Depression

[foxfanazer]

11 hours ago, Izzy said:

My Mum died 2 weeks ago and I'm struggling. 

 

The biggest pain is seeing my Dad completely lost after 54 years of happy marriage - he just doesn't know what to do with himself.

 

I know time will be a healer but right now we're in the middle of funeral arrangements and all that shit and it's still very raw.

 

Christmas will be horrible.

Really sorry for your loss Izzy. Much love to you and your family mate

[urban.spaceman]

Been in a major depressive spiral the last two/three months and I can’t get out of it. Everything just keeps getting worse. 

[spacemunky]

This time of the year is always particularly tough, for a lot of people.

 

Both my parents passed away around this time(many years ago) and my birthday was this month(which was the day my dad passed away on).

 

I try not to let it show, but it's always difficult to appear cheerful, but I do my best. 

 

Mostly I just try to stay as drunk as possible 

[Parafox]

30 minutes ago, spacemunky said:

This time of the year is always particularly tough, for a lot of people.

 

Both my parents passed away around this time(many years ago) and my birthday was this month(which was the day my dad passed away on).

 

I try not to let it show, but it's always difficult to appear cheerful, but I do my best. 

 

Mostly I just try to stay as drunk as possible 

 

Not really the answer but I get it.

 

Sorry that you have to suffer. I too find this time of year really difficult mainly because of traumas caused by our daughter and her MH issues that have resulted in her arrests and OD's and self harming on several Christmas day's gone by.

 

The memories of those experiences still haunt me every year.

[Trav Le Bleu]

36 minutes ago, spacemunky said:

This time of the year is always particularly tough, for a lot of people.

 

Both my parents passed away around this time(many years ago) and my birthday was this month(which was the day my dad passed away on).

 

I try not to let it show, but it's always difficult to appear cheerful, but I do my best. 

 

Mostly I just try to stay as drunk as possible 

Have you tried not supporting Notts County?

[ian__marshall]

5 hours ago, urban.spaceman said:

Been in a major depressive spiral the last two/three months and I can’t get out of it. Everything just keeps getting worse. 

Really sad to hear that especially on the Eve of Christmas. I know exactly how you're feeling as I felt similar around this time last year, things just kept piling up with no end in sight.

 

Not going to try and lecture you on what to do as I don't know your circumstances and besides everyone is different. Only thing I will say is reach out for support to anyone willing to listen; friends, family, colleagues, medics, trained professionals, etc. to get you through this moment and you will eventually come out the other side.

 

Of course, it feels like crap whilst you're experiencing it but if you can pause for a moment and reflect, you may realise that a) you're amplifying the situation in your mind beyond others interpretation of the same issues, b) you can work your way out of the situation if you give yourself some room to manoeuvre, and c) there's plenty of people willing to support/help you to find the solutions you need. 

 

I hope things start to get better for you soon, and I wish you the very best Christmas despite whatever challenges you may be facing. 

 

Edited 24 December 2024 by ian__marshall

[ajthefox]

Merry Christmas everyone!

 

I find it quite hard this time of year but it is a real mixed bag. Often it feels so built up, it feels like there is so much societal pressure to be merry and I find that often leads to a bad time mentally. 

 

I miss my sister in Aus more so at Christmas than any other time of year and I often find myself in social situations where the expectation of a good time overwhelms me, but I know that I am fortunate. The best thing I can do is try and keep my mind as occupied as possible and not spend too much time idly wondering about every decision I've made in the last few months.

 

My thoughts and best wishes to all of you, particularly those having a hard time @Izzy @FoxesDeb @spacemunky @foxfanazer x

Edited 25 December 2024 by ajthefox

[FoxyPV]

Went off my meds for a few days whilst away as I thought I felt better.

 

Terrible idea.

[chrishlcfc]

Merry Christmas to all in here thanks for your support and I’m always here for others.

 

Cant say I’m particularly feeling well or positive but I’ll try get through it, even today when everyone’s upbeat I still don’t feel good but I’ll keep trying. Had a good cry about life earlier and we go again. My young niece and nephew will make me smile at Christmas like always, the reason I try and keep going even though I don’t really want too. 
 

thinking of those who have lost loved ones recently as this time of year can be so difficult.

[spacemunky]

4 hours ago, FoxyPV said:

Went off my meds for a few days whilst away as I thought I felt better.

 

Terrible idea.

That's always been a struggle for me.

 

Part of why was I always hated the side effects and would think I was doing better without them.

[UniFox21]

Merry Christmas all, I hope you all have a peaceful day

[RYM]

Take care of yourselves and each other 🖤

Not a huge fan of the pressures this day of commerciality forces upon us at all. Horrible really. 
 

x

 

[Wymsey]

Best wishes all.

[HighPeakFox]

I'm not having a bad day, but please don't think it's just you (whoever is reading this) that might be feeling like you're doing something wrong because you're not feeling what you're 'supposed' to.

[Chelmofox]

2024 can go f**k itself. The year everything crumbled around me and i no longer understood the truth about the 20 years. Have battled something the last 8 months that i never thought would happen to me, and i've tried to do my best to do right and plod along, but they are still there and unfortunately things won't change. It's hard to do the right things when you know what's happened and what is still going on. It's hard to do right when you can barely sleep or think straight, and you have to keep working because if you don't that will crumble around you. I miss my dad so much - he was one of the only people who really understood me.

 

The help has been unbelievable (but belittled), and there are some people in my life who have been unbelievable help to me. Dread to think what would have happened if they weren't there. 

 

I have zero christmas spirit. The smile on my face takes a lot of effort and i just can't wait for the day to be over. I wish i was on my own. Can't wait for this year to be over. I hope it might work like a reset, but i know that's just hope.

 

I read this thread a lot (never had the confidence to post) and I really admire the supportive comments people post that have helped me at times. I hope those of you suffering find the support you need to make things better. You all deserve it.

Edited 25 December 2024 by Chelmofox

[HighPeakFox]

1 hour ago, Chelmofox said:

2024 can go f**k itself. The year everything crumbled around me and i no longer understood the truth about the 20 years. Have battled something the last 8 months that i never thought would happen to me, and i've tried to do my best to do right and plod along, but they are still there and unfortunately things won't change. It's hard to do the right things when you know what's happened and what is still going on. It's hard to do right when you can barely sleep or think straight, and you have to keep working because if you don't that will crumble around you. I miss my dad so much - he was one of the only people who really understood me.

 

The help has been unbelievable (but belittled), and there are some people in my life who have been unbelievable help to me. Dread to think what would have happened if they weren't there. 

 

I have zero christmas spirit. The smile on my face takes a lot of effort and i just can't wait for the day to be over. I wish i was on my own. Can't wait for this year to be over. I hope it might work like a reset, but i know that's just hope.

 

I read this thread a lot (never had the confidence to post) and I really admire the supportive comments people post that have helped me at times. I hope those of you suffering find the support you need to make things better. You all deserve it.

As do you. 

[FoxyPV]

10 hours ago, spacemunky said:

That's always been a struggle for me.

 

Part of why was I always hated the side effects and would think I was doing better without them.

Every so often, I feel better, and go off them and BAM! Manic episode

 

Better on them and alive, in spite of their side effects, than off them and who knows

Edited 25 December 2024 by FoxyPV
Update

[Steve_Guppy_Left_Foot]

I’ve been off my tablets for 2 months now, I’m not sure if I’m better on them or off them, just know being on them has hideous side effects. It’s a tricky one.

[Trav Le Bleu]

1 minute ago, Steve_Guppy_Left_Foot said:

I’ve been off my tablets for 2 months now, I’m not sure if I’m better on them or off them, just know being on them has hideous side effects. It’s a tricky one.

If you're off them and things are the same, that'd be a win.

[Trav Le Bleu]

2 hours ago, Chelmofox said:

2024 can go f**k itself. The year everything crumbled around me and i no longer understood the truth about the 20 years. Have battled something the last 8 months that i never thought would happen to me, and i've tried to do my best to do right and plod along, but they are still there and unfortunately things won't change. It's hard to do the right things when you know what's happened and what is still going on. It's hard to do right when you can barely sleep or think straight, and you have to keep working because if you don't that will crumble around you. I miss my dad so much - he was one of the only people who really understood me.

 

The help has been unbelievable (but belittled), and there are some people in my life who have been unbelievable help to me. Dread to think what would have happened if they weren't there. 

 

I have zero christmas spirit. The smile on my face takes a lot of effort and i just can't wait for the day to be over. I wish i was on my own. Can't wait for this year to be over. I hope it might work like a reset, but i know that's just hope.

 

I read this thread a lot (never had the confidence to post) and I really admire the supportive comments people post that have helped me at times. I hope those of you suffering find the support you need to make things better. You all deserve it.

And yet despite all this, you invariably give sensible, well rounded comments on here. Which is more than most of us.

[HighPeakFox]

This thread is fantastic. It repeatedly reminds me not to believe the version people present of themselves in the main forum. 

 

I don't wish depression or unhappiness on anybody - however this thread, in giving a chance to be more vulnerable and then humane in response, is the best of us. 

[Thefox81]

24 minutes ago, HighPeakFox said:

This thread is fantastic. It repeatedly reminds me not to believe the version people present of themselves in the main forum. 

 

I don't wish depression or unhappiness on anybody - however this thread, in giving a chance to be more vulnerable and then humane in response, is the best of us. 

Best thread on the forum hands down. Helped me out no end when i was in a dark place. The support and help i recieved was fantastic. Thank you all and merry christmas.

[Parafox]

16 hours ago, FoxyPV said:

Went off my meds for a few days whilst away as I thought I felt better.

 

Terrible idea.

 

11 hours ago, spacemunky said:

That's always been a struggle for me.

 

Part of why was I always hated the side effects and would think I was doing better without them.

 

My daughter stopped taking her meds 3 times this year for the reasons mentioned above.

 

She was sectioned during all 3 times.
 

 

Edited 25 December 2024 by Parafox

[Trav Le Bleu]

1 hour ago, HighPeakFox said:

This thread is fantastic. It repeatedly reminds me not to believe the version people present of themselves in the main forum. 

 

I don't wish depression or unhappiness on anybody - however this thread, in giving a chance to be more vulnerable and then humane in response, is the best of us. 

Cos I'm a right git in there.

[HighPeakFox]

Just now, Trav Le Bleu said:

Cos I'm a right git in there.

It just brings out the worst in many of us, I think.