How Was Your Day?

[marbles]

Crap day

Car broke down and had to be towed last Saturday.  Mechanic called today to tell me it can’t be fixed.

Then my friend is cooking dinner for us, and my outlets pops.  Pull the cover off the wall to find the wires melted.

 

 

[leicsmac]

1 hour ago, marbles said:

Crap day

Car broke down and had to be towed last Saturday.  Mechanic called today to tell me it can’t be fixed.

Then my friend is cooking dinner for us, and my outlets pops.  Pull the cover off the wall to find the wires melted.

 

 

Things always seem to come in clusters, don't they?

 

Hope things turn out OK with the car and the electrics.

[LcFc_Smiv]

On 29/06/2023 at 04:21, marbles said:

Crap day

Car broke down and had to be towed last Saturday.  Mechanic called today to tell me it can’t be fixed.

Then my friend is cooking dinner for us, and my outlets pops.  Pull the cover off the wall to find the wires melted.

 

 

I had a day similar to yours last week. Initial thoughts of the inconvenience and cost put me in a bad place. I then decided to try changing my mindset on it and thought is this something I’ll be worrying about a year from now and the answer was no. Woke up the next morning like a weight had been lifted from me, it’s something I’m trying to get better at, putting stuff into perspective and it certainly helps for me.

 

Hope you get everything sorted mate.

[FoyleFox]

Expensive. The dog has been to the vets.

Last week's antibiotics and anti-inflammatory medicine was bad enough at £90.

This week, a sample from his lump has gone for tests. Which is obviously a competitively priced process!

[Jon the Hat]

14 hours ago, FoyleFox said:

Expensive. The dog has been to the vets.

Last week's antibiotics and anti-inflammatory medicine was bad enough at £90.

This week, a sample from his lump has gone for tests. Which is obviously a competitively priced process!

A couple of months ago my cat fell out of a tree onto a wooden stake.  $850.  Stupid cat.  Yesterday she disappeared for 12 hours, and I found her hiding upstairs in a new build house going up next door.  In the dark.  It’s only just got a roof on.  Stupid cat.

Edited 1 July 2023 by Jon the Hat

[Jattdogg]

10 hours ago, Jon the Hat said:

A couple of months ago my cat fell out of a tree onto a wooden stake.  $850.  Stupid cat.  Yesterday she disappeared for 12 hours, and I found her hiding upstairs in a new build house going up next door.  In the dark.  It’s only just got a roof on.  Stupid cat.

What about the cat owner???  Lol

 

 

 

 

 

 

[tom27111]

On 30/06/2023 at 15:38, FoyleFox said:

Expensive. The dog has been to the vets.

Last week's antibiotics and anti-inflammatory medicine was bad enough at £90.

This week, a sample from his lump has gone for tests. Which is obviously a competitively priced process!

 

We had similar a few weeks ago.

 

Our dog is fat and old. She developed lumps on her stomach, went to the vets, had everything checked out, cost us £875.

 

The lumps are just balls of fat.

 

Plus me and the Mrs both had a day off work each to pick her up and drop her off. 

 

Literally cost us a grand just to be told there's nothing wrong with her.

[tom27111]

Oh, and very late...

 

I read it and reacted, but should've said something...

 

Congratulations @StanSP.

 

That's absolutely wonderful news, proper buzzing for you.

 

And don't let Mrs Stan fool you...she's not as fragile as they make out. She's pregnant, not ill 

 

But in all seriousness, really happy for you both 

[Wymsey]

Congratulations, @StanSP.

 

Hope all goes well.

[StanSP]

4 minutes ago, tom27111 said:

Oh, and very late...

 

I read it and reacted, but should've said something...

 

Congratulations @StanSP.

 

That's absolutely wonderful news, proper buzzing for you.

 

And don't let Mrs Stan fool you...she's not as fragile as they make out. She's pregnant, not ill 

 

But in all seriousness, really happy for you both 

Thanks mate! Been 3 months and finally her morning sickness appears to have stopped

 

 

 

1 minute ago, Wymsey said:

Congratulations, @StanSP.

 

Hope all goes well.

Thank you! 

[tom27111]

@StanSP, when my brother and his Mrs had a baby, they were 10 days overdue and didn't want to induce her.

 

The doctor said "Maybe you could have intercourse? This often speeds up the labour process"

 

My brother said: "Are you insane? That's what got me in this position in the first place" 

 

[foxile5]

****ing brilliant. Loads of tinnies.

 

 

[StanSP]

25 minutes ago, tom27111 said:

@StanSP, when my brother and his Mrs had a baby, they were 10 days overdue and didn't want to induce her.

 

The doctor said "Maybe you could have intercourse? This often speeds up the labour process"

 

My brother said: "Are you insane? That's what got me in this position in the first place" 

 

brilliant 

 

If ours comes on the due date, my birthday and the baby's will be 4 days apart. Expensive time for the missus! 

[tom27111]

1 minute ago, StanSP said:

brilliant 

 

If ours comes on the due date, my birthday and the baby's will be 4 days apart. Expensive time for the missus! 

 

If you're struggling for names, let's be honest, Thomas is an all time classic. You can't really go wrong 

[Bert]

30 minutes ago, StanSP said:

brilliant 

 

If ours comes on the due date, my birthday and the baby's will be 4 days apart. Expensive time for the missus! 

When you have kids, every time is an expensive time  

[Daggers]

6 minutes ago, Bert said:

When you have kids, every time is an expensive time  

And you never get to go to the toilet alone, or eat that thing you put in the fridge, or use that thing you bought before it got broken, or dance to stuff you love without having the living fvck piss taken out of you. 

[Bert]

2 minutes ago, Daggers said:

And you never get to go to the toilet alone, or eat that thing you put in the fridge, or use that thing you bought before it got broken, or dance to stuff you love without having the living fvck piss taken out of you. 

Sometimes you don’t even get to sleep in your own bed. Sometimes the knife and fork isn’t the right knife and fork, even though they’re exactly the same as all the others and whenever you say “stop doing that” - it obviously means carry on until the inevitable happens, and it’s your fault they’ve hurt themselves. 

[tom27111]

10 minutes ago, Daggers said:

And you never get to go to the toilet alone, or eat that thing you put in the fridge, or use that thing you bought before it got broken, or dance to stuff you love without having the living fvck piss taken out of you. 

 

4 minutes ago, Bert said:

Sometimes you don’t even get to sleep in your own bed. Sometimes the knife and fork isn’t the right knife and fork, even though they’re exactly the same as all the others and whenever you say “stop doing that” - it obviously means carry on until the inevitable happens, and it’s your fault they’ve hurt themselves. 

 

I'm so glad I've got step-kids that are 22, 17 and 15.

 

Plus I walked into their lives at the exact right time to make them all Leicester fans!

 

Well, it was going well until we won the FA Cup!

 

They're great, but still fvcking infuriating at the same time. At least none of them shit theirselves though.

 

But they are coming up to going out drinking stage...

[The Blur]

53 minutes ago, StanSP said:

brilliant 

 

If ours comes on the due date, my birthday and the baby's will be 4 days apart. Expensive time for the missus! 

I love how optimistic you still are pre fatherhood. You are going to get neglected in favour for your kid even more so that your birthdays are so close together so your kid's birthday will take priority financially and time wise.  Any birthday vouchers you get will be spent on add on extras for your kid's birthday presents   Not so expensive time for your missus after all!

 

 

 

 

[StanSP]

8 hours ago, The Blur said:

I love how optimistic you still are pre fatherhood. You are going to get neglected in favour for your kid even more so that your birthdays are so close together so your kid's birthday will take priority financially and time wise.  Any birthday vouchers you get will be spent on add on extras for your kid's birthday presents   Not so expensive time for your missus after all!

 

 

 

 

Delusions of grandeur perhaps

 

 

[Milo]

A mate of mine, a month or so before the birth of their first child, said, with absolute confidence “How difficult can it be. Babies sleep, for like, 18 hours a day”.

 

Needless to say, 3 years on, he’s a broken man. 

[StanSP]

2 hours ago, Milo said:

A mate of mine, a month or so before the birth of their first child, said, with absolute confidence “How difficult can it be. Babies sleep, for like, 18 hours a day”.

 

Needless to say, 3 years on, he’s a broken man. 

Yeah I'm not that deluded to be fair

 

 

[Jattdogg]

On 23/06/2023 at 08:39, StanSP said:

I become a dad in December

 

Congratulations Stan (as well to your wife)!

 

Mine are now 10 and 8, but i have loved every minute of it (well....you know what i mean).

 

Blessed to have kids and they are my world. Enjoy the moments, they grow too fast.

 

If you've seen that video in the funny photos/videos thread maybe they will turn out to be that 30 year old living at mum and dads and complaining about the bedroom lol.

 

 

18 hours ago, StanSP said:

brilliant 

 

If ours comes on the due date, my birthday and the baby's will be 4 days apart. Expensive time for the missus! 

Due before or after yours? Mines a day before yours as you might recall so i will cheer for my day!

 

[StanSP]

1 hour ago, Jattdogg said:

Congratulations Stan (as well to your wife)!

 

Mine are now 10 and 8, but i have loved every minute of it (well....you know what i mean).

 

Blessed to have kids and they are my world. Enjoy the moments, they grow too fast.

 

If you've seen that video in the funny photos/videos thread maybe they will turn out to be that 30 year old living at mum and dads and complaining about the bedroom lol.

 

 

Due before or after yours? Mines a day before yours as you might recall so i will cheer for my day!

 

After! 

[Guest Mee-9]

22 hours ago, StanSP said:

brilliant 

 

If ours comes on the due date, my birthday and the baby's will be 4 days apart. Expensive time for the missus! 

Congrats too mate! I became a Dad for the first time last July, and my little girl is approaching her first birthday in a few weeks. It goes so quick. My wife gave birth in that 42 degree heat in the Royal last year, they had no fans, AC or anything and it was a bloody nightmare. 

 

If you're into reading up to prepare this book was incredible. My missus bought me it and it was amazing to see each week what's changing and what is going on. It's from a Dad's perspective and contains so many funny statements from Dad's. Couldn't recommend it higher. 

https://amzn.eu/d/haYN8Zc

 

The morning sickness with my missus was a nightmare, she ended up in the first trimester having to have anti-sickness meds. But it does get easier after the first trimester, you'll notice some strange things changing too over each trimester. Like my wife went through huge food aversions. The food she would eat before hand she couldn't tolerate even the smell of it, but she never had cravings. 

 

The tiredness is a real ball-ache though. It takes months and months to get used to it. But your body does adjust which isn't ideal either. Your body clock adjusts too. 

 

What is really helpful is to have a good family network around you. The saying 'it takes a village to raise a child,' is so true. Some parents feel strange letting Grandparents and other family members help, but accept their help. For the first few months of my daughter's life I felt like such a failure because I had never been around babies, neither had I any experience in raising children. But it took months for me to get over it and it sounds sad and tragic, but actually enjoy being a Father. We also are really lucky as my Wife's mum is a star, and from an early age we tried to have a 'date night' a week where my Mother in law would look after our girl for the evening. Allowed us to get some sense of normality because we can all get swept up in the stresses of becoming a Dad and Mums, but it's important to continue being Man and Wife, Boyfriend and Girlfriend, Fiancee and Fiancee etc. 

 

Some brilliant things early on are buying in bulk towels and muslins, (my wife bought I think 100 at some point cheap from somewhere but they've all gone now!) making sure you're stocked up on nappies and also Gripe Water. (It's this stuff that helps babies pass their wind) Oh god I've just remembered the wind. I used to panic every time our daughter had milk incase she got wind and would scream the house down. I had to drive at 11pm one night to Asda Thurmaston and run in and get some Gripe Water as we'd ran out. Got back, baby was fast off. There's some amazing stuff out there that can save time too, like baby teets that fit onto the larger bottles of milk so when you're out and about you don't have to decant the milk. Some of the toys are a right laugh too, I bought our girl a Jumparoo, on amazon and she went mad for it. Every night for hours jumping whilst it sang songs and it was great as it allowed us to have a breather. 

 

Don't be scared to also take the baby out after a bit. We were a bit like this, hesitant to go and do things because we were both worried about how we'd cope. I remember my wife just saying 'Get your coat, we're off to Twycross,' and we had the best day. After that we ended up going all over the place. Our 11 month old has been to more places than I think i'd been in my first 18 years. It's just about being prepared as much as you can. (Forgot a dummy on a 6 mile walk around Dovedale with the baby in the back carrier, she wanted to go sleep around mile 3 and oh my did she let us know, ended up having to feed her these Ella's Kitchen Pea and Sweetcorn Crisps for miles. But it worked)  

 

One thing I've also learned is the importance of some time away. Life can be crazy and chaotic, and it's about to get more chaotic and crazy. I went to all the home games this season (bar our wedding day, which I did have a ticket for the Arsenal match, forgot the wedding date didn't I) and just being out in the fresh air, by myself walking to the ground by the canal was the most perfect few hours. Despite the results being poor, to just get some time for myself away was the most valuable thing. It allowed me to reset and recharge a bit. 

 

You're in for the hardest journey of your life mate. But it will be the best, and when you look back a year on you'll be so proud of yourself for how you've grown and changed. If you need a chat at any point mate, just drop me a message!