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StanSP

StanSP

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57 minutes ago, Mee-9 said:

Congrats too mate! I became a Dad for the first time last July, and my little girl is approaching her first birthday in a few weeks. It goes so quick. My wife gave birth in that 42 degree heat in the Royal last year, they had no fans, AC or anything and it was a bloody nightmare. 

 

If you're into reading up to prepare this book was incredible. My missus bought me it and it was amazing to see each week what's changing and what is going on. It's from a Dad's perspective and contains so many funny statements from Dad's. Couldn't recommend it higher. 

https://amzn.eu/d/haYN8Zc

 

The morning sickness with my missus was a nightmare, she ended up in the first trimester having to have anti-sickness meds. But it does get easier after the first trimester, you'll notice some strange things changing too over each trimester. Like my wife went through huge food aversions. The food she would eat before hand she couldn't tolerate even the smell of it, but she never had cravings. 

 

The tiredness is a real ball-ache though. It takes months and months to get used to it. But your body does adjust which isn't ideal either. Your body clock adjusts too. 

 

What is really helpful is to have a good family network around you. The saying 'it takes a village to raise a child,' is so true. Some parents feel strange letting Grandparents and other family members help, but accept their help. For the first few months of my daughter's life I felt like such a failure because I had never been around babies, neither had I any experience in raising children. But it took months for me to get over it and it sounds sad and tragic, but actually enjoy being a Father. We also are really lucky as my Wife's mum is a star, and from an early age we tried to have a 'date night' a week where my Mother in law would look after our girl for the evening. Allowed us to get some sense of normality because we can all get swept up in the stresses of becoming a Dad and Mums, but it's important to continue being Man and Wife, Boyfriend and Girlfriend, Fiancee and Fiancee etc. 

 

Some brilliant things early on are buying in bulk towels and muslins, (my wife bought I think 100 at some point cheap from somewhere but they've all gone now!) making sure you're stocked up on nappies and also Gripe Water. (It's this stuff that helps babies pass their wind) Oh god I've just remembered the wind. I used to panic every time our daughter had milk incase she got wind and would scream the house down. I had to drive at 11pm one night to Asda Thurmaston and run in and get some Gripe Water as we'd ran out. Got back, baby was fast off. There's some amazing stuff out there that can save time too, like baby teets that fit onto the larger bottles of milk so when you're out and about you don't have to decant the milk. Some of the toys are a right laugh too, I bought our girl a Jumparoo, on amazon and she went mad for it. Every night for hours jumping whilst it sang songs and it was great as it allowed us to have a breather. 

 

Don't be scared to also take the baby out after a bit. We were a bit like this, hesitant to go and do things because we were both worried about how we'd cope. I remember my wife just saying 'Get your coat, we're off to Twycross,' and we had the best day. After that we ended up going all over the place. Our 11 month old has been to more places than I think i'd been in my first 18 years. It's just about being prepared as much as you can. (Forgot a dummy on a 6 mile walk around Dovedale with the baby in the back carrier, she wanted to go sleep around mile 3 and oh my did she let us know, ended up having to feed her these Ella's Kitchen Pea and Sweetcorn Crisps for miles. But it worked)  

 

One thing I've also learned is the importance of some time away. Life can be crazy and chaotic, and it's about to get more chaotic and crazy. I went to all the home games this season (bar our wedding day, which I did have a ticket for the Arsenal match, forgot the wedding date didn't I) and just being out in the fresh air, by myself walking to the ground by the canal was the most perfect few hours. Despite the results being poor, to just get some time for myself away was the most valuable thing. It allowed me to reset and recharge a bit. 

 

You're in for the hardest journey of your life mate. But it will be the best, and when you look back a year on you'll be so proud of yourself for how you've grown and changed. If you need a chat at any point mate, just drop me a message! :scarf:

 

 

 

Thank you mate, that's really appreciated. 

 

Know how you feel about the anti-sickness. She had it really and first few weeks, so she was put on a course of anti-sickness meds. Two days in to the course, she gets neck and jaw paralysis and we have to spend the evening in a&e! So the fun has already begun in a sense lol

 

Thankfully the morning sickness seems to have stopped. 2 days and counting... 

 

All the adventures, trials and tribulations sound worth it to be honest!  Definitely helps having family around - thankfully have my parents and brother close by. 

 

Will definitely take a look at the book, thank you. 

 

I know how difficult it's going to be, but we both planned for this and both so excited for the journey ahead, no matter how tired we get! 

Jattdogg

Jattdogg

Posted
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3 hours ago, StanSP said:

Thank you mate, that's really appreciated. 

 

Know how you feel about the anti-sickness. She had it really and first few weeks, so she was put on a course of anti-sickness meds. Two days in to the course, she gets neck and jaw paralysis and we have to spend the evening in a&e! So the fun has already begun in a sense lol

 

Thankfully the morning sickness seems to have stopped. 2 days and counting... 

 

All the adventures, trials and tribulations sound worth it to be honest!  Definitely helps having family around - thankfully have my parents and brother close by. 

 

Will definitely take a look at the book, thank you. 

 

I know how difficult it's going to be, but we both planned for this and both so excited for the journey ahead, no matter how tired we get! 

My wife had morning sickness for the whole pregnancy as well as round ligament pain (for both kids).  It was horrible for her. I remember booking a trip to england for the 3 of us. Wife had never been to England and was excited to try the fish and chips, cakes, kebabs etc that I've told her are much better over that side of the Atlantic. By the time we flew out she was 6 weeks pregnant and puking her guts out to the point she couldnt enjoy her trip lol.

 

She holds it against me to this day (in good fun) lol

 

 

 

 

StanSP

StanSP

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4 hours ago, Jattdogg said:

My wife had morning sickness for the whole pregnancy as well as round ligament pain (for both kids).  It was horrible for her. I remember booking a trip to england for the 3 of us. Wife had never been to England and was excited to try the fish and chips, cakes, kebabs etc that I've told her are much better over that side of the Atlantic. By the time we flew out she was 6 weeks pregnant and puking her guts out to the point she couldnt enjoy her trip lol.

 

She holds it against me to this day (in good fun) lol

 

 

 

 

But you had a good time right :D ? 

 

Libertine

Libertine

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2 minutes ago, Leicesterpool said:

Ready to be trolled but anyone had a hot colleague at work, that you find very distracting lol. 

I've asked you time and time again to stop staring at me, I'm not interested.

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FoxesDeb

FoxesDeb

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20 minutes ago, Leicesterpool said:

Ready to be trolled but anyone had a hot colleague at work, that you find very distracting lol. 

Yes, and we're now very happily married :)

Jattdogg

Jattdogg

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33 minutes ago, Leicesterpool said:

Ready to be trolled but anyone had a hot colleague at work, that you find very distracting lol. 

I work in IT but 80% of the companies work force is female.  Half of my IT colleagues are women which is fantastic to see!

 

I have easily 20+  fit female colleagues and the fittest of them all is in her late 40's and works directly with me. My goodness is she sexy! Her passion is dancing (not a stripper lol) and she teaches zumba and various latin dance styles outside of work.  Has been a latin dancer for over 25 years and can move!   She also wears low cut tops and hangs out which i respect deeply :)

 

Pre-covid she sat next to me, whenever she had a question  she'd face me and well hello! Where to look, where to look, eyes up, eyes up focus pay attention to her words, shiiit im losing track, i want to look, nooooooo!!!!

 

Thank goodness we are remote now haha.

 

She is such an amazing person and a good friend of mine. She did confide to me that if i was single she would be all over me lol. we had a good laugh about it as we are easy going types.  Fooook sakes my luck though!

 

But in all seriousness she's a great single mom (kids in mid to late 20s now and moved out), loves my kids and wife. All i need to do is angle for my wife to want to bang her and I'm set. Lol

 

Back to reality.

 

 

 

 

 

Edited by Jattdogg
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Daggers

Daggers

Posted
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48 minutes ago, Jattdogg said:

I work in IT but 80% of the companies work force is female.  Half of my IT colleagues are women which is fantastic to see!

 

I have easily 20+  fit female colleagues and the fittest of them all is in her late 40's and works directly with me. My goodness is she sexy! Her passion is dancing (not a stripper lol) and she teaches zumba and various latin dance styles outside of work.  Has been a latin dancer for over 25 years and can move!   She also wears low cut tops and hangs out which i respect deeply :)

 

Pre-covid she sat next to me, whenever she had a question  she'd face me and well hello! Where to look, where to look, eyes up, eyes up focus pay attention to her words, shiiit im losing track, i want to look, nooooooo!!!!

 

Thank goodness we are remote now haha.

 

She is such an amazing person and a good friend of mine. She did confide to me that if i was single she would be all over me lol. we had a good laugh about it as we are easy going types.  Fooook sakes my luck though!

 

But in all seriousness she's a great single mom (kids in mid to late 20s now and moved out), loves my kids and wife. All i need to do is angle for my wife to want to bang her and I'm set. Lol

 

Back to reality.

 

 

 

 

 

It’s like seeing into the mind of a 1970s WMC comedian. 😂

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lcfc278

lcfc278

Posted
Posted
48 minutes ago, Jattdogg said:

I work in IT but 80% of the companies work force is female.  Half of my IT colleagues are women which is fantastic to see!

 

I have easily 20+  fit female colleagues and the fittest of them all is in her late 40's and works directly with me. My goodness is she sexy! Her passion is dancing (not a stripper lol) and she teaches zumba and various latin dance styles outside of work.  Has been a latin dancer for over 25 years and can move!   She also wears low cut tops and hangs out which i respect deeply :)

 

Pre-covid she sat next to me, whenever she had a question  she'd face me and well hello! Where to look, where to look, eyes up, eyes up focus pay attention to her words, shiiit im losing track, i want to look, nooooooo!!!!

 

Thank goodness we are remote now haha.

 

She is such an amazing person and a good friend of mine. She did confide to me that if i was single she would be all over me lol. we had a good laugh about it as we are easy going types.  Fooook sakes my luck though!

 

But in all seriousness she's a great single mom (kids in mid to late 20s now and moved out), loves my kids and wife. All i need to do is angle for my wife to want to bang her and I'm set. Lol

 

Back to reality.

 

 

 

 

 

Jesus

DennisNedry

DennisNedry

Posted
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On 02/07/2023 at 22:59, StanSP said:

Thank you mate, that's really appreciated. 

 

Know how you feel about the anti-sickness. She had it really and first few weeks, so she was put on a course of anti-sickness meds. Two days in to the course, she gets neck and jaw paralysis and we have to spend the evening in a&e! So the fun has already begun in a sense lol

 

Thankfully the morning sickness seems to have stopped. 2 days and counting... 

 

All the adventures, trials and tribulations sound worth it to be honest!  Definitely helps having family around - thankfully have my parents and brother close by. 

 

Will definitely take a look at the book, thank you. 

 

I know how difficult it's going to be, but we both planned for this and both so excited for the journey ahead, no matter how tired we get! 

Give the Parenting Hell podcast (Rob Beckett and Josh Widdecombe) a go. 

 

Really makes you realise that everybody struggles, and that we're all just doing our best without any idea of how to actually raise a child!

 

My son has just turned 2. What I will say, hand on heart, is I was miserable the first 3 months, and it took me perhaps until he was 12 months old to actually believe that I'd made the right decision becoming a Dad. 

 

Now though, he's a proper little boy, I love him to pieces, and I couldn't imagine life without him.

 

Also, I know you will, but make sure you support your partner. As hard as it is becoming a Dad, we don't have to deal with the physical side of things, the birth trauma, the breastfeeding, the year+ off work. 

 

All the best mate!

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marbles

marbles

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Weather is great.

Going to watch FC Dallas take on DC United tonight, and a fireworks show afterwards - taking my family with me.

Should be a great July 4th! (or as you Brits call it “Good Riddance Day). :)

 

StanSP

StanSP

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34 minutes ago, DennisNedry said:

Give the Parenting Hell podcast (Rob Beckett and Josh Widdecombe) a go. 

 

Really makes you realise that everybody struggles, and that we're all just doing our best without any idea of how to actually raise a child!

 

My son has just turned 2. What I will say, hand on heart, is I was miserable the first 3 months, and it took me perhaps until he was 12 months old to actually believe that I'd made the right decision becoming a Dad. 

 

Now though, he's a proper little boy, I love him to pieces, and I couldn't imagine life without him.

 

Also, I know you will, but make sure you support your partner. As hard as it is becoming a Dad, we don't have to deal with the physical side of things, the birth trauma, the breastfeeding, the year+ off work. 

 

All the best mate!

Thanks mate, think I've tuned into that podcast a couple of times and found it great to listen to.

 

I think we're in for one hell of a journey, but we're both looking forward to it, as it's what we want. Despite the sleep deprivation, tiredness, neediness and everything else that will hit us!

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The Bear

The Bear

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35 minutes ago, DennisNedry said:

My son has just turned 2. What I will say, hand on heart, is I was miserable the first 3 months, and it took me perhaps until he was 12 months old to actually believe that I'd made the right decision becoming a Dad. 

 

Now though, he's a proper little boy, I love him to pieces, and I couldn't imagine life without him.

As someone who's never wanted to have kids, I can see that completely. When they're still a baby and all they do is shit and cry then I can imagine it's a tough experience for both of you. Purely because of the stress and worry, plus the inexperience of not knowing if you're doing things right.

 

Once you get past that point though, I can absolutely see why it's so rewarding. I like kids once they can walk and talk. They seem to like me too, but I couldn't cope with the responsibility of caring for one. Fair play to any one that can! 

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Guest Electric Yetis

Guest Electric Yetis

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Got 2 boys, love them more than anything in the world and wouldn't change a thing as it is but if I'm honest and I had my time again, knowing what I do now I wouldn't have kids!

Wymsey

Wymsey

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3 minutes ago, Rain King said:

Got 2 boys, love them more than anything in the world and wouldn't change a thing as it is but if I'm honest and I had my time again, knowing what I do now I wouldn't have kids!

Does your partner think the same?

 

Am sure they both appreciate your and your partner'/wives' presence and help, and will do so more when they're grown up.

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Sparrowhawk

Sparrowhawk

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26 minutes ago, marbles said:

Weather is great.

Going to watch FC Dallas take on DC United tonight, and a fireworks show afterwards - taking my family with me.

Should be a great July 4th! (or as you Brits call it “Good Riddance Day). :)

 

Brits don't call it anything! Except the 4th of July. Or, this year, 'Tuesday.'

It is funny when (some) Americans try to wind Brits up with stuff like 'we kicked your ass (by which apparently they mean arse) in the war,' when I suspect most Brits don't know that some of what is now the US used to be a British colony, or that there was a war. Everyone knows that 'Independence Day' is a thing, but I reckon most Brits genuinely don't really twig what the independence was from!

 

Anyway, have a good one!

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Jattdogg

Jattdogg

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6 minutes ago, Sparrowhawk said:

Brits don't call it anything! Except the 4th of July. Or, this year, 'Tuesday.'

It is funny when (some) Americans try to wind Brits up with stuff like 'we kicked your ass (by which apparently they mean arse) in the war,' when I suspect most Brits don't know that some of what is now the US used to be a British colony, or that there was a war. Everyone knows that 'Independence Day' is a thing, but I reckon most Brits genuinely don't really twig what the independence was from!

 

Anyway, have a good one!

Dont worry us canadians/brits burnt down their Whitehouse.

 

Such badarses fam!

FoxesDeb

FoxesDeb

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10 minutes ago, Rain King said:

Got 2 boys, love them more than anything in the world and wouldn't change a thing as it is but if I'm honest and I had my time again, knowing what I do now I wouldn't have kids!

I feel pretty similar. It's a hard thing to admit without sounding like you don't love your children, and I absolutely do with all my heart. But like you, if I had my time again I wouldn't have children. 

FoxesDeb

FoxesDeb

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42 minutes ago, marbles said:

Weather is great.

Going to watch FC Dallas take on DC United tonight, and a fireworks show afterwards - taking my family with me.

Should be a great July 4th! (or as you Brits call it “Good Riddance Day). :)

 

It has no meaning to us, it's just a random date. But at least we know it as it's correct term, the 4th July ;) 

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marbles

marbles

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15 minutes ago, Sparrowhawk said:

Brits don't call it anything! Except the 4th of July. Or, this year, 'Tuesday.'

It is funny when (some) Americans try to wind Brits up with stuff like 'we kicked your ass (by which apparently they mean arse) in the war,' when I suspect most Brits don't know that some of what is now the US used to be a British colony, or that there was a war. Everyone knows that 'Independence Day' is a thing, but I reckon most Brits genuinely don't really twig what the independence was from!

 

Anyway, have a good one!

Can’t tell if you’re riled up or not - it was posted in jest.  Not meant to upset anyone

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