Depression

[HybridFox]

I hate the fact that in pressurised situations I have to lie to give myself time to think. Then spend those thoughts feeling sh** about myself for lieing. And by that point, telling the truth will probably make me feel even sh***er. I hate this cycle.

[urban.spaceman]

 

[urban.spaceman]

I forget how ****ing exhausting anxiety can be. Especially when trying to write an application and having to sell yourself. 

[HybridFox]

13 minutes ago, urban.spaceman said:

I forget how ****ing exhausting anxiety can be. Especially when trying to write an application and having to sell yourself. 

Can relate to this totally. Turned down an amazing opportunity 2 years ago to stay in this sh*** job. Finally decided enough is enough but getting back into the swing of doing applications has been hard. Especially when I know I f**** up with my career choices but have to glam it up on my CV 

Edited 11 December 2019 by TK95

[Crinklyfox]

12 hours ago, urban.spaceman said:

I forget how ****ing exhausting anxiety can be. Especially when trying to write an application and having to sell yourself. 

I'm retired now but have been in both the position of a job applicant and of a hiring manager.  The primary purpose of the application is to get you an interview, that's when you can really sell yourself.  Although sometimes the hiring manager views all the applications in larger organisations they may be 'filtered' by the HR department first.  The HR department won't be specialists in the job being offered but will be looking for both positive and negative aspects of the application, which is why it's important not to include anything they could obviously use as grounds for rejection.

 

In my opinion the three questions that should be addressed in the application and the interview are:

 

1.  Can you do the job?

2.  Will you be happy doing the job?

3.  Will you fit in? 

 

Because organisations want competent people who won't leave after a short time in the job and will work well with existing staff.  Good luck with your applications.

 

 

[Xen]

Been one tough week, that's for sure. Nothing major, just lots of little things grinding away and nothing seeming to go in my favour (except the football, thankfully). Haven't been able to run nearly as much as usual either because of an injury, which means I can't even make use of my usual outlet for when weeks like this happen. Argh. 

 

Working over the Christmas period (my choice) so booked a long weekend now instead, so just a few more hours and I've got four days off to recouperate a bit at home. Fingers crossed it won't be soured before it even begins by whatever result comes out of this GE...

[PAULCFC]

Been a pretty tough week for me as well.Went to get my mum's funeral sorted,was hoping to get it done before xmas but no places.In a way i'm happy that it's been pretty much sorted for early jan.Next thing is go see the solicitors about the will on Tuesday.Anybody on here know anything about probate,i understand the basics but how long does it take if it's quite straight forward?

[The Fox Covert]

Is this going to become the new post-election thread?

It's a good job I am not working today because I dreaded getting up this morning to hear the news I least wanted to hear!

I am very rarely on this forum at this time of day!!!

[HighPeakFox]

I think it's probably wiser to not allow politics in here. I made that mistake before, it's an ill wind that blows nobody any good. 

[gw_leics772]

Thought this thread had gone quiet, but seem to have lost my follow.

Anyone else notice this or is it my fat fingers?

[gw_leics772]

Anyway...

I can resonate with this/ this resonates with me. (Grammatical help gratefully appreciated 🤣)
I can relate to this!

NB. Interesting article, not a cry for help.

 

https://qz.com/1198671/depression-warning-signs-pay-attention-to-the-words-they-use/

 

Ignore if already posted. Busy at work, but spotted this during a fag break on facebook and thought it might interest others.

 

Edited 13 December 2019 by gw_leics772

[urban.spaceman]

On 11/12/2019 at 21:41, TK95 said:

Can relate to this totally. Turned down an amazing opportunity 2 years ago to stay in this sh*** job. Finally decided enough is enough but getting back into the swing of doing applications has been hard. Especially when I know I f**** up with my career choices but have to glam it up on my CV 

 

On 12/12/2019 at 09:45, Crinklyfox said:

I'm retired now but have been in both the position of a job applicant and of a hiring manager.  The primary purpose of the application is to get you an interview, that's when you can really sell yourself.  Although sometimes the hiring manager views all the applications in larger organisations they may be 'filtered' by the HR department first.  The HR department won't be specialists in the job being offered but will be looking for both positive and negative aspects of the application, which is why it's important not to include anything they could obviously use as grounds for rejection.

 

In my opinion the three questions that should be addressed in the application and the interview are:

 

1.  Can you do the job?

2.  Will you be happy doing the job?

3.  Will you fit in? 

 

Because organisations want competent people who won't leave after a short time in the job and will work well with existing staff.  Good luck with your applications.

Done & sent. Huge relief now.

[HighPeakFox]

This is my 10,000th post on FT, so rather than waste it telling some berk with half a brain why they're wrong, I thought it might be wiser and healthier to say something here, in the one thread in this entire forum that is truly worthwhile.

 

This will be a very difficult Christmas - I'm not going to go into details why, because they would in part be divisive, in part be misunderstood, and I don't think any of the detail matters really. I'm much better at not getting lured into self-harm now, happily, but I'm going to have a lot of time alone soon, and it's (too much) time to reflect on the things in the human condition that I struggle with. I know lots of wonderful people, but they all have lives and issues, and because I show a positive outer to the world now (I'm a performer, it's hard not to), nobody (especially those that live where I do) would ever know that I might be having existential issues

 

What am I trying to say? I don't really know. I guess I feel I don't have a place where I safely fit most of the time. I'd like to feel safe, and I don't.

[Kopfkino]

Never really been hugely into Christmas, it was always great to spend time with close family on the day doing something a bit different with great food but never been one for much fuss. This year I actively hate it, I don't think I appreciated how miserable it can be for some people until this year. It'll be the first Christmas without my Mum and so I can't really be arsed with any of it, just wish the new year would come around. It's really upset me this week as I've thought of how it will be different, what we'll be missing out on, what I could have got Mum etc. And people not necessarily realising calling me a Scrooge and grouchy etc, like its so hard to get away from it and not be immersed in Christmas but I really wish it didn't have to be so in your face, gets really lonely even when people are around because you're the only one desperate for it to be any other time of year

 

Haven't really processed it all properly either and have preferred to just keep busy, health anxiety is knocking the door down again as well (seen a GP 3 times in 10 days now for nothing but my brain telling me something is wrong, costing a few bob) and with the long dark nights things are truly miserable. Probably will all come crashing down next week and make things worse for everyone else. Bring on the spring time.

Edited 18 December 2019 by Kopfkino

[gw_leics772]

8 hours ago, Kopfkino said:

Never really been hugely into Christmas, it was always great to spend time with close family on the day doing something a bit different with great food but never been one for much fuss. This year I actively hate it, I don't think I appreciated how miserable it can be for some people until this year. It'll be the first Christmas without my Mum and so I can't really be arsed with any of it, just wish the new year would come around. It's really upset me this week as I've thought of how it will be different, what we'll be missing out on, what I could have got Mum etc. And people not necessarily realising calling me a Scrooge and grouchy etc, like its so hard to get away from it and not be immersed in Christmas but I really wish it didn't have to be so in your face, gets really lonely even when people are around because you're the only one desperate for it to be any other time of year

 

Haven't really processed it all properly either and have preferred to just keep busy, health anxiety is knocking the door down again as well (seen a GP 3 times in 10 days now for nothing but my brain telling me something is wrong, costing a few bob) and with the long dark nights things are truly miserable. Probably will all come crashing down next week and make things worse for everyone else. Bring on the spring time.

You do you mate.

 

I was discussing this with someone recently. It can be a very lonely time and remind people of others who should still be with us.

 

I know its tough with depression and too much time to think but just try to enjoy the break from work if nothing else.

 

Depression makes me want to sleep. And you have the perfect opportunity.

 

Dont want to appear irritatingly positive, but felt the need to acknowledge your pain and try to help you to find some small positives to help you through, and help you plan for it.

 

Dont expect too much from yourself, but dont beat yourself up for feeling this way. Its natural.

 

 

 

[gw_leics772]

[gw_leics772]

[ozleicester]

To all struggling at this time... remember, if nowhere else, you have a safe place here.

Talk here... unload here... feel free to message anytime. Talk to Doctors, friends, workmates...anyone...

 

There are many, many who may not know you...but care nonetheless.

 

Just talk

[Paninistickers]

At the risk of posting something totally inappropriate and insensitive to those struggling, I kinda miss my low level depression. This time last year I was in a bit of a hole and actually started posting on here as part of my downward curve.

 

Fast forward 12 months and I'm fine. But genuinely miss the deeper thoughts, the melancholy, the inward looking bits. 

 

As far as I know, that's not unusual.

 

But to anyone in a hole this year, much love x

 

[HighPeakFox]

I'm glad you're feeling better, @Paninistickers. I'm in that place myself, unwell and cannot deal with coming to Leicester this Christmas. 

[Paninistickers]

14 minutes ago, HighPeakFox said:

I'm glad you're feeling better, @Paninistickers. I'm in that place myself, unwell and cannot deal with coming to Leicester this Christmas. 

Hang in there, dude.

 

 

[Lionator]

1 hour ago, Paninistickers said:

At the risk of posting something totally inappropriate and insensitive to those struggling, I kinda miss my low level depression. This time last year I was in a bit of a hole and actually started posting on here as part of my downward curve.

 

Fast forward 12 months and I'm fine. But genuinely miss the deeper thoughts, the melancholy, the inward looking bits. 

 

As far as I know, that's not unusual.

 

But to anyone in a hole this year, much love x

 

The deeper thoughts are still there, you just have to find them without being in that 'black dog' place. 

[urban.spaceman]

On 22/12/2019 at 19:51, Paninistickers said:

At the risk of posting something totally inappropriate and insensitive to those struggling, I kinda miss my low level depression. This time last year I was in a bit of a hole and actually started posting on here as part of my downward curve.

 

Fast forward 12 months and I'm fine. But genuinely miss the deeper thoughts, the melancholy, the inward looking bits. 

 

As far as I know, that's not unusual.

 

But to anyone in a hole this year, much love x

 

Nothing wrong with that Panini. Depression for me is a deep connection with yourself; your inner thoughts and the wondering what defines you and of who you really are. Embrace it, come through the other side and you’re golden. 

[urban.spaceman]

Wishing a very, very happy Christmas to everyone posting on or reading this thread. Hope you’ve had/are having a brilliant time. 

[Rain King]

Anyone experienced dizziness and feeling feint after stopping tablets. I stopped taking sertraline last week after 3 months on them as I wasn't feeling any benefit.

 

Last few days I've felt like I'm constantly pissed despite not having a single alcoholic drink. When I turn my head it takes my brain a second or two to catch up and focus. Strangest feeling. Few heart palpitations too.