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Thefox81

Thefox81

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53 minutes ago, foxfanazer said:

Thank you that means a lot. I'm only  3 months in to a new job so I very much doubt it but it'd certainly be helpful. I really struggle with the *monotony (that word doesn't look right) of life. I really envy people who are contented with their lives 

Yeah i hear you on that. Its like work sleep repeat. Try and break that cycle by going for walks as you mentioned. No harm in sitting down with your boss and explain how your feeling. He might be very understanding of your situation. Your doubts about speaking to him are because of your mood. If hes anything like my boss he would want to help. A happy workforce is a more productive workforce. Whatever you choose to do im sure it will be ok. 

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kingfox

kingfox

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Negative thoughts suck don’t they :( 

 

The mother got admitted to the infirmary this morning, the instant anxiety that has plagued me since 2020 has unsurprisingly reared its head again. 
 

Mentally and emotionally drained, just hate when the negative thoughts outweigh the positive ones. 

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FoxesDeb

FoxesDeb

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On 19/06/2025 at 22:33, foxfanazer said:

Thank you. Went through a really rough time a few years ago and I found walking with no real route or destination helped me readjust. Sitting in and wallowing has never been good for me

You did, and you came through it. I have every faith you will do it again, but I completely get it might not feel like it now.

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foxfanazer

foxfanazer

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2 minutes ago, FoxesDeb said:

You did, and you came through it. I have every faith you will do it again, but I completely get it might not feel like it now.

Thank you Deb. I know I will, I always do. It's just so exhausting. Part of the problem is I've become the family's rock who everybody goes to to unload their emotional baggage and after a while it catches up with me. I hide it too well though so nobody really notices 

 

That's why this place is a godsend 

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Izzy

Izzy

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1 hour ago, kingfox said:

Negative thoughts suck don’t they :( 

 

The mother got admitted to the infirmary this morning, the instant anxiety that has plagued me since 2020 has unsurprisingly reared its head again. 
 

Mentally and emotionally drained, just hate when the negative thoughts outweigh the positive ones. 

They do, but they're only thoughts - not your reality.

 

We have about 40,000 thoughts a day - some positive, some negative. We can't control what thoughts come into our head, be can choose which ones we give our conscious energy to.

 

The trick (for me anyway) is to notice the negative thoughts and acknowledge them, but not give them any 'air time'. I just let them go. Then when a new empowering, positive, thought comes along (which it will), those are the one's I shine a light on.

 

Latching on to/focusing on negative thoughts can cause a downward spiral of "What if..?" thinking (catastrophizing) and when we're tired/stressed/low on energy, these thoughts appear to be real - and then we get anxious etc.

 

But our thoughts are not always to be trusted.

 

We are 'living in the feeling of our thinking' - 100% of the time. 

 

 

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kingfox

kingfox

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3 minutes ago, Izzy said:

They do, but they're only thoughts - not your reality.

 

We have about 40,000 thoughts a day - some positive, some negative. We can't control what thoughts come into our head, be can choose which ones we give our conscious energy to.

 

The trick (for me anyway) is to notice the negative thoughts and acknowledge them, but not give them any 'air time'. I just let them go. Then when a new empowering, positive, thought comes along (which it will), those are the one's I shine a light on.

 

Latching on to/focusing on negative thoughts can cause a downward spiral of "What if..?" thinking (catastrophizing) and when we're tired/stressed/low on energy, these thoughts appear to be real - and then we get anxious etc.

 

But our thoughts are not always to be trusted.

 

We are 'living in the feeling of our thinking' - 100% of the time. 

 

 

Thank you mate ❤️

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ajthefox

ajthefox

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4 hours ago, Izzy said:

Interesting article on the beeb about the effects of cortisol and how too much of it causes stress and burnout. 

This is exactly what happened to me 20 years ago and I wish I knew then what I know now.

 

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cg5z6l19rv6o
 

 

I think stress is a particularly interesting thing.

 

I think many of us probably only notice it when it's acute or when we are really stressed, but maybe not so much when our stress levels are moderately high on a day to day basis because we are very accustomed to a certain level of it and there is a certain amount which is helpful.

 

It is only when you stop and really slow down that you realise how much you are holding onto. I haven't done much yoga recently but it's the one thing that really shows you what your body is holding on to consciously and subconsciously. 

 

N.b. I say yoga, but it is the breathing part of it specifically that I am referring to, which obviously many do without the stretching/movement.

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Samilktray

Samilktray

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Did not anticipate the side effects of being on Sertraline in the weather we’ve had recently. My experience with it has been quite positive overall but I have had 2nd thoughts after sweating to within an inch of my life yesterday 

Thefox81

Thefox81

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35 minutes ago, Samilktray said:

Did not anticipate the side effects of being on Sertraline in the weather we’ve had recently. My experience with it has been quite positive overall but I have had 2nd thoughts after sweating to within an inch of my life yesterday 

Mate im on 200mg sertraline (the highest you can get) l used get the sweats but not anymore. I can give you advice through DM. Just message me bro and hopfulluy i can give u somed good advice

Foxhateram

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Sertraline made me feel so so numb! Even moments I should be enjoying I just drifted through, like I was watching my life from the outside while someone else lived it! It calmed my thoughts, but meant I didn’t feel anymore. 
 

Then again my mind is racing faster than a steam train at the moment and I’m just not coping well at all. Feel lonely even though I have people around me, can’t switch off that inner voice that is constantly doubting myself, telling me I’m not good enough. I just don’t feel like getting up in the mornings and right from the word go it’s a constant battle all day long. Feels like I get no peace from my over active brain! Seems impossible to relax and switch off! It’s affecting everything, my relationship, my friendships and my health. I just don’t seem to be able to stop the self destruct right now. 

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Trav Le Bleu

Trav Le Bleu

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Go back to the GP, explain this and see if they can prescribe something else. Therapy might help too.

 

Take control of what you can and don't worry about what you can't. Ignore that inner voice and know that we all have it, just at times we're better able to cope with it.

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Torquay Gunner

Torquay Gunner

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23 minutes ago, HighPeakFox said:

My mother passed this morning. It came quickly in the end, and peacefully. I'm grateful for her life. 

Sorry to hear this.  Take care of yourself.  I lost my dear Mum in 2019 and I still find it difficult to process. 

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Izzy

Izzy

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1 hour ago, HighPeakFox said:

My mother passed this morning. It came quickly in the end, and peacefully. I'm grateful for her life. 

Sorry for your loss. My Mum died just before Christmas and it's left a massive hole in all our lives.

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Trav Le Bleu

Trav Le Bleu

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2 hours ago, HighPeakFox said:

My mother passed this morning. It came quickly in the end, and peacefully. I'm grateful for her life. 

My condolences. You always know you can DM me.

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Trav Le Bleu

Trav Le Bleu

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55 minutes ago, Izzy said:

Sorry for your loss. My Mum died just before Christmas and it's left a massive hole in all our lives.

And same for you mate.

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Sampson

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3 hours ago, HighPeakFox said:

My mother passed this morning. It came quickly in the end, and peacefully. I'm grateful for her life. 

Sorry to hear that. It’s always a surreal experience when a close friend or family member dies. You never truly get over it but hope you can at least get to a place of living with the loss.

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Raj

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19 hours ago, HighPeakFox said:

My mother passed this morning. It came quickly in the end, and peacefully. I'm grateful for her life. 

Sorry for your loss buddy. 

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HybridFox

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Scraped the side of my car today and feel so bloody annoyed with myself. Was driving to a routine appointment but was a lot busier than usual so had to go into an overflow car park at the back which was much narrower than I thought. To my surprise this was also full so had to awkwardly turn the car around to go back and on exit I caught the side of my back door against something sticking out the wall which I didn't initially see. Mainly paintwork that will need doing but it was so avoidable! Why didn't I just look for parking further down the road which I ended up doing anyway. With the bank holiday/family holiday coming up and up to my head with work it's just the last thing I needed. Will no doubt get screwed at by the family as well. Particularly as things were on the mend after a recent op I had to undergo. I just worry it'll trigger me back down again. It's really f****d my day off

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