mind by yourself/family/friends and decide what you really want in life.

 

Obviously, I'm no qualified therapy counsellor (Wymsey, of all members? Never!..  ) by any means - and other members like @Izzy etc. who are well-known for providing other members life advice would probably give better advice than I have here, for sure - but I hope you've took on-board what I've said here.

 

Fingers crossed.

Hi Wymesy. Thanks for your reply and compassionate words. 😊

 

Yes unfortunately my mental health had a huge impact on my perfo lance in work, particularly insomnia which made me struggle to find the energy to battle through on low days, and I was in late quite often. I told my boss about the insomnia as an explanation but never felt able to discuss the mental health as I was worried it might impact on my future at the company, (which it did ultimately anyway). 

 

I'm going to do as you suggested and use this time without having to keep up appearances every day to try and reset and thing about how to get my life on track long term and hope to be ready to go again from a much more stable basis. I was diagnosed with body dysmorphia at 19 and turned 34 a week ago so had it for years and years and really it has brought my life to a shuddering halt, but it can be overcome... 

15 hours ago, FoxesDeb said:

It doesn't sound stupid at all, I love that when it's needed people can put aside their differences here and you're right, we are a little community. 

 

I'm a big believer in things happening for a reason, although it probably doesn't feel like that right now, but I wish you the best of luck.

 

Don't be afraid to come back and let us all know how you're doing, too 

Thank you very much. Foxestalk is great, it goes so far beyond just LCFC. I'll post again when things have moved in a little, hopefully with some more positive updates. 

14 hours ago, FoyleFox said:

You've already taken the positive step of seeking help and your health is the most vitally important. A part time job without the stress seems a very good idea too. If you're concerned about the mortgage payments, give your lender a call, explain your employment situation and negotiate a reduced payment schedule for a few months. They would much rather help you at the beginning than you get behind with payments. It would also be one less thing to be dealing with while you're getting on track. Hope it works out for you. 

Thanks a lot for this sound advice. I'm feeling a bit more circumspect about things this morning and advice such as yours helps big time. Trying to view the hand I'm dealt as an opportunity not a curse... Easier said than done but it's helping! 

[Arriba Los Zorros]

12 hours ago, grobyfox1990 said:

Your time will come. May not be now may not even be soon but it will come 

Thank you. Fingers crossed. I'll post on here with hopefully much more positive news when things are a little less bleak. 

[StanSP]

All the best in the future @Arriba Los Zorros. It might be shit that you've lost your job, but it can be used as a blessing in disguise. For all the time you've invested into trying to better yourself through the treatment, it might not be the worst thing to happen in the long-run when you could be in a better position within yourself when you start that next job. 

 

Fingers crossed it does all go well. It's shit now especially around Xmas time and the feelings are probably heightened, but it won't be like this forever and things will get better  

[grobyfox1990]

3 hours ago, Arriba Los Zorros said:

Thank you. Fingers crossed. I'll post on here with hopefully much more positive news when things are a little less bleak. 

Please do mate. We are all behind you. Genuinely 

[Arriba Los Zorros]

23 hours ago, StanSP said:

All the best in the future @Arriba Los Zorros. It might be shit that you've lost your job, but it can be used as a blessing in disguise. For all the time you've invested into trying to better yourself through the treatment, it might not be the worst thing to happen in the long-run when you could be in a better position within yourself when you start that next job. 

 

Fingers crossed it does all go well. It's shit now especially around Xmas time and the feelings are probably heightened, but it won't be like this forever and things will get better  

Thanks Stan. In a nutshell exactly what I'm trying to convince myself of! Appreciate the wise words. 

[HighPeakFox]

27 minutes ago, Arriba Los Zorros said:

Thanks Stan. In a nutshell exactly what I'm trying to convince myself of! Appreciate the wise words. 

I've just caught up with your recent news ALZ, and am now doubly pleased I responded to you in the D thread. I used to be someone who was always waiting for things to go wrong, now I tend to prepare for them to go right... I hope you can find a use for that mantra somehow, and all the best.

[Arriba Los Zorros]

3 hours ago, HighPeakFox said:

I've just caught up with your recent news ALZ, and am now doubly pleased I responded to you in the D thread. I used to be someone who was always waiting for things to go wrong, now I tend to prepare for them to go right... I hope you can find a use for that mantra somehow, and all the best.

Thanks fella. Wise words indeed and I will try and bear that in mind. I guess the key word is preparing yes? As in work hard and do the right things and wait for the rewards... You reap what you sow etc... 

[HighPeakFox]

4 hours ago, Arriba Los Zorros said:

Thanks fella. Wise words indeed and I will try and bear that in mind. I guess the key word is preparing yes? As in work hard and do the right things and wait for the rewards... You reap what you sow etc... 

Yes - another related truism is that nobody plans to fail, they only fail to plan...

[Jon the Hat]

On 17/12/2022 at 05:10, Arriba Los Zorros said:

Awful day today to end an awful year. Got sacked at work. I've been suffering from body dysmorphia for years which is a form of mental health disease. It's been affecting my life for years too, brought my engagement to a crashing halt and held me back in my career.

 

This years been hard because I moved to a new place which is so noisy I can never feel relaxed, struggling to sleep for months and been on edge and with crazy high anxiety. Decided to do something about it and get treatment but it's been hard to hold down the job with all the stuff being brought up in the treatment and eventually they've let me go after months of underperformance.

 

Trying to tell myself it's for the best as it was a dead end job anyway but with a mortgage to pay it doesn't feel that way.

 

Sorry for unloading on here, just find it easier to talk to strangers about this kind of thing and Foxes talk is a sort of community. 😊

Sorry to hear about the job, a shit time for it to happen too.  That said, mate you have made an incredibly hard step in getting help, and that is a lot more important in the long run.  Maybe a fresh start work wise is just what you need in the new year.

[chapero82]

I’m going through a really bad time at the minute, and everything I touch is just going wrong 

[Jon the Hat]

5 minutes ago, chapero82 said:

I’m going through a really bad time at the minute, and everything I touch is just going wrong 

Sorry to hear that mate - sometimes that is the way it rolls.  Usually imo it is a bit of a domino effect as the first one or two things takes it out of you and then your judgment can be a it off, or indeed just your perception of things.  Try to take a break over the holidays and reset in Jan!

[chapero82]

Just now, Jon the Hat said:

Sorry to hear that mate - sometimes that is the way it rolls.  Usually imo it is a bit of a domino effect as the first one or two things takes it out of you and then your judgment can be a it off, or indeed just your perception of things.  Try to take a break over the holidays and reset in Jan!

Thanks mate, I’m really hoping things will be better in January 

[StanSP]

Feel like I've had a cold* for about 3 weeks now. Can't shift it. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

*manflu. 

[HybridFox]

Today is going to be very unproductive at work

[Fox92]

On 21/12/2022 at 19:17, StanSP said:

Feel like I've had a cold* for about 3 weeks now. Can't shift it. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

*manflu. 

Same. Tuesday/Wednesday this week I felt horrific. And two weeks ago it was on the same days.

 

Constant headache, temperate, body aches can't sleep.

[StanSP]

42 minutes ago, Fox92 said:

Same. Tuesday/Wednesday this week I felt horrific. And two weeks ago it was on the same days.

 

Constant headache, temperate, body aches can't sleep.

Yeah it's been fluctuating for ages. When I think I'm getting better, I get knocked back for six. 

 

Been coughing up some proper dirty stuff

 

[Daggers]

I planned to spend today drinking tea, eating cake and gaming.

 

"Can you just 'pop' into town to get a couple of things," she said.

 

Three hours later...and all for some cheese and a fvcking tube of Pringles. That was the worst thing that's happened in 2022.

[The Bear]

37 minutes ago, Daggers said:

I planned to spend today drinking tea, eating cake and gaming.

 

"Can you just 'pop' into town to get a couple of things," she said.

 

Three hours later...and all for some cheese and a fvcking tube of Pringles. That was the worst thing that's happened in 2022.

This is where your local Co-op, Tesco Express, Spar, etc comes into its own. Never ever go into town this close to Christmas!! 

[Milo]

43 minutes ago, Daggers said:

I planned to spend today drinking tea, eating cake and gaming.

 

"Can you just 'pop' into town to get a couple of things," she said.

 

Three hours later...and all for some cheese and a fvcking tube of Pringles. That was the worst thing that's happened in 2022.

Rookie error. 
 

Nada sympathy. 
 

Happy Christmas 

[Daggers]

1 hour ago, The Bear said:

This is where your local Co-op, Tesco Express, Spar, etc comes into its own. Never ever go into town this close to Christmas!! 

They don't sell cheese good enough, apparently. This better be great fvcking cheese.