James. Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 So hypothetically, If I were to move out tomorrow, and my mum weren't able to get by without my board- even though she wasn't paying to keep me- would that then mean I was paying over the odds? Or have I got this all wrong? Stop treating it like a maths question and show a little more respect. What Daggers said basically. Daggers would make a great mother.
Trav Le Bleu Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 Aren't most people agreed that young people pay board to cover their cost of parents keeping them? So hypothetically, If I were to move out tomorrow, and my mum weren't able to get by without my board- even though she wasn't paying to keep me- would that then mean I was paying over the odds? Or have I got this all wrong? Which now sounds like you're saying that if your mum was on her own, she wouldn't be able to live and therefore she's looking to make some money out of you, but you don't want to pay over the odds and you'd rather move out and leave your mum in poverty. I'm right aren't I?
Jon the Hat Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 Jesus wept. You are a grown up now son. You have to pay your way. Get used to it, and furthermore, enjoy the satisfaction of being able to help.
Bobcat Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 I'm a student and pay roughly £75 a week, then bills on top of that to a proper landlord. So if you're earning you're in better position financially than me, £70 a week to your mum who feeds you, and pays all the bills is a bargain. Wish I only paid that much.
pSinatra Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 Ask your Mum if there's any jobs you can do that will reduce the amount of board. You should already be helping around the house, but maybe cutting the grass, a bit of cleaning, etc.....she may consider taking £5 off here & there? I used to pay 20% of whatever my income was.......but she would usually only take half & say "don't tell yer Dad"
Daggers Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 First, thanks for your opinions and feedback everyone. You could tell her that you've become a Tory and before paying her you are going to have to carry out a full review. After implementing a rating system which will demonstrate she comes out far below other local providers on a league table inform her that you require her to produce homemaker policy documents and open herself up to impromptu assessment visits. Within two weeks you can place her into special measures and have her replaced by a leading local care provider (your Nan). With a quick phone call to Citizens Advice and a lawyers' office it should be possible to build a strong case to take her to court in order to obtain damages from the years of hardship and distress which she alone caused.
Finnegan Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 You could tell her that you've become a Tory and before paying her you are going to have to carry out a full review. After implementing a rating system which will demonstrate she comes out far below other local providers on a league table inform her that you require her to produce homemaker policy documents and open herself up to impromptu assessment visits. Within two weeks you can place her into special measures and have her replaced by a leading local care provider (your Nan). With a quick phone call to Citizens Advice and a lawyers' office it should be possible to build a strong case to take her to court in order to obtain damages from the years of hardship and distress which she alone caused. !!
Webbo Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 You could tell her that you've become a Tory and before paying her you are going to have to carry out a full review. After implementing a rating system which will demonstrate she comes out far below other local providers on a league table inform her that you require her to produce homemaker policy documents and open herself up to impromptu assessment visits. Within two weeks you can place her into special measures and have her replaced by a leading local care provider (your Nan). With a quick phone call to Citizens Advice and a lawyers' office it should be possible to build a strong case to take her to court in order to obtain damages from the years of hardship and distress which she alone caused. The fact that he thinks he's being ripped off by having to pay for something himself clearly shows he's a socialist.
Jon the Hat Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 In the defence of the OP, he has got himself and job, and is thinking carefully about where is money is going. Fair enough - just slightly misguided in questioning his mum.
Daggers Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 The fact that he thinks he's being ripped off by having to pay for something himself clearly shows he's a socialist. Nonsense. If he was a socialist then he'd be expecting someone else to pay for him - his avoidance intentions clearly mark him out to be a Tory. He admits that there is a payment due, he is just attempting to minimise it...typical blue rinse attitude.
The Year Of The Fox Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 Do all threads get hijacked with people spouting unfunny bollocks nowadays? Roll on the season
Jon the Hat Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 Nonsense. If he was a socialist then he'd be expecting someone else to pay for him - his avoidance intentions clearly mark him out to be a Tory. He admits that there is a payment due, he is just attempting to minimise it...typical blue rinse attitude. He isn't trying to avoid anything, he is asking if what he is getting is good value. Good practise, although in this case slightly misguided.
Daggers Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 Do all threads get hijacked with people spouting unfunny bollocks nowadays? Roll on the season Don't read it then, numbnuts.
kyleolly Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 She'd only have recieved £80 a month through child benefit so give her £100 a month and tell her if she don't like it she can find another son!!!
Guest Bilo Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 £70 a week is more than I paid but in the real world is nothing short of a bargain considering all of your living costs are included. Long term, it'll give you a reality check as well. When you do come to leave home and get your own place, you'll be well accustomed to having to budget in rent and living costs rather than being thrown into the deep end having never paid any rent. Suggesting that your mum's taking advantage, as your opening post seems to suggest, is really quite offensive though. Maybe she has a 'crap job' because she's brought you up alone and sacrificed much to put a roof over your head, bring you up in a comfortable and safe home, put food on the table and balance all that against a part-time job she has managed to find time for. The least you could do is respect that.
Captain... Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 But what none of you know is the OPs history with his Mum, does she have a history of trying to take advantage of him, financially, maybe she has a massive crack habit and used to steal from his piggy bank, maybe she is a prostitute and wants the money to tighten up her battered old fanny so she can go back out on the game. I guess what I'm saying is this: "Hollism, is your mother a crack whore?" If not then just pay her the fvcking money, I'd much rather give my money to dear old Mam than some dodgy bent Landlord to live in a flea ridden pit.
Guest Bilo Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 There are many, many reasons why I hope hollism's mum isn't a City fan who fancies a quick post on a certain forum...... Is your mum a MILF Hollism? If all goes well, you could end up calling me Daddy.
Soar Fox Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 I pay £120 a month to my mum. After tax and NI I come out with £1400 a month from work. As I haven't got anything to pay for bills wise to help my mum out I'm going to start giving her £200 a month. She brought me up as a single parent so as I'm in a fairly comfortable position money wise I'm going to help her out. Got to start saving for a house though as I'll be 24 next year and it's quite difficult taking girls home on a Saturday night
Rincewind Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 Marry one of them and get her father to pay for a house.
Soar Fox Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 Marry one of them and get her father to pay for a house. Or get a couple of them pregnant and move into a council house?
Rincewind Posted 2 July 2012 Posted 2 July 2012 You must be a socialist with forward thinking like that.
Hollism Posted 3 July 2012 Author Posted 3 July 2012 So, let me get this right, the woman who bought you into this world, raised you, fed you, nursed you and loves you is now asking for a pittance in board and lodgings and you think it's unfair? Pay the poor woman the cash, tell her how much you love her and are grateful for everything she's done for you throughout you life to date. I could never even attempt to put a price on everything my parents have done for me. So compared to all of that, yes, £70 a week is a pittance. But then compared to my income, £70 a week is more than half my wages (for now), so I would like to think I have some right to think about where it goes and maybe even question it. I'm not refusing to pay my way (I have already paid board this week) I am just trying to get opinions on the matter from a group of adults, as well as my peers which I mentioned in the OP, before having a conversation about it with my mum. Also, I already wash clothes, wash dishes, iron, clean the house a fair amount of the time and have done for a few years. That isn't the issue. I do feel like I'm capable of living on my own- although I don't expect a lot of you to believe that. Which now sounds like you're saying that if your mum was on her own, she wouldn't be able to live and therefore she's looking to make some money out of you, but you don't want to pay over the odds and you'd rather move out and leave your mum in poverty. I'm right aren't I? Not exactly. I have no intention of suddenly declaring that I am moving out, shaking her hand and wishing her well. I will be doing this properly.
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