Depression

[MPH]

9 hours ago, urban.spaceman said:

Crept up on me again, the sneaky bastard.

 

Stay strong, Chap! You can do it!!!

[HighPeakFox]

11 hours ago, urban.spaceman said:

Crept up on me again, the sneaky bastard.

Do one thing differently today, maybe - alter your routine a bit.

[Soar Fox]

Lost a friend to this tonight. Please please talk to people when you’re feeling like there’s no other way out. 

[Guest Col city fan]

1 minute ago, Steve_Walsh5 said:

Lost a friend to this tonight. Please please talk to people when you’re feeling like there’s no other way out. 

Oh Jesus… sorry to hear that..

[urban.spaceman]

8 minutes ago, Steve_Walsh5 said:

Lost a friend to this tonight. Please please talk to people when you’re feeling like there’s no other way out. 

Oh mate I'm so sorry to read this. And so sorry your friend was so unwell. Hope you're well, there's some amazing people on this thread who can help you through this.

[HighPeakFox]

48 minutes ago, Steve_Walsh5 said:

Lost a friend to this tonight. Please please talk to people when you’re feeling like there’s no other way out. 

I'm very sorry to hear of this. And thank you for sharing it with your wise words, despite the fact that you must be deeply upset. 

[chrishlcfc]

Just slowly starting to get back on my feet after my lowest few weeks ever. Not been in work for around 3 weeks now. Been so bad on a daily basis. Almost got to the stage where there’s no coming back a few times.

 

Still haven’t told my parents how I’ve been. Finding it the hardest thing to do ever. Just can’t bring myself to do it even though I know it will benefit me in the long run. My dads really really old school and doesn’t believe in depression or mental health and he’s quite vocal with his views so I find it particularly difficult. 

[MPH]

55 minutes ago, chrishlcfc said:

Just slowly starting to get back on my feet after my lowest few weeks ever. Not been in work for around 3 weeks now. Been so bad on a daily basis. Almost got to the stage where there’s no coming back a few times.

 

Still haven’t told my parents how I’ve been. Finding it the hardest thing to do ever. Just can’t bring myself to do it even though I know it will benefit me in the long run. My dads really really old school and doesn’t believe in depression or mental health and he’s quite vocal with his views so I find it particularly difficult. 

 

would it be easier to write it all down? You can use that as a basis to talk from.. or record a video or even send it them in a letter if that’s easier..

[chrishlcfc]

16 hours ago, MPH said:

 

would it be easier to write it all down? You can use that as a basis to talk from.. or record a video or even send it them in a letter if that’s easier..

It is an option but I did that with my gambling addiction and they were like why didn’t you just speak to us.

 

Probably just need to man up and get on with it but I do find it particularly difficult for some reason.

[HighPeakFox]

57 minutes ago, chrishlcfc said:

It is an option but I did that with my gambling addiction and they were like why didn’t you just speak to us.

 

Probably just need to man up and get on with it but I do find it particularly difficult for some reason.

It's not about 'manning up' my friend. It's difficult and takes courage. 

 

Don't judge yourself, stay with yourself. You can either be your own best friend or your own worst enemy. 

[Ian Nacho]

Really have felt the bad side of social media this weekend. Seen no end of people having fun, going to festivals, going out, then there’s me not done anything all bank holiday. It really is easy to fall into the traps of comparing yourself to others; human nature I guess to want something you don’t have. 

[Buzzell]

Had a really bad day on Friday. Just couldn’t find motivation to do anything and couldn’t shake away this ‘sad’ feeling. Never been one to think I’m depressed but sometimes I find myself in places I don’t want to be in, if you get my drift. Feeling good now though, just swings in roundabouts.

[Buzzell]

1 hour ago, Ian Nacho said:

Really have felt the bad side of social media this weekend. Seen no end of people having fun, going to festivals, going out, then there’s me not done anything all bank holiday. It really is easy to fall into the traps of comparing yourself to others; human nature I guess to want something you don’t have. 

I get that feeling most the time tbh. Luckily enough I have my two daughters to keep me occupied and I love it but I do feel you. The mind wanders and spirals when seeing what others are doing. I’ve thought about completely removing myself off social media, especially Instagram, for this reason.

[tom27111]

On 31/05/2022 at 23:46, chrishlcfc said:

Just slowly starting to get back on my feet after my lowest few weeks ever. Not been in work for around 3 weeks now. Been so bad on a daily basis. Almost got to the stage where there’s no coming back a few times.

 

Still haven’t told my parents how I’ve been. Finding it the hardest thing to do ever. Just can’t bring myself to do it even though I know it will benefit me in the long run. My dads really really old school and doesn’t believe in depression or mental health and he’s quite vocal with his views so I find it particularly difficult. 

My parents are like that. That's why this place helped so much.

 

I was falsely accused of rape, told my parents, my mum came to see me and just said "did you do it?"

 

They couldn't understand why I spent a few weeks in a hospital to help with my problems.

 

It's tough mate, I wish you well.

 

I'm not great at giving advice, but I've been where you've been.

 

You need anything, PM me, I'll always listen and chat x

[RumbleFox]

Still awaiting a diagnosis for ADHD. Been over a year of waiting now and no idea when it’ll be. So frustrating as I’m pretty sure it’s the root of many of the issues I’ve had throughout life but without “knowing” it’s so difficult. I’m not even sure I’d take medication but for my own benefit I just need someone to say “aye, you’ve got ADHD”. It would allow me to be much kinder to myself for certain things that I really struggle with (mainly revolving around memory and organisation). I’ve always struggled with sleep but it tends to go in cycles. In a bad patch of constantly waking up at the moment which is having a knock on effect to everything else. Concentration worse, more impulsive than ever, anger flaring (99% of the time my anger is aimed towards myself) and feeling pretty shite. I know the NHS is underfunded and I understand that ADHD isn’t exactly life threatening but it’s getting painfully  annoying now. I think the problem is that waiting, not hearing, the unknown are all the very things that someone who has got ADHD would struggle with. 

Edited 8 June 2022 by RumbleFox

[purpleronnie]

On 04/06/2022 at 23:14, Ian Nacho said:

Really have felt the bad side of social media this weekend. Seen no end of people having fun, going to festivals, going out, then there’s me not done anything all bank holiday. It really is easy to fall into the traps of comparing yourself to others; human nature I guess to want something you don’t have. 

One of the reasons to stay of social media.  I guarantee you most people didn't do anything but you will just focus on those who did.  They'll always be someone out there doing something you would like to do, just as there will be people who would love your life.  That would be the same no matter who you are, what job you did, how much money you have etc...It's a truly pointless and waste of time comparing yourself to others.  Try and focus on what you want to do, don't feel forced into having a life others have.  Besides these picture perfect lives portrayed on social media aren't often what they seem to be.  

[chrishlcfc]

On 08/06/2022 at 11:00, RumbleFox said:

Still awaiting a diagnosis for ADHD. Been over a year of waiting now and no idea when it’ll be. So frustrating as I’m pretty sure it’s the root of many of the issues I’ve had throughout life but without “knowing” it’s so difficult. I’m not even sure I’d take medication but for my own benefit I just need someone to say “aye, you’ve got ADHD”. It would allow me to be much kinder to myself for certain things that I really struggle with (mainly revolving around memory and organisation). I’ve always struggled with sleep but it tends to go in cycles. In a bad patch of constantly waking up at the moment which is having a knock on effect to everything else. Concentration worse, more impulsive than ever, anger flaring (99% of the time my anger is aimed towards myself) and feeling pretty shite. I know the NHS is underfunded and I understand that ADHD isn’t exactly life threatening but it’s getting painfully  annoying now. I think the problem is that waiting, not hearing, the unknown are all the very things that someone who has got ADHD would struggle with. 

I mentioned to my GP that I think I have ADHD for the 1st time last week. He just flat out said it would be impossible to know if you have it. I have all the symptoms of it surely it would benefit me if I was able to get the right medication. But no they just can’t be bothered to go through the programme of trying to determine if you have it or not.

 

Anyway told my parents about my struggles the other day. It was good to finally get it off my chest after so long but generally feel worse for doing it. 

[MPH]

5 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

I mentioned to my GP that I think I have ADHD for the 1st time last week. He just flat out said it would be impossible to know if you have it. I have all the symptoms of it surely it would benefit me if I was able to get the right medication. But no they just can’t be bothered to go through the programme of trying to determine if you have it or not.

 

Anyway told my parents about my struggles the other day. It was good to finally get it off my chest after so long but generally feel worse for doing it. 

 

well done for telling them! That’s a massive step, chap

[RumbleFox]

8 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

I mentioned to my GP that I think I have ADHD for the 1st time last week. He just flat out said it would be impossible to know if you have it. I have all the symptoms of it surely it would benefit me if I was able to get the right medication. But no they just can’t be bothered to go through the programme of trying to determine if you have it or not.

 

Anyway told my parents about my struggles the other day. It was good to finally get it off my chest after so long but generally feel worse for doing it. 

Yeah well done and keep pushing. My GP was awful, basically didn’t listen at all and made me feel like shit. I had to speak with another GP and finally got a referral. I know it’s difficult but if you feel like you can should should try again and ask for a referral. It’s awful really. Everyone always tells you to contact your GP about mental health and then they don’t listen. 

[urban.spaceman]

Harrowing week. Had my final session with my counsellor of the last 3 years (massive COVID gaps obviously) on Thursday; I'd had the feeling she'd been trying to shake me off for a while as I was initially there for bereavement issues and I had got through that part. The same day my aunt went to A&E with abdominal pain and was diagnosed a few hours later with ovarian cancer. Today we get the news that it's spread to the pancreas and liver and is basically terminal. Will need to get a new shrink pronto. Whole family is utterly devastated - my gran is completely inconsolable. 

[HighPeakFox]

21 minutes ago, urban.spaceman said:

Harrowing week. Had my final session with my counsellor of the last 3 years (massive COVID gaps obviously) on Thursday; I'd had the feeling she'd been trying to shake me off for a while as I was initially there for bereavement issues and I had got through that part. The same day my aunt went to A&E with abdominal pain and was diagnosed a few hours later with ovarian cancer. Today we get the news that it's spread to the pancreas and liver and is basically terminal. Will need to get a new shrink pronto. Whole family is utterly devastated - my gran is completely inconsolable. 

I'm so sorry to hear about this. My usual advice - look after yourself first, and avoid excessive social media. 

[Strokes]

I’m sorry,

I love you all in here, so supportive, when shit goes down your so good for each other. I wish I could be like that.

some of you are so good, but I’m such a ****.

 

Lovw ya.

 

🤪

[Foxhateram]

Dropped off of here for a bit and most social media platforms. Had a pretty tough few months, been feeling constantly low and lacking in energy or enthusiasm. Money is tight, job is stressful and family life is bloody hard! The Mrs and I have been struggling to get along recently, seeing a lot of things very differently. It's been tough. 

 

Have taken on a new football coaching role which I'm excited about, decided I spend 100 percent of my time running after my little family, but they aren't getting the best of me really. Hoping giving one evening a week to myself will help me to recharge and refresh and be better for everyone. 

 

Think the better weather is helping and I've had a chat with my GP who has sent for some blood tests and discussed some meds with me. Just got to decide now if I want to go back on meds after a few years off. They help, but have so many effects on other things! 

[MPH]

Just checking  in on everyone in here! Don’t want any of you to think your struggles are forgotten. Let us know how you are all doing!

 

 

 

 

@Foxhateram positive steps are a good thing.  What might have worked last year might not have this year and even the meds… what might have been a side effect a few years ago might not be today. New meds often coming out so won’t hurt to try again with the meds.  You’re a fighter, chap and that’s great to see.

Edited 22 June 2022 by MPH

[chrishlcfc]

Still struggling I am. Managed to go back work last week for the 1st time in a month. But then been off again so far this week.

 

Think my main problem is and always has been that I absolutely hate myself and everything I do and always have done. If your not nice to yourself why would you expect anyone else to be nice to you. This is something I’ve been like for 20 odd years and I literally can’t get out of my ways.