Depression

[filthyfox]

11 minutes ago, HighPeakFox said:

Success is 2 steps closer now. 

Take feedback and move on.  Remember the person spec is just a wish list.   There will ALWAYS be someone more qualified than you.... but are they going for the same job?

NEVER GIVE UP

[foxfanazer]

This last year has been a real eye opener. I never realised how flawed I am as a person! 

 

People get a strong connection to me quite quickly and then within a few months I manage to almost completely put them off me

Edited 26 June 2022 by foxfanazer

[Rusko187]

1 minute ago, foxfanazer said:

This last year has been a real eye opener. I never realised how flawed I am as a person! 

re-brand flaws as "character traits"... works for me!

 

Either way, we all have "character traits". You should never let them get to you, think of them as markers on which to improve/work on.

[MPH]

On 24/06/2022 at 04:48, Wymsey said:

Don't feel depressed personally, but 2 unsuccessful interviews in a week is painful psychologically despite trying not to dwell on it.

 

its a highly competitive field out there now that companies ( even the NHS) can afford to be extremely picky.  Now it’s no longer about how good you are- that has most likely been established simply by getting an interview , it’s probably now because the last company you worked for probably had a different price of equipment than what they use. Silly daft things like that.

[HighPeakFox]

7 hours ago, foxfanazer said:

This last year has been a real eye opener. I never realised how flawed I am as a person! 

 

People get a string connection to me quite quickly and then within a few months I manage to almost completely put them off me

I used to do this too... it's worth exploring your patterns, and seeing if you can find out what triggers the self-sabotage you seem to be describing.

[filthyfox]

Been feeling like I've been dragging myself through treacle the last few days. Wanting to do things, but not feeling the enjoyment. 

 

Have just opened wedding anniversary cards and started crying.  The Mrs says I've been distant with her.

 

Needing to spend more time sleeping than I am getting, even though o am currently sleeping well at night.

 

This is depression, right?

[weller54]

2 minutes ago, filthyfox said:

Been feeling like I've been dragging myself through treacle the last few days. Wanting to do things, but not feeling the enjoyment. 

 

Have just opened wedding anniversary cards and started crying.  The Mrs says I've been distant with her.

 

Needing to spend more time sleeping than I am getting, even though o am currently sleeping well at night.

 

This is depression, right?

Sounds very much like it!…. get yourself to the GP. Don't be anti going on the happy pills, they work!!

Good luck.

[filthyfox]

Just now, weller54 said:

Sounds very much like it!…. get yourself to the GP. Don't be anti going on the happy pills, they work!!

Good luck.

Am already on them (40mg citalopram).  This is obviously just a very big dip in mood right now.  I have had some very major ups and downs in feelings over the last few weeks.

[HighPeakFox]

4 minutes ago, filthyfox said:

Been feeling like I've been dragging myself through treacle the last few days. Wanting to do things, but not feeling the enjoyment. 

 

Have just opened wedding anniversary cards and started crying.  The Mrs says I've been distant with her.

 

Needing to spend more time sleeping than I am getting, even though o am currently sleeping well at night.

 

This is depression, right?

Maybe - you might also be unwell and not realise it. 

 

Take care fella.

[filthyfox]

Just now, HighPeakFox said:

Maybe - you might also be unwell and not realise it. 

 

Take care fella.

Well... I know its not covid, as I tested myself this morning.

 

I am suffering from sleep apnoea and waiting for treatment.  I know that bad sleep does impact me.

 

This is a different type of depression  to what I suffered from before.  This feels like episodal depression rather than cumulative depression. 

 

How the **** can i talk about this so bloody rationally???  I feel like I'm pulling am articulated truck behind me whenever I do anything even remotely chore like.

[MPH]

16 minutes ago, filthyfox said:

Been feeling like I've been dragging myself through treacle the last few days. Wanting to do things, but not feeling the enjoyment. 

 

Have just opened wedding anniversary cards and started crying.  The Mrs says I've been distant with her.

 

Needing to spend more time sleeping than I am getting, even though o am currently sleeping well at night.

 

This is depression, right?

 

so sorry, chap!  I hope you know that a bump in the road is just that- a bump in the road not the end of the road. I would definitely open up to your wife about this. Now Is a massive opportunity to deepen your relationship with your wife in a way you didn’t think possible. The longer you leave it the more difficult it’s going to be. She married you because she loves you so give her a chance to be there for you. If you are not really sure what it is then tell her that. Be honest. But also  Reassure her also that it’s not her.

 

 

 

keep us informed with how you are doing. Isolating yourself about this can make it very difficult to cope with.

[filthyfox]

5 minutes ago, MPH said:

 

so sorry, chap!  I hope you know that a bump in the road is just that- a bump in the road not the end of the road. I would definitely open up to your wife about this. Now Is a massive opportunity to deepen your relationship with your wife in a way you didn’t think possible. The longer you leave it the more difficult it’s going to be. She married you because she loves you so give her a chance to be there for you. If you are not really sure what it is then tell her that. Be honest. But also  Reassure her also that it’s not her.

 

 

 

keep us informed with how you are doing. Isolating yourself about this can make it very difficult to cope with.

Thanks.  Hopefully a decent night's sleep and a productive day at work will sort it out!

Its really quite weird because, apart from attending a funeral last week, I have absolutely no reason for feeling like this.

Got a holiday booked in 2 weeks and really looking forward to it.

[Wycombe Fox]

19 minutes ago, filthyfox said:

Well... I know its not covid, as I tested myself this morning.

 

I am suffering from sleep apnoea and waiting for treatment.  I know that bad sleep does impact me.

 

This is a different type of depression  to what I suffered from before.  This feels like episodal depression rather than cumulative depression. 

 

How the **** can i talk about this so bloody rationally???  I feel like I'm pulling am articulated truck behind me whenever I do anything even remotely chore like.

I hope that you get the right treatment for the sleep apnoea.

 

I was diagnosed a couple of years ago and now have a CPAP machine with full face-mask. The difference it has made to my life has been amazing and hopefully it will for you too.

 

You can look forward to vastly increased energy levels and the ability to be more rational with your thoughts as you won't be so bloody tired!!

 

All the best.

[Parafox]

55 minutes ago, filthyfox said:

Been feeling like I've been dragging myself through treacle the last few days. Wanting to do things, but not feeling the enjoyment. 

 

Have just opened wedding anniversary cards and started crying.  The Mrs says I've been distant with her.

 

Needing to spend more time sleeping than I am getting, even though o am currently sleeping well at night.

 

This is depression, right?

Not necessarily. Most people experience times when they feel fed up, unmotivated, and generally down in the dumps. For me there are certain triggers that bring this feeling on. Ride it out if you can. Ask yourself why you feel like this, why you feel distracted from your relationship and be honest with yourself about the cause and be honest about how you can resolve things. That in itself can be difficult but honesty and being true to your own feelings is the best way forward. 

 

 

[urban.spaceman]

Don't want to be insensitive to anyone else who's struggling but I just had the best ****ing weekend for YEARS.

 

Spent 24 hours with my longest serving friend, his lovely girlfriend and his old Uni mate who I'd not seen for 10 years, drove down to his on Friday morning then we drove into London to go and see Weezer, Fallout Boy and Green Day.

 

The music was amazing but the company was amazing too. So many wonderful people laughing and joking together.

 

I was on a 10 too, and it feels ****ing awesome. Joking, punning and telling the daftest stories; I felt like myself more than I have in so ****ing long.

 

I want more of this. I want to feel better and be better and do better more and more and more.

 

I know I'm due for a dip again after the brilliance of this weekend but it's ****ing worth it.

 

Solidarity with anyone struggling, sometimes it gets better for a while!!

 

 

[foxfanazer]

6 minutes ago, urban.spaceman said:

Don't want to be insensitive to anyone else who's struggling but I just had the best ****ing weekend for YEARS.

 

Spent 24 hours with my longest serving friend, his lovely girlfriend and his old Uni mate who I'd not seen for 10 years, drove down to his on Friday morning then we drove into London to go and see Weezer, Fallout Boy and Green Day.

 

The music was amazing but the company was amazing too. So many wonderful people laughing and joking together.

 

I was on a 10 too, and it feels ****ing awesome. Joking, punning and telling the daftest stories; I felt like myself more than I have in so ****ing long.

 

I want more of this. I want to feel better and be better and do better more and more and more.

 

I know I'm due for a dip again after the brilliance of this weekend but it's ****ing worth it.

 

Solidarity with anyone struggling, sometimes it gets better for a while!!

 

 

Don't apologise for feeling good mate. Sounds like a brilliant weekend!

 

Also try not to pre empt a dip, but if you do have one just hold on to how you've felt this weekend and remember life can be good. 

 

I say all of this to you whilst I'm going through a crisis of my own

Easier to give advice than take it

[MPH]

19 minutes ago, urban.spaceman said:

Don't want to be insensitive to anyone else who's struggling but I just had the best ****ing weekend for YEARS.

 

Spent 24 hours with my longest serving friend, his lovely girlfriend and his old Uni mate who I'd not seen for 10 years, drove down to his on Friday morning then we drove into London to go and see Weezer, Fallout Boy and Green Day.

 

The music was amazing but the company was amazing too. So many wonderful people laughing and joking together.

 

I was on a 10 too, and it feels ****ing awesome. Joking, punning and telling the daftest stories; I felt like myself more than I have in so ****ing long.

 

I want more of this. I want to feel better and be better and do better more and more and more.

 

I know I'm due for a dip again after the brilliance of this weekend but it's ****ing worth it.

 

Solidarity with anyone struggling, sometimes it gets better for a while!!

 

 

 

 

Honestly mate don’t ever feel bad for having a good weekend! Not only that, we WANT to know how you are doing, good or bad!!

[chrishlcfc]

My positive attitude rather than negative one is paying off already. Got myself a date this Saturday. Only my 2nd ever  but it’s progress.
 

I am a bag of nerves already though and can’t stop thinking about it. 
 

Any ideas on how to keep calm and switch off from it all. Bit embarrassing to ask but I’m making strides then blocking myself again as usual. 🤦‍♂️

[MPH]

55 minutes ago, chrishlcfc said:

My positive attitude rather than negative one is paying off already. Got myself a date this Saturday. Only my 2nd ever  but it’s progress.
 

I am a bag of nerves already though and can’t stop thinking about it. 
 

Any ideas on how to keep calm and switch off from it all. Bit embarrassing to ask but I’m making strides then blocking myself again as usual. 🤦‍♂️

 

just try and go somewhere chilled. Don’t go all fancy on the first date as they will make you uptight!

[urban.spaceman]

1 hour ago, chrishlcfc said:

My positive attitude rather than negative one is paying off already. Got myself a date this Saturday. Only my 2nd ever  but it’s progress.
 

I am a bag of nerves already though and can’t stop thinking about it. 
 

Any ideas on how to keep calm and switch off from it all. Bit embarrassing to ask but I’m making strides then blocking myself again as usual. 🤦‍♂️

That’s awesome mate congrats and good luck!

[filthyfox]

4 hours ago, MPH said:

 

just try and go somewhere chilled. Don’t go all fancy on the first date as they will make you uptight!

Make sure you... AHEM "go prepared"

You never know what might happen.

 

Also, dont get too drunk, but, be yourself.

Edited 28 June 2022 by filthyfox

[HighPeakFox]

7 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

My positive attitude rather than negative one is paying off already. Got myself a date this Saturday. Only my 2nd ever  but it’s progress.
 

I am a bag of nerves already though and can’t stop thinking about it. 
 

Any ideas on how to keep calm and switch off from it all. Bit embarrassing to ask but I’m making strides then blocking myself again as usual. 🤦‍♂️

Don't get too far ahead of yourself - enjoy the date and treat anything positive that comes from it as a bonus.

[Wymsey]

8 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

My positive attitude rather than negative one is paying off already. Got myself a date this Saturday. Only my 2nd ever  but it’s progress.
 

I am a bag of nerves already though and can’t stop thinking about it. 
 

Any ideas on how to keep calm and switch off from it all. Bit embarrassing to ask but I’m making strides then blocking myself again as usual. 🤦‍♂️

Hope it goes well.

 

PS: If you need any dating advice please, by all means,look through this thread.. 

 

[Thefox81]

11 minutes ago, Wymsey said:

Hope it goes well.

 

PS: If you need any dating advice please, by all means,look through this thread.. 

 

Just skimmed through that thread. Brilliant 😂😂😂

[foxfanazer]

27 minutes ago, Wymsey said:

Hope it goes well.

 

PS: If you need any dating advice please, by all means,look through this thread.. 

 

I don't know why this made me remember this but...who was that guy that posted on here about saving a girl from being raped and then took.her home and shagged her the same night?