How Was Your Day?

[Beliall]

its christmas. the first one where the kids know santa is a big fat lie, my 2 eldest boys are not here, spending it with the girlfriends, my brother in law and closest friend also isnt coming because we invited his other brother, a recently recovering drug addict who i dont know very well but have a lot of sympathy for, having been where he is, and i understand why his brother wont talk to him, so i woke up feeling a little miserable, but since then i have prepped dinner, had coffee, given the kids some gifts and things are looking a little brighter, but getting older really does change things, need one of the boys to have a kid so i have infants to spoil   on year i hope we can have an adult christmas, with all the family, some drinks and laughs but we're in the in between right now..

sorry to put a downer on the forum but i needed to get it out somewhere and i have the feeling you guys will understand. i hope you all have a great day today, and for a final note, if theres a family member you havent spoken to in a while, give them a call or a text and say hi. 

merry christmas FT

[Raj]

First one for me without my dad popping round( Passed away in August)

Feels abit weird but hey ho, life goes on and all that.

Think it'll be the last one where my 9 year old finally realises Santa and all the guff is a big fat lie

 Luckily his 14 year old sister isnt yet that cruel enough to ruin it for him when he ran down and say the half eaten pie, and oats scattered on the carpet where the reindeer were!!

Daughters still in bed as always, so will have a coffee and try and enjoy it for the wife and kids.

Have a great day all.

 

 

[FoxesDeb]

39 minutes ago, Beliall said:

its christmas. the first one where the kids know santa is a big fat lie, my 2 eldest boys are not here, spending it with the girlfriends, my brother in law and closest friend also isnt coming because we invited his other brother, a recently recovering drug addict who i dont know very well but have a lot of sympathy for, having been where he is, and i understand why his brother wont talk to him, so i woke up feeling a little miserable, but since then i have prepped dinner, had coffee, given the kids some gifts and things are looking a little brighter, but getting older really does change things, need one of the boys to have a kid so i have infants to spoil   on year i hope we can have an adult christmas, with all the family, some drinks and laughs but we're in the in between right now..

sorry to put a downer on the forum but i needed to get it out somewhere and i have the feeling you guys will understand. i hope you all have a great day today, and for a final note, if theres a family member you havent spoken to in a while, give them a call or a text and say hi. 

merry christmas FT

I can relate to this, it definitely changes as the children get older.

 

Mine are all older too and although they were here this week, they went back to their Dads yesterday so today it's just me and my husband. We're going out for lunch which is a first for me, and although I'm sure it will be lovely it's just not the same as kids running around in pyjamas amongst all the wrapping paper!

 

I'm sure after a few glasses of wine it will feel a bit brighter, and at least I can be thankful for the sunshine.

 

I hope you have a lovely day, Merry Christmas 🤶 

[Beliall]

2 minutes ago, FoxesDeb said:

I can relate to this, it definitely changes as the children get older.

 

Mine are all older too and although they were here this week, they went back to their Dads yesterday so today it's just me and my husband. We're going out for lunch which is a first for me, and although I'm sure it will be lovely it's just not the same as kids running around in pyjamas amongst all the wrapping paper!

 

I'm sure after a few glasses of wine it will feel a bit brighter, and at least I can be thankful for the sunshine.

 

I hope you have a lovely day, Merry Christmas 🤶 

have a nice lunch and enjoy your day. thanks for the support

[grobyfox1990]

49 minutes ago, Beliall said:

its christmas. the first one where the kids know santa is a big fat lie, my 2 eldest boys are not here, spending it with the girlfriends, my brother in law and closest friend also isnt coming because we invited his other brother, a recently recovering drug addict who i dont know very well but have a lot of sympathy for, having been where he is, and i understand why his brother wont talk to him, so i woke up feeling a little miserable, but since then i have prepped dinner, had coffee, given the kids some gifts and things are looking a little brighter, but getting older really does change things, need one of the boys to have a kid so i have infants to spoil   on year i hope we can have an adult christmas, with all the family, some drinks and laughs but we're in the in between right now..

sorry to put a downer on the forum but i needed to get it out somewhere and i have the feeling you guys will understand. i hope you all have a great day today, and for a final note, if theres a family member you havent spoken to in a while, give them a call or a text and say hi. 

merry christmas FT

Have a great day mate. Sounds like you’ve got a really strong mind which is hugely admirable 

[tom27111]

That £16 on a bottle of Chablis seems cheap. 

 

Beautiful. I only do it once a year.

[Parafox]

6 hours ago, Raj said:

First one for me without my dad popping round( Passed away in August)

Feels abit weird but hey ho, life goes on and all that.

Think it'll be the last one where my 9 year old finally realises Santa and all the guff is a big fat lie

 Luckily his 14 year old sister isnt yet that cruel enough to ruin it for him when he ran down and say the half eaten pie, and oats scattered on the carpet where the reindeer were!!

Daughters still in bed as always, so will have a coffee and try and enjoy it for the wife and kids.

Have a great day all.

 

 

Hope it went well. The first "event" after a loved one passes is always difficult and odd.

 

As for the kids. All parents go through that same process. 

 

What used to be a 5 AM wake up is now 10 AM (ish) to open the pressies and then daughter goes back to bed until dinner is served. 

[Lionator]

Anyone’s family members a bit upset by the King’s speech? Too woke according to my aunt. 

[Alf Bentley]

14 hours ago, Mike Oxlong said:

Yes, I knew that they were heavy. I might get mine delivered for scattering by Amazon when the time comes. 

 

Would require at least 2 delivery workers to carry the ashes of your cock alone, I imagine....

[purpleronnie]

It was a great day not as chaotic as its been in the past.  Definitely different now the kids are older, but we still had a really good laugh and good time. 

 

I hope everyone had a great one.

[Alf Bentley]

2 hours ago, Lionator said:

Anyone’s family members a bit upset by the King’s speech? Too woke according to my aunt. 

 

Some govt ministers will be chuntering about him mentioning the debt we owe to public service workers (currently on strike for better pay & conditions and being demonised as "the unreasonable unions"). Also his comments about the cost of living crisis affecting so many people (economy gone to shite) etc.  Not exactly political or "woke", but unwelcome subjects in certain quarters.... 

 

It seemed a more religious message than I'd expected - more so than I remember the Queen being.

 

No mention or images of Harry & Meghan or Andrew, just lots of William & Kate, Charles & Camilla, Queen, the odd bit of Edward (& Anne?)......it's like how Stalin had Trotsky removed from all the old paintings of the Bolshevik revolution. 

[weller54]

My Grandson modelling his new LCFC Hoodie....

[purpleronnie]

3 hours ago, Lionator said:

Anyone’s family members a bit upset by the King’s speech? Too woke according to my aunt. 

What does that even mean?, people say it as if being alert to discrimination is a bad thing. 

[tom27111]

17 minutes ago, weller54 said:

My Grandson modelling his new LCFC Hoodie....

Can he play as a full back? 

[weller54]

3 minutes ago, tom27111 said:

Can he play as a full back? 

He's only 6, but a better option than Bertrand!!

[FoyleFox]

A lovely but fairly quiet day. Just us, my parents and the dog. Our first in the new home.  Definitely made sure it was a nice one. Reading people's comments about the difficulty with Christmas after loved ones pass. Parents are mid 80's and my mind is fully acknowledging of the uncertainty of how many more we'll have to share. 

 

On a happier note, checked mum's lottery numbers from last night and she's won a good few quid. 

[Lionator]

12 hours ago, Beliall said:

its christmas. the first one where the kids know santa is a big fat lie, my 2 eldest boys are not here, spending it with the girlfriends, my brother in law and closest friend also isnt coming because we invited his other brother, a recently recovering drug addict who i dont know very well but have a lot of sympathy for, having been where he is, and i understand why his brother wont talk to him, so i woke up feeling a little miserable, but since then i have prepped dinner, had coffee, given the kids some gifts and things are looking a little brighter, but getting older really does change things, need one of the boys to have a kid so i have infants to spoil   on year i hope we can have an adult christmas, with all the family, some drinks and laughs but we're in the in between right now..

sorry to put a downer on the forum but i needed to get it out somewhere and i have the feeling you guys will understand. i hope you all have a great day today, and for a final note, if theres a family member you havent spoken to in a while, give them a call or a text and say hi. 

merry christmas FT

What you did with the other brother is very kind and understanding of you. Ultimately there would always be one who gets left out in that situation and I think you did the morally right thing, it’s not your responsibility how the other brother reacts. I hope it went well for you. 

[LiberalFox]

58 minutes ago, Lionator said:

Anyone’s family members a bit upset by the King’s speech? Too woke according to my aunt. 

My mum thought he'd been conned by the bloke who told him that specific spot was where Jesus' manger had been. 

[tom27111]

Genuinely, I'm in a cheese coma. Can't move.

 

Send help.

 

Help needs to be parma ham 

[The Bear]

18 minutes ago, tom27111 said:

Genuinely, I'm in a cheese coma. Can't move.

 

Send help.

 

Help needs to be parma ham 

Red Leicester on crackers? 

[tom27111]

Just now, The Bear said:

Red Leicester on crackers? 

Nah, wrong colour 

[samlcfc]

23 hours ago, Lionator said:

Anyone’s family members a bit upset by the King’s speech? Too woke according to my aunt. 

She shouldn't worry about it too much. He's probably not too bothered. 

 

19 hours ago, purpleronnie said:

What does that even mean?, people say it as if being alert to discrimination is a bad thing. 

I've got my own ideals and theres no room for any new-fangled woke rubbish. Also, woke ideals might have an impact on how I view the world and the current way I live my life.

[Benguin]

20 hours ago, purpleronnie said:

What does that even mean?, people say it as if being alert to discrimination is a bad thing. 

In my family that saying is less about being alert to discrimination and more a jibe at people who consider themselves more enlightened than everyone else. Like we get it, stop going in about it to score some brownie points. 

 

For me personally it grates me as there are real issues in the world and we focus too much as a society on one we can relate to or ones that are more trendy. Yes they’re all issues but let’s prioritise them at the very least! Feminism in this country vs the Middle East is my go to example. 

[samlcfc]

27 minutes ago, Benguin said:

In my family that saying is less about being alert to discrimination and more a jibe at people who consider themselves more enlightened than everyone else. Like we get it, stop going in about it to score some brownie points.

To be fair, whatever your socio-political interests, there will be a number of activists making noise to spread awareness. For every one of those you hear from, there's usually a bunch more putting in work in the background.

 

Anyone putting in work for a cause is going to believe what they're fighting for is an improvement on the status-quo. That's just the nature of it for most things. Just some things changing would impact more on peoples lives than others.

 

27 minutes ago, Benguin said:

For me personally it grates me as there are real issues in the world and we focus too much as a society on one we can relate to or ones that are more trendy. Yes they’re all issues but let’s prioritise them at the very least! Feminism in this country vs the Middle East is my go to example. 

I feel like that's how everything in human society works. People have interests and work to further those interests during their lives. That's the same whether it's sciences, arts or politics etc.

 

Feminist activists in the UK might want better for humans in the Middle East, but that isn't going to stop them fighting for more equality between sexes in their home nations where they can have an impact.

 

In addition to assuming that activists working with one issue also have an interest in other specific issues, prioritisation also assumes that you can drop your work surrounding a cause to pick up the effort with another.

 

Things don't always progress from everyones point of view, taking the abortion rights being repealed in some US states for example. One activists victory is anothers defeat. People will always be working both in full view of you and behind the scenes, to try and ensure progression of their cause.

Edited 26 December 2022 by samlcfc

[Jattdogg]

On 25/12/2022 at 05:56, Raj said:

First one for me without my dad popping round( Passed away in August)

Feels abit weird but hey ho, life goes on and all that.

Think it'll be the last one where my 9 year old finally realises Santa and all the guff is a big fat lie

 Luckily his 14 year old sister isnt yet that cruel enough to ruin it for him when he ran down and say the half eaten pie, and oats scattered on the carpet where the reindeer were!!

Daughters still in bed as always, so will have a coffee and try and enjoy it for the wife and kids.

Have a great day all.

 

 

My kids are 9 and 7. The 7 year olds friends (some) at school tell her santa isnt real. She is determined to prove them wrong and wrote a letter to santa lol. I had to write back but clearly her friends are doosh bags with older siblings haha.

 

My son is onto it but think he just waiting for us to confirm. I think this WAS the last one for us unfortunately but there are always silver linings. I won't have to buy a gift from mommy/daddy and santa now lol.

 

When my mum passed in 2011 the first christmas without her was very tough. We had in our memory the previous years christmas and it just stuck with us. Bloody cancer took her too young and i miss her presence very much. But like you said life goes on as you have no choice. Memories and my kids give me reason enough to keep on keepin on. All the best Raj!

 

With my birthday on 24th (had family over) and then yesterday at the inlaws i am exhausted today. Been in pajamas all day. Could do with a 12 hour sleep!