Depression

[Wymsey]

This is a great proposal to happen.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/sport/football/54985652

Hope it will prosper.

[urban.spaceman]

Was feeling reasonably OK, now I've been told I've come into contact with someone with coronavirus and I have to self-isolate for 14 days and now I'm worried about absolutely ****ing everything. 

[urban.spaceman]

46 minutes ago, pmcla26 said:

Same, on day 6. It’s shite. No other alternative other than get pissed every day at the min. Everything else is boring or been done. 

Lucky you, I foolishly decided to go dry until Christmas!

 

 

47 minutes ago, pmcla26 said:

Gutted to be missing my first footy game back since lockdown tonight, whilst all the other lads are having a right laugh in the group chat.

Soul destroying going through social media and seeing everyone else getting on with their life, especially when you’ve just worked through all the last lockdown anyway just to isolate as soon as everyone comes out.

Thinking of emulating Rear Window and getting all paranoid about my neighbours. I've always suspected they're all Tories and now's my chance to spy on them and see if they're also organising Tupperware orgies. 

[urban.spaceman]

(I jest as a coping mechanism)

[SpacedX]

8 minutes ago, urban.spaceman said:

 

Thinking of emulating Rear Window and getting all paranoid about my neighbours. I've always suspected they're all Tories and now's my chance to spy on them and see if they're also organising Tupperware orgies. 

Instead of spying and vicariously indulging your fantasies through mere voyeurism, you're welcome to join us when Tier 3 restrictions are over. 

[urban.spaceman]

5 minutes ago, Line-X said:

Instead of spying and vicariously indulging your fantasies through mere voyeurism, you're welcome to join us when Tier 3 restrictions are over. 

OK but only if there's a Newt/Egg theme and I can make all the puns I want.

[Costock_Fox]

Starting to struggle a little bit.

[HighPeakFox]

11 minutes ago, Costock_Fox said:

Starting to struggle a little bit.

Anything in particular?

[Costock_Fox]

1 hour ago, HighPeakFox said:

Anything in particular?

Lack of motivation to do much, work is shit, seeing my other half struggling with mental health issues again, worries about  an end to all of this etc.

[Izzy]

1 hour ago, Costock_Fox said:

Starting to struggle a little bit.

Love you bro 

 

Hang in there. Get this shite year put to bed. Shoot up the vaccine in a few months time then back to freedom, football and exotic holidays.

 

Just grit your teeth and try to ride it out for a little bit longer mate.

 

Soon you'll have your old life back.

 

 

[Costock_Fox]

5 minutes ago, Izzy said:

Love you bro 

 

Hang in there. Get this shite year put to bed. Shoot up the vaccine in a few months time then back to freedom, football and exotic holidays.

 

Just grit your teeth and try to ride it out for a little bit longer mate.

 

Soon you'll have your old life back.

 

 

Thanks, that’s part of the worry I guess and the uncertainty of going back to normal.

 

I know I’ll be fine and it’s just a temporary thing but there really aren’t many distractions away from the utter shit show that is life at the minute.

[Izzy]

3 minutes ago, Costock_Fox said:

Thanks, that’s part of the worry I guess and the uncertainty of going back to normal.

 

I know I’ll be fine and it’s just a temporary thing but there really aren’t many distractions away from the utter shit show that is life at the minute.

Life is a complete load of wank at the moment. Most people I talk to are either bored, frustrated, pissed off or generally going round the bend. 

 

My wife asked me today what my goals for 2021 were and I immediately just said 'survival' - in terms of paying the bills and getting through all this shit with my sanity and health intact.

 

The highlight of my week is washing and polishing my car FFS. I actually go to bed on Friday night almost excited to wake up and get the pressure washer out. 

 

It's all bonkers and arse about tit but hopefully we'll look back in six months and be glad it's all behind us.

[Costock_Fox]

2 minutes ago, Izzy said:

Life is a complete load of wank at the moment. Most people I talk to are either bored, frustrated, pissed off or generally going round the bend. 

 

My wife asked me today what my goals for 2021 were and I immediately just said 'survival' - in terms of paying the bills and getting through all this shit with my sanity and health intact.

 

The highlight of my week is washing and polishing my car FFS. I actually go to bed on Friday night almost excited to wake up and get the pressure washer out. 

 

It's all bonkers and arse about tit but hopefully we'll look back in six months and be glad it's all behind us.

I think some things will take longer to get back to normal, like aviation and that’s some of the worry but what will be will be I guess.

 

I’d struggle to say what the highlight of my week would be at the minute. 
 

Did you get a Jag?

[Izzy]

8 hours ago, Costock_Fox said:

I think some things will take longer to get back to normal, like aviation and that’s some of the worry but what will be will be I guess.

 

I’d struggle to say what the highlight of my week would be at the minute. 
 

Did you get a Jag?

Yeah, got a Jag and it's the only thing in life that puts a smile on my face atm.

 

I think you're right that some things will take longer to get back to normal, and it's the not knowing what or when that's worrying.

 

I guess all we can try and do is focus on what we can control in life - which feels like very little right now.

 

Try and stay strong for your OH mate.

 

 

 

 

[That_Dude]

On 03/12/2020 at 23:11, Costock_Fox said:

Lack of motivation to do much, work is shit, seeing my other half struggling with mental health issues again, worries about  an end to all of this etc.

There's always a light at the end of the tunnel. We're living the shittiest hours of our lifetime and this fecking virus is taking its toll on us all, sharpening any issue which would have been brushed under the carpet otherwise. As @Izzy said, hang in there. If you need to talk, there are many of us ready to listen.

 

I would. Feel free to talk.

Edited 4 December 2020 by That_Dude

[That_Dude]

15 hours ago, Izzy said:

Yeah, got a Jag and it's the only thing in life that puts a smile on my face atm.

 

I think you're right that some things will take longer to get back to normal, and it's the not knowing what or when that's worrying.

 

I guess all we can try and do is focus on what we can control in life - which feels like very little right now.

 

Try and stay strong for your OH mate.

 

 

 

 

Sorry if I sound ignorant, but what's a Jag?

[Jattdogg]

3 hours ago, That_Dude said:

Sorry if I sound ignorant, but what's a Jag?

It's a vehicle for the ultra rich only.

[Costock_Fox]

2 hours ago, Jattdogg said:

It's a vehicle for the ultra rich only.

It’s not just for ultra rich, it’s for old people as well.

[ajthefox]

I love this place. X

[newfox1]

Weather you've broken up in a relationship or stuck in a deeply toxic one like me, just need to remain positive and take very small steps in a daily basis. It's gonna be hard and I'm nowhere near reaching the positive stage yet but trying one step at a time.

 

Things that could make your life even more depressing  and to avoid would be the following in no particular order but all can be *devastating* in your life. 

 

Alcohol, pornography and  binge eating will make things so much worse, mentally and physically when you need to recover and heal your body and soul.

 

Daily exercise to clear the mind such as walks and to listen to the sounds around you, not with earphones plugged in. I'm trying but not easy.

 

I've put on a shed load of weight and often get burgers and milkshakes just for the sake of it. And feel like crap after. Grind goes on. Keep trying all. 

 

 

[Rain King]

Today is the lowest I've ever felt. Not sure I can carry on going like this, or if I want to.

Edited 8 December 2020 by Rain King

[HighPeakFox]

31 minutes ago, Rain King said:

Today is the lowest I've ever felt. Not sure I can carry on going like this, or if I want to.

Tell us.

[Crinklyfox]

25 minutes ago, Rain King said:

Today is the lowest I've ever felt. Not sure I can carry on going like this, or if I want to.

Sorry to hear that.  None of us can take an unbearable low forever, but the thing is, it's very rarely forever.  You probably didn't feel that bad last week, or last month.  So there's every possibility that you'll feel better at some point in the future, whether it's tomorrow or 2021.  Either way if you have the chance of feeling better then it's a chance worth taking.

 

If you have the time have a look at some of the other pages in this thread.  There are people here who have felt hopeless, and now post how their lives have turned around.  The terrible thing with depression is that you can't see it, but there was a path you took to reach where you are now and there's a path forward.

 

When I was depressed part of the problem was medical - my depression had caused changes that had to be reversed through medication before I could move forward.  So please consider talking to your GP as you may not know if that's your situation.

 

 

[Rain King]

Everything is just so stressful. My two children aged 9 & 6 are really struggling with school. My oldest refused to go in today, he just wouldn't go in. We were there til 10am before we managed to break away and leave him there screaming. He's had problems with some kids being nasty to him in the past without any real resolution. 

 

Me and the Mrs arguing cos we differ on how we want to deal with it. I want to have dialogue with the school and try and resolve it that way whilst she's on the verge of confronting everyone and screaming at them.

 

 My youngest has development issues, he had a condition called glue ear for the first 4 years of his life which has held him back considerably. He is struggling so much with work and developing relationships and cries most nights about having to go school the next day, he just walks around on his own every break and lunchtime. We've also just found out he has astigmatism in both eyes and he is getting glasses tomorrow which only adds to his anxiety. I know glasses are common, I wear them myself but for a 6 year old it's a big thing when you're already struggling.

 

The school are not particularly helpful and not really offering any help or solutions.

 

 I am just completely worn down by it. Those two boys are my life but I feel like I can't do anything to help them or make them happier. I just feel so powerless and it's killing me. I am absolutely exhausted. If they have a good day or are happy I feel on top of the world but on the flip side I feel like this all to regularly.

 

 My work is suffering, I just can't bring myself to log on today and it isn't the first time.

 

 I've struggled personally for a lot of my life with anxiety and stress and I don't want to pass it on to them. My brother died when I was 4 and although this not always been at the forefront I've always had that sadness and darkness since then and it takes very little to knock me from feeling fine and happy to the absolute pits. 

 

 I've tried books, CBT, different anti-depressants etc but nothing alleviates the way I feel. Life is just too hard.

 

Outside of that I am affected by everything on the news. Probably sounds ridiculous but Trump, Brexit etc just adds to it. The whole world just seems such a dark horrible place, it would be so much easier if everyone was just nice. It isn't that hard.

[Crinklyfox]

1 hour ago, Rain King said:

Everything is just so stressful. My two children aged 9 & 6 are really struggling with school. My oldest refused to go in today, he just wouldn't go in. We were there til 10am before we managed to break away and leave him there screaming. He's had problems with some kids being nasty to him in the past without any real resolution. 

 

Me and the Mrs arguing cos we differ on how we want to deal with it. I want to have dialogue with the school and try and resolve it that way whilst she's on the verge of confronting everyone and screaming at them.

 

 My youngest has development issues, he had a condition called glue ear for the first 4 years of his life which has held him back considerably. He is struggling so much with work and developing relationships and cries most nights about having to go school the next day, he just walks around on his own every break and lunchtime. We've also just found out he has astigmatism in both eyes and he is getting glasses tomorrow which only adds to his anxiety. I know glasses are common, I wear them myself but for a 6 year old it's a big thing when you're already struggling.

 

The school are not particularly helpful and not really offering any help or solutions.

 

 I am just completely worn down by it. Those two boys are my life but I feel like I can't do anything to help them or make them happier. I just feel so powerless and it's killing me. I am absolutely exhausted. If they have a good day or are happy I feel on top of the world but on the flip side I feel like this all to regularly.

 

 My work is suffering, I just can't bring myself to log on today and it isn't the first time.

 

 I've struggled personally for a lot of my life with anxiety and stress and I don't want to pass it on to them. My brother died when I was 4 and although this not always been at the forefront I've always had that sadness and darkness since then and it takes very little to knock me from feeling fine and happy to the absolute pits. 

 

 I've tried books, CBT, different anti-depressants etc but nothing alleviates the way I feel. Life is just too hard.

 

Outside of that I am affected by everything on the news. Probably sounds ridiculous but Trump, Brexit etc just adds to it. The whole world just seems such a dark horrible place, it would be so much easier if everyone was just nice. It isn't that hard.

Your post made me sad and angry at the same time.

 

I can empathise with your situation to some extent, my eldest son had learning difficulties due to a medical condition which left him isolated at school.  I had to explore the options for his support for some time before we were eventually able to get him into a special school which could help with his needs.  The other children there were also friendlier than his previous school and he was a lot happier there.  Bottom line, the school helped him to achieve what he could.

 

It is the responsibility of the school to provide a safe and secure environment for children to learn.  It sounds like they are not doing this.  If the school is just not meeting their obligations then a meeting with them would be the least that could be considered.  It's no wonder that you feel stressed when the organisation supposedly caring for your children in your absence isn't doing its job properly.  Do you have the option of moving your eldest to another school if all else fails?