Depression

[Lionator]

18 minutes ago, pds said:

Anyone experienced dizziness and feeling feint after stopping tablets. I stopped taking sertraline last week after 3 months on them as I wasn't feeling any benefit.

 

Last few days I've felt like I'm constantly pissed despite not having a single alcoholic drink. When I turn my head it takes my brain a second or two to catch up and focus. Strangest feeling. Few heart palpitations too.

Yeah anti-depressant withdrawals aren't pleasant and doctor's will usually recommend to reduce them step by step (ie take one every two days rather than going cold turkey). People often describe a 'brain zap' sensation too. It'll obviously get easier over time but please see your GP. There may also be a different anti-D which does do a job for you like Citalopram or Fluoxetine. 

[Guest Electric Yetis]

Thanks. Convinced myself I was having a minor heart attack before I realised it could be related to this.

[Lionator]

12 hours ago, pds said:

Thanks. Convinced myself I was having a minor heart attack before I realised it could be related to this.

It will be that. Obviously if you've died and it wasn't that then I'm sorry! But there's no harm in checking in with your GP. 

[E.Rose]

On 12/12/2019 at 17:13, PAULCFC said:

Been a pretty tough week for me as well.Went to get my mum's funeral sorted,was hoping to get it done before xmas but no places.In a way i'm happy that it's been pretty much sorted for early jan.Next thing is go see the solicitors about the will on Tuesday.Anybody on here know anything about probate,i understand the basics but how long does it take if it's quite straight forward?

 

On 18/12/2019 at 23:38, Kopfkino said:

Never really been hugely into Christmas, it was always great to spend time with close family on the day doing something a bit different with great food but never been one for much fuss. This year I actively hate it, I don't think I appreciated how miserable it can be for some people until this year. It'll be the first Christmas without my Mum and so I can't really be arsed with any of it, just wish the new year would come around. It's really upset me this week as I've thought of how it will be different, what we'll be missing out on, what I could have got Mum etc. And people not necessarily realising calling me a Scrooge and grouchy etc, like its so hard to get away from it and not be immersed in Christmas but I really wish it didn't have to be so in your face, gets really lonely even when people are around because you're the only one desperate for it to be any other time of year

 

Haven't really processed it all properly either and have preferred to just keep busy, health anxiety is knocking the door down again as well (seen a GP 3 times in 10 days now for nothing but my brain telling me something is wrong, costing a few bob) and with the long dark nights things are truly miserable. Probably will all come crashing down next week and make things worse for everyone else. Bring on the spring time.

Sorry about both of your losses. I too lost a close family member earlier in the month and had the funeral last week. Like yourselves and I’m sure many others I’m struggling at the moment, I think having time off work until the new year is having an impact as I’m spending a lot of time on my own dwelling on things.

 

I’ve been a bit upset by lack of support too, there seemed to be 3 friends that went above and beyond but a few others remained silent in the group chat whilst I was sharing my struggles earlier in the month. (not meaning I’m looking for sympathy, it was more that I was looking for a bit of advice towards funeral arrangements etc) 

I really appreciate those 3 people and I’m so grateful but I feel as though perhaps I’m being a burden now and don’t want to sound a bore by talking about the same thing over and over, if anyone can relate?

 

 

[PAULCFC]

48 minutes ago, E.Rose said:

 

Sorry about both of your losses. I too lost a close family member earlier in the month and had the funeral last week. Like yourselves and I’m sure many others I’m struggling at the moment, I think having time off work until the new year is having an impact as I’m spending a lot of time on my own dwelling on things.

 

I’ve been a bit upset by lack of support too, there seemed to be 3 friends that went above and beyond but a few others remained silent in the group chat whilst I was sharing my struggles earlier in the month. (not meaning I’m looking for sympathy, it was more that I was looking for a bit of advice towards funeral arrangements etc) 

I really appreciate those 3 people and I’m so grateful but I feel as though perhaps I’m being a burden now and don’t want to sound a bore by talking about the same thing over and over, if anyone can relate?

 

 

Not a burden at all! You are right about the time off work....if it was any other time of the year,id be back to work and not dwelling on things!Just looking forward to getting it all over on Thursday,seeing some of the family i have not seen in years and getting it done!I know that sounds really cold,but that's the way i feel!Anyway E.Rose look after yourself and just talk.....i'll listen if no one else does and i feel the same really feel like talking allthough i cant think what to talk about!!

Edited 28 December 2019 by PAULCFC

[HybridFox]

Seen a lot of posts about people's decades from then to now. A decade for me which started with promise, took a dip only to peak to the happiest I've ever been then come crashing back down again to an all time low. 

 

Starting 2020 at the bottom at least the only way now is up. I will probably dip again but as with anything you learn from your mistakes in the past.

[Unabomber]

I cannot deal with my mums death. Does anyone have experience with this kind of grief? I keep having flashbacks to my night in the hospital where she was saying “I just can’t get comfortable” and no one helped her at all and then a few hours later she died.

[Guest Col city fan]

7 minutes ago, Unabomber said:

I cannot deal with my mums death. Does anyone have experience with this kind of grief? I keep having flashbacks to my night in the hospital where she was saying “I just can’t get comfortable” and no one helped her at all and then a few hours later she died.

Don’t try to get through this on your own Una. You’re Blaby area aren’t you? (Forgive me if I’m wrong)

I hear good things about these guys who have therapy rooms in Blaby

 

https://reflectionstherapy.org.uk/index.html#

[HighPeakFox]

9 minutes ago, Unabomber said:

I cannot deal with my mums death. Does anyone have experience with this kind of grief? I keep having flashbacks to my night in the hospital where she was saying “I just can’t get comfortable” and no one helped her at all and then a few hours later she died.

I have no prior, Una, but I just want to let you know I read this, and am here. Keep going. 

[ajthefox]

 

39 minutes ago, HighPeakFox said:

I have no prior, Una, but I just want to let you know I read this, and am here. Keep going. 

Likewise, I second this @Unabomber. I can't offer any real wisdom but I'm wishing you and the family the best mate.

Take it one step at a time and know that you will always have people in here who are willing to listen. 

[leicsmac]

On 01/01/2020 at 00:30, TK95 said:

Seen a lot of posts about people's decades from then to now. A decade for me which started with promise, took a dip only to peak to the happiest I've ever been then come crashing back down again to an all time low. 

 

Starting 2020 at the bottom at least the only way now is up. I will probably dip again but as with anything you learn from your mistakes in the past.

Sounds very familiar this, mate. The last year and a half have been all about rebuilding for me.

 

As you say, the learning is the important part.

[E.Rose]

18 hours ago, HighPeakFox said:

I have no prior, Una, but I just want to let you know I read this, and am here. Keep going. 

 @Unabomber - Echoing what @HighPeakFox has said. My inbox is always open should you need to talk 

[Parafox]

21 hours ago, Unabomber said:

I cannot deal with my mums death. Does anyone have experience with this kind of grief? I keep having flashbacks to my night in the hospital where she was saying “I just can’t get comfortable” and no one helped her at all and then a few hours later she died.

My mum had a stroke a couple of years ago, she was 93 and my rock. I did so much to help her live independently when she became unable to be entirely self caring. This was before the stroke. She was taken to the LRI when she had the stroke. She was admitted to a ward and we were told there was no way back for her. It seemed to us that at this point, staff didn't seem to be bothered unless we asked them to turn her or change her clothing. She couldn't communicate very well but she too managed to repeatedly complain about being uncomfortable.

It was awful to watch and I couldn't be there at her point of passing. I was too upset.

At her funeral, I chose a specific song that had no meaning to any of our family but felt entirely appropriate for my mum. ("Supermarket Flowers" by Ed Sheeran).

Since then I have listened to it often and cried. That has been cathartic for me.

Now, I focus on the good memories, I often use the phrases she used to use when I was a child/teen. Some of them unique to her. I try to recall the amusing and loving things she did. I look at photos with my brother and recall the laughs we had as kids and as a family. 

Above all I think of her as the most inspiring, generous, kind, loving person I will ever know. all these things have helped me to come to terms with losing her. And this wonderful lady was my step-mum. 

Try to remember all the positives, as there will be many. If you have siblings, talk freely about you mum, good and bad. think about the holidays you have had, the times when you were afraid and she comforted you. The arguments you had, the birthdays and Christmas you shared and how you felt then. The trips to town as she took you shopping for school stuff.

It will be emotional but allowing those feelings to come to the surface allows you the freedom to grieve by remembering. 

You will get upset, be prepared. remember, there's nothing wrong with emotions.

 

 

[Guest Harrydc]

It's late, but I just wanted to wish a happy new year to everyone on this forum. Times can be (and are currently) tough, but I hope that we can get through the bad times together. Thank you to everyone who has helped me in the past, and I hope one day i'll be in the right frame of mind to give out good advice. 

[PAULCFC]

my mum's funeral was today,at Gilrose....really lovelly.Chose Nuvole Biache(the Vicai one) to go in,The Lords My Sheperd as the hymm and Somewhere over the rainbow at the end (the July Garland version) as id allways watched the wizard of oz every xmas eve when i was a kid

Edited 3 January 2020 by PAULCFC

[PAULCFC]

Cheer's for the replys deejdeej,tk95 and so1.IIthink it's going to take me a couple of days to get over this,i'd hoped to get back in work tommorow,but i have phoned up work and said i'l not be there till Monday......didn't think it would hit me this hard!

[PAULCFC]

On the upside(been a bit down today) iv'e discovered a really great piano player(can't spell pianist)The one that played the vichai one.Ordered a few of his cd's from Amazon and he is top draw if you want chill out music!

[VLC86]

1 hour ago, PAULCFC said:

On the upside(been a bit down today) iv'e discovered a really great piano player(can't spell pianist)The one that played the vichai one.Ordered a few of his cd's from Amazon and he is top draw if you want chill out music!

Einauldi, I’m into some really heavy music but the other half likes him and it’s really good.

 

Hope everything is ok mate, sorry for your loss.

[Guesty]

1 hour ago, PAULCFC said:

On the upside(been a bit down today) iv'e discovered a really great piano player(can't spell pianist)The one that played the vichai one.Ordered a few of his cd's from Amazon and he is top draw if you want chill out music!

 

14 minutes ago, Costock_Fox said:

Einauldi, I’m into some really heavy music but the other half likes him and it’s really good.

 

Hope everything is ok mate, sorry for your loss.

My favourite song of his is: I Giorni. 

 

Probably my favourite piece of music ever - and I normally like things like Pearl Jam and Rage Against The Machine. It's one of those songs you've heard but maybe never realised who it was. Always put it on if I'm feeling a bit sad. Hope things improve Paul.  (PS, I don't know why it's a hippo).

 

 

[PAULCFC]

4 minutes ago, Guesty said:

 

My favourite song of his is: I Giorni. 

 

Probably my favourite piece of music ever - and I normally like things like Pearl Jam and Rage Against The Machine. It's one of those songs you've heard but maybe never realised who it was. Always put it on if I'm feeling a bit sad. Hope things improve Paul.  (PS, I don't know why it's a hippo).

 

 

Cheers for that mate,been listening through alot of his music today and don't no why i hadn't heard of him before! I Giorni is a beutifull piece(wish i'd heard that before yesterday now)Like you i'm more into guitar band's...Manics,Blur,qotsa,foos....but i,ve been listening to a lot of his music today and keep feeling i know this tune,but can't place it!

[Guesty]

10 minutes ago, PAULCFC said:

Cheers for that mate,been listening through alot of his music today and don't no why i hadn't heard of him before! I Giorni is a beutifull piece(wish i'd heard that before yesterday now)Like you i'm more into guitar band's...Manics,Blur,qotsa,foos....but i,ve been listening to a lot of his music today and keep feeling i know this tune,but can't place it!

Think it's been on adverts. In one of the World Cups or Euros it was played after the last match which England were knocked out over highlights on the BBC. Maybe there?

[PAULCFC]

1 minute ago, Guesty said:

Think it's been on adverts. In one of the World Cups or Euros it was played after the last match which England were knocked out over highlights on the BBC. Maybe there?

Yes i think you're right...he did a few film scores too so maybe one of those is in my head!

[deejdeej]

23 hours ago, PAULCFC said:

Cheer's for the replys deejdeej,tk95 and so1.IIthink it's going to take me a couple of days to get over this,i'd hoped to get back in work tommorow,but i have phoned up work and said i'l not be there till Monday......didn't think it would hit me this hard!

Really sorry to hear what you're going through mate, I wouldn't worry about rushing back to work right now either but you're the only one that knows when you're ready to go back, there's no right or wrong time.

Great to hear you've found new musicians etc to spend your time listening to! Best wishes mate.

[PAULCFC]

22 minutes ago, deejdeej said:

Really sorry to hear what you're going through mate, I wouldn't worry about rushing back to work right now either but you're the only one that knows when you're ready to go back, there's no right or wrong time.

Great to hear you've found new musicians etc to spend your time listening to! Best wishes mate.

Really appreciate that! Going to get myself back to normality over the weekend(Wigan today)Then back to real normality(work) Monday!

Edited 4 January 2020 by PAULCFC

[leicsmac]

Ludovico Einaudi is magnificent, would recommend his music to anyone.